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Is there life after the menopause
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Quick question to you all ......
is there a sex life after/during the menopause.
It’s been a while all I get is I don’t feel like it. U make me hot ?? etc
Please help
Ps I’m not going threw it wife is lol ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes there is for many.
You say you aren't going through it. Well, you are. You're in it together and as difficult as it may be, supporting her is generally something that helps rather than hinders.
Nope, wrong person. Seems you're seeing it as HER problem rather than your problem, hence you're here getting your side of the problem sorted.
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There is life during and after.
I suggest you research it a bit and possibly consult professionals who can advise the two of you on problems specific to your relationship. Feeling hot a lot seems to be one of them and loss of libido. Someone experienced in dealing with these symptoms will be able to suggest possible solutions and strategies to deal with them.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes there is for many.
You say you aren't going through it. Well, you are. You're in it together and as difficult as it may be, supporting her is generally something that helps rather than hinders.
Nope, wrong person. Seems you're seeing it as HER problem rather than your problem, hence you're here getting your side of the problem sorted.
P"
we are getting threw it slowly lol
I don’t pester waiting for her to come to me so to speak. Still have sexy baby’s but only get told to get off n u don’t understand so many times before u ask no more x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I,ve been going through the menopause for 10 years now. Every time I think my periods have stopped, they start again.
Charlie has bought himself earplugs and a fan.
Hev
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You have to try and support her to get through this. The menopause turns sexy women into sporadic lunatics ??"
Ah but thats usually cos they've spent 25 yrs living with bone idle, selfish men
Who have treated them like their mothers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You have to try and support her to get through this. The menopause turns sexy women into sporadic lunatics ??
Ah but thats usually cos they've spent 25 yrs living with bone idle, selfish men
Who have treated them like their mothers"
Are you calling us all mother fuckers?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You have to try and support her to get through this. The menopause turns sexy women into sporadic lunatics ??
Ah but thats usually cos they've spent 25 yrs living with bone idle, selfish men
Who have treated them like their mothers"
And/or those same women have allowed them to treat them like so. One big circle really....I've been through 3 menopauses and am now thankfully done with them. Also I was being single, so didn't have to worry about upsetting or pleasing a other half. I'd say to the OP read a book, educate yourself on what females go through and maybe don't roll your eyes over it all.
On the flipside, she could also be using it as an excuse, because she's on here, getting her fill, so you've become redundant. Maybe speak to your wife to know the real reasons/truth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You have to try and support her to get through this. The menopause turns sexy women into sporadic lunatics ??
Ah but thats usually cos they've spent 25 yrs living with bone idle, selfish men
Who have treated them like their mothers
And/or those same women have allowed them to treat them like so. One big circle really....I've been through 3 menopauses and am now thankfully done with them. Also I was being single, so didn't have to worry about upsetting or pleasing a other half. I'd say to the OP read a book, educate yourself on what females go through and maybe don't roll your eyes over it all.
On the flipside, she could also be using it as an excuse, because she's on here, getting her fill, so you've become redundant. Maybe speak to your wife to know the real reasons/truth."
The few post menopausal women I know claim to lead improved sex lives. |
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Perhaps she just knows you’re on here and doesn’t want to have sex with you whilst she’s biding her time to leave you. Or she’s playing you at your own game and has someone on the side.
If she is going through the menopause then I’m sure she’d appreciate some patience, affection and respect. By affection I mean feeling loved, give cuddles, massage, foot rubs, make her a cup of tea, take her out for dinner etc. Without the expectation of sex. Personally, I always feel much more frisky when I feel loved.
And if she’s really suffering maybe you could offer to go to her GP with her and get her some help.
I bet the ladies who say their sex life spiked post-menopause didn’t have to put up with a sulky man moaning about not getting his end away whilst they were going through it. They were raring to go again because they still felt adored when they were at their ‘worst’.
Lou x |
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"I bloody hope so, because life right now is hell  "
Take heart, there is. I'm not the same woman I was before menopause but the new version is just as good or possibly better. I've had to make a couple of adjustments physically and mentally as we have as a couple but life post menopause is good |
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"Perhaps she just knows you’re on here and doesn’t want to have sex with you whilst she’s biding her time to leave you. Or she’s playing you at your own game and has someone on the side.
