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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Notion this
I see these threads praising and slobbering (occasionally) over all size of women and men.
I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
To me , body size isn’t important at all. If I’m attracted to the face and the personality then that’s great.
I know that there’s a continuous role out of these threads, what with torso, boobs, slim , bbw etc and yes I’m fully aware it’s a site for predominantly sex ..... however, shouldn’t we celebrate being thoroughly decent individuals.
Just a thought  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hmmm, I couldn't agree more. To me at least body type is irrelevant as I much prefer to treat each person by their own merits."
Treat a person as an individual.... never |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Hear hear.
I understand that some people have particular aesthetics they like - that's understandable and no aspersions cast here.
But, on the whole, for me, I find that a myriad of people are attractive to me. Size rarely comes in to it. I'm a sucker for an attractive face and a great mind that I'm compatible with. I like kindness and honesty and passion and that can come in any package. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hear hear.
I understand that some people have particular aesthetics they like - that's understandable and no aspersions cast here.
But, on the whole, for me, I find that a myriad of people are attractive to me. Size rarely comes in to it. I'm a sucker for an attractive face and a great mind that I'm compatible with. I like kindness and honesty and passion and that can come in any package."
So alike you and I ....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t know why blokes feel the need to start these threads in honour of a certain size woman, think it’s a transparent way of just kissing arse in the hope they get to empty their ball. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don’t know why blokes feel the need to start these threads in honour of a certain size woman, think it’s a transparent way of just kissing arse in the hope they get to empty their ball. "
The more astute of us, already see through this  |
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I agree that beauty comes in all forms...thank goodness really otherwise I’d have a massive complex 
I’d like to think the threads are not to the detriment of other ‘types’. It is very judge-y (says someone with his arse and parts showing) but I guess it’s the nature of the beast.
Kindness and decency should rule regardless of whether someone is slim, athletic, bbw, curvy, 3 nipples or whatnot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You make a fair point iv often said its all about humour for me if someone aint funny id not even look at the rest lifes too dull to be based on only what i see |
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"I don’t know why blokes feel the need to start these threads in honour of a certain size woman, think it’s a transparent way of just kissing arse in the hope they get to empty their ball. "
I agree, that sounds like a very male thing to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally agree!
Size is what least affects if i find someone attractive or not. I've always said, beauty is not defined by weight or size.
We're all hot as fuck to someone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Notion this
I see these threads praising and slobbering (occasionally) over all size of women and men.
I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
To me , body size isn’t important at all. If I’m attracted to the face and the personality then that’s great.
I know that there’s a continuous role out of these threads, what with torso, boobs, slim , bbw etc and yes I’m fully aware it’s a site for predominantly sex ..... however, shouldn’t we celebrate being thoroughly decent individuals.
Just a thought "
Totally agree with this  |
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By *histlerMan
over a year ago
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To a point I agree with you. But there’s still physical attributes that I prefer and some that I don’t. Sometimes it shows that someone doesn’t look after themselves or on the other end of the spectrum shows that it’s all they care about.
I have more of an issue with people using the term “exceptional”. Especially when they filter messages by that. Someone could have an amazing body but be a complete arse or just boring. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I agree that beauty comes in all forms...thank goodness really otherwise I’d have a massive complex
I’d like to think the threads are not to the detriment of other ‘types’. It is very judge-y (says someone with his arse and parts showing) but I guess it’s the nature of the beast.
Kindness and decency should rule regardless of whether someone is slim, athletic, bbw, curvy, 3 nipples or whatnot. "
Some are very judgey .... some are on every thread fawning and slobbering
I find it distasteful if not a tad cringey |
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"Notion this
I see these threads praising and slobbering (occasionally) over all size of women and men.
I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
To me , body size isn’t important at all. If I’m attracted to the face and the personality then that’s great.
I know that there’s a continuous role out of these threads, what with torso, boobs, slim , bbw etc and yes I’m fully aware it’s a site for predominantly sex ..... however, shouldn’t we celebrate being thoroughly decent individuals.
Just a thought "
But being decent and knowing what we personally find attractive to us is two different thing's to me. Yes a face is the main thing but I know what body type gets my juices flowing,well I'm perimenopausel so those juices are rapidly dwindling   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes! I read profiles, chat with people sometimes before I’ve seen their face I know they’re lovely to talk to or that they make me laugh. It isn’t about body parts, it’s about being a good human, and mentally compatible in some way. I understand though that for some it is about just the body parts and fucking, even mostly anonymously. I just have to know someone a bit before I can be naked and that they know I am silly and will laugh and be shy and awkward and not be put off ! - Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t know why blokes feel the need to start these threads in honour of a certain size woman, think it’s a transparent way of just kissing arse in the hope they get to empty their ball.
I agree, that sounds like a very male thing to do."
its not tho at all girls do it just as much |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To a point I agree with you. But there’s still physical attributes that I prefer and some that I don’t. Sometimes it shows that someone doesn’t look after themselves or on the other end of the spectrum shows that it’s all they care about.
