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Cure for sadness please

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just put myself ‘out there’ to a guy (not of fab)I had developed feelings for and been rejected in a vey kind way, but alas rejection in whatever form is still rejection.

Feeling really sad now.

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By *uck-RogersMan over a year ago

Tarka trail

Laughter

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There no quick cure for things like this . You can make yourself feel better by burying yourself in a constructive endeavour, or your work , or socialising with friends . But , basically time heals all . You’ll feel better tomorrow than you did today , and the day after you’ll feel better still , until today is just a faded memory .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just put myself ‘out there’ to a guy (not of fab)I had developed feelings for and been rejected in a vey kind way, but alas rejection in whatever form is still rejection.

Feeling really sad now.

it will get easier. Sending you a hug lovely xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Climb onto a nice hard willy and ride it like you stole it.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

"Just put myself ‘out there’ to a guy (not of fab)I had developed feelings for and been rejected in a vey kind way, but alas rejection in whatever form is still rejection.

Feeling really sad now.

Brave thing to do, but at least you know.

Sending you a big hug xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There no quick cure for things like this . You can make yourself feel better by burying yourself in a constructive endeavour, or your work , or socialising with friends . But , basically time heals all . You’ll feel better tomorrow than you did today , and the day after you’ll feel better still , until today is just a faded memory ."

Very wise, thank you

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Time, mostly.

Give yourself some time to wallow. Feel and process the feelings, have an ugly cry and hairbrush karaoke to some embarrassing music. Eat too much crap. An evening sort of thing.

Then distract yourself, focus on other things that make you feel good or bolster your sense of worth. It'll fade.

Hugs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just put myself ‘out there’ to a guy (not of fab)I had developed feelings for and been rejected in a vey kind way, but alas rejection in whatever form is still rejection.

Feeling really sad now.

it will get easier. Sending you a hug lovely xxx"

Thanks chick, really appreciated xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just put myself ‘out there’ to a guy (not of fab)I had developed feelings for and been rejected in a vey kind way, but alas rejection in whatever form is still rejection.

Feeling really sad now.

Brave thing to do, but at least you know.

Sending you a big hug xx "

Ha yeah, I’m not often brave like that and in some ways I’m regretting it now, but glad I know! Thank you x

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By *eviant KnightMan over a year ago

Norton

"Just put myself ‘out there’ to a guy (not of fab)I had developed feelings for and been rejected in a vey kind way, but alas rejection in whatever form is still rejection.

Feeling really sad now.

I am right there with you, if you find the cure let me know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know how you feel, I have been through that. Day at a time and you will get there x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Time, mostly.

Give yourself some time to wallow. Feel and process the feelings, have an ugly cry and hairbrush karaoke to some embarrassing music. Eat too much crap. An evening sort of thing.

Then distract yourself, focus on other things that make you feel good or bolster your sense of worth. It'll fade.

Hugs.

Great advice, thank you xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just put myself ‘out there’ to a guy (not of fab)I had developed feelings for and been rejected in a vey kind way, but alas rejection in whatever form is still rejection.

Feeling really sad now.

Oh I’m so sorry to hear this. Never gets easy does it? On one hand at least it’s out so you don’t have to waste your time anymore or allow those feelings to grow. On the other hand bet your ego is feeling a bit fragile... It will heal. In time. Might be a bit of crying and/or anger along the way but it will. Sending hugs...

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By *rs RavensongWoman over a year ago

Cheltenham, Gloucestershire

Congratulate yourself for having the courage to approach him, it didn't work out this time but you would never have known if you didn't go for it.

Be kind to yourself, and curl up with a good movie and some of your favourite treats.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think you should be high fiving yourself for going for it to be honest! The outcome sucked but be proud of your confidence in putting yourself out there and just keep it up! Go you

! X

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

I admire that you put yourself our there. I think that shows strength and being able to go after what you want is a great thing.