If she is going through the menopause then I’m sure she’d appreciate some patience, affection and respect. By affection I mean feeling loved, give cuddles, massage, foot rubs, make her a cup of tea, take her out for dinner etc. Without the expectation of sex. Personally, I always feel much more frisky when I feel loved.
And if she’s really suffering maybe you could offer to go to her GP with her and get her some help.
I bet the ladies who say their sex life spiked post-menopause didn’t have to put up with a sulky man moaning about not getting his end away whilst they were going through it. They were raring to go again because they still felt adored when they were at their ‘worst’.
Lou x "
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"I bloody hope so, because life right now is hell
Take heart, there is. I'm not the same woman I was before menopause but the new version is just as good or possibly better. I've had to make a couple of adjustments physically and mentally as we have as a couple but life post menopause is good"
Thank you, that gives me hope...
Which to be honest, I really at the moment xx |
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"Perhaps she just knows you’re on here and doesn’t want to have sex with you whilst she’s biding her time to leave you. Or she’s playing you at your own game and has someone on the side.
If she is going through the menopause then I’m sure she’d appreciate some patience, affection and respect. By affection I mean feeling loved, give cuddles, massage, foot rubs, make her a cup of tea, take her out for dinner etc. Without the expectation of sex. Personally, I always feel much more frisky when I feel loved.
And if she’s really suffering maybe you could offer to go to her GP with her and get her some help.
I bet the ladies who say their sex life spiked post-menopause didn’t have to put up with a sulky man moaning about not getting his end away whilst they were going through it. They were raring to go again because they still felt adored when they were at their ‘worst’.
Lou x "
Exactly this. x |
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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago
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"Pretty sure Manopause is also a thing.
Andropause  "
I know, but that’s not punny.
Anyway, it’s a bit shit being middle aged. Bloke hormones also change, and recovery from strenuous exercise is more difficult.
It just doesn’t have such an obvious physical reaction.
Less of a thing, but still a thing.
At least my bits still work  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mr N here. Yes but you have to accept change and try not to pester about sex as it may get less regular. Try to entertain yourself a bit more. Have some good quality wanks and stay open to ideas and let her know that's what you are doing as you are trying not to be such a pest.
Get some toys. Mrs N has become much wetter since menopause and loves her vibrator. We often have some good wanks together. I'd recommend a recent new purchase. One of those queening seats from love honey has proved to be something of a hit. We joke about it as being our sex zimmer frame as it makes getting in all those awkward positions much easier and saves zee knees
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes there is...
I'm in the peri stage, with some nasty other gynae stuff that is currently stopping me meeting..
I was getting depressed with the lack of sex and mentioned it to a female friend, saying is this it...
She reassured me that once the problems are sorted, I'll be back to nympho again xx |
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I went thru forced menopause due to hysterectomy. No slow build up, just wham hit hard with all the symptoms at once in full strength. My marriage ended around same time. But then my libido kicked in big time. Thank goodness for fab
Never been hornier in my life than this last year or so.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I went thru forced menopause due to hysterectomy. No slow build up, just wham hit hard with all the symptoms at once in full strength. My marriage ended around same time. But then my libido kicked in big time. Thank goodness for fab
Never been hornier in my life than this last year or so.
Love it "
My menopause was also forced through full hysterectomy, but after 7 years of peri-menopause.
My libido kicked in full throttle a year after the op. The strength was a little overwhelming and I threw myself into this world.
The libido is still as strong but my opportunities have waned.
OP, it does get better but, as I'm sure you know, sex with a partner/spouse isn't just about libido.
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"I went thru forced menopause due to hysterectomy. No slow build up, just wham hit hard with all the symptoms at once in full strength. My marriage ended around same time. But then my libido kicked in big time. Thank goodness for fab
Never been hornier in my life than this last year or so.
Love it
My menopause was also forced through full hysterectomy, but after 7 years of peri-menopause.