I have more of an issue with people using the term “exceptional”. Especially when they filter messages by that. Someone could have an amazing body but be a complete arse or just boring. "
I understand completely about a ‘type’ being more preferable
Maybe if we kept them to our profiles instead of celebrating certain sizes being stated as the ‘most attractive’
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"To a point I agree with you. But there’s still physical attributes that I prefer and some that I don’t. Sometimes it shows that someone doesn’t look after themselves or on the other end of the spectrum shows that it’s all they care about.
I have more of an issue with people using the term “exceptional”. Especially when they filter messages by that. Someone could have an amazing body but be a complete arse or just boring.
I understand completely about a ‘type’ being more preferable
Maybe if we kept them to our profiles instead of celebrating certain sizes being stated as the ‘most attractive’
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Yes, I think this is the main point. We can't help but be predisposed to fancy a certain type, I only have to look at the people I match with on Tinder to spot mine.
However, that is not to exclude anyone, it's just that initial knee-jerk (or is that cock-twitch).
Beyond looks if some comes across wrong to me, or I see they have posted comments I can't reconcile, then there's no chance I'd wish to go further. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I understand what you're saying but I think if people want to start those types of thread's they should be left to do so without being made to feel bad about it."
I don’t post derogatory comments on those posts but I know people who have felt self conscious when those threads are posted |
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"Yes! I read profiles, chat with people sometimes before I’ve seen their face I know they’re lovely to talk to or that they make me laugh. It isn’t about body parts, it’s about being a good human, and mentally compatible in some way. I understand though that for some it is about just the body parts and fucking, even mostly anonymously. I just have to know someone a bit before I can be naked and that they know I am silly and will laugh and be shy and awkward and not be put off ! - Mrs "
This rings very true with me! If I can't have a laugh with someone, it won't be happening. Body type is not top of my compatibility list.
Some do join fab looking to satisfy a particular fetish though, and that's their prerogative.
Mrs TMN x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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After two pms
Jesus - seriously??
I’m not SHAMING anyone by posting this thread - I’m merely stating my points on this myself
If a post stating we should appreciate everyone offends you - I’ll not apologise |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I love nice people
Who are nice to people
When I choose friends, I choose people who are genuinely nice
Maybe that’s my point- I’d only have sex with someone I could be friendly with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Notion this
I see these threads praising and slobbering (occasionally) over all size of women and men.
I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
To me , body size isn’t important at all. If I’m attracted to the face and the personality then that’s great.
I know that there’s a continuous role out of these threads, what with torso, boobs, slim , bbw etc and yes I’m fully aware it’s a site for predominantly sex ..... however, shouldn’t we celebrate being thoroughly decent individuals.
Just a thought "
totally totally agree i hate all these threads that pit women against other women and men against men or women against men and men against women there is really no need for it ..and yes ive been guilty of it too as have most of us  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After two pms
Jesus - seriously??
I’m not SHAMING anyone by posting this thread - I’m merely stating my points on this myself
If a post stating we should appreciate everyone offends you - I’ll not apologise "
Oh Floro, don't you know we're not allowed to be inclusive here?
Pick apart our bodies and let everyone decide who's "best" by all means, but don't try saying we're all worthy! People will lose their shit! 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I understand what you're saying but I think if people want to start those types of thread's they should be left to do so without being made to feel bad about it."
I don’t think this is intended to shame anyone, the same as those posts may not be.
This is a post about mind/face over body.
People own their own feelings and reactions to those and this thread. I think it’s nice for people to be allowed to discuss what attracts them to people. - Mrs |
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"I understand what you're saying but I think if people want to start those types of thread's they should be left to do so without being made to feel bad about it.
I don’t post derogatory comments on those posts but I know people who have felt self conscious when those threads are posted "
Trust me I know how that feels especially when I was slimmer than I am now with all the bag of bones comments it feels like shit,but so long as people aren't being idiots it's up to us if we don't like it to leave them to it. I wouldn't post on a curvy thread because I don't have a curvy shape so stay away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Attractive face and eyes plus connection and vibe gets me every time...I guess that’s why I don’t have a particular type....If someone stunning in appearance but an absolute asshole then the attraction goes instantly |
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"totally totally agree i hate all these threads that pit women against other women and men against men or women against men and men against women there is really no need for it ..and yes ive been guilty of it too as have most of us "
Agreed - but I don’t need a specific thread to make me feel inferior to other men... just looking at the nearby list or profile thumbnails on the forum does that! |
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"I understand what you're saying but I think if people want to start those types of thread's they should be left to do so without being made to feel bad about it.
I don’t think this is intended to shame anyone, the same as those posts may not be.
This is a post about mind/face over body.
