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How can a single male stand out in this crowded place
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Seems to rougher n tougher for us guys
There was a status yesterday from a user saying all the single guys are disrespectful sleazy so I messaged not all of us are like that...
I’m sure there’s a fair few t**ts among us that are vile but we shouldn’t all be painted with the same brush
Take a look at my profile see if you could give me some constructive advice to make me more appealing 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can’t match every profile requirement so be yourself, avoid the people you don’t like and don’t get desperate, frustrated and negative.
If I wouldn’t chat the person up outside of Fab I don’t message them, stick to your own standards and being yourself should get you meeting but remember it’s a big pool  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just seen a profile update from a single guy, who is obviously struggling, which says:
I hope all those that don't reply to my messages get an std!!
Mmmmmmmmm nice guy  "
But not from him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems to rougher n tougher for us guys
There was a status yesterday from a user saying all the single guys are disrespectful sleazy so I messaged not all of us are like that...
I’m sure there’s a fair few t**ts among us that are vile but we shouldn’t all be painted with the same brush
Take a look at my profile see if you could give me some constructive advice to make me more appealing
Go gentle "
About fifty photos of a six pack, two shots of your arse, five shots of your thighs, and one shot that has half your face in it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The twats don't ruin it or make it tougher for the good guys. They make the good guys stand out!
Any decent bloke can be successful on here, put in the effort, be honest and you'll reap the rewards. |
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"Just seen a profile update from a single guy, who is obviously struggling, which says:
I hope all those that don't reply to my messages get an std!!
Mmmmmmmmm nice guy "
Don’t be this guy 
Yeah don’t worry that’s not me |
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"I am Spartacus ........"
No ... I am Spartacus!!!!
Oh ... and OP ... as others have said ... a bit of personality in the profile ... and something slightly quirky that will get people wanting to know more ... a conversation starter.
Good luck |
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Personally your photos are too obsecure, dark and doesn't really show off any of your best features. Your intro starts off negative too. But at least you got verifications which some men here don't. Yes there's alot of aggressive men who hate being rejected on here |
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If all single men stand out from the crowd then they will all be back in the crowd.
You can't be anything other than what you are so don't try to be someone else. Unless being an actor is your skill.
Also don't rely on this site as your one door into a sex life. It's a bit like someone back in the 90's only trying to pick up women at the same nightclub.
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"Personally your photos are too obsecure, dark and doesn't really show off any of your best features. Your intro starts off negative too. But at least you got verifications which some men here don't. Yes there's alot of aggressive men who hate being rejected on here"
I think I could do with updating my pictures thank you for the advice |
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"I am Spartacus ........
No ... I am Spartacus!!!!
Oh ... and OP ... as others have said ... a bit of personality in the profile ... and something slightly quirky that will get people wanting to know more ... a conversation starter.
Good luck "
Thanks guys
I’ll do my best |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don’t be an arse
Don’t be a conceited arse
Do whatever you please on your profile and with your photos
Don’t be an arse
Don’t be a holier than thou conceited arse
Basically
Be yourself
You’ll get lots of people telling you what you should or shouldn’t do - be truthful and comfortable with the photos you use. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seems to rougher n tougher for us guys
There was a status yesterday from a user saying all the single guys are disrespectful sleazy so I messaged not all of us are like that...
I’m sure there’s a fair few t**ts among us that are vile but we shouldn’t all be painted with the same brush
Take a look at my profile see if you could give me some constructive advice to make me more appealing
Go gentle "
I’d have said a few more clearer pics and a bit more in your profile, ie what you want, what you can offer etc? |
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"Don’t be an arse
Don’t be a conceited arse
Do whatever you please on your profile and with your photos
Don’t be an arse
Don’t be a holier than thou conceited arse
Basically
Be yourself
You’ll get lots of people telling you what you should or shouldn’t do - be truthful and comfortable with the photos you use. "
In your opinion do I sound like an arse ?
 
I try my best not to be |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don’t be an arse
Don’t be a conceited arse
Do whatever you please on your profile and with your photos
Don’t be an arse
Don’t be a holier than thou conceited arse
Basically
Be yourself
You’ll get lots of people telling you what you should or shouldn’t do - be truthful and comfortable with the photos you use.
In your opinion do I sound like an arse ?
I try my best not to be "
I don’t know you
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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Whats the saying .
Don't believe everything you read on the internet.
© abraham lincoln 1876
Just cos a status states such don't make it so. Folk that send abuse will spoil only their experience it doesn't spoil mine.
Stand out by Being yourself...we're all unique individuals. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If all single men stand out from the crowd then they will all be back in the crowd.
