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over a year ago
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Mental health is important and there should always be an open chat available for people to talk openly and frankly about things. Support is a vital tool for many people, so I thought that a thread for folks to talk, vent, support or simply post their experiences would be a useful tool for others, even if they don't want to post.
I'm always open to talk things through with people if they want it as well.
So... How are you feeling?
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In a good place tight now, but have been in a dark place several times.
I actually volunteer with a charity and am trained in 1 to 1 peer support to help new mums with mental health issues.
Great to be able to give something back and show them you can make a full recovery
Jo x  |
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over a year ago
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Thanks for asking!
Meds are helping to balance me out but they've numbed everything and I feel like I'm living on autopilot. Considering dropping the dosage so I feel like less of a zombie |
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"In a good place tight now, but have been in a dark place several times.
I actually volunteer with a charity and am trained in 1 to 1 peer support to help new mums with mental health issues.
Great to be able to give something back and show them you can make a full recovery
Jo x "
That's lovely Jo, it's great to be passing on the support and PND is a great focus.
Good to see you're doing so well |
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"Thanks for asking!
Meds are helping to balance me out but they've numbed everything and I feel like I'm living on autopilot. Considering dropping the dosage so I feel like less of a zombie"
They always make you feel worse before better.
Try not to self medicate, talk to your gp. X |
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"Thanks for asking!
Meds are helping to balance me out but they've numbed everything and I feel like I'm living on autopilot. Considering dropping the dosage so I feel like less of a zombie"
That can be an effect, if you're feeling that, have you spoken to your doctor about different medication? I know that medication is helpful to many people but finding the right one for you is important. |
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that a nice post and whilst I'm ok I appreciate others may not be.
I have had the usual mad working week. It got a bit crazy juggling work and family but now I can take deep breath and enjoy the weekend. I hope everyone else has a good one too x |
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"Mental health is important and there should always be an open chat available for people to talk openly and frankly about things. Support is a vital tool for many people, so I thought that a thread for folks to talk, vent, support or simply post their experiences would be a useful tool for others, even if they don't want to post.
I'm always open to talk things through with people if they want it as well.
So... How are you feeling?
Tea"
I'm in a good place right now. The balance of work, family and friends is pretty good  Always keeping a weather eye out for my old enemy of anxiety though - it sneaks up when I'm not looking and before I know it, everything crumbles.
Thanks for asking. I firmly believe it's always good to talk.
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Good thread !
It’s important people talk things through and not bottle them up and sometimes with a complete stranger that is easier
I’m a mental health first aider at work, trained to spot the signs as individual’s behaviour, have that initial “are you ok chat” and take it from there
What is really important is understanding how you deal with each different situation; listen without judgment and just be there when needed whatever the time of day. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Delicate. I faced my anxieties about going last night and went (even though I was tempted to not go in because I got soaked, fluffy hair, and leave a couple of times during the night). I think today is a day of rest for me and give my battery a chance to recharge. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"that a nice post and whilst I'm ok I appreciate others may not be.
I have had the usual mad working week. It got a bit crazy juggling work and family but now I can take deep breath and enjoy the weekend. I hope everyone else has a good one too x"
I hope that you do too. Being able to take that breath is important |
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A really good thread and I'm fully supportive. It's probably good to have something like this regularly going OP.
I've been through depression myself and still have days, but am on the best side, things are looking up, working a short term contract and other fairly regular self employed work on the horizon and I feel quite happy with my lot at the moment.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Thank you to both for responding
Have been on meds for over a year, been back and forth to GP to try different dosages without much success.
Anyone have experience coming off one and trying another? I've been told it might be worth trying something different entirely |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Mental health is important and there should always be an open chat available for people to talk openly and frankly about things. Support is a vital tool for many people, so I thought that a thread for folks to talk, vent, support or simply post their experiences would be a useful tool for others, even if they don't want to post.
I'm always open to talk things through with people if they want it as well.
So... How are you feeling?
Tea
I'm in a good place right now. The balance of work, family and friends is pretty good Always keeping a weather eye out for my old enemy of anxiety though - it sneaks up when I'm not looking and before I know it, everything crumbles.
Thanks for asking. I firmly believe it's always good to talk.
Mrs TMN x"
Excellent, I'm glad to hear that. Yes, anxiety can creep up when you're not looking. I try and keep my triggers in focus and do what I can to manage any flare ups. As you say; it's always good to talk, keeping that dialogue open is important.
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"Good thread !
