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"I have had an odd change of opinion, and one I’m not sure I can explain but I’ll try. I have also had some experience with online ‘dating’ and it’s been shit for want of a better word. So, these sites masquerade as sites for relationships but no one really knows what they want. What the reality is that a) a lot of people are looking for exactly the same as fab (sex), but without the ability to put that into words. B) there’s a lot of dishonesty and smokescreens rather than being upfront and c) those who are upfront about wanting sex tend to be quite abusive if you say no thanks, I want to date. I’ve decided I’m quite safe in my little fab world, I know what I like, how to filter the people I speak to and generally how to get what I want. I don’t think that works elsewhere? Maybe there is a future for fabdating?" This I couldn't have put it better myself | |||
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"I have had an odd change of opinion, and one I’m not sure I can explain but I’ll try. I have also had some experience with online ‘dating’ and it’s been shit for want of a better word. So, these sites masquerade as sites for relationships but no one really knows what they want. What the reality is that a) a lot of people are looking for exactly the same as fab (sex), but without the ability to put that into words. B) there’s a lot of dishonesty and smokescreens rather than being upfront and c) those who are upfront about wanting sex tend to be quite abusive if you say no thanks, I want to date. I’ve decided I’m quite safe in my little fab world, I know what I like, how to filter the people I speak to and generally how to get what I want. I don’t think that works elsewhere? Maybe there is a future for fabdating?" 100% agree with this, Dating site are full on men who just want a shag and are in denial or playing the field. Fab you know what it is all about from the off set I need to get out there and actually date, but I cannot be arsed, to many emotionally unavailable men looking for the best about for my liking | |||
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I think everyone has probably been on a date where they wanted the ground to swallow them up and take them away.
I certainly have, far too many times!
I take a different approach now and consider myself single but unavailable, I don’t seek to date now as I believe if it’s going to happen, it will, and I won’t need to search!
I like being a free being!
Good luck! Hope you find what you’re seeking eventually! | |||
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"Yes you could very well find your 1 or what ever you want to call it here. I most definitely have although it took some bloody time. I'd given up but I still lived in hope. I met the lady in question and I no its cornie as fuck and if I was reading this I'd say ye right mate your chatting shit but I shit you not. In the 1st few seconds we made eye contact in the car park of the hotel. Instantly my heart jumped. So I had a word with myself. You 50 yes old ya silly old fucker. But from that look then the way we spent the entire night crying with laughter our faces hurting we never looked back. Sadly we live 100 mile apart so the time we cant see each other is a living hell for both of us. I have a few properties around manchester 1 is sold already. Another finger crossed I have a buyer for and the last I need to do some work on then that can go to. Soon as that's all done I'm leaving the ace I've live for 50 year and I'm off to make a life with her. Yep I know bladey turned into a soft arse. Yep guilty do I give a flying fuck not for a second. I love that bitch "That’s bloody lovely Bladey. I hope it all goes smoothly and works out fabulously for you both  | |||
"Yes you could very well find your 1 or what ever you want to call it here. I most definitely have although it took some bloody time. I'd given up but I still lived in hope. I met the lady in question and I no its cornie as fuck and if I was reading this I'd say ye right mate your chatting shit but I shit you not. In the 1st few seconds we made eye contact in the car park of the hotel. Instantly my heart jumped. So I had a word with myself. You 50 yes old ya silly old fucker. But from that look then the way we spent the entire night crying with laughter our faces hurting we never looked back. Sadly we live 100 mile apart so the time we cant see each other is a living hell for both of us. I have a few properties around manchester 1 is sold already. Another finger crossed I have a buyer for and the last I need to do some work on then that can go to. Soon as that's all done I'm leaving the ace I've live for 50 year and I'm off to make a life with her. Yep I know bladey turned into a soft arse. Yep guilty do I give a flying fuck not for a second. I love that bitch That’s bloody lovely Bladey. I hope it all goes smoothly and works out fabulously for you both "Thanks mate but watch out for the shes broke my heart thread especially when she see that post. Oops  | |||
"Yes you could very well find your 1 or what ever you want to call it here. I most definitely have although it took some bloody time. I'd given up but I still lived in hope. I met the lady in question and I no its cornie as fuck and if I was reading this I'd say ye right mate your chatting shit but I shit you not. In the 1st few seconds we made eye contact in the car park of the hotel. Instantly my heart jumped. So I had a word with myself. You 50 yes old ya silly old fucker. But from that look then the way we spent the entire night crying with laughter our faces hurting we never looked back. Sadly we live 100 mile apart so the time we cant see each other is a living hell for both of us. I have a few properties around manchester 1 is sold already. Another finger crossed I have a buyer for and the last I need to do some work on then that can go to. Soon as that's all done I'm leaving the ace I've live for 50 year and I'm off to make a life with her. Yep I know bladey turned into a soft arse. Yep guilty do I give a flying fuck not for a second. I love that bitch " can't tell a lie that made me well up.. How lovely and dam right you should shout it from the hills...xx | |||
