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over a year ago
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"A platonic friend who is on here, tells me he would only date women off a "proper" dating site and would never date a fab lady. I found it quite enlightening."
He's quite correct, ladies from fab are radioactive and prolonged exposure can be seriously detrimental to a person's health.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Sounds like he has some issues. What if he was to find the love of his life here? Would he still discount them?
I don't think he would even think they would be a contender"
Then it's his loss, I'm sure lots on here are also looking for dating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find this hilarious, I've been on regular dating sites. They are disrespectful and send absurd messages such as "youd look great with two co*k in you"  cracks me up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surely it's down to the connection with someone, rather than where you met them??
It's getting harder to meet people the conventional, old fashioned ways...so who cares where you met, just enjoy the closeness and see where it leads.
That's my 2 pennies worth. |
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How does he feel about some women only dating guy's from a dating site and not anyone from here? The thing is lots of people are on both sites he wouldn't actually know if they didn't say anything. |
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I'm guessing this is more about finding hook ups for him than swinging. And that he does not intend to have swinging or mutually agreed non-monogomus relationship going forward? That he will remain a one woman man in a relationship? Not judging, some people are here on a temporary basis to simply get laid (there are a fair few women for that as well as men). However he seems to be judging others. I would imagine if he was honest about his views on the women of fab his chances of pulling here would be significantly reduced. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We weren’t looking for a relationship on here but when we found each other it couldn’t of felt more right and we fell in love
Our past FAB exploits have never been an issue and in fact Holly was quite curious about mine but we do have 100% trust in each other
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We weren’t looking for a relationship on here but when we found each other it couldn’t of felt more right and we fell in love
Our past FAB exploits have never been an issue and in fact Holly was quite curious about mine but we do have 100% trust in each other
LJ"
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Half of the men who message me on "normal dating site" messages me on here. I'm assume it's the same with women. We probably use both. At least on here, i rarely have to ask for cock pics... Love it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A platonic friend who is on here, tells me he would only date women off a "proper" dating site and would never date a fab lady. I found it quite enlightening."
You should’ve turned it around on him and asked him how he would feel if ladies wouldn’t date him because he is on Fab.
It tends to humble them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We weren’t looking for a relationship on here but when we found each other it couldn’t of felt more right and we fell in love
Our past FAB exploits have never been an issue and in fact Holly was quite curious about mine but we do have 100% trust in each other
LJ
Oh a fab love story! you look a fantastically hot couple, wishing you all the best "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A platonic friend who is on here, tells me he would only date women off a "proper" dating site and would never date a fab lady. I found it quite enlightening."
Did he say why OP? |
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"It's true, we are all dirty slags and bitches who have fucked our way through the site and are probably riddled with disease."
Obviously!
Yawn - how does anyone really know anyones past.
People lie - I know its shocking .... but they do
I don't want a relationship with anyone any more - I've been on these type of sites over 10yrs now and most people are doing it behind their partner's backs.
Regardless of what site it is - just because they're on match.com it doesn't mean they're not also on here and barebackgangbangdoggingforfatslags.com
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"A platonic friend who is on here, tells me he would only date women off a "proper" dating site and would never date a fab lady. I found it quite enlightening."
I have said many times on bbw v slim type threads that women should take a quarry load of salt with compliments made by men trying to get into their knickers. Simply, because whether you look like a Victoria Secrets model or the Goodyear blimp, by nature of being on this site some men will only ever want to hit it and quit it.
But still they preen and posture. |
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"In a roundabout way
I get what he means
Some people wouldn’t be able to handle the persons past, trust issues etc
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Whatever site or pub they choose they dont know the users past record so does it really matter on here.
"It's true, we are all dirty slags and bitches who have fucked our way through the site and are probably riddled with disease."
Men are the slags as I tell my daughter often |
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"It's true, we are all dirty slags and bitches who have fucked our way through the site and are probably riddled with disease.
Obviously!
Yawn - how does anyone really know anyones past.
People lie - I know its shocking .... but they do
I don't want a relationship with anyone any more - I've been on these type of sites over 10yrs now and most people are doing it behind their partner's backs.