People own their own feelings and reactions to those and this thread. I think it’s nice for people to be allowed to discuss what attracts them to people. - Mrs "
No I know but the start of the post wasn't the best for me. When I met it was about getting to know someone first,I couldn't have sex without getting a feel for them and their personality. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I understand what you're saying but I think if people want to start those types of thread's they should be left to do so without being made to feel bad about it.
I don’t post derogatory comments on those posts but I know people who have felt self conscious when those threads are posted "
Then surely that is their issue and not the threads |
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Being a bag of bones myself I just avoid all the threads aimed at an aesthetic I cannot achieve, which in the male space is most of them. Does it make me sad? Sometimes people post throwaway comments like “I would break a skinny man” and that can smart a little but it’s a deep sigh moment. A few people find me attractive, physically and mentally so I tend to banter with them and block the people that find my aesthetic abhorrent and have openly stated so as I am sure they don’t want to see my pics. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Notion this
I see these threads praising and slobbering (occasionally) over all size of women and men.
I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
To me , body size isn’t important at all. If I’m attracted to the face and the personality then that’s great.
I know that there’s a continuous role out of these threads, what with torso, boobs, slim , bbw etc and yes I’m fully aware it’s a site for predominantly sex ..... however, shouldn’t we celebrate being thoroughly decent individuals.
Just a thought "
I agree, I’m more attracted to somebody with a wicked funny sense of humour, more than the fact that they 500 photos of their naked body all over their profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love nice people
Who are nice to people
When I choose friends, I choose people who are genuinely nice
Maybe that’s my point- I’d only have sex with someone I could be friendly with "
Same here, but on the flip of a coin I couldn't have sex with all of my friends.
Being a decent human is one of many things about them I need to find attractive, aswell as being aesthetically pleasing - to me.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I understand what you're saying but I think if people want to start those types of thread's they should be left to do so without being made to feel bad about it.
I don’t post derogatory comments on those posts but I know people who have felt self conscious when those threads are posted
Then surely that is their issue and not the threads"
I can be a voice though ? Just as they are on theirs? |
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By *ugby 123Couple
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"Notion this
I see these threads praising and slobbering (occasionally) over all size of women and men.
I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
To me , body size isn’t important at all. If I’m attracted to the face and the personality then that’s great.
I know that there’s a continuous role out of these threads, what with torso, boobs, slim , bbw etc and yes I’m fully aware it’s a site for predominantly sex ..... however, shouldn’t we celebrate being thoroughly decent individuals.
Just a thought "
Body size might not be important to you but it is to some people. Maybe we should just celebrate that everyone is different and can choose how they view things, be that bodies/ threads etc without being told it is wrong |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being a bag of bones myself I just avoid all the threads aimed at an aesthetic I cannot achieve, which in the male space is most of them. Does it make me sad? Sometimes people post throwaway comments like “I would break a skinny man” and that can smart a little but it’s a deep sigh moment. A few people find me attractive, physically and mentally so I tend to banter with them and block the people that find my aesthetic abhorrent and have openly stated so as I am sure they don’t want to see my pics. "
I hate seeing that comment made about guys, if it was a woman people would have something to say, yet seems to be acceptable to body shame men. Angers me. |
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"totally totally agree i hate all these threads that pit women against other women and men against men or women against men and men against women there is really no need for it ..and yes ive been guilty of it too as have most of us
Agreed - but I don’t need a specific thread to make me feel inferior to other men... just looking at the nearby list or profile thumbnails on the forum does that!"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Notion this
I see these threads praising and slobbering (occasionally) over all size of women and men.
I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
To me , body size isn’t important at all. If I’m attracted to the face and the personality then that’s great.
I know that there’s a continuous role out of these threads, what with torso, boobs, slim , bbw etc and yes I’m fully aware it’s a site for predominantly sex ..... however, shouldn’t we celebrate being thoroughly decent individuals.
Just a thought
Body size might not be important to you but it is to some people. Maybe we should just celebrate that everyone is different and can choose how they view things, be that bodies/ threads etc without being told it is wrong "
I don’t think I’ve said it’s wrong ?
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By *ugby 123Couple
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"I understand what you're saying but I think if people want to start those types of thread's they should be left to do so without being made to feel bad about it.
I don’t post derogatory comments on those posts but I know people who have felt self conscious when those threads are posted
Then surely that is their issue and not the threads
I can be a voice though ? Just as they are on theirs?"
My comment didn't suggest you couldn't. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Strange how people see what they want to see sometimes "
It was meant to celebrate being nice to others and not ONE particular type
I’ll continue being nice
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being a bag of bones myself I just avoid all the threads aimed at an aesthetic I cannot achieve, which in the male space is most of them. Does it make me sad? Sometimes people post throwaway comments like “I would break a skinny man” and that can smart a little but it’s a deep sigh moment. A few people find me attractive, physically and mentally so I tend to banter with them and block the people that find my aesthetic abhorrent and have openly stated so as I am sure they don’t want to see my pics. "
I actually find skinny men very sexually attractive. I know that it must be really hard, the jokes like you mentioned and the so called “ideal”. Aesthetically you are not at all abhorrent. We don’t all want the same things, and it’s hard for all of us who don’t feel like they’re the ideal. I personally feel in between certain categories and having to label myself makes me panic and feel ugly as I feel like I better give myself a label some would give me. It’s really hard especially on a site that takes appearance at a higher value than other things we have to offer. |
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"totally totally agree i hate all these threads that pit women against other women and men against men or women against men and men against women there is really no need for it ..and yes ive been guilty of it too as have most of us
Agreed - but I don’t need a specific thread to make me feel inferior to other men... just looking at the nearby list or profile thumbnails on the forum does that!"