"Yes you could very well find your 1 or what ever you want to call it here. I most definitely have although it took some bloody time. I'd given up but I still lived in hope. I met the lady in question and I no its cornie as fuck and if I was reading this I'd say ye right mate your chatting shit but I shit you not. In the 1st few seconds we made eye contact in the car park of the hotel. Instantly my heart jumped. So I had a word with myself. You 50 yes old ya silly old fucker. But from that look then the way we spent the entire night crying with laughter our faces hurting we never looked back. Sadly we live 100 mile apart so the time we cant see each other is a living hell for both of us. I have a few properties around manchester 1 is sold already. Another finger crossed I have a buyer for and the last I need to do some work on then that can go to. Soon as that's all done I'm leaving the ace I've live for 50 year and I'm off to make a life with her. Yep I know bladey turned into a soft arse. Yep guilty do I give a flying fuck not for a second. I love that bitch
can't tell a lie that made me well up.. How lovely and dam right you should shout it from the hills...xx"Yes I've done a fair bit of that and so has she. All our mate sigh now if they see us coming. We've bored the shit out of them all. Oops | |||
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to the "Fab dating" thread too; and I do hope that admin get round to implementing this for us singletons. | |||
"I have had an odd change of opinion, and one I’m not sure I can explain but I’ll try. I have also had some experience with online ‘dating’ and it’s been shit for want of a better word. So, these sites masquerade as sites for relationships but no one really knows what they want. What the reality is that a) a lot of people are looking for exactly the same as fab (sex), but without the ability to put that into words. B) there’s a lot of dishonesty and smokescreens rather than being upfront and c) those who are upfront about wanting sex tend to be quite abusive if you say no thanks, I want to date. I’ve decided I’m quite safe in my little fab world, I know what I like, how to filter the people I speak to and generally how to get what I want. I don’t think that works elsewhere? Maybe there is a future for fabdating?" | |||
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"A big thanks for all your support, kind words and input. It means a lot to me, and it's great to know that I'm not alone in feeling like this. Bladey; I'm a 50 odd year old silly sod too - and your post gives me a great deal of hope. One really doesn't know what lies around the corner. All the very best to the two of you. I gave a big to the "Fab dating" thread too; and I do hope that admin get round to implementing this for us singletons. "To be honest mate I still cant quite believe it myself. I wasn't looking and I was convince it was a fake playing games. But I talked it all threw with another very special friend on here. Shown her all our posts expecting her to say what I did. That's bullshit nobody has so much in common and we'd not even met at that point. I wasn't even going to go because I was smarter than this joker go play with somebody who a little greener than me but no she didn't say that at all. She said you got to go just so you know. So thinking I was being a complete cock off I went to meet her. I didn't even wast my time having a shave because she wasn't going to be there. Oy how wrong was I and thank fuck I decided I'll make a fool of myself who and turn up. Close to fucking close  | |||
"I have had an odd change of opinion, and one I’m not sure I can explain but I’ll try. I have also had some experience with online ‘dating’ and it’s been shit for want of a better word. So, these sites masquerade as sites for relationships but no one really knows what they want. What the reality is that a) a lot of people are looking for exactly the same as fab (sex), but without the ability to put that into words. B) there’s a lot of dishonesty and smokescreens rather than being upfront and c) those who are upfront about wanting sex tend to be quite abusive if you say no thanks, I want to date. I’ve decided I’m quite safe in my little fab world, I know what I like, how to filter the people I speak to and generally how to get what I want. I don’t think that works elsewhere? Maybe there is a future for fabdating?" This | |||
Eternal optimist me
I dont use dating sites anymore. | |||
"FB you have given me a light at the end of the tunnel
Eternal optimist me
I dont use dating sites anymore."Now come on I tried like fuck to get in your knickers. You could have done anything you wanted to me but now you've blown it  | |||
"Yes you could very well find your 1 or what ever you want to call it here. I most definitely have although it took some bloody time. I'd given up but I still lived in hope. I met the lady in question and I no its cornie as fuck and if I was reading this I'd say ye right mate your chatting shit but I shit you not. In the 1st few seconds we made eye contact in the car park of the hotel. Instantly my heart jumped. So I had a word with myself. You 50 yes old ya silly old fucker. But from that look then the way we spent the entire night crying with laughter our faces hurting we never looked back. Sadly we live 100 mile apart so the time we cant see each other is a living hell for both of us. I have a few properties around manchester 1 is sold already. Another finger crossed I have a buyer for and the last I need to do some work on then that can go to. Soon as that's all done I'm leaving the ace I've live for 50 year and I'm off to make a life with her. Yep I know bladey turned into a soft arse. Yep guilty do I give a flying fuck not for a second. I love that bitch "It’s not soft! It’s boood amazing, we can live in hope of finding the right one after success stories. Awww it’s made my stone cold heart go a bit warm | |||
"FB you have given me a light at the end of the tunnel
Eternal optimist me
I dont use dating sites anymore.
