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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just wondering if it's just me or does everyone get nervous sending that first message?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, otherwise I'd never send it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do, especially if I can't quite judge the stance of the person I'm messaging

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

Not sure, but try to image what is the worst that can happen?

You might not get a reply. But that's the same as not sending a message in the 1st place

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By *stellaWoman over a year ago

London

No. I’m more nervous for a first meeting.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"I do, especially if I can't quite judge the stance of the person I'm messaging"

You know my view on socks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No. I’m more nervous for a first meeting."

The awkward moment of how do we greet

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Nervous, why? No one will bite your head off and the worst that can occur is them not being interested.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"No. I’m more nervous for a first meeting."

They don't make me nervous either

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do, especially if I can't quite judge the stance of the person I'm messaging

You know my view on socks

I do

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Just wondering if it's just me or does everyone get nervous sending that first message?"

That is crazy. How can you possibly be nervous by sending a message to someone you do not know or can not see.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"No. I’m more nervous for a first meeting.

The awkward moment of how do we greet

I find "Hello" works well. Not being flippant, it's safe and easy

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"I do, especially if I can't quite judge the stance of the person I'm messaging

You know my view on socks

I do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't do nervous!

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I get a bit giddy and a bit ooo, this is exciting but it's a positive nervous if nervous at all. Have a breath and enjoy those feelings - try and see them as positive.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"That is crazy. How can you possibly be nervous by sending a message to someone you do not know or can not see. "

What people are nervous of cannot be helped. We are all different

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Nervous, why? No one will bite your head off and the worst that can occur is them not being interested."

So speaks someone I will never understand

Yes, OP, but feel the fear and do it anyway. It's rarely as bad as that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No. I’m more nervous for a first meeting.

The awkward moment of how do we greet

I find "Hello" works well. Not being flippant, it's safe and easy

Hello seems a bit cold to me if we chatted for ages and plan to get intimate

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"That is crazy. How can you possibly be nervous by sending a message to someone you do not know or can not see.

What people are nervous of cannot be helped. We are all different

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By *rAitchMan over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

Nothing makes me nervous, whether sending messages or meeting for the first time.

I suppose I'm a bit of an extrovert, which could be due to my work and hobbies, as I am rather outgoing.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

The most obvious, to me at least, reason for being nervous about anything Fab is fearing the possibility of rejection.

And that links to one's own self esteem

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Hello seems a bit cold to me if we chatted for ages and plan to get intimate

True, though for me I'd rather meet for a social sooner rather than later. If it's a second meet then I'd expect a big smile and a warm hug

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

So maybe the answer is a big smile and a warm hug

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"So maybe the answer is a big smile and a warm hug

It is nerves as I am new to the whole scene but I suppose everyone was in my position at one time or another.

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