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Accepting yourself as you are
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"It's hard, isn't it? Sort of a spin off from another thread. Being treated differently because of your size can do your head in. Media bombardment etc. The fickle waves of Fab attention. You, yes you, are enough as you are. Here's to the vast, colourful variety of humanity. " Cheers to that  | |||
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"Well to be honest OP I was very slim until an illness in my mid 30s and to say it was hard adjusting to my new body shape is an understatement But I can honestly say that I've never being treated any differently because of it" You look great now | |||
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"Well to be honest OP I was very slim until an illness in my mid 30s and to say it was hard adjusting to my new body shape is an understatement But I can honestly say that I've never being treated any differently because of it You look great now " Thank you | |||
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"The media and marketing world have a lot to answer for how people are perceived or what the “normal” person should be like. Everyone is unique and different, it would be very boring if we were all the same. If someone doesn’t like something about you, then that’s their problem not yours You need to learn to love yourself for who you are. If you think something needs changing and you can, then do it..... but do it for you and not because of someone else. Love yourself first, as that’s who you will be spending your life with ! " Spot on | |||
"Yes, accept yourself as you are but please don't think that because someone looks a certain way that automatically makes their life easier or better." No. It's not a competition and comparison doesn't help. | |||
"Yes, accept yourself as you are but please don't think that because someone looks a certain way that automatically makes their life easier or better. No. It's not a competition and comparison doesn't help. " | |||
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"Yes, accept yourself as you are but please don't think that because someone looks a certain way that automatically makes their life easier or better." Exactly. Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors or the history of a persons life. | |||
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"Lovely lovely thread. I really struggle with confidence sometimes and struggle to think why people would be interested in me when I have a confidence hit. But I know I can look ok when I am in nice clothes and makeup etc. However Sunday morning I had bed head, no makeup and was naked and the man I was with made me feel like I was the most beautiful person on the planet. So I'm feeling quite happy and confident right now. " You look absolutely scrumptious in my opinion but I think it's tougher for men. I have weight issues and when you see all the men on here who are so fit it tends to knock my confidence  | |||
"There is accepting yourself for who you are but some see it as a way of not trying to improve yourself. Sometimes it is perception what one person thinks is fat another can’t see it." Please let's not. You don't know anyone else's story. Their health is none of your business. And self acceptance helps with many things, including weight loss. | |||
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"I love & like myself and that’s all that matters to me. What others think of me has no impact to that. " We think that way too. | |||
"I think a good place to start accepting yourself is accepting other people. If you can do that without making assumptions about them from the way they look (which seems to be what most people mean by accepting yourself) it might be easier to accept yourself in the same way. I dunno, maybe I'm talking rubbish "I think it depends on the nature of your confidence issues. It wouldn't have worked for me. It might work for others. I had to start from within and do a lot of work on myself. I hope others are in a different situation. | |||
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"I think a good place to start accepting yourself is accepting other people. If you can do that without making assumptions about them from the way they look (which seems to be what most people mean by accepting yourself) it might be easier to accept yourself in the same way. I dunno, maybe I'm talking rubbish
I think it depends on the nature of your confidence issues. It wouldn't have worked for me. It might work for others.
I had to start from within and do a lot of work on myself. I hope others are in a different situation. "It's interesting to me. I'm starting to understand more about confidence issues from reading posts like this. | |||
People who really know who they are will:
- know their good points
- accept their bad points and either laugh at oneself or strive to improve oneself rather than getting angry at what other people say
- able to make decision based on their individual needs
- courageous enough to go against the flow
- humble enough to not forcing others to accept their principles
- confident enough to accept others as who they are.