Now come on I tried like fuck to get in your knickers. You could have done anything you wanted to me but now you've blown it "Plenty of fish in this pond hah. I wish you both all the best I really do x | |||
"A big thanks for all your support, kind words and input. It means a lot to me, and it's great to know that I'm not alone in feeling like this. Bladey; I'm a 50 odd year old silly sod too - and your post gives me a great deal of hope. One really doesn't know what lies around the corner. All the very best to the two of you. I gave a big to the "Fab dating" thread too; and I do hope that admin get round to implementing this for us singletons.
To be honest mate I still cant quite believe it myself. I wasn't looking and I was convince it was a fake playing games. But I talked it all threw with another very special friend on here. Shown her all our posts expecting her to say what I did. That's bullshit nobody has so much in common and we'd not even met at that point. I wasn't even going to go because I was smarter than this joker go play with somebody who a little greener than me but no she didn't say that at all. She said you got to go just so you know. So thinking I was being a complete cock off I went to meet her. I didn't even wast my time having a shave because she wasn't going to be there. Oy how wrong was I and thank fuck I decided I'll make a fool of myself who and turn up. Close to fucking close "Bladey; that's nothing short of heartwarming! I can't believe that you didn't even have a shave!  I can imagine your thoughts when you first met her..."oh fuck, why didn't I make more of an effort" - or something like that.
Cynicism can indeed be our own worst enemy - particularly for blokes of our age; and I sincerely hope that you bought your friend a drink (at the very least) for persuading you to meet her. Your story has certainly given me hope that the right one for me is out there somewhere.
Incidentally, you said that you met your lovely lady here; was she verified? | |||
"Yes you could very well find your 1 or what ever you want to call it here. I most definitely have although it took some bloody time. I'd given up but I still lived in hope. I met the lady in question and I no its cornie as fuck and if I was reading this I'd say ye right mate your chatting shit but I shit you not. In the 1st few seconds we made eye contact in the car park of the hotel. Instantly my heart jumped. So I had a word with myself. You 50 yes old ya silly old fucker. But from that look then the way we spent the entire night crying with laughter our faces hurting we never looked back. Sadly we live 100 mile apart so the time we cant see each other is a living hell for both of us. I have a few properties around manchester 1 is sold already. Another finger crossed I have a buyer for and the last I need to do some work on then that can go to. Soon as that's all done I'm leaving the ace I've live for 50 year and I'm off to make a life with her. Yep I know bladey turned into a soft arse. Yep guilty do I give a flying fuck not for a second. I love that bitch
It’s not soft!
It’s boood amazing, we can live in hope of finding the right one after success stories.
Awww it’s made my stone cold heart go a bit warm "If you read my other post you'll see just how lucky I really was. I still pinch myself because I can't believe I'm this idiot that walks around with a stupped grin on my face. Good thing like this just don't happen to me what doe happen is I get my heart ripped out and then stamped all over. For 1s something gone right for me in fact incredible right. I'm still a little this is to good to be true. Then I get a text at 5am omg shes real | |||
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"I agree with the posts above. "vanilla sites" are a nightmare. I like fab in the sense you can be open and honest about sex and what you enjoy. The problem I have is that I miss intimacy and the best sex I've ever had was when it involved feelings but on here because people don't want anything more then I always have to hold something back... That I find tiring... It would be amazing to meet someone who was like minded though and not afraid of feelings without them worrying it means a lifetime commitment Hahaha. I guess time will tell for me. Good luck OP with your search "Very nicely summed up and I agree with your last 2 paragraphs. | |||
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"A big thanks for all your support, kind words and input. It means a lot to me, and it's great to know that I'm not alone in feeling like this. Bladey; I'm a 50 odd year old silly sod too - and your post gives me a great deal of hope. One really doesn't know what lies around the corner. All the very best to the two of you. I gave a big to the "Fab dating" thread too; and I do hope that admin get round to implementing this for us singletons.