You have an attractive chin it has caught my eye more than many torsos have! - Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Strange how people see what they want to see sometimes
It was meant to celebrate being nice to others and not ONE particular type
I’ll continue being nice
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Being nice is a good thing. It makes you more beautiful than you already look in your thumbnail - Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Being a bag of bones myself I just avoid all the threads aimed at an aesthetic I cannot achieve, which in the male space is most of them. Does it make me sad? Sometimes people post throwaway comments like “I would break a skinny man” and that can smart a little but it’s a deep sigh moment. A few people find me attractive, physically and mentally so I tend to banter with them and block the people that find my aesthetic abhorrent and have openly stated so as I am sure they don’t want to see my pics.
I actually find skinny men very sexually attractive. I know that it must be really hard, the jokes like you mentioned and the so called “ideal”. Aesthetically you are not at all abhorrent. We don’t all want the same things, and it’s hard for all of us who don’t feel like they’re the ideal. I personally feel in between certain categories and having to label myself makes me panic and feel ugly as I feel like I better give myself a label some would give me. It’s really hard especially on a site that takes appearance at a higher value than other things we have to offer. "
I like this !!
We all have our preferences ... Jesus my preference is Gerard Butler
I just like to be the voice of ones who are low and they can come in here and know it matters not if they’re as big as a house or small as mouse |
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"Strange how people see what they want to see sometimes
It was meant to celebrate being nice to others and not ONE particular type
I’ll continue being nice
Being nice is a good thing. It makes you more beautiful than you already look in your thumbnail - Mrs "
Bless you - how lovely |
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"Being a bag of bones myself I just avoid all the threads aimed at an aesthetic I cannot achieve, which in the male space is most of them. Does it make me sad? Sometimes people post throwaway comments like “I would break a skinny man” and that can smart a little but it’s a deep sigh moment. A few people find me attractive, physically and mentally so I tend to banter with them and block the people that find my aesthetic abhorrent and have openly stated so as I am sure they don’t want to see my pics.
I actually find skinny men very sexually attractive. I know that it must be really hard, the jokes like you mentioned and the so called “ideal”. Aesthetically you are not at all abhorrent. We don’t all want the same things, and it’s hard for all of us who don’t feel like they’re the ideal. I personally feel in between certain categories and having to label myself makes me panic and feel ugly as I feel like I better give myself a label some would give me. It’s really hard especially on a site that takes appearance at a higher value than other things we have to offer.
I like this !!
We all have our preferences ... Jesus my preference is Gerard Butler
I just like to be the voice of ones who are low and they can come in here and know it matters not if they’re as big as a house or small as mouse "
That came across very clearly to me
Mrs TMN x |
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I know everyone's opinion of what curvy or slim is different but some people are clearly ample or voluptuous and have them set as curvy. But obviously I'm not gonna comment and each to their own. I'm no athlete but you shouldn't be embarrassed of your body and what size you are, be transparent and describe your body accurately. |
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"Being a bag of bones myself I just avoid all the threads aimed at an aesthetic I cannot achieve, which in the male space is most of them. Does it make me sad? Sometimes people post throwaway comments like “I would break a skinny man” and that can smart a little but it’s a deep sigh moment. A few people find me attractive, physically and mentally so I tend to banter with them and block the people that find my aesthetic abhorrent and have openly stated so as I am sure they don’t want to see my pics.
I actually find skinny men very sexually attractive. I know that it must be really hard, the jokes like you mentioned and the so called “ideal”. Aesthetically you are not at all abhorrent. We don’t all want the same things, and it’s hard for all of us who don’t feel like they’re the ideal. I personally feel in between certain categories and having to label myself makes me panic and feel ugly as I feel like I better give myself a label some would give me. It’s really hard especially on a site that takes appearance at a higher value than other things we have to offer.
I like this !!
We all have our preferences ... Jesus my preference is Gerard Butler
I just like to be the voice of ones who are low and they can come in here and know it matters not if they’re as big as a house or small as mouse
That came across very clearly to me
Mrs TMN x "
Just trying to be nice |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I know everyone's opinion of what curvy or slim is different but some people are clearly ample or voluptuous and have them set as curvy. But obviously I'm not gonna comment and each to their own. I'm no athlete but you shouldn't be embarrassed of your body and what size you are, be transparent and describe your body accurately."