It’s important people talk things through and not bottle them up and sometimes with a complete stranger that is easier
I’m a mental health first aider at work, trained to spot the signs as individual’s behaviour, have that initial “are you ok chat” and take it from there
What is really important is understanding how you deal with each different situation; listen without judgment and just be there when needed whatever the time of day. "
they have just introduced this where I work which I think is grea, we had a lovely young guy who took his life..such sadness |
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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago
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I don't often feel down, but when I do, it can be pretty deep. I don't like talking about it, especially to family. I find I can ease the anguish by writing poetry.
One of my darker poems was picked up by a musician friend who set it to music and recorded it. He told me afterwards that the words struck a chord with him and had to record it over several takes as he was in tears.
More recently, I hit a very low point over a stupid event that should never have happened, and again wrote a poem.
Things are looking up now and hopefully won't degenerate back to where I was a few months ago. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’m very well thank you for asking, after a traumatic loss of a friend I struggled for 2 years before seeking help.
I recovered very well thanks to the help and support I received and decided to study Phycology, I passed my degree eventually and I now work a few hours a week with a support group in between my own work.
A thread like this is a positive and welcome post for people to discuss, think and interact with others no matter what state of mind they are in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mental health is important and there should always be an open chat available for people to talk openly and frankly about things. Support is a vital tool for many people, so I thought that a thread for folks to talk, vent, support or simply post their experiences would be a useful tool for others, even if they don't want to post.
I'm always open to talk things through with people if they want it as well.
So... How are you feeling?
Tea"
And how are you? |
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"Good thread !
It’s important people talk things through and not bottle them up and sometimes with a complete stranger that is easier
I’m a mental health first aider at work, trained to spot the signs as individual’s behaviour, have that initial “are you ok chat” and take it from there
What is really important is understanding how you deal with each different situation; listen without judgment and just be there when needed whatever the time of day. "
I really like this - mental health first aiders. It's most definitely a big step in the right direction.
I did a group course last year and with the tips, techniques and things it taught me, my depressions and anxieties were actually deeper rooted and further in my past than I'd imagined.
Well done to both you and your workplace. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Good thread !
It’s important people talk things through and not bottle them up and sometimes with a complete stranger that is easier
I’m a mental health first aider at work, trained to spot the signs as individual’s behaviour, have that initial “are you ok chat” and take it from there
What is really important is understanding how you deal with each different situation; listen without judgment and just be there when needed whatever the time of day. "
I agree completely. It's great that you have that training and can spot the signs.
I think that active listening is really important and people really need that at times, I find that often people assume or interject their judgement or advice into listening on this subject as it makes them uncomfortable, really listening and taking things in is a skill. I'm glad that you have this. |
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"I don't often feel down, but when I do, it can be pretty deep. I don't like talking about it, especially to family. I find I can ease the anguish by writing poetry.
One of my darker poems was picked up by a musician friend who set it to music and recorded it. He told me afterwards that the words struck a chord with him and had to record it over several takes as he was in tears.
More recently, I hit a very low point over a stupid event that should never have happened, and again wrote a poem.
Things are looking up now and hopefully won't degenerate back to where I was a few months ago."
Well done you, I like the fact you can turn that low mood into something creative. Do you find it cathartic? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Delicate. I faced my anxieties about going last night and went (even though I was tempted to not go in because I got soaked, fluffy hair, and leave a couple of times during the night). I think today is a day of rest for me and give my battery a chance to recharge."
I'm sorry to hear that Meli, sending you hugs and a message |
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Not doing too bad alatly, I suffer bouts of depression which does take it's toll on me.
Having the kids quite alot over the holidays is keeping me on a high.
I've also taken up running which is really helping!! It's really worth trying if your in a low mood, you hear people saying running is good for the mind and it really is. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A really good thread and I'm fully supportive. It's probably good to have something like this regularly going OP.
I've been through depression myself and still have days, but am on the best side, things are looking up, working a short term contract and other fairly regular self employed work on the horizon and I feel quite happy with my lot at the moment. "
That's great, I'm glad that things are getting better for you. |
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"Delicate. I faced my anxieties about going last night and went (even though I was tempted to not go in because I got soaked, fluffy hair, and leave a couple of times during the night). I think today is a day of rest for me and give my battery a chance to recharge."
Well done on facing those anxieties. Be kind to yourself today, you've earned it. |
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"Thank you to both for responding
Have been on meds for over a year, been back and forth to GP to try different dosages without much success.
Anyone have experience coming off one and trying another? I've been told it might be worth trying something different entirely"
Drop me a message if you like x |
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"Good thread !