Regardless of what site it is - just because they're on match.com it doesn't mean they're not also on here and barebackgangbangdoggingforfatslags.com
Tell your mate to yawn off OP!"
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I think if you meet someone on here then the grounds for being totally upfront from the get go are much easier. Trust has to be earnt no matter where you meet a person. I'd have no qualms about a relationship with someone from off here |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Aren’t some fab ladies on dating sites to thou?
Yep I'm on POF as well.
It's all a waste of time - it's the same men that are in here  "
Yeap, I can attest to that!
And they still have no idea how to speak to women |
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"Aren’t some fab ladies on dating sites to thou?
Yep I'm on POF as well.
It's all a waste of time - it's the same men that are in here
Yeap, I can attest to that!
And they still have no idea how to speak to women "
I just cant be arsed with it anymore Foxy can you?
I miss intimacy though 
Someone at work was showing me on me where her pain in her back was and I got inappropriately aroused 
Im clearly touch starved |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm pretty sure I will always be in the ok for fun but not for more category.
I used to get upset about it a lot , sometimes I still do a little.
Mostly though, I stick by my decision to embrace that and use it to my advantage. View men in the same way and actually not overthink it .
Don't get me wrong I truly am a hopeless romantic lost in a hook up world.
I'm lonely a lot of the time. I would love happy ever after. Letting someone in seems far too scary though!
While I'm here, I'm going to make damn sure I enjoy it on my terms and no longer care or seek approval of others for it . |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Aren’t some fab ladies on dating sites to thou?
Yep I'm on POF as well.
It's all a waste of time - it's the same men that are in here
Yeap, I can attest to that!
And they still have no idea how to speak to women
I just cant be arsed with it anymore Foxy can you?
I miss intimacy though
Someone at work was showing me on me where her pain in her back was and I got inappropriately aroused
Im clearly touch starved "
I gave up weeks ago! All the 'Hi's, then the cop out of 'tell me about you' when they have cartoon photo's and blank profiles! or just 'fvlknv;sf,lfknskv' you get my drift!
And all my info is in my actual fucking profile if they weren't so dense to fucking ignore it.
Thinking you are dealing with adult men makes you really fucking wonder how they got to their late 30's early 40's, knowing so little shit in life let alone how the fuck to communicate with another adult, never mind what sex they are, then mind really does boggle!
At least on here, you can pretend their playing with their cocks at the same time, so no real blood flow is left in their big heads
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"Aren’t some fab ladies on dating sites to thou?
Yep I'm on POF as well.
It's all a waste of time - it's the same men that are in here
Yeap, I can attest to that!
And they still have no idea how to speak to women
I just cant be arsed with it anymore Foxy can you?
I miss intimacy though
Someone at work was showing me on me where her pain in her back was and I got inappropriately aroused
Im clearly touch starved
I gave up weeks ago! All the 'Hi's, then the cop out of 'tell me about you' when they have cartoon photo's and blank profiles! or just 'fvlknv;sf,lfknskv' you get my drift!
And all my info is in my actual fucking profile if they weren't so dense to fucking ignore it.
Thinking you are dealing with adult men makes you really fucking wonder how they got to their late 30's early 40's, knowing so little shit in life let alone how the fuck to communicate with another adult, never mind what sex they are, then mind really does boggle!
At least on here, you can pretend their playing with their cocks at the same time, so no real blood flow is left in their big heads
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do sometimes fleetingly wonder what is really thought of the women and their 'dating' potential on here by men. And also vice versa. We're all the same people on all the different sites (some of us) and still the upstanding mothers and teachers and suchlike (ran out of professions) but yes I do wonder.
It shouldn't matter and it probably doesn't for most and ultimately I doubt I care, but only as Im not looking to date maybe. Ramble, ramble..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think a lot of guys on here are just looking for NSA rather than swinging and as such the thought of sharing their actual girlfriend in say a threesome would horrify them. As such they won't consider dating people off here. |
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I think there’s a big old Venn diagram where there’s a crossover and I’d like to think there’s a lot of similarities...yes this is predominantly a swingers sure and for fun etc but the basic values, etiquette, attraction, sense of being with someone at that time is the same. I get that it may be more disposable but so is the dating world these days. I guess my point is no one needs to be dick-ish in behaviour either way whether on the dating sites or here.