That’s not what I’m trying to get at
I’m trying to say ... just be nice , celebrate the person |
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By *ugby 123Couple
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I see these threads praising and slobbering (occasionally) over all size of women and men.
I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
To me , body size isn’t important at all. If I’m attracted to the face and the personality then that’s great.
I know that there’s a continuous role out of these threads, what with torso, boobs, slim , bbw etc and yes I’m fully aware it’s a site for predominantly sex ..... however, shouldn’t we celebrate being thoroughly decent individuals.
Just a thought
Body size might not be important to you but it is to some people. Maybe we should just celebrate that everyone is different and can choose how they view things, be that bodies/ threads etc without being told it is wrong
I don’t think I’ve said it’s wrong ?
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That is how it came across ( to me anyway ) You suggest it should be on profiles instead of on the forum as it upsets people who have body issues ( I am sure we all have those )
You then go on to say "Some are very judgey " and then go on to judge those people by saying.... "some are on every thread fawning and slobbering
I find it distasteful if not a tad cringey"
For me it all adds up to you think it is a wrong thing to do.
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"I know everyone's opinion of what curvy or slim is different but some people are clearly ample or voluptuous and have them set as curvy. But obviously I'm not gonna comment and each to their own. I'm no athlete but you shouldn't be embarrassed of your body and what size you are, be transparent and describe your body accurately."
Curvy is a SHAPE! Not a SIZE!
You can be fat AND curvy.
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"Being a bag of bones myself I just avoid all the threads aimed at an aesthetic I cannot achieve, which in the male space is most of them. Does it make me sad? Sometimes people post throwaway comments like “I would break a skinny man” and that can smart a little but it’s a deep sigh moment. A few people find me attractive, physically and mentally so I tend to banter with them and block the people that find my aesthetic abhorrent and have openly stated so as I am sure they don’t want to see my pics.
I actually find skinny men very sexually attractive. I know that it must be really hard, the jokes like you mentioned and the so called “ideal”. Aesthetically you are not at all abhorrent. We don’t all want the same things, and it’s hard for all of us who don’t feel like they’re the ideal. I personally feel in between certain categories and having to label myself makes me panic and feel ugly as I feel like I better give myself a label some would give me. It’s really hard especially on a site that takes appearance at a higher value than other things we have to offer. "
Don’t get me wrong. My post wasn’t a “woe is me” one, I do okay and I meet some truly fabulous people but I tend to stay away from body threads and the like, I think Rugby is right in that people celebrating different body types in a specific thread isn’t a bad thing and if we don’t match that we can stay out of it it. Most people in those threads are respectful and the derogatory comments tend to come from people that have body confidence or self esteem issues themselves.
Many threads by their nature explore humour and personalities and that is a facet I can enjoy. Until someone makes the “skinny dudes who like waving their wangs in your face” appreciation thread  |
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"Notion this
I see these threads praising and slobbering (occasionally) over all size of women and men.
I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
To me , body size isn’t important at all. If I’m attracted to the face and the personality then that’s great.
I know that there’s a continuous role out of these threads, what with torso, boobs, slim , bbw etc and yes I’m fully aware it’s a site for predominantly sex ..... however, shouldn’t we celebrate being thoroughly decent individuals.
Just a thought
Body size might not be important to you but it is to some people. Maybe we should just celebrate that everyone is different and can choose how they view things, be that bodies/ threads etc without being told it is wrong
I don’t think I’ve said it’s wrong ?
That is how it came across ( to me anyway ) You suggest it should be on profiles instead of on the forum as it upsets people who have body issues ( I am sure we all have those )
You then go on to say "Some are very judgey " and then go on to judge those people by saying.... "some are on every thread fawning and slobbering
I find it distasteful if not a tad cringey"
For me it all adds up to you think it is a wrong thing to do.
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oh Ok
Thank you for pointing that out and I’m sorry it came across like that to you
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"Notion this
I see these threads praising and slobbering (occasionally) over all size of women and men.
I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
To me , body size isn’t important at all. If I’m attracted to the face and the personality then that’s great.
I know that there’s a continuous role out of these threads, what with torso, boobs, slim , bbw etc and yes I’m fully aware it’s a site for predominantly sex ..... however, shouldn’t we celebrate being thoroughly decent individuals.
Just a thought "
The way a person makes you feel rather than the way a person looks makes it a far more intimate feeling. |
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I agree with you OP. I am a decent person and I am on fabswingers which promotes sexual activity between different people except me haha  ..
Say that to someone in the real world where people believe in marriage wows and family life and the vanilla lifestyle they would probably laugh in our faces and would never say we are decent. Just my thoughts and probably why a lot of us singles don't openly show our faces in public profile.
It's like wearing a burka on here until the one we like shows up and we share our face with them.
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"I think it would help if people stuck to the subject matter of the thread as regards to the Average thread one then there's no problems. "
I agree
Can we not just be nice to each other
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"Notion this
I see these threads praising and slobbering (occasionally) over all size of women and men.
