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Hi fabbers!
My prifile clearly states im married. I dont want to go into any other reasons why im on Fab so i dont say more than that - no one needs to hear my woes. However, i get quite a lot of, lets call it, "spirited opposition" about my marital status.
However, there are tons and tons of people who, reading between the lines "cannot accommodate" "need to be diacrete" etc but dont specifically mention being married. At least im honest - any ladies appreciate that or would i be better hiding that fact until we know each other?
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"There was a thread very similar to this a few days ago and from what I read, you're better being honest. "
Good to know - thanks. That would be my default position but still get a lot of flak for it! |
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over a year ago
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Life is grey OP, there's no such thing as a life that's totally honest or totally hypocritical. Regardless of the moral judgments and abuse some may confront you with on here, it's commendable that you are upfront about being attached. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There are lots of reasons why people cannot accommodate or even wish to be discreet....
Not just the usual fab judgemental prejudices or stereotypical cliches
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"Life is grey OP, there's no such thing as a life that's totally honest or totally hypocritical. Regardless of the moral judgments and abuse some may confront you with on here, it's commendable that you are upfront about being attached. "
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"Hi fabbers!
My prifile clearly states im married. I dont want to go into any other reasons why im on Fab so i dont say more than that - no one needs to hear my woes. However, i get quite a lot of, lets call it, "spirited opposition" about my marital status.
However, there are tons and tons of people who, reading between the lines "cannot accommodate" "need to be diacrete" etc but dont specifically mention being married. At least im honest - any ladies appreciate that or would i be better hiding that fact until we know each other?
Ta x"
Not exactly honest but profile honest and its a shame more people aren't. You are then letting people know the score. |
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If something like that was hidden from me and I found out at a later date I'd hit the fucking roof. By keeping it a secret it takes away the persons right to choose, and that's not only unfair but deceptive with intent too.
There are plenty of people it won't matter to and many it will matter a lot to and having the info out there makes it easier all round.
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"Hi fabbers!
My prifile clearly states im married. I dont want to go into any other reasons why im on Fab so i dont say more than that - no one needs to hear my woes. However, i get quite a lot of, lets call it, "spirited opposition" about my marital status.
However, there are tons and tons of people who, reading between the lines "cannot accommodate" "need to be diacrete" etc but dont specifically mention being married. At least im honest - any ladies appreciate that or would i be better hiding that fact until we know each other?
Ta x
Not exactly honest but profile honest and its a shame more people aren't. You are then letting people know the score."
Actually, thats a point i never considered. I am obviously confusing profile honesty with actual honesty. I thought being honest about being married absolved me but it must be the infidelity that winds some people up.
Thanks for the insight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi fabbers!
My prifile clearly states im married. I dont want to go into any other reasons why im on Fab so i dont say more than that - no one needs to hear my woes. However, i get quite a lot of, lets call it, "spirited opposition" about my marital status.
However, there are tons and tons of people who, reading between the lines "cannot accommodate" "need to be diacrete" etc but dont specifically mention being married. At least im honest - any ladies appreciate that or would i be better hiding that fact until we know each other?
Ta x
Not exactly honest but profile honest and its a shame more people aren't. You are then letting people know the score.
Actually, thats a point i never considered. I am obviously confusing profile honesty with actual honesty. I thought being honest about being married absolved me but it must be the infidelity that winds some people up.
Thanks for the insight. "
Of course, it will always be an emotive subject as a fair few people here have had their own lives turn upside down and ripped apart by being cheated on, or seen the devastation it's caused others. They've lived it and don't want others to go through the hell they endured.
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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Always honesty. I met a guy for coffee had told me he was single but had a wedding ring on and when I pointed it out he admitted he was married. The social didn't go an farther. I don't judge everyone has their reasons for being on here. I have met married guys but they have been honest from the start. |
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By *abs..Woman
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Discretion is nothing to do with being married, it’s about keeping your sex life private.
Being unable to accommodate - I’m not sure why anyone would want to allow a complete stranger into their home for sex. Far too many unsavoury sorts around. Each to their own I guess.
You put on your profile whatever you choose. If you’re intending to meet then I think you should say if you are married but I don’t think you should put it on your profile unless you want to. People don’t disclose all sorts on their profiles so why this? And there’s a fair amount on people ‘s profiles that isn’t true as well So, so many people lying about their age and what they’re looking for. We know you know because people talk |
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" ok your married..... commendable?
Appreciated?
So you have stated it on your profile.....is this a thread to get as many pat's on the back for that fact? ........"
No, its not. Its a thread to ask people.their opinion on the subject. |
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" ok your married..... commendable?
Appreciated?
So you have stated it on your profile.....is this a thread to get as many pat's on the back for that fact? ........
No, its not. Its a thread to ask people.their opinion on the subject."
Yeh.....your medals in the post love.... |
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" ok your married..... commendable?
Appreciated?
So you have stated it on your profile.....is this a thread to get as many pat's on the back for that fact? ........
No, its not. Its a thread to ask people.their opinion on the subject.
Yeh.....your medals in the post love...."
I can hardly wait - your opinion means THAT much to me.... |
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By *abs..Woman
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I would also say there are plenty of people that say on their profiles that they won’t knowingly meet married folk but they do the penis and foof must be mightier (or meatier) than the word
Just be considerate of others views on it if you’re meeting them. |
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" ok your married..... commendable?
Appreciated?
So you have stated it on your profile.....is this a thread to get as many pat's on the back for that fact? ........
No, its not. Its a thread to ask people.their opinion on the subject.
Yeh.....your medals in the post love....
I can hardly wait - your opinion means THAT much to me...."
Good man |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Discretion is nothing to do with being married, it’s about keeping your sex life private.
Being unable to accommodate - I’m not sure why anyone would want to allow a complete stranger into their home for sex. Far too many unsavoury sorts around. Each to their own I guess.
You put on your profile whatever you choose. If you’re intending to meet then I think you should say if you are married but I don’t think you should put it on your profile unless you want to. People don’t disclose all sorts on their profiles so why this? And there’s a fair amount on people ‘s profiles that isn’t true as well So, so many people lying about their age and what they’re looking for. We know you know because people talk "
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Leave it in your profile
Report abuse ,no need for it
Like others said,I'd be annoyed if we chatted and it was disclosed further down the line .
Just for the record ,not everyone who can't accom is a cheat. |
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