To be honest mate I still cant quite believe it myself. I wasn't looking and I was convince it was a fake playing games. But I talked it all threw with another very special friend on here. Shown her all our posts expecting her to say what I did. That's bullshit nobody has so much in common and we'd not even met at that point. I wasn't even going to go because I was smarter than this joker go play with somebody who a little greener than me but no she didn't say that at all. She said you got to go just so you know. So thinking I was being a complete cock off I went to meet her. I didn't even wast my time having a shave because she wasn't going to be there. Oy how wrong was I and thank fuck I decided I'll make a fool of myself who and turn up. Close to fucking close
Bladey; that's nothing short of heartwarming! I can't believe that you didn't even have a shave! I can imagine your thoughts when you first met her..."oh fuck, why didn't I make more of an effort" - or something like that.
Cynicism can indeed be our own worst enemy - particularly for blokes of our age; and I sincerely hope that you bought your friend a drink (at the very least) for persuading you to meet her. Your story has certainly given me hope that the right one for me is out there somewhere.
Incidentally, you said that you met your lovely lady here; was she verified? "Yes she was veris. She even mailed me 2 years earlier but I thought na fantastic body but I'm not driving 100 mile just to wet my dick. I've still got the note on her profile spooky eh. Hey the shave was nothing. I got there 4/5 hours late. Within half mile of the hotel I got completely lost. So ha I thought let's ring this joker see if hes got the ball to answer me. I could of tried any harder to fuck it right up. Tell you what go read her 1st veri to me gerryxxx. There a few now but the 1st was February | |||
"Apropos nothing really, but I feel the need to get this off my chest; the forums are as good a place as any - so please excuse this self indulgent (oh the irony) diatribe. I've had some wonderful experiences on here (mainly with couples); but I'm now of a mind that it would be great to have a "partner in crime" to share "stuff" with - not just the kink. Anyway, I've just got back home, after being on a date with a girl I met on a regular dating site. Prior to this afternoon's assignation, we'd had a few telephone conversations, which went well enough. I'd vaguely outlined to her that I was bit of a kinky fucker - and she seemed more than comfortable with that. When I first met her I thought "wow", and right from the start, I tried to put her at ease, ask her about her life, and punctuated our conversation with a little flirty banter; but all I heard was a tirade of abuse about her ex boyfriends and her employer. As the afternoon wore (appropriate word) on, she proved to be totally self obsessed, shallow, vacuous, lacking any real substance, and totally preoccupied with how she looked - which admittedly was pretty good. In the bar, she took no less than three selfies of us both - which struck me as being more than a little weird! We had no shared interests - other than "the obvious" - but even the initial physical attraction had faded by the end of the date. As I dropped her off at her house, I told her that I would be going straight home, as I had an early start in the morning, and I didn't think we were suited. She seemed genuinely astonished that I didn't want to see her again - let alone come in and fuck her! Aw well, I'm an eternal optimist, and I'm sure the right one is out there somewhere...but is she on Fab? I guess I'm just wondering if any of you other single girls and boys have had similar experiences, and maybe feel the same way. I'd appreciate your thoughts - and thanks for reading this. It's been cathartic - and I feel much better now. "I swear I went on a date with someone similar. Selfies, Instagramming the food and everything else. Talked endlessly about celebs and reality TV. I hope it was an act as if that's what she really is, she's a shallow person. Like you, I am not a fan of such antics and declined any more fun in the evening. Got a text late at night asking if I was gay as no one has turned her down. I've just about given up on dating to be honest. | |||
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"FireBlade your posts made me smile with happiness for you and yours. Lovely news x " Thank gran. I've had this silly grin on my mug since February | |||
"My thoughts are : you judged her very quickly. " Half a dozen phone calls, umpteen WhatsApp messages and 4 hours in her company - and it just wasn't happening for me. If that's "quickly" then I'm guilty as charged Granny C. I think the phrase is "terminal incompatibility". I dare say that many blokes would've strung her along, done the deed and then ghosted her. | |||
"A big thanks for all your support, kind words and input. It means a lot to me, and it's great to know that I'm not alone in feeling like this. Bladey; I'm a 50 odd year old silly sod too - and your post gives me a great deal of hope. One really doesn't know what lies around the corner. All the very best to the two of you. I gave a big to the "Fab dating" thread too; and I do hope that admin get round to implementing this for us singletons.
To be honest mate I still cant quite believe it myself. I wasn't looking and I was convince it was a fake playing games. But I talked it all threw with another very special friend on here. Shown her all our posts expecting her to say what I did. That's bullshit nobody has so much in common and we'd not even met at that point. I wasn't even going to go because I was smarter than this joker go play with somebody who a little greener than me but no she didn't say that at all. She said you got to go just so you know. So thinking I was being a complete cock off I went to meet her. I didn't even wast my time having a shave because she wasn't going to be there. Oy how wrong was I and thank fuck I decided I'll make a fool of myself who and turn up. Close to fucking close
Bladey; that's nothing short of heartwarming! I can't believe that you didn't even have a shave! I can imagine your thoughts when you first met her..."oh fuck, why didn't I make more of an effort" - or something like that.
