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By *isaB45 OP Woman
over a year ago
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I've been hiding away, from friends, family and Fab, as I've had a rather low period.
I've even hidden away from some of my closest Fab friends, rather than a) pretend to be jolly, or b) actually say how I'm feeling.
I have isolated myself, when I need my friends the most. I'm sorry.
So, my question is, how are you?
Properly, how are you?
All hugs welcomed here.
Lisa x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t do it I’ve been there (guy) and it’s teh worst thing to do. Have to open up and then you feel much better. There’s more people in the same boat than you think |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Properly, going through one of the worst few months I’ve ever experienced in my life. Most likely with worse to come, but there will be better days after the uphill battle. Fab is a distraction I need at the moment though.
Sorry you’ve been on a downer, Lisa. I hope things are on the up for you  xx |
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By *isaB45 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Properly, going through one of the worst few months I’ve ever experienced in my life. Most likely with worse to come, but there will be better days after the uphill battle. Fab is a distraction I need at the moment though.
Thank you Boldy. I sincerely hooe things improve for you, too xx
Sorry you’ve been on a downer, Lisa. I hope things are on the up for you xx"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Properly, going through one of the worst few months I’ve ever experienced in my life. Most likely with worse to come, but there will be better days after the uphill battle. Fab is a distraction I need at the moment though.
Thank you Boldy. I sincerely hooe things improve for you, too xx
Sorry you’ve been on a downer, Lisa. I hope things are on the up for you xx"
Thanks, lovely.
Hopefully we’ll look back on this soon but with smiles.
Mind yourself, and if you ever need a chat don’t hesitate to mail me. I seriously mean that! Xx |
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By *opilotMan
over a year ago
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It may be a cliche, it's good to talk, but in my experience it really is.
Sometimes talking to a complete stranger can be better, as some people will still hide some aspects if their 'story' from those closest to them.
Sending Lisa and boldy gentle hugs and hopefully some inspiration to keep on keeping on and to find any help you may need. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sending you another hug OP. One of those silent ones where neither of you say anything, you just squeeze hard, then change the subject and talk about random shit. X |
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By *isaB45 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Sending you another hug OP. One of those silent ones where neither of you say anything, you just squeeze hard, then change the subject and talk about random shit. X"
Thank you x
*nice weather today..xx |
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By *isaB45 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It may be a cliche, it's good to talk, but in my experience it really is.
Sometimes talking to a complete stranger can be better, as some people will still hide some aspects if their 'story' from those closest to them.
Sending Lisa and boldy gentle hugs and hopefully some inspiration to keep on keeping on and to find any help you may need."
Thank you, CP. Boldy & I appreciate them x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a bit stressed and fucked off to be honest. I have so much on this next week and I can already feel it all getting on top of me. Very little help from family members and I feel like I'm taking one step forward 5 back today.
Anyway big hugs op and hope your feeling more like you soon x |
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By *isaB45 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm a bit stressed and fucked off to be honest. I have so much on this next week and I can already feel it all getting on top of me. Very little help from family members and I feel like I'm taking one step forward 5 back today.
Anyway big hugs op and hope your feeling more like you soon x "
Hugs back at you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It may be a cliche, it's good to talk, but in my experience it really is.
Sometimes talking to a complete stranger can be better, as some people will still hide some aspects if their 'story' from those closest to them.
Sending Lisa and boldy gentle hugs and hopefully some inspiration to keep on keeping on and to find any help you may need."
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By *isaB45 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Properly, going through one of the worst few months I’ve ever experienced in my life. Most likely with worse to come, but there will be better days after the uphill battle. Fab is a distraction I need at the moment though.
Thank you Boldy. I sincerely hooe things improve for you, too xx
Sorry you’ve been on a downer, Lisa. I hope things are on the up for you xx
Thanks, lovely.
Hopefully we’ll look back on this soon but with smiles.
Mind yourself, and if you ever need a chat don’t hesitate to mail me. I seriously mean that! Xx"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Properly, going through one of the worst few months I’ve ever experienced in my life. Most likely with worse to come, but there will be better days after the uphill battle. Fab is a distraction I need at the moment though.
Thank you Boldy. I sincerely hooe things improve for you, too xx
Sorry you’ve been on a downer, Lisa. I hope things are on the up for you xx
Thanks, lovely.
Hopefully we’ll look back on this soon but with smiles.
Mind yourself, and if you ever need a chat don’t hesitate to mail me. I seriously mean that! Xx
I can't even message you "
I sent you one a few seconds ago when I remembered my filters  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think everybody is guilty of doing this from time to time as it can be very overwhelming and difficult to ask for help.
