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I had a recent lover who said he wouldn't give me oral until I have an sti test. Now I love oral. Sex isn't complete without it but have no idea how a man protects himself whilst giving oral and now his actions have made me think twice about giving oral. Thoughts and experiences? |
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"I had a recent lover who said he wouldn't give me oral until I have an sti test. Now I love oral. Sex isn't complete without it but have no idea how a man protects himself whilst giving oral and now his actions have made me think twice about giving oral. Thoughts and experiences? "
To be honest, i dont think about it with regards to oral, and with going down on a lady, as i love it. A dam would totally ruin it, how would i enjoy feeling her getting wetter with each lick if it was dammed |
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Herpes being the nastiest transmitted by mouth, you wont get rid of that with antibiotics you're fucked in that case it's like the terminator it will be back |
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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago
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"Dental dam , theyve been around yrs but looking at the pics on here people dont bother, I personally just get checked every 3 months by post
Do you do throat swabs by post too? "
I didn't think they did. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's wise of him to do so to be fair. However a lot do oral with out. However its easier for a woman to contract an oral sti than a man. You can get dental dams however they are not available for free but he could cut up a flavoured condom and use that.
It makes sense to test 3 monthly anyway when having sex with different people even when having safer sex. |
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STIs that can be spread by oro-genital contact include chlamydia, gonorrhoea, herpes simplex type I and II, HPV, HIV, trichomoniasis and pubic lice.
STIs that can be transmitted by oro-anal contact include hepatitis A, B & E, norovirus, giardia, clostridium, salmonella, E coli, threadworms, roundworms and other parasites.
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
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"Dental dam , theyve been around yrs but looking at the pics on here people dont bother, I personally just get checked every 3 months by post
Do you do throat swabs by post too?
I didn't think they did."
They dont in my area, you have to have them done in clinic...a lot of people dont even think to get them done, or hep b jabs...its always best to be 100% open and honest with a clinic...they dont judge |
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"I had a recent lover who said he wouldn't give me oral until I have an sti test. Now I love oral. Sex isn't complete without it but have no idea how a man protects himself whilst giving oral and now his actions have made me think twice about giving oral. Thoughts and experiences? "
I guess there has to be a lot of trust there ! |
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"I had a recent lover who said he wouldn't give me oral until I have an sti test. Now I love oral. Sex isn't complete without it but have no idea how a man protects himself whilst giving oral and now his actions have made me think twice about giving oral. Thoughts and experiences?
I guess there has to be a lot of trust there ! "
Which makes online meeting very tricky? All this talk putting me off most of the men who message me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a recent lover who said he wouldn't give me oral until I have an sti test. Now I love oral. Sex isn't complete without it but have no idea how a man protects himself whilst giving oral and now his actions have made me think twice about giving oral. Thoughts and experiences?
I guess there has to be a lot of trust there !
Which makes online meeting very tricky? All this talk putting me off most of the men who message me "
I guess a safe bet would be with a married man !!! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Ultimately it comes down to being risk aware, having sufficient knowledge to assess those risks and making an informed decision based on them as to just how "safe" you want to play.
Couple that with open and honest conversations with potential sexual partners about how they look after their own sexual health, and getting yourself tested regularly and you're doing all you can to limit any risks.
Apart from monogamy/celibacy you can't completely safeguard against any STIs even with condom/oral dam use - so you just have to assess acceptable personal risks for yourself and act accordingly - if others don't like how you take care of your own sexual health then they aren't the right person for you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just show my NHS text messages with results, not everywhere do postal tests but around portsmouth area they do it, it's simple just order online , supply urine and blood you bleed your finger into a tube and send it, they text results back |
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"I had a recent lover who said he wouldn't give me oral until I have an sti test. Now I love oral. Sex isn't complete without it but have no idea how a man protects himself whilst giving oral and now his actions have made me think twice about giving oral. Thoughts and experiences?
I guess there has to be a lot of trust there !
Which makes online meeting very tricky? All this talk putting me off most of the men who message me
I guess a safe bet would be with a married man !!!"
I don't think even marriage is a good indicator of safe sex... I duno what the answer is apart from no kissing, oral and sex with condom. |
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"I just show my NHS text messages with results, not everywhere do postal tests but around portsmouth area they do it, it's simple just order online , supply urine and blood you bleed your finger into a tube and send it, they text results back"
My sti test doesn't cover the man who asked me for my sti results. We had safe sex, no kissing or oral. But it makes the whole thing clinical... Not sure what to think or act anymore so hoping someone could enlighten me |
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"And now I know exactly why I don't meet that often,talk about being put off ,this thread does it in one"
Sorry about that. But it's something we should all be aware of. I wasn't until I had this exact conversation with a 26 year old. He definitely open my eyes to things. There's me thinking younger men couldn't teach me things. I was totally wrong and really enjoyed having a younger guy in my life |
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"I just show my NHS text messages with results, not everywhere do postal tests but around portsmouth area they do it, it's simple just order online , supply urine and blood you bleed your finger into a tube and send it, they text results back
My sti test doesn't cover the man who asked me for my sti results. We had safe sex, no kissing or oral. But it makes the whole thing clinical... Not sure what to think or act anymore so hoping someone could enlighten me"
He could of been making excuses as some guys dont like kissing or eating pussy, if he is selfish then I can see this may of been an angle |
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"And now I know exactly why I don't meet that often,talk about being put off ,this thread does it in one
Sorry about that. But it's something we should all be aware of. I wasn't until I had this exact conversation with a 26 year old. He definitely open my eyes to things. There's me thinking younger men couldn't teach me things. I was totally wrong and really enjoyed having a younger guy in my life "
Don't be I can see where your coming from |
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My first ever party I was invited to about 10 yrs ago by a mate I worked with and he held them at his place, everyone was barebacking and I asked him why? He said it was all okay as they were friends and known each other yrs, I just watched didnt get involved |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I just show my NHS text messages with results, not everywhere do postal tests but around portsmouth area they do it, it's simple just order online , supply urine and blood you bleed your finger into a tube and send it, they text results back"
Showing someone your STI test results doesn't prove a thing though other than that you didn't have any of the things tested for at the point you tested for them.