Cynicism can indeed be our own worst enemy - particularly for blokes of our age; and I sincerely hope that you bought your friend a drink (at the very least) for persuading you to meet her. Your story has certainly given me hope that the right one for me is out there somewhere.
Incidentally, you said that you met your lovely lady here; was she verified?
Yes she was veris. She even mailed me 2 years earlier but I thought na fantastic body but I'm not driving 100 mile just to wet my dick. I've still got the note on her profile spooky eh. Hey the shave was nothing. I got there 4/5 hours late. Within half mile of the hotel I got completely lost. So ha I thought let's ring this joker see if hes got the ball to answer me. I could of tried any harder to fuck it right up. Tell you what go read her 1st veri to me gerryxxx. There a few now but the 1st was February "Ha ha. Priceless; and all I can say is "you jammy git"! | |||
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"I have had an odd change of opinion, and one I’m not sure I can explain but I’ll try. I have also had some experience with online ‘dating’ and it’s been shit for want of a better word. So, these sites masquerade as sites for relationships but no one really knows what they want. What the reality is that a) a lot of people are looking for exactly the same as fab (sex), but without the ability to put that into words. B) there’s a lot of dishonesty and smokescreens rather than being upfront and c) those who are upfront about wanting sex tend to be quite abusive if you say no thanks, I want to date. I’ve decided I’m quite safe in my little fab world, I know what I like, how to filter the people I speak to and generally how to get what I want. I don’t think that works elsewhere? Maybe there is a future for fabdating?" It's been suggested.... https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/910334#message_20540312 | |||
"Apropos nothing really, but I feel the need to get this off my chest; the forums are as good a place as any - so please excuse this self indulgent (oh the irony) diatribe. I've had some wonderful experiences on here (mainly with couples); but I'm now of a mind that it would be great to have a "partner in crime" to share "stuff" with - not just the kink. Anyway, I've just got back home, after being on a date with a girl I met on a regular dating site. Prior to this afternoon's assignation, we'd had a few telephone conversations, which went well enough. I'd vaguely outlined to her that I was bit of a kinky fucker - and she seemed more than comfortable with that. When I first met her I thought "wow", and right from the start, I tried to put her at ease, ask her about her life, and punctuated our conversation with a little flirty banter; but all I heard was a tirade of abuse about her ex boyfriends and her employer. As the afternoon wore (appropriate word) on, she proved to be totally self obsessed, shallow, vacuous, lacking any real substance, and totally preoccupied with how she looked - which admittedly was pretty good. In the bar, she took no less than three selfies of us both - which struck me as being more than a little weird! We had no shared interests - other than "the obvious" - but even the initial physical attraction had faded by the end of the date. As I dropped her off at her house, I told her that I would be going straight home, as I had an early start in the morning, and I didn't think we were suited. She seemed genuinely astonished that I didn't want to see her again - let alone come in and fuck her! Aw well, I'm an eternal optimist, and I'm sure the right one is out there somewhere...but is she on Fab? I guess I'm just wondering if any of you other single girls and boys have had similar experiences, and maybe feel the same way. I'd appreciate your thoughts - and thanks for reading this. It's been cathartic - and I feel much better now.
I swear I went on a date with someone similar. Selfies, Instagramming the food and everything else.
Talked endlessly about celebs and reality TV.
I hope it was an act as if that's what she really is, she's a shallow person. Like you, I am not a fan of such antics and declined any more fun in the evening.
Got a text late at night asking if I was gay as no one has turned her down.
I've just about given up on dating to be honest.
" Chin up mate. Hey, at least we can have a laugh a laugh about our catastrophic dates - and Bladey's story gives us all some hope. | |||
"A big thanks for all your support, kind words and input. It means a lot to me, and it's great to know that I'm not alone in feeling like this. Bladey; I'm a 50 odd year old silly sod too - and your post gives me a great deal of hope. One really doesn't know what lies around the corner. All the very best to the two of you. I gave a big to the "Fab dating" thread too; and I do hope that admin get round to implementing this for us singletons.
To be honest mate I still cant quite believe it myself. I wasn't looking and I was convince it was a fake playing games. But I talked it all threw with another very special friend on here. Shown her all our posts expecting her to say what I did. That's bullshit nobody has so much in common and we'd not even met at that point. I wasn't even going to go because I was smarter than this joker go play with somebody who a little greener than me but no she didn't say that at all. She said you got to go just so you know. So thinking I was being a complete cock off I went to meet her. I didn't even wast my time having a shave because she wasn't going to be there. Oy how wrong was I and thank fuck I decided I'll make a fool of myself who and turn up. Close to fucking close
Bladey; that's nothing short of heartwarming! I can't believe that you didn't even have a shave! I can imagine your thoughts when you first met her..."oh fuck, why didn't I make more of an effort" - or something like that.