I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
To me , body size isn’t important at all. If I’m attracted to the face and the personality then that’s great.
I know that there’s a continuous role out of these threads, what with torso, boobs, slim , bbw etc and yes I’m fully aware it’s a site for predominantly sex ..... however, shouldn’t we celebrate being thoroughly decent individuals.
Just a thought
Body size might not be important to you but it is to some people. Maybe we should just celebrate that everyone is different and can choose how they view things, be that bodies/ threads etc without being told it is wrong
I don’t think I’ve said it’s wrong ?
That is how it came across ( to me anyway ) You suggest it should be on profiles instead of on the forum as it upsets people who have body issues ( I am sure we all have those )
You then go on to say "Some are very judgey " and then go on to judge those people by saying.... "some are on every thread fawning and slobbering
I find it distasteful if not a tad cringey"
For me it all adds up to you think it is a wrong thing to do.
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To be fair I think I said the judge-y thing. Flora was responding to that. I can’t be bothered tracing back up posts and quoting but pretty sure.
I took the OP’s initial post to be an inclusive meaning thread, it’s somehow descended into something else. |
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"This was supposed to be a light hearted , celebration of anyone
Greatest apologies to those who have taken my post the wrong way "
It was your comment on the other thread for me,now I agree what you said for sure but then starting this one didn't feel right.
Anyways sun's out,let's just appreciate being alive and well. |
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I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
Just a thought "
Understand what you mean but some obviously need to go to Specsavers! |
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To be fair I think I said the judge-y thing. Flora was responding to that. I can’t be bothered tracing back up posts and quoting but pretty sure.
I took the OP’s initial post to be an inclusive meaning thread, it’s somehow descended into something else.
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I quoted floras post
The thread moved a different way after that quote so Flora moved it on herself plus the OP did pose a question at the end ( be it without a ? ) |
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"I know everyone's opinion of what curvy or slim is different but some people are clearly ample or voluptuous and have them set as curvy. But obviously I'm not gonna comment and each to their own. I'm no athlete but you shouldn't be embarrassed of your body and what size you are, be transparent and describe your body accurately.
Curvy is a SHAPE! Not a SIZE!
You can be fat AND curvy.
Jeezus i hate this comment so much! "
Yes you're right but not everyone who's fat is curvy But yes body appreciation hear hear ! |
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By *ugby 123Couple
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"Sorry I meant Floro not the margarine "
Fuck me I am going to get into trouble soon....I am off out, might be just as well 
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"Notion this
I see these threads praising and slobbering (occasionally) over all size of women and men.
I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
To me , body size isn’t important at all. If I’m attracted to the face and the personality then that’s great.
I know that there’s a continuous role out of these threads, what with torso, boobs, slim , bbw etc and yes I’m fully aware it’s a site for predominantly sex ..... however, shouldn’t we celebrate being thoroughly decent individuals.
Just a thought
Body size might not be important to you but it is to some people. Maybe we should just celebrate that everyone is different and can choose how they view things, be that bodies/ threads etc without being told it is wrong
I don’t think I’ve said it’s wrong ?
That is how it came across ( to me anyway ) You suggest it should be on profiles instead of on the forum as it upsets people who have body issues ( I am sure we all have those )
You then go on to say "Some are very judgey " and then go on to judge those people by saying.... "some are on every thread fawning and slobbering
I find it distasteful if not a tad cringey"
For me it all adds up to you think it is a wrong thing to do.
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"I know everyone's opinion of what curvy or slim is different but some people are clearly ample or voluptuous and have them set as curvy. But obviously I'm not gonna comment and each to their own. I'm no athlete but you shouldn't be embarrassed of your body and what size you are, be transparent and describe your body accurately.
Curvy is a SHAPE! Not a SIZE!
You can be fat AND curvy.
Jeezus i hate this comment so much!
Yes you're right but not everyone who's fat is curvy But yes body appreciation hear hear ! "
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"This was supposed to be a light hearted , celebration of anyone
Greatest apologies to those who have taken my post the wrong way "
I took it the way it was intended! |
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"Notion this
I see these threads praising and slobbering (occasionally) over all size of women and men.
I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
To me , body size isn’t important at all. If I’m attracted to the face and the personality then that’s great.
I know that there’s a continuous role out of these threads, what with torso, boobs, slim , bbw etc and yes I’m fully aware it’s a site for predominantly sex ..... however, shouldn’t we celebrate being thoroughly decent individuals.
Just a thought "
Considering this site is pretty much based on aesthetics, people rarely message because they think you’re a decent individual, they message cause they think you’re hot and want a piece. We’ve all seen women’s demands on here and it’s always physical, being a certain size etc. Only the other day a woman was asking for 10 inch cocks, I’m sure she couldn’t give a shit how decent the bloke was. |
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A good point and agree Floro
Everyone’s taste is different and how they get attracted to others. Everyone should be celebrated for who they are not just because they have a certain type of body or appendage.