My libido kicked in full throttle a year after the op. The strength was a little overwhelming and I threw myself into this world.
The libido is still as strong but my opportunities have waned.
OP, it does get better but, as I'm sure you know, sex with a partner/spouse isn't just about libido.
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So it wasn't just me then lol. Good to know. Can i be personal and ask did you have physical size differences down below too? Definitely a silver lining for me there
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I went thru forced menopause due to hysterectomy. No slow build up, just wham hit hard with all the symptoms at once in full strength. My marriage ended around same time. But then my libido kicked in big time. Thank goodness for fab
Never been hornier in my life than this last year or so.
Love it
My menopause was also forced through full hysterectomy, but after 7 years of peri-menopause.
My libido kicked in full throttle a year after the op. The strength was a little overwhelming and I threw myself into this world.
The libido is still as strong but my opportunities have waned.
OP, it does get better but, as I'm sure you know, sex with a partner/spouse isn't just about libido.
So it wasn't just me then lol. Good to know. Can i be personal and ask did you have physical size differences down below too? Definitely a silver lining for me there
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You can be as personal as you like. I don't know if my size changed as I hadn't had sex for 14 years. I had everything removed, including the cervix and it was vaginal removal. I was back at yoga about 6 months after the op and did work on my pelvic floor as soon as I could.
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"I went thru forced menopause due to hysterectomy. No slow build up, just wham hit hard with all the symptoms at once in full strength. My marriage ended around same time. But then my libido kicked in big time. Thank goodness for fab
Never been hornier in my life than this last year or so.
Love it
My menopause was also forced through full hysterectomy, but after 7 years of peri-menopause.
My libido kicked in full throttle a year after the op. The strength was a little overwhelming and I threw myself into this world.
The libido is still as strong but my opportunities have waned.
OP, it does get better but, as I'm sure you know, sex with a partner/spouse isn't just about libido.
So it wasn't just me then lol. Good to know. Can i be personal and ask did you have physical size differences down below too? Definitely a silver lining for me there
You can be as personal as you like. I don't know if my size changed as I hadn't had sex for 14 years. I had everything removed, including the cervix and it was vaginal removal. I was back at yoga about 6 months after the op and did work on my pelvic floor as soon as I could.
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My size and shape changed a lot. Even my g spot moved. Became much more accessible |
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I had 2 chemically induced menopause cycles & now had a total hysterectomy.
I’m not the same person - I am tired all the time, my body aches from head to toe, I am permanently warm/hot but don’t get full on flushes, I have brain fog, get my words mixed up, forget things, lose things, and have a total loss of libido. I’ve had a full MOT & take prescription meds & supplements. This is me. For now. T is amazing & so supportive. I’m so lucky to have him by my side & keep me going
J x |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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The menopause is the best kept secret ever. It’s pretty awful at times.
I am permanently hot but I don’t have hot flushes. I’m just hot. I have put weight on, brain fog is unpredictable and frustrating, I don’t feel feminine at times. Sometimes I get hormonal headaches. It can have an impact on day to day life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Perhaps she just knows you’re on here and doesn’t want to have sex with you whilst she’s biding her time to leave you. Or she’s playing you at your own game and has someone on the side.
If she is going through the menopause then I’m sure she’d appreciate some patience, affection and respect. By affection I mean feeling loved, give cuddles, massage, foot rubs, make her a cup of tea, take her out for dinner etc. Without the expectation of sex. Personally, I always feel much more frisky when I feel loved.
And if she’s really suffering maybe you could offer to go to her GP with her and get her some help.
I bet the ladies who say their sex life spiked post-menopause didn’t have to put up with a sulky man moaning about not getting his end away whilst they were going through it. They were raring to go again because they still felt adored when they were at their ‘worst’.
Lou x "
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I seem to have been going through the menopause for the last 15 years.
On top of that I have been struggling with thyroid problems in recent years too.
I'm hoping that I might finally have stopped having periods
Ths other things I just deal with. I have a supportive hubby who accepts my random sex drive and hot flashes. We also use more lube as I often don't get as wet as I used to.
OP most people have given ideas... be supportive and patient. |
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