If you'd had sex with someone carrying an STI less than two weeks prior to the test (or four weeks in the case of HIV, or twelve weeks in the case of syphillis) it wouldn't necessarily show.
And then you have HPV and HSV that aren't tested for.
All your test results show is that you have taken responsibility for your sexual health once and even then that is limited.
As I said further up we each as individuals need to be as informed as we can about the various STIs and make risk assessments based on that knowledge and get regularly tested if we're leading a non-monogamous lifestyle - and that is *all* we can do. |
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"I had a recent lover who said he wouldn't give me oral until I have an sti test. Now I love oral. Sex isn't complete without it but have no idea how a man protects himself whilst giving oral and now his actions have made me think twice about giving oral. Thoughts and experiences? "
Do you continue to fuck this man but just abstain from him giving you oral? Do you give him oral and do you use condoms? |
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"I had a recent lover who said he wouldn't give me oral until I have an sti test. Now I love oral. Sex isn't complete without it but have no idea how a man protects himself whilst giving oral and now his actions have made me think twice about giving oral. Thoughts and experiences?
I guess there has to be a lot of trust there !
Which makes online meeting very tricky? All this talk putting me off most of the men who message me "
Do you read through all the texts .. some could be as genuine as your new friend  but yes , wise words  |
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"I had a recent lover who said he wouldn't give me oral until I have an sti test. Now I love oral. Sex isn't complete without it but have no idea how a man protects himself whilst giving oral and now his actions have made me think twice about giving oral. Thoughts and experiences?
Do you continue to fuck this man but just abstain from him giving you oral? Do you give him oral and do you use condoms? "
Yes we not doing oral until we 100 % clean... Boo I'm just lucky we have great intercourse. I don't like sucking on rubber so i won't do anything to him.. I know he regularly sleeps with a girl who loves sleeping with lots of men as they are polyamory |
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"I had a recent lover who said he wouldn't give me oral until I have an sti test. Now I love oral. Sex isn't complete without it but have no idea how a man protects himself whilst giving oral and now his actions have made me think twice about giving oral. Thoughts and experiences?
I guess there has to be a lot of trust there !
Which makes online meeting very tricky? All this talk putting me off most of the men who message me
Do you read through all the texts .. some could be as genuine as your new friend but yes , wise words "
Yes i read texts and profiles but tbh it isn't knowing only they haven't recently tested puts me off. Most messages and profiles aren't my cup of tea |
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"I had a recent lover who said he wouldn't give me oral until I have an sti test. Now I love oral. Sex isn't complete without it but have no idea how a man protects himself whilst giving oral and now his actions have made me think twice about giving oral. Thoughts and experiences?
Do you continue to fuck this man but just abstain from him giving you oral? Do you give him oral and do you use condoms?
Yes we not doing oral until we 100 % clean... Boo I'm just lucky we have great intercourse. I don't like sucking on rubber so i won't do anything to him.. I know he regularly sleeps with a girl who loves sleeping with lots of men as they are polyamory "
Then he will never be 100% clean. Rude of him to say you might have something when he's more at risk! |
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"I had a recent lover who said he wouldn't give me oral until I have an sti test. Now I love oral. Sex isn't complete without it but have no idea how a man protects himself whilst giving oral and now his actions have made me think twice about giving oral. Thoughts and experiences?
Do you continue to fuck this man but just abstain from him giving you oral? Do you give him oral and do you use condoms?
Yes we not doing oral until we 100 % clean... Boo I'm just lucky we have great intercourse. I don't like sucking on rubber so i won't do anything to him.. I know he regularly sleeps with a girl who loves sleeping with lots of men as they are polyamory
Then he will never be 100% clean. Rude of him to say you might have something when he's more at risk!"
To be fair on him, he wanted to give me oral but wanted to be sure we both clean before doing so. But as you say, if he's polyamory, I can never tell whether he's 100% clean and vice versa. So sadly for us we just sticking to straight sex... As i think the clit protection isn't so nice to use? |
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"So sadly for us we just sticking to straight sex... As i think the clit protection isn't so nice to use?
Why is it just the clit that needs protecting ?"
I meant vagina protection like you would use condom if giving bj? (Still half asleep this morning! Lol) |
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