You can't be anything other than what you are so don't try to be someone else. Unless being an actor is your skill.
Also don't rely on this site as your one door into a sex life. It's a bit like someone back in the 90's only trying to pick up women at the same nightclub.
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Especially your first sentence! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If all single men stand out from the crowd then they will all be back in the crowd.
You can't be anything other than what you are so don't try to be someone else. Unless being an actor is your skill.
Also don't rely on this site as your one door into a sex life. It's a bit like someone back in the 90's only trying to pick up women at the same nightclub.
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Especially your first sentence! |
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"Seems to rougher n tougher for us guys
There was a status yesterday from a user saying all the single guys are disrespectful sleazy so I messaged not all of us are like that...
I’m sure there’s a fair few t**ts among us that are vile but we shouldn’t all be painted with the same brush
Take a look at my profile see if you could give me some constructive advice to make me more appealing
Go gentle "
Number one rule - don't be a dick! |
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"Seems to rougher n tougher for us guys
There was a status yesterday from a user saying all the single guys are disrespectful sleazy so I messaged not all of us are like that...
I’m sure there’s a fair few t**ts among us that are vile but we shouldn’t all be painted with the same brush
Take a look at my profile see if you could give me some constructive advice to make me more appealing
Go gentle
Number one rule - don't be a dick! "
What's rule three? Because I don't act a dick. I am guessing rule two is no dick pics either on profile or in messages |
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"Seems to rougher n tougher for us guys
There was a status yesterday from a user saying all the single guys are disrespectful sleazy so I messaged not all of us are like that...
I’m sure there’s a fair few t**ts among us that are vile but we shouldn’t all be painted with the same brush
Take a look at my profile see if you could give me some constructive advice to make me more appealing
Go gentle
Number one rule - don't be a dick! "
Rule 2: see rule 1 |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
There is no magic catch all formula OP other than what you find works for you - as others have said best bet is to be yourself and be honest - you can't be everything to anyone.
Generally speaking having the right attitude, approach and expectations are the key, get them wrong and you'll find the site frustrating, get them right (and couple them with a well written and enticing profile and pics) and it won't guarantee a thing but it will improve your experience of the site no end. |
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"Seems to rougher n tougher for us guys
There was a status yesterday from a user saying all the single guys are disrespectful sleazy so I messaged not all of us are like that...
I’m sure there’s a fair few t**ts among us that are vile but we shouldn’t all be painted with the same brush
Take a look at my profile see if you could give me some constructive advice to make me more appealing
Go gentle
Number one rule - don't be a dick!
What's rule three? Because I don't act a dick. I am guessing rule two is no dick pics either on profile or in messages"
Being Pushy demanding arrogant is a massive turn off. Good old fashion manners and having good humour get you further |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You've got to accept rejection gracefully.
You are going to get rejected far far more often than someone is going to show any interest in you..
Stop thinking with your dick and Just be picky, don't send every woman a dick pic. Make a good profile, Read profiles, if they are what you are looking for write a well thought message and if you get a reply great. If not. Just move on. |
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"Seems to rougher n tougher for us guys
There was a status yesterday from a user saying all the single guys are disrespectful sleazy so I messaged not all of us are like that...
I’m sure there’s a fair few t**ts among us that are vile but we shouldn’t all be painted with the same brush
Take a look at my profile see if you could give me some constructive advice to make me more appealing
Go gentle "
I found the best way is to be an individual who does not feel the need or has the need ,to start a thread asking how
In essence to be blunt
If you need to ask , you haven't got "it" and are likely not to have "it"
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"Seems to rougher n tougher for us guys
There was a status yesterday from a user saying all the single guys are disrespectful sleazy so I messaged not all of us are like that...
I’m sure there’s a fair few t**ts among us that are vile but we shouldn’t all be painted with the same brush
Take a look at my profile see if you could give me some constructive advice to make me more appealing
Go gentle
Number one rule - don't be a dick!
What's rule three? Because I don't act a dick. I am guessing rule two is no dick pics either on profile or in messages
Being Pushy demanding arrogant is a massive turn off. Good old fashion manners and having good humour get you further "
Yep, got them too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What I do is message politely and friendly, try to strike up a conversation, try to get to know the person. It never gets to the point of asking if they would want to meet sometime. If they stop replying, I just concede and presume they don't want to talk anymore, and leave it at that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In my experience, you can’t. Seems just down to pure luck if your message gets read. How you’re supposed to stand out when all you get is the message title line is a bit of a mystery.
Maybe if whoever you’re messaging is on line it might help if they see the message arrive I suppose, but outside that I don’t ever expect a message to be opened even.
Keep trying though  |
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