It’s important people talk things through and not bottle them up and sometimes with a complete stranger that is easier
I’m a mental health first aider at work, trained to spot the signs as individual’s behaviour, have that initial “are you ok chat” and take it from there
What is really important is understanding how you deal with each different situation; listen without judgment and just be there when needed whatever the time of day.
they have just introduced this where I work which I think is grea, we had a lovely young guy who took his life..such sadness"
 sorry to hear that Annabelle
Yes we officially bought this in 18 months ago, too many going off work with MH issues, break downs in the office (that one I was guilty of a couple of years back). I must see on average 2-3 new people a week
Unfortunately there is still too much perceived stigma around MH and people are scared to speak up, scared of losing their jobs, the feeling they are weak
We’ve made it quite clear that’s not the case and actually the MH act gives people a lot of protection, employment wise. |
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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago
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Well done you, I like the fact you can turn that low mood into something creative. Do you find it cathartic? "
Yes, I find it very cathartic. I guess I am a fairly creative person, anyway. I find baking to be very relaxing. I'm in a band and we have a big gig next Saturday, so we're having a final rehearsal tomorrow. We like to stop for a tea break, so today I'm going to make some sausage rolls and a chocolate cake for us all to scoff. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thank you to both for responding
Have been on meds for over a year, been back and forth to GP to try different dosages without much success.
Anyone have experience coming off one and trying another? I've been told it might be worth trying something different entirely"
Yes, not me personally but my ex wife did a couple of times.
It depends on what you're on, your dosage and any side effects but following your doctors instructions will help, it can take a week or two for things to settle and for you to feel the difference of the new medication but generally it's easier than starting over again. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Good thread !
It’s important people talk things through and not bottle them up and sometimes with a complete stranger that is easier
I’m a mental health first aider at work, trained to spot the signs as individual’s behaviour, have that initial “are you ok chat” and take it from there
What is really important is understanding how you deal with each different situation; listen without judgment and just be there when needed whatever the time of day.
they have just introduced this where I work which I think is grea, we had a lovely young guy who took his life..such sadness"
Oh no, that's awful. I'm glad to hear that they have brought that in there now though. Especially after the conversation we had last time! |
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"Good thread !
It’s important people talk things through and not bottle them up and sometimes with a complete stranger that is easier
I’m a mental health first aider at work, trained to spot the signs as individual’s behaviour, have that initial “are you ok chat” and take it from there
What is really important is understanding how you deal with each different situation; listen without judgment and just be there when needed whatever the time of day.
they have just introduced this where I work which I think is grea, we had a lovely young guy who took his life..such sadness
sorry to hear that Annabelle
Yes we officially bought this in 18 months ago, too many going off work with MH issues, break downs in the office (that one I was guilty of a couple of years back). I must see on average 2-3 new people a week
Unfortunately there is still too much perceived stigma around MH and people are scared to speak up, scared of losing their jobs, the feeling they are weak
We’ve made it quite clear that’s not the case and actually the MH act gives people a lot of protection, employment wise. "
I have to admit when I first heard about it I was cynical but they have assured us it is a safe non judgemental approach to a good working environment. We have a lot of sickness due to stress so anything that helps is a bonus...and thank you it was a sad time x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't often feel down, but when I do, it can be pretty deep. I don't like talking about it, especially to family. I find I can ease the anguish by writing poetry.
One of my darker poems was picked up by a musician friend who set it to music and recorded it. He told me afterwards that the words struck a chord with him and had to record it over several takes as he was in tears.
More recently, I hit a very low point over a stupid event that should never have happened, and again wrote a poem.
Things are looking up now and hopefully won't degenerate back to where I was a few months ago."
It's great that you have that outlet and you know that it helps you. Do you have other outlets and ways of managing things? |
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currently coming off sertaline
Went from 100mg a day to 50mg a day wit no issues.
Then dropped to 50mg every other day for a week.
its now been 4 days since any and have dizzy spells and emotions are a little all over the place.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m very well thank you for asking, after a traumatic loss of a friend I struggled for 2 years before seeking help.
I recovered very well thanks to the help and support I received and decided to study Phycology, I passed my degree eventually and I now work a few hours a week with a support group in between my own work.
A thread like this is a positive and welcome post for people to discuss, think and interact with others no matter what state of mind they are in. "
That's great to hear, stories of recovery are very welcome as they show people who are struggling that it can and does get better. |
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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago
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It's great that you have that outlet and you know that it helps you. Do you have other outlets and ways of managing things? "
I'm lucky that I live in a beautiful old house on the edge of a wood close to a riverbank. I like to wander around and on a bad weather day I can look out of the window and see nothing but nature. |
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"Good thread !
It’s important people talk things through and not bottle them up and sometimes with a complete stranger that is easier
I’m a mental health first aider at work, trained to spot the signs as individual’s behaviour, have that initial “are you ok chat” and take it from there
What is really important is understanding how you deal with each different situation; listen without judgment and just be there when needed whatever the time of day.