My presumption would be that if you were here then you would be off of here, unless folk have split personalities and personas going on  |
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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago
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"I find this hilarious, I've been on regular dating sites. They are disrespectful and send absurd messages such as "youd look great with two co*k in you" cracks me up "
I was on a tinder date last night and she told me how she gets loads of unsolicited cock pics. The lady couldn't have been more gentle, kind and polite. FFS guys!! |
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I met a guy through a dating site, had a first date lunch, all very pleasant. Nothing sexual was discussed but I suspected he had a Fab profile so logged in to have a look - amused me greatly when I found him...
I wasn't active on here at the time but unhid my profile and dropped him a message just because I found it funny.
The shift in attitude kind of shocked me a bit - he clearly thought I'd instantly drop my knickers for him given my swinging history. I tried explaining I wasn't active on Fab (and hadn't been for some time) and that I'd met him through a dating site, so it was a whole different kettle of bananas, but he just didn't get it.
Clearly I opened that particular can of worms and shouldn't have done, but it did kind of disappoint me a bit that just because someone is on here / has been here in the past certain assumptions are made...
That said, it helped me find out very quickly that he was a bit of a t*sser without having to date him further, so there's always an upside...  |
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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago
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"A platonic friend who is on here, tells me he would only date women off a "proper" dating site and would never date a fab lady. I found it quite enlightening."
Tells me he's not embracing swinging as part of his lifestyle and finds opportunities here not as taboo but perhaps unacceptable. Should a tinder date progress with me I'd have to openly admit my lifestyle. |
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"A platonic friend who is on here, tells me he would only date women off a "proper" dating site and would never date a fab lady. I found it quite enlightening."
Sadly very true!
A couple of months ago I met a guy from here and we got on amazingly well on every level! As he said he didn’t want to meet anyone else I reciprocated and put ‘not meeting ‘ on my profile. All was well - until it wasn’t - and he got cold feet and dumped me!
He came up with a couple of excuses but I’m pretty sure he just couldn’t handle having a relationship with someone from fab!
If we’d met on a ‘normal ‘ dating site I’m convinced we’d still be together now!
Life sucks at times! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not looking for a relationship but if things progress then I'm ok with that also. Used dating sites, found them a waste of time and effort.
I did find someone on here, looking and wanting the same things as me. Told me numerous times he was single and wanted to date me properly but I'm a very good detective and he wasn't. A child of 6 mths at the time and still with the mum. He is still on here saying he's single, just changed his location. To me he's a bit of a w***er
Rather have a few casual male friends for safe sex, drinks occasionally, etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I found dating sites full of men looking for no strings fun so that’s why I came back here. At least I get to see their cock pics on here  "
The enigma unravels. Pervert
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"Sounds like he has some issues. What if he was to find the love of his life here? Would he still discount them?
I don't think he would even think they would be a contender"
And I wouldn’t even consider him a contender for having an attitude like that. Sorry but those kind of people really irk me. |
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"Sounds like he has some issues. What if he was to find the love of his life here? Would he still discount them?
I don't think he would even think they would be a contender
And I wouldn’t even consider him a contender for having an attitude like that. Sorry but those kind of people really irk me. "
this for me too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't exclude dating on this site. If the right person came along and we click. We would have similar interests and understand the dynamics of the swinging lifestyle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A platonic friend who is on here, tells me he would only date women off a "proper" dating site and would never date a fab lady. I found it quite enlightening."
A “fab lady”. What’s that then? |
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"I'm on dating sites and get people asking about cukold and BDSM... Might as well be on here so not sure what the difference is sometimes x
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wise words......if you both click...and want that....I don't see the issue tbh!!! |
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"A platonic friend who is on here, tells me he would only date women off a "proper" dating site and would never date a fab lady. I found it quite enlightening.
Did he say why OP?"