I'm sure you'll find your friends and will always be there when you really need them.
I hope anyone else who is in the same situation finds the support and ability to deal with these things.
Lots of positive energy and hugs to all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way . Sometimes that inward retreat is something we need to do until the storm passes and you feel stronger.
Be kind to yourself, take comfort from people who care.
Big hugs lovely. One moment at a time.
How am I? Currently questioning lots of things and feeling a tad sorry for myself. Tomorrow is a new week though. Xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way . Sometimes that inward retreat is something we need to do until the storm passes and you feel stronger.
Be kind to yourself, take comfort from people who care.
Big hugs lovely. One moment at a time.
How am I? Currently questioning lots of things and feeling a tad sorry for myself. Tomorrow is a new week though. Xxxx"
A new week and new opportunities for you I hope. Sometimes we think to much about things and I hope you feel more positive moving forwards. Have a great new week. |
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"I've been hiding away, from friends, family and Fab, as I've had a rather low period.
I've even hidden away from some of my closest Fab friends, rather than a) pretend to be jolly, or b) actually say how I'm feeling.
I have isolated myself, when I need my friends the most. I'm sorry.
So, my question is, how are you?
Properly, how are you?
All hugs welcomed here.
Lisa x"
Sending hugs your way Lisa
I’m just coming out a low period at the moment we have a lot going on so know I’m going to be up and down for a while xx |
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By *isaB45 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've been hiding away, from friends, family and Fab, as I've had a rather low period.
I've even hidden away from some of my closest Fab friends, rather than a) pretend to be jolly, or b) actually say how I'm feeling.
I have isolated myself, when I need my friends the most. I'm sorry.
So, my question is, how are you?
Properly, how are you?
All hugs welcomed here.
Lisa x
Sending hugs your way Lisa
I’m just coming out a low period at the moment we have a lot going on so know I’m going to be up and down for a while xx"
Hugs back at you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way . Sometimes that inward retreat is something we need to do until the storm passes and you feel stronger.
Be kind to yourself, take comfort from people who care.
Big hugs lovely. One moment at a time.
How am I? Currently questioning lots of things and feeling a tad sorry for myself. Tomorrow is a new week though. Xxxx"
Hope you’ve a good week! X |
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"Sending you another hug OP. One of those silent ones where neither of you say anything, you just squeeze hard, then change the subject and talk about random shit. X"
That rings so true right now I did that this morning.
I hope thing's are more positive soon for you op. |
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Big hugs, OP.
I've got a lingering bug, a huge life changing deadline coming up. And I recently had some stuff blow up in my face, I reacted badly but understandably, and it's had social consequences I can't fix and make me sad.
I'm a bit morose. |
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Hugs Lisa xx
Completely understand where you are coming from, so much easier to hide than wear the fake “I’m fine” mask which can be so draining.
Everyone deals with it in their own way and if you want to talk, you’ll know when the time is right. Just try to look after yourself whilst you work through it
For me I tend not to talk about it, I’m not good at taking my own medicine, as I don’t always know what’s causing it so how can I talk about it. I zone out in other ways, which I know help me until it passes and it’s all back it’s box locked away
Stay strong Lisa, you will come out the other-side xx |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Hugs to you Lisa and everyone who needs it on this thread. If any of you ever need to verbally vomit your thoughts or random crap, you can get in touch, I'm quite a good listener.
Right now, I'm okay. I have a lot of things going on so am using this more to decompress than anything else. I do find that opening up is difficult so I'd much rather be there for others or just talk general shite. That works. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hugs to you Lisa and everyone who needs it on this thread. If any of you ever need to verbally vomit your thoughts or random crap, you can get in touch, I'm quite a good listener.
Right now, I'm okay. I have a lot of things going on so am using this more to decompress than anything else. I do find that opening up is difficult so I'd much rather be there for others or just talk general shite. That works."
You’re bloody good at the ‘being there’ thing too |
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"Hugs to you Lisa and everyone who needs it on this thread. If any of you ever need to verbally vomit your thoughts or random crap, you can get in touch, I'm quite a good listener.
Right now, I'm okay. I have a lot of things going on so am using this more to decompress than anything else. I do find that opening up is difficult so I'd much rather be there for others or just talk general shite. That works."
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I'm sorry you've been down Lisa, life has a habit of getting to us sometimes and we deal with it the way we know how to. I do this by locking myself off from everyone until I'm stronger to cope.
Don't put pressure on yourself and give yourself time. I hope things settle soon. Take care.