Everyone is unique, no one is better than anyone else.
Shame it got dragged into something else |
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By *ugby 123Couple
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"Fat fingers deleted posts
I’m definitely out when my fingers aren’t working properly "
I removed my post to cut down the very long post I quoted so I could answer again. It would have been the very same answer which had a bit more on it about me just joining in and no one has to agree and no one normally does anyway but I can see you are getting upset for whatever reason so I won't add that or anymore to save any upset |
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"Fat fingers deleted posts
I’m definitely out when my fingers aren’t working properly
I removed my post to cut down the very long post I quoted so I could answer again. It would have been the very same answer which had a bit more on it about me just joining in and no one has to agree and no one normally does anyway but I can see you are getting upset for whatever reason so I won't add that or anymore to save any upset "
Probably best if you could remove mine too as I skewed the thread.
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"Notion this
I see these threads praising and slobbering (occasionally) over all size of women and men.
I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
To me , body size isn’t important at all. If I’m attracted to the face and the personality then that’s great.
I know that there’s a continuous role out of these threads, what with torso, boobs, slim , bbw etc and yes I’m fully aware it’s a site for predominantly sex ..... however, shouldn’t we celebrate being thoroughly decent individuals.
Just a thought "
In an ideal world it would be nice to think this would be true. X |
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"Notion this
I see these threads praising and slobbering (occasionally) over all size of women and men.
I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
To me , body size isn’t important at all. If I’m attracted to the face and the personality then that’s great.
I know that there’s a continuous role out of these threads, what with torso, boobs, slim , bbw etc and yes I’m fully aware it’s a site for predominantly sex ..... however, shouldn’t we celebrate being thoroughly decent individuals.
Just a thought
Considering this site is pretty much based on aesthetics, people rarely message because they think you’re a decent individual, they message cause they think you’re hot and want a piece. We’ve all seen women’s demands on here and it’s always physical, being a certain size etc. Only the other day a woman was asking for 10 inch cocks, I’m sure she couldn’t give a shit how decent the bloke was."
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I agree with you in principle, OP, but it's a bit more complicated that for me.
Where we do align is that liking somebody as a person is essential. I couldn't feel seriously attracted to somebody I disliked, but I could potentially be very attracted to somebody I haven't had time to get to know.
Where I think we differ is that what somebody looks like is an essential part of my attraction to them too. It doesn't matter how much I like somebody, if I don't find them physically attractive (especially their body) then they will be staying in the Friend Zone.
What concerns me with these threads is if anybody feels body-shamed by them. They mostly seem to be all about curvy women with big boobs. Women get enough messages about looking the right way and in many cases they feel awful about the way they look. One set of messages want young and slim, and here we are saying we want larger and often don't have an obsession with youth.
I can imagine that some women will feel stuck in the middle, not able satisfy everybody when of course they shouldn't have to.
I would hate to be adding to that sense many women have that their bodies are just not good enough.
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"Notion this
I see these threads praising and slobbering (occasionally) over all size of women and men.
I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
To me , body size isn’t important at all. If I’m attracted to the face and the personality then that’s great.
I know that there’s a continuous role out of these threads, what with torso, boobs, slim , bbw etc and yes I’m fully aware it’s a site for predominantly sex ..... however, shouldn’t we celebrate being thoroughly decent individuals.
Just a thought
Considering this site is pretty much based on aesthetics, people rarely message because they think you’re a decent individual, they message cause they think you’re hot and want a piece. We’ve all seen women’s demands on here and it’s always physical, being a certain size etc. Only the other day a woman was asking for 10 inch cocks, I’m sure she couldn’t give a shit how decent the bloke was."
That's her thing - other people's thing is having a decent conversation, not being a dick and having a laugh. I think if people are looking for something specific it's easier to be succinct "big cocks only" on profile or forum or suchlike. Harder to say "i would like to have good chat and japes" because everyone's idea of what that is differs.
Does that make sense?
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over a year ago
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Mmmm.
I got told yesterday that i was the reason welsh men shag sheep (not on here i might add).
Which i thought was a bit harsh. I’m sure there are many other reasons.
I’m not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s fine. But if i don’t find someone attractive i just move along....why do some voice their opinions so loudly about how offensive they find a particular bodytype? What does being deliberately mean and hurtful achieve apart from letting people know you’re mean spirited and a bit of a cunt?
I just don’t get it.
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"Mmmm.
I got told yesterday that i was the reason welsh men shag sheep (not on here i might add).
Which i thought was a bit harsh. I’m sure there are many other reasons.
I’m not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s fine. But if i don’t find someone attractive i just move along....why do some voice their opinions so loudly about how offensive they find a particular bodytype? What does being deliberately mean and hurtful achieve apart from letting people know you’re mean spirited and a bit of a cunt?
I just don’t get it.
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Body size in looking to meet people is a factor for me as I like what I like. I wouldn't rule someone out completely but my initial thought would be to move on.