I wouldn't date anyone off here either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In a roundabout way
I get what he means
Some people wouldn’t be able to handle the persons past, trust issues etc
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Yeah I agree, I’d probs feel the same, but depends on how strong the connection is with the person your dating |
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over a year ago
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"A platonic friend who is on here, tells me he would only date women off a "proper" dating site and would never date a fab lady. I found it quite enlightening."
We're all the same people here or there, it's all about knowledge of what's gone before really, if you keep what you do to yourself I don't see the problem, if you brag about what you do then that will always put people off or make them react in a negative manner  |
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"In a roundabout way
I get what he means
Some people wouldn’t be able to handle the persons past, trust issues etc
Yeah I agree, I’d probs feel the same, but depends on how strong the connection is with the person your dating "
When will people realise that an awful lot of people on here aren’t actually swingers. Some people haven’t met anyone, some people have only had socials. Some people, believe it or not, haven’t shagged everyone on the site or even anyone on the site! Annoys me how everyone on here is viewed the same! Why not just look at each person as an individual and go from there!? |
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
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"Sounds like he has some issues. What if he was to find the love of his life here? Would he still discount them?
I don't think he would even think they would be a contender
Then it's his loss, I'm sure lots on here are also looking for dating. "
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over a year ago
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I was on POF had a couple of dates with two different ladies who I am fairly certain aren’t on Fabs If I had acted differently then adult fun would probably have happened with both of them but I chose not to take it further.I left POF a few months ago as I wasn’t getting anything out of it.As I said on my profile I am open to the idea of a serious relationship but the chances of finding it on Fabs I feel are slim but you never know.I thought I met someone on Fabs that could have developed but I messed up.I am now thinking that Fabs can potentially be as good as some dating sites if you think about you can attend socials , clubs , events and you may meet someone that you click with.The same way they have bars , clubs , pubs that you can meet someone you click with. |
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I agree with the comment above..there is little difference between here and the "vanilla" dating sites..just as much NSA on those and married people and the same BS as here. I should know as I've experienced it.
I get questioned time and and time again about is this the right site if you want to date blah blah blah.. I see it that I have as much chance here as a dating site. There are single people on here. Not everyone wants to date and that's fine. I'm clear from the start what I would like. If I met someone who did then great.
There's no guarantee that things will work out regardless. That's just down to meeting the right person. As for the trust thing because its a swingers site again its no different here then any of the other sites.
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"In a roundabout way
I get what he means
Some people wouldn’t be able to handle the persons past, trust issues etc
Yeah I agree, I’d probs feel the same, but depends on how strong the connection is with the person your dating
When will people realise that an awful lot of people on here aren’t actually swingers. Some people haven’t met anyone, some people have only had socials. Some people, believe it or not, haven’t shagged everyone on the site or even anyone on the site! Annoys me how everyone on here is viewed the same! Why not just look at each person as an individual and go from there!?"
This.
However it doesnt annoy me. Just makes me wonder how and why some want to put others in whatever category they choose, then appear to either chase or dismiss others based on some amorphous false group identity.
I am not a number
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"I was on POF had a couple of dates with two different ladies who I am fairly certain aren’t on Fabs If I had acted differently then adult fun would probably have happened with both of them but I chose not to take it further.I left POF a few months ago as I wasn’t getting anything out of it.As I said on my profile I am open to the idea of a serious relationship but the chances of finding it on Fabs I feel are slim but you never know.I thought I met someone on Fabs that could have developed but I messed up.I am now thinking that Fabs can potentially be as good as some dating sites if you think about you can attend socials , clubs , events and you may meet someone that you click with.The same way they have bars , clubs , pubs that you can meet someone you click with."
Lots of people have coupled up on here. Some successful, some not.
I think if you're looking for a swinging relationship this is a great place to find it. |
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"In a roundabout way
I get what he means
Some people wouldn’t be able to handle the persons past, trust issues etc
Yeah I agree, I’d probs feel the same, but depends on how strong the connection is with the person your dating
When will people realise that an awful lot of people on here aren’t actually swingers. Some people haven’t met anyone, some people have only had socials. Some people, believe it or not, haven’t shagged everyone on the site or even anyone on the site! Annoys me how everyone on here is viewed the same! Why not just look at each person as an individual and go from there!?"
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