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"As somebody who lost over 10st Went from a size 26 to a 14 I am well aware of being judged differently now. People who didn't give me the time of day a few yrs ago, suddenly showing an interest Thanks, but no thanks.. " Well done,and good for you | |||
"As somebody who lost over 10st Went from a size 26 to a 14 I am well aware of being judged differently now. People who didn't give me the time of day a few yrs ago, suddenly showing an interest Thanks, but no thanks.. " Me too. | |||
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"Is accepting yourself about looks?" I take it as mental flaws/quirks too  | |||
"Is accepting yourself about looks?" Not for me. I've been many shapes and sizes, I've found the issues lie elsewhere. When I've been unhappy with how I look it's normally when I'm unhappy about something else in my life. If I was to look at someone else with my face and body I'd think "wow, she looks great" Yet if I'm feeling off kilter inside I can look at myself and think "you're gross, why are you trying to kid yourself that you're anything else" Knock on effect P | |||
"It's hard, isn't it? Sort of a spin off from another thread. Being treated differently because of your size can do your head in. Media bombardment etc. The fickle waves of Fab attention. You, yes you, are enough as you are. Here's to the vast, colourful variety of humanity. " I do and don’t find it difficult.. | |||
"Is accepting yourself about looks?" For me it was about inner peace, stability in myself. Everything else, including looks, followed. I've been a small size ten, and I was in retrospect very pretty. But I hated myself. I found self acceptance at a 16/18, and as I change it doesn't matter. I am me, I am fine. The body changes are interesting but don't change my worth. | |||
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"Is accepting yourself about looks? For me it was about inner peace, stability in myself. Everything else, including looks, followed. I've been a small size ten, and I was in retrospect very pretty. But I hated myself. I found self acceptance at a 16/18, and as I change it doesn't matter. I am me, I am fine. The body changes are interesting but don't change my worth. " Oh yes 100% this is what I always try to say! I had shredded abs and very toned and “gym fit” body. Because of the people I was around I believed I was fat. To this day I’m shocked at pictures and find it hard to believe I used to tell myself I was overweight. 5 stones heavier, with a good tyre on the waist and two perky man boobs I am more confident than I was before | |||
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"It's hard, isn't it? Sort of a spin off from another thread. Being treated differently because of your size can do your head in. Media bombardment etc. The fickle waves of Fab attention. You, yes you, are enough as you are. Here's to the vast, colourful variety of humanity. " Well said F x | |||
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"Is accepting yourself about looks? Not for me. I've been many shapes and sizes, I've found the issues lie elsewhere. When I've been unhappy with how I look it's normally when I'm unhappy about something else in my life. If I was to look at someone else with my face and body I'd think "wow, she looks great" Yet if I'm feeling off kilter inside I can look at myself and think "you're gross, why are you trying to kid yourself that you're anything else" Knock on effect P" I understand | |||
"Is accepting yourself about looks? For me it was about inner peace, stability in myself. Everything else, including looks, followed. I've been a small size ten, and I was in retrospect very pretty. But I hated myself. I found self acceptance at a 16/18, and as I change it doesn't matter. I am me, I am fine. The body changes are interesting but don't change my worth. " Exactly! | |||
"I think not comparing yourself or your life to your friends or the happy stories you see on social media is quite important. It's easy to see and want what you dont have, best to be thankful for what you do have "Comparison is the thief of joy- I’m sure there’s a misquoted quote there. It’s important to not compare and to remember everyone’s profile/media/etc is what they choose to show, they’re hiding the bits they don’t like as well to present a glossy image. | |||
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"It's not always about how you look. For me, how I feel inside has a huge impact on my confidence - whether at my lightest or heaviest. I set very high standards for myself, and beat myself up when I don't reach them. Always have done. Now in some ways, striving to be the best me is a positive trait - but when it spirals into negative self-talk then the opposite is true. I've worked very hard to convince myself that "I am enough". Sometimes it's harder than other times to believe it. But I'll keep trying. Mrs TMN x" I hear you. I am or have been the same. | |||
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" The key thing is to fuck anuses without thinking about the day after tomorrow " I try to do that. But it's a good film. | |||
" The key thing is to fuck anuses without thinking about the day after tomorrow I try to do that. But it's a good film." Haha No it’s a crap film | |||
"It's not always about how you look. For me, how I feel inside has a huge impact on my confidence - whether at my lightest or heaviest. I set very high standards for myself, and beat myself up when I don't reach them. Always have done. Now in some ways, striving to be the best me is a positive trait - but when it spirals into negative self-talk then the opposite is true. I've worked very hard to convince myself that "I am enough". Sometimes it's harder than other times to believe it. But I'll keep trying. Mrs TMN x I hear you. I am or have been the same. " It can be exhausting! But at other times, exhilarating. X | |||
" The key thing is to fuck anuses without thinking about the day after tomorrow I try to do that. But it's a good film. Haha No it’s a crap film " Like uncleaned anuses | |||
"I am what I am, and I'm happy with that. If others aren't happy with the way I am that's their problem, not mine." Damned right dude. | |||
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Us women should do more to support, and compliment each other. There's too much bitchiness and nastiness about.
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"Us women should do more to support, and compliment each other. There's too much bitchiness and nastiness about. "yip they sure is | |||
"Yes, accept yourself as you are but please don't think that because someone looks a certain way that automatically makes their life easier or better. No. It's not a competition and comparison doesn't help. " | |||
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"Us women should do more to support, and compliment each other. There's too much bitchiness and nastiness about. "I think you look beautiful. | |||
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"Whatever I do, I do for me. I'm always trying to be that bit fitter than I was the year before because I'm growing old disgraceful "....and what a wonderful disgracefulness it is....   haha | |||