I'm sorry it didn't turn out well this time. Time is a great healer and yes, each day it will become easier...hugs and best wishes to you xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just put myself ‘out there’ to a guy (not of fab)I had developed feelings for and been rejected in a vey kind way, but alas rejection in whatever form is still rejection.

Feeling really sad now.

A big hug from me while you sob your heart out xxx

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By *ebjonnsonMan over a year ago

Maldon

I know it’s an overused cliche but the best way to get over a man is to get under another one.

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Hug of support to thee

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just put myself ‘out there’ to a guy (not of fab)I had developed feelings for and been rejected in a vey kind way, but alas rejection in whatever form is still rejection.

Feeling really sad now.

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awwww hey his loss

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just put myself ‘out there’ to a guy (not of fab)I had developed feelings for and been rejected in a vey kind way, but alas rejection in whatever form is still rejection.

Feeling really sad now.

Thank you, not sure if it’s my ego, more like my self worth is on the floor right now x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Congratulate yourself for having the courage to approach him, it didn't work out this time but you would never have known if you didn't go for it.

Be kind to yourself, and curl up with a good movie and some of your favourite treats.

V x "

Thank you, it took a lot to actually come out and say it, and at least I know now.xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Think you should be high fiving yourself for going for it to be honest! The outcome sucked but be proud of your confidence in putting yourself out there and just keep it up! Go you

! X"

Love the positivity, thank you so much xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lots of distractions and self love. Spoil yourself. The sun will come out again I promise. Happiness is inevitable too.

Virtual hugs

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I admire that you put yourself our there. I think that shows strength and being able to go after what you want is a great thing.

I'm sorry it didn't turn out well this time. Time is a great healer and yes, each day it will become easier...hugs and best wishes to you xx"

Thank you, really lovely of you to say xxx

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By *r TriomanMan over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Chocolate! It's be scientifically proven to contain chemicals that lift your mood.

And, there always the tried and tested remedy... get under someone to get over someone!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hug of support to thee

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thankyou I need it

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

A lady called kuhbler ross described emotions associated with stressful situations,

Anger depression bargaining denial and finally acceptance..

Time is a great healer. Hope you're feeling better soon.

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"A lady called kuhbler ross described emotions associated with stressful situations,

Anger depression bargaining denial and finally acceptance..

Time is a great healer. Hope you're feeling better soon.

P.S.

As the official founding member of the boob appreciation club(see my forum thread) ... top set of boobs op...they're appreciated

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"A lady called kuhbler ross described emotions associated with stressful situations,

Anger depression bargaining denial and finally acceptance..

Time is a great healer. Hope you're feeling better soon.

P.S.

As the official founding member of the boob appreciation club(see my forum thread) ... top set of boobs op...they're appreciated

Thank you for the wise words and the kind ones! Xx

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By *atisfying jackMan over a year ago

Hereford

Thank you, not sure if it’s my ego, more like my self worth is on the floor right now x"

Your self worth is bound to take a knock, you built it up in your head for however long you've been dying to tell him. You envisioned the best possible outcome and when that didn't happen, your mind went the other way and started to pick apart the reasons why, even if they dont exist.

I've been through it, I miss read the signs and went all in, I was properly in love with this woman... she rejected me, kindly too but the pain and sadness was the worst.

There is light though, it wont be today or probably not tomorrow but you will realise your own self worth, you'll find someone who not only shows you but let's you feel goes special you are in your heart every day.

Hang in there,your day is coming.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you, not sure if it’s my ego, more like my self worth is on the floor right now x

I've been through it, I miss read the signs and went all in, I was properly in love with this woman... she rejected me, kindly too but the pain and sadness was the worst.

Hang in there,your day is coming."

The funny thing is, I never actually allowed myself to think of the best case scenario, just hoped for the best I guess x

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By *atisfying jackMan over a year ago

Hereford

Thank you, not sure if it’s my ego, more like my self worth is on the floor right now x

I've been through it, I miss read the signs and went all in, I was properly in love with this woman... she rejected me, kindly too but the pain and sadness was the worst.