Cynicism can indeed be our own worst enemy - particularly for blokes of our age; and I sincerely hope that you bought your friend a drink (at the very least) for persuading you to meet her. Your story has certainly given me hope that the right one for me is out there somewhere.
Incidentally, you said that you met your lovely lady here; was she verified?
Yes she was veris. She even mailed me 2 years earlier but I thought na fantastic body but I'm not driving 100 mile just to wet my dick. I've still got the note on her profile spooky eh. Hey the shave was nothing. I got there 4/5 hours late. Within half mile of the hotel I got completely lost. So ha I thought let's ring this joker see if hes got the ball to answer me. I could of tried any harder to fuck it right up. Tell you what go read her 1st veri to me gerryxxx. There a few now but the 1st was February
Ha ha. Priceless; and all I can say is "you jammy git"! "Believe me mate I thank my lucky stars at 5am every morning. That when she gets up for work but as soon as she opens her eyes or the rare 1 off I'm awake before he she text me. Normally on the lines of I can't wait till everything is sorted and we wake up together in each other arms. I cant wait for all the mundane thing we'll have to do together. Walk round a supermarket's arguing because I want blue fat basterd milk but she want healthy skimmed milk. House hunter and the holy grail I can scrap that piece of shit she drive and I sit her in a car I've sorted for her and 1 more souted to the lady I'm going to look after till the day I die. By fuck though her tast in music it fucking pity full. If it complete shit she'll like it. God I've got to educate her soon | |||
"Great post, OP. I'm looking for exactly the same thing - a full strings attached relationship but with someone who wants to experiment and play in the swinging world, together. I've spent a lot more time using fab in the last 3-4 months, and I think what stands out to me is that this lifestyle is what I want - not just because of the fun to be had, but because being a part of this community takes a certain kind of person, a way of looking at the world, and I honestly can say I haven't had a single social or been to a club where I haven't felt an immediate affinity/connection with the people I've met. Not all progress beyond that initial meet of course, but many have become good friends and I am now pretty certain that the person I'm likely to find what I want with in terms of a relationship will be involved in this community in some way. Good luck in finding what you're looking for, and to everyone else looking for the same thing!" If a pig ugle old fucker like me can find it a cutie like you wont have a problem | |||
"A big thanks for all your support, kind words and input. It means a lot to me, and it's great to know that I'm not alone in feeling like this. Bladey; I'm a 50 odd year old silly sod too - and your post gives me a great deal of hope. One really doesn't know what lies around the corner. All the very best to the two of you. I gave a big to the "Fab dating" thread too; and I do hope that admin get round to implementing this for us singletons.
To be honest mate I still cant quite believe it myself. I wasn't looking and I was convince it was a fake playing games. But I talked it all threw with another very special friend on here. Shown her all our posts expecting her to say what I did. That's bullshit nobody has so much in common and we'd not even met at that point. I wasn't even going to go because I was smarter than this joker go play with somebody who a little greener than me but no she didn't say that at all. She said you got to go just so you know. So thinking I was being a complete cock off I went to meet her. I didn't even wast my time having a shave because she wasn't going to be there. Oy how wrong was I and thank fuck I decided I'll make a fool of myself who and turn up. Close to fucking close
Bladey; that's nothing short of heartwarming! I can't believe that you didn't even have a shave! I can imagine your thoughts when you first met her..."oh fuck, why didn't I make more of an effort" - or something like that.
Cynicism can indeed be our own worst enemy - particularly for blokes of our age; and I sincerely hope that you bought your friend a drink (at the very least) for persuading you to meet her. Your story has certainly given me hope that the right one for me is out there somewhere.
Incidentally, you said that you met your lovely lady here; was she verified?
Yes she was veris. She even mailed me 2 years earlier but I thought na fantastic body but I'm not driving 100 mile just to wet my dick. I've still got the note on her profile spooky eh. Hey the shave was nothing. I got there 4/5 hours late. Within half mile of the hotel I got completely lost. So ha I thought let's ring this joker see if hes got the ball to answer me. I could of tried any harder to fuck it right up. Tell you what go read her 1st veri to me gerryxxx. There a few now but the 1st was February
Ha ha. Priceless; and all I can say is "you jammy git"!