I accept that I am not everyone's cup of tea as they are not mine..and that's ok. I do like a warm honest fun personality so would be happy to chat just with no intention of meeting for sex.
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I don't see any problem with celebrating any particular body type in individual threads as such, we all have different likes and dislikes and those threads are just a reflection of that diversity of tastes.
What I do find strange is the people that need to go on that type of thread to make derogatory remarks about that particular body shape or size, or the opposite of it - is the same as the hairy or shaven threads that always bring out the ridiculous and unnecessary "my preference is better than your preference" type comments.
We're a rich and diverse community covering all body types, social statuses, tastes, kinks and much more and that in itself should be celebrated - so bravo Floro for trying to do exactly that |
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"Notion this
I see these threads praising and slobbering (occasionally) over all size of women and men.
I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
To me , body size isn’t important at all. If I’m attracted to the face and the personality then that’s great.
I know that there’s a continuous role out of these threads, what with torso, boobs, slim , bbw etc and yes I’m fully aware it’s a site for predominantly sex ..... however, shouldn’t we celebrate being thoroughly decent individuals.
Just a thought "
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"I don't see any problem with celebrating any particular body type in individual threads as such, we all have different likes and dislikes and those threads are just a reflection of that diversity of tastes.
What I do find strange is the people that need to go on that type of thread to make derogatory remarks about that particular body shape or size, or the opposite of it - is the same as the hairy or shaven threads that always bring out the ridiculous and unnecessary "my preference is better than your preference" type comments.
We're a rich and diverse community covering all body types, social statuses, tastes, kinks and much more and that in itself should be celebrated - so bravo Floro for trying to do exactly that "
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Not new to this but it's been a good while, but here goes. what strikes me about the topic by OP is that it's basically about 'Ego'. We all have it, some can control or handle it better than others, but we all need affirmation. Stevie Wonder sings, “Everybody’s got a thing, but some don’t know how to handle it.”
Most posts are rubbing an ego to some degree, and most people without realising probably use forums for the same, 'look at me'. If we didn't get responses then we wouldn't post. Some never post anymore because they got ignored once too often, or have a fear of being ignored. Some post anything because they know it'll be accepted and responded too and supportive. It's a way of recieving affirmation, some more blunt about it, some more subtle. What I'm basically saying is no one is really any different from others in this respect. We all responses, either to gain a meet, conversation, invite or recognition of being a nice person on forums.
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"Not new to this but it's been a good while, but here goes. what strikes me about the topic by OP is that it's basically about 'Ego'. We all have it, some can control or handle it better than others, but we all need affirmation. Stevie Wonder sings, “Everybody’s got a thing, but some don’t know how to handle it.”
Most posts are rubbing an ego to some degree, and most people without realising probably use forums for the same, 'look at me'. If we didn't get responses then we wouldn't post. Some never post anymore because they got ignored once too often, or have a fear of being ignored. Some post anything because they know it'll be accepted and responded too and supportive. It's a way of recieving affirmation, some more blunt about it, some more subtle. What I'm basically saying is no one is really any different from others in this respect. We all responses, either to gain a meet, conversation, invite or recognition of being a nice person on forums.
I'm sure some may completely disagree, but just my take on it."
I like this ....
I was just going to say I didn’t post this to get my ego stroked , saying that, if no one had commented I’d have been quite perturbed with thinking I was alone in this thinking.
It’s an ego thing - in whatever guise it is |
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"Not new to this but it's been a good while, but here goes. what strikes me about the topic by OP is that it's basically about 'Ego'. We all have it, some can control or handle it better than others, but we all need affirmation. Stevie Wonder sings, “Everybody’s got a thing, but some don’t know how to handle it.”
Most posts are rubbing an ego to some degree, and most people without realising probably use forums for the same, 'look at me'. If we didn't get responses then we wouldn't post. Some never post anymore because they got ignored once too often, or have a fear of being ignored. Some post anything because they know it'll be accepted and responded too and supportive. It's a way of recieving affirmation, some more blunt about it, some more subtle. What I'm basically saying is no one is really any different from others in this respect. We all responses, either to gain a meet, conversation, invite or recognition of being a nice person on forums.
I'm sure some may completely disagree, but just my take on it.
I like this ....
I was just going to say I didn’t post this to get my ego stroked , saying that, if no one had commented I’d have been quite perturbed with thinking I was alone in this thinking.
It’s an ego thing - in whatever guise it is "
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"Notion this
I see these threads praising and slobbering (occasionally) over all size of women and men.
I’ve said this before - size is subjective and one persons slim is another persons curvy etc.
To me , body size isn’t important at all. If I’m attracted to the face and the personality then that’s great.
I know that there’s a continuous role out of these threads, what with torso, boobs, slim , bbw etc and yes I’m fully aware it’s a site for predominantly sex ..... however, shouldn’t we celebrate being thoroughly decent individuals.
Just a thought "
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