Hang in there,your day is coming.

The funny thing is, I never actually allowed myself to think of the best case scenario, just hoped for the best I guess x"

Hope is just as bad a liar as your mind.

Stay strong, you've got this!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think this is a quote from somewhere like but it goes "The best way to get over a guy is to get under another one". Post a meet and lose yourself to your desires in the arms of a lucky man from Fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hope you feel better OP. At least he let you down gently.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wallow tonight! Pull your big girl pants on tomorrow and embrace the day ... not everyone is that lucky! Hugs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Wallow tonight! Pull your big girl pants on tomorrow and embrace the day ... not everyone is that lucky! Hugs x"

So true, thank you xxx

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

Keep busy and get plenty of fresh air. Listen to bad ass bitch music and have a hot chocolate with whipped cream, and marshmallows. Light a scented candle, have a hot bath, read trashy magazines and realise that ok he’s not the one mean’t for you BUT somebody else is. And what an adventure that will be.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Was he showing mutual interest?

Its never easy being rejected but least you can live with the fact that "what if" was never fulfilled...be it good or bad. Live is full of ups and downs and sometimes you have to appreciate the downs to really enjoy the ups.

He clearly wasn't worthy of offering either. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Music.

Sorry to hear you’re feeling sad.

Get some tunes on and sing out loud, maybe dance around a bit in your underwear with a bra on your head like ear muffs.

Works for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Keep busy and get plenty of fresh air. Listen to bad ass bitch music and have a hot chocolate with whipped cream, and marshmallows. Light a scented candle, have a hot bath, read trashy magazines and realise that ok he’s not the one mean’t for you BUT somebody else is. And what an adventure that will be."

I had a long walk on the beach earlier and it definitely helped! Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Was he showing mutual interest?

He clearly wasn't worthy of offering either. Xx"

Yeah, there was mutual interest, however it was all very casual. At least I know now x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Music.

Sorry to hear you’re feeling sad.

Get some tunes on and sing out loud, maybe dance around a bit in your underwear with a bra on your head like ear muffs.

Works for me

Currently got the tunes on, bra is where it should be though!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Music.

Sorry to hear you’re feeling sad.

Get some tunes on and sing out loud, maybe dance around a bit in your underwear with a bra on your head like ear muffs.

Works for me

Currently got the tunes on, bra is where it should be though!"

Go on...

You know you wanna

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By *ig1gaz1Man over a year ago

bradford

"Just put myself ‘out there’ to a guy (not of fab)I had developed feelings for and been rejected in a vey kind way, but alas rejection in whatever form is still rejection.

Feeling really sad now.

Thank you, not sure if it’s my ego, more like my self worth is on the floor right now x"

I beg to differ the fact that you asked took more courage than what you may think at least you was let down in a nice way.

your ego and self worth may have taken a knock back but at least you know and its better than being led along for a long time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Be proud of yourself! You did what so many people wish they had the balls to do!

Blast some music, dance around the house to your favourite songs & have a glass of your favourite drink & pamper yourself.

Remember you were brave. Thats fucking awesome!

Feel your feelings. Distractions are good but the emotions will still be there when you're finished with the distractions.

So feel them, then get on with your life

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Be proud of yourself! You did what so many people wish they had the balls to do!

Blast some music, dance around the house to your favourite songs & have a glass of your favourite drink & pamper yourself.

Remember you were brave. Thats fucking awesome!

Feel your feelings. Distractions are good but the emotions will still be there when you're finished with the distractions.

So feel them, then get on with your life

Thank you, great advice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll get my feather. It never fails when applied to the armpits or soles of feet.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple over a year ago

Cardiff

Distraction

Treat yourself

Remember your worth

At least he let you down gently.

But at least you know now, someone is just around the corner I'm sure

Jo x

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By *ouis CyphreMan over a year ago

The Midlands

"Climb onto a nice hard willy and ride it like you stole it. "

What a wise woman....

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