Believe me mate I thank my lucky stars at 5am every morning. That when she gets up for work but as soon as she opens her eyes or the rare 1 off I'm awake before he she text me. Normally on the lines of I can't wait till everything is sorted and we wake up together in each other arms. I cant wait for all the mundane thing we'll have to do together. Walk round a supermarket's arguing because I want blue fat basterd milk but she want healthy skimmed milk. House hunter and the holy grail I can scrap that piece of shit she drive and I sit her in a car I've sorted for her and 1 more souted to the lady I'm going to look after till the day I die. By fuck though her tast in music it fucking pity full. If it complete shit she'll like it. God I've got to educate her soon "Ha ha. What do they say? "A bit of grit in the oyster makes a pearl". I haven't a clue what it means, but it sounds good. | |||
"A big thanks for all your support, kind words and input. It means a lot to me, and it's great to know that I'm not alone in feeling like this. Bladey; I'm a 50 odd year old silly sod too - and your post gives me a great deal of hope. One really doesn't know what lies around the corner. All the very best to the two of you. I gave a big to the "Fab dating" thread too; and I do hope that admin get round to implementing this for us singletons.
To be honest mate I still cant quite believe it myself. I wasn't looking and I was convince it was a fake playing games. But I talked it all threw with another very special friend on here. Shown her all our posts expecting her to say what I did. That's bullshit nobody has so much in common and we'd not even met at that point. I wasn't even going to go because I was smarter than this joker go play with somebody who a little greener than me but no she didn't say that at all. She said you got to go just so you know. So thinking I was being a complete cock off I went to meet her. I didn't even wast my time having a shave because she wasn't going to be there. Oy how wrong was I and thank fuck I decided I'll make a fool of myself who and turn up. Close to fucking close
Bladey; that's nothing short of heartwarming! I can't believe that you didn't even have a shave! I can imagine your thoughts when you first met her..."oh fuck, why didn't I make more of an effort" - or something like that.
Cynicism can indeed be our own worst enemy - particularly for blokes of our age; and I sincerely hope that you bought your friend a drink (at the very least) for persuading you to meet her. Your story has certainly given me hope that the right one for me is out there somewhere.
Incidentally, you said that you met your lovely lady here; was she verified?
Yes she was veris. She even mailed me 2 years earlier but I thought na fantastic body but I'm not driving 100 mile just to wet my dick. I've still got the note on her profile spooky eh. Hey the shave was nothing. I got there 4/5 hours late. Within half mile of the hotel I got completely lost. So ha I thought let's ring this joker see if hes got the ball to answer me. I could of tried any harder to fuck it right up. Tell you what go read her 1st veri to me gerryxxx. There a few now but the 1st was February
Ha ha. Priceless; and all I can say is "you jammy git"!
Believe me mate I thank my lucky stars at 5am every morning. That when she gets up for work but as soon as she opens her eyes or the rare 1 off I'm awake before he she text me. Normally on the lines of I can't wait till everything is sorted and we wake up together in each other arms. I cant wait for all the mundane thing we'll have to do together. Walk round a supermarket's arguing because I want blue fat basterd milk but she want healthy skimmed milk. House hunter and the holy grail I can scrap that piece of shit she drive and I sit her in a car I've sorted for her and 1 more souted to the lady I'm going to look after till the day I die. By fuck though her tast in music it fucking pity full. If it complete shit she'll like it. God I've got to educate her soon
Ha ha. What do they say? "A bit of grit in the oyster makes a pearl". I haven't a clue what it means, but it sounds good. "It mean you can be to perfect. If you agree on everything and think the same about everything it can't work. You'll bore each to death | |||
"Apropos nothing really, but I feel the need to get this off my chest; the forums are as good a place as any - so please excuse this self indulgent (oh the irony) diatribe. I've had some wonderful experiences on here (mainly with couples); but I'm now of a mind that it would be great to have a "partner in crime" to share "stuff" with - not just the kink. Anyway, I've just got back home, after being on a date with a girl I met on a regular dating site. Prior to this afternoon's assignation, we'd had a few telephone conversations, which went well enough. I'd vaguely outlined to her that I was bit of a kinky fucker - and she seemed more than comfortable with that. When I first met her I thought "wow", and right from the start, I tried to put her at ease, ask her about her life, and punctuated our conversation with a little flirty banter; but all I heard was a tirade of abuse about her ex boyfriends and her employer. As the afternoon wore (appropriate word) on, she proved to be totally self obsessed, shallow, vacuous, lacking any real substance, and totally preoccupied with how she looked - which admittedly was pretty good. In the bar, she took no less than three selfies of us both - which struck me as being more than a little weird! We had no shared interests - other than "the obvious" - but even the initial physical attraction had faded by the end of the date. As I dropped her off at her house, I told her that I would be going straight home, as I had an early start in the morning, and I didn't think we were suited. She seemed genuinely astonished that I didn't want to see her again - let alone come in and fuck her! Aw well, I'm an eternal optimist, and I'm sure the right one is out there somewhere...but is she on Fab? I guess I'm just wondering if any of you other single girls and boys have had similar experiences, and maybe feel the same way. I'd appreciate your thoughts - and thanks for reading this. It's been cathartic - and I feel much better now. "Have you got her number? | |||