Jo.Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bussy Hugs for you Lisa
Life is a mental hotpot at the moment
I've gotten to the point now though, where even though I am shitting myself, I have come to the conclusion that I am on this rollercoaster now, so I might as well ride it with my hands in the air as opposed to clinging on til my knuckles are white
You lot help with that more than I could ever credit you for x |
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"I've been hiding away, from friends, family and Fab, as I've had a rather low period.
I've even hidden away from some of my closest Fab friends, rather than a) pretend to be jolly, or b) actually say how I'm feeling.
I have isolated myself, when I need my friends the most. I'm sorry.
So, my question is, how are you?
Properly, how are you?
All hugs welcomed here.
Lisa x"
More worried about how you are?
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By *isaB45 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Have a huge Mac hug Lisa. I hope things look a little brighter soon.
I'm good. I had a much needed girlie weekend of laughter and dancing for hours. Mi bitches are truly the best medicine.
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Thank you x
Can't pm you, so thank you xx |
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I’m not fantastic, I’ve been worse and I’ve been better. Something has set my anxiety off terribly and I’m struggling to contain it. It isn’t easy knowing who to reach out to either, and therefore I haven’t.
Lisa, you aren’t alone. I know it’s easy to isolate and think that is the best thing to do, but if you want a non judgmental listening ear, drop me a message x |
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Hi Lisa,
A simple question, but brilliantly articulated in context.
I hope you start to feel better soon. These feelings and emotions are temporary. Do what works for you...these things are personal.
.. I've felt shit for about 6 months, hence the 6 month break I've just had from fab. I still do feel shit, but I'm seeing a little bit of light at this period of my life. I'll be ok.... I'm not looking for sympathy, or help, or advice...Luckily I have a solid group of friends who allow me to pick up where we left off..(they don't know I feel shit.... I don't want them to know... I too have isolated them)... Personally, I internalise emotions - it works for me. Fortunately for me also, I don't have a mental illness. I do just feel a bit crap. I'm fully aware of the greater struggles in life some people face due to illness.
I do bottle it up, but once I do talk, the tears don't stop....I pick and choose who I tell what.
Only I know the full extent and context of how I feel, and why I feel this way. I will share this as and when I feel ready.
I don't really have a point, other than thanks for asking! I under stand how it feels when your not in such a great period... I also have a good appreciation of feelings if suffering from mental illness.
Remember though, such feelings are indeed temporary, and just do what works for you.
A big hug for you, you sound like one of the good'uns.
x
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hey Lisa.
Sorry to hear/read you've been feeling down.
Try not to take to heart though. I never.. and I mean *never* open up(drives Eve bananas) and we've been together 12 years.
It happens to the best of us.. big virtual hug, Adam.
P.s I'm good, thanks for asking  |
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By *isaB45 OP Woman
over a year ago
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I would like to thank everyone for their hugs, messages, sharing of stories and all-round kindness.
You are what makes the difference between a sex site and swinging.
I've been touched (not like that, you perves) by your loveliness. I appreciate you all.
Lisa x |
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I’m a bit the same as you Lisa. Been an odd few weeks. However, I’ve had a couple of things happen in the last few days that I hope will help dig me out of my black hole. Including a weekend workshop that’s given me some energy back. |
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"I would like to thank everyone for their hugs, messages, sharing of stories and all-round kindness.
You are what makes the difference between a sex site and swinging.
I've been touched (not like that, you perves) by your loveliness. I appreciate you all.
Lisa x"
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By *isaB45 OP Woman
over a year ago
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It seems that in this busy, chaotic life we now lead, stress, anxiety and depression are all too common.
Is society pressurising us, or are just as guilty of adding to our own stress?
Whatever it is, I suppose that it is inevitable that our wings get singed by the sun sometimes.
Perhaps we need to learn to fly at a slightly lower altitude? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think people have always had stress
They were coached not to express it
We are
It's a good thing that we are
It is a shared experience
If by doing so, we normalise it and make just one person understand that they are worth it, there is always a solution and there is always some support, it proves its worth
The solution and the support often come from the most surprising of places, that can restore faith in people and yourself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Big huge hugs to everyone feeling shit!
Remember, it’s good to release things, by whatever means.
Scream, cry, talk, meditate, walk in nature, whatever works for you..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sending you big hugs and hoping you will be back to the you that you feel you should be soon.
Me I'm fine thank you, being a hermit has its advantages, not least that hiding away in the peace of being alone is so easy to do, and no one notices unless they want to.
Peace I wish for you. x
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