"Apropos nothing really, but I feel the need to get this off my chest; the forums are as good a place as any - so please excuse this self indulgent (oh the irony) diatribe. I've had some wonderful experiences on here (mainly with couples); but I'm now of a mind that it would be great to have a "partner in crime" to share "stuff" with - not just the kink. Anyway, I've just got back home, after being on a date with a girl I met on a regular dating site. Prior to this afternoon's assignation, we'd had a few telephone conversations, which went well enough. I'd vaguely outlined to her that I was bit of a kinky fucker - and she seemed more than comfortable with that. When I first met her I thought "wow", and right from the start, I tried to put her at ease, ask her about her life, and punctuated our conversation with a little flirty banter; but all I heard was a tirade of abuse about her ex boyfriends and her employer. As the afternoon wore (appropriate word) on, she proved to be totally self obsessed, shallow, vacuous, lacking any real substance, and totally preoccupied with how she looked - which admittedly was pretty good. In the bar, she took no less than three selfies of us both - which struck me as being more than a little weird! We had no shared interests - other than "the obvious" - but even the initial physical attraction had faded by the end of the date. As I dropped her off at her house, I told her that I would be going straight home, as I had an early start in the morning, and I didn't think we were suited. She seemed genuinely astonished that I didn't want to see her again - let alone come in and fuck her! Aw well, I'm an eternal optimist, and I'm sure the right one is out there somewhere...but is she on Fab? I guess I'm just wondering if any of you other single girls and boys have had similar experiences, and maybe feel the same way. I'd appreciate your thoughts - and thanks for reading this. It's been cathartic - and I feel much better now.
Have you got her number? "Sorry mate. I'd just deleted it the minute before I read your post. | |||
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"Apropos nothing really, but I feel the need to get this off my chest; the forums are as good a place as any - so please excuse this self indulgent (oh the irony) diatribe. I've had some wonderful experiences on here (mainly with couples); but I'm now of a mind that it would be great to have a "partner in crime" to share "stuff" with - not just the kink. Anyway, I've just got back home, after being on a date with a girl I met on a regular dating site. Prior to this afternoon's assignation, we'd had a few telephone conversations, which went well enough. I'd vaguely outlined to her that I was bit of a kinky fucker - and she seemed more than comfortable with that. When I first met her I thought "wow", and right from the start, I tried to put her at ease, ask her about her life, and punctuated our conversation with a little flirty banter; but all I heard was a tirade of abuse about her ex boyfriends and her employer. As the afternoon wore (appropriate word) on, she proved to be totally self obsessed, shallow, vacuous, lacking any real substance, and totally preoccupied with how she looked - which admittedly was pretty good. In the bar, she took no less than three selfies of us both - which struck me as being more than a little weird! We had no shared interests - other than "the obvious" - but even the initial physical attraction had faded by the end of the date. As I dropped her off at her house, I told her that I would be going straight home, as I had an early start in the morning, and I didn't think we were suited. She seemed genuinely astonished that I didn't want to see her again - let alone come in and fuck her! Aw well, I'm an eternal optimist, and I'm sure the right one is out there somewhere...but is she on Fab? I guess I'm just wondering if any of you other single girls and boys have had similar experiences, and maybe feel the same way. I'd appreciate your thoughts - and thanks for reading this. It's been cathartic - and I feel much better now.
I swear I went on a date with someone similar. Selfies, Instagramming the food and everything else.
Talked endlessly about celebs and reality TV.
I hope it was an act as if that's what she really is, she's a shallow person. Like you, I am not a fan of such antics and declined any more fun in the evening.
Got a text late at night asking if I was gay as no one has turned her down.
I've just about given up on dating to be honest.
Chin up mate. Hey, at least we can have a laugh a laugh about our catastrophic dates - and Bladey's story gives us all some hope. "Cheers mate. | |||
"I have had an odd change of opinion, and one I’m not sure I can explain but I’ll try. I have also had some experience with online ‘dating’ and it’s been shit for want of a better word. So, these sites masquerade as sites for relationships but no one really knows what they want. What the reality is that a) a lot of people are looking for exactly the same as fab (sex), but without the ability to put that into words. B) there’s a lot of dishonesty and smokescreens rather than being upfront and c) those who are upfront about wanting sex tend to be quite abusive if you say no thanks, I want to date. I’ve decided I’m quite safe in my little fab world, I know what I like, how to filter the people I speak to and generally how to get what I want. I don’t think that works elsewhere? Maybe there is a future for fabdating?" Couldn't agree more xx | |||
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