I agree completely. It's great that you have that training and can spot the signs.
I think that active listening is really important and people really need that at times, I find that often people assume or interject their judgement or advice into listening on this subject as it makes them uncomfortable, really listening and taking things in is a skill. I'm glad that you have this. "
You need to be a listener and not a talker. It’s important you figure out quickly what type of MH you might be dealing with as how you interact with that person is important, it changes depending on the condition they are suffering
But yes never judge or belittle what they are feeling; just a simple comment like “it will all get better” means nothing to that individual |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not doing too bad alatly, I suffer bouts of depression which does take it's toll on me.
Having the kids quite alot over the holidays is keeping me on a high.
I've also taken up running which is really helping!! It's really worth trying if your in a low mood, you hear people saying running is good for the mind and it really is."
I'm glad to read this and yes, running is amazing for mental health. I could wax lyrical about its benefits for hours but I won't  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Truthfully things could be so much better, had literally the worst week possibly "
That's shitty, be gentle with yourself though. 'should' and 'could' can be harmful words, if you want to talk, drop me a PM.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Good thread !
It’s important people talk things through and not bottle them up and sometimes with a complete stranger that is easier
I’m a mental health first aider at work, trained to spot the signs as individual’s behaviour, have that initial “are you ok chat” and take it from there
What is really important is understanding how you deal with each different situation; listen without judgment and just be there when needed whatever the time of day.
they have just introduced this where I work which I think is grea, we had a lovely young guy who took his life..such sadness
sorry to hear that Annabelle
Yes we officially bought this in 18 months ago, too many going off work with MH issues, break downs in the office (that one I was guilty of a couple of years back). I must see on average 2-3 new people a week
Unfortunately there is still too much perceived stigma around MH and people are scared to speak up, scared of losing their jobs, the feeling they are weak
We’ve made it quite clear that’s not the case and actually the MH act gives people a lot of protection, employment wise. "
This is very true, especially the stigma. One of the most important things that people can do is to talk and normalise it, it's just like any other long term illness and the more people talk, the better others will understand.
There's a lot of mystery and misunderstanding around MH, on fab just as much as anywhere else. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"currently coming off sertaline
Went from 100mg a day to 50mg a day wit no issues.
Then dropped to 50mg every other day for a week.
its now been 4 days since any and have dizzy spells and emotions are a little all over the place.
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The withdrawal can be a little tough and just as taking the stabilisers off a bike, there will be a wobble or two.
Do you have a way of managing your moods? Have you had CBT or talking therapies as well as medication? |
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"Good thread !
It’s important people talk things through and not bottle them up and sometimes with a complete stranger that is easier
I’m a mental health first aider at work, trained to spot the signs as individual’s behaviour, have that initial “are you ok chat” and take it from there
What is really important is understanding how you deal with each different situation; listen without judgment and just be there when needed whatever the time of day.
I agree completely. It's great that you have that training and can spot the signs.
I think that active listening is really important and people really need that at times, I find that often people assume or interject their judgement or advice into listening on this subject as it makes them uncomfortable, really listening and taking things in is a skill. I'm glad that you have this.
You need to be a listener and not a talker. It’s important you figure out quickly what type of MH you might be dealing with as how you interact with that person is important, it changes depending on the condition they are suffering
But yes never judge or belittle what they are feeling; just a simple comment like “it will all get better” means nothing to that individual "
Absolutely. Vague platitudes do nothing and can often make things worse as the person will shut down.
I'm glad that you have this in place |
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"I feel really great actually a perfect balance of happiness giddiness and bliss with a hint of inner rage to keep me sane and grounded "
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You need to be a listener and not a talker. It’s important you figure out quickly what type of MH you might be dealing with as how you interact with that person is important, it changes depending on the condition they are suffering
But yes never judge or belittle what they are feeling; just a simple comment like “it will all get better” means nothing to that individual
Absolutely. Vague platitudes do nothing and can often make things worse as the person will shut down.
I'm glad that you have this in place "
Precisely this |
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"Not doing too bad alatly, I suffer bouts of depression which does take it's toll on me.
Having the kids quite alot over the holidays is keeping me on a high.
I've also taken up running which is really helping!! It's really worth trying if your in a low mood, you hear people saying running is good for the mind and it really is."
I started running last year and cannot believe the positive mental as well as physical benefits. First exercise I've found that really does that for me - just being outside is great for clearing my head |
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"Not doing too bad alatly, I suffer bouts of depression which does take it's toll on me.
Having the kids quite alot over the holidays is keeping me on a high.
I've also taken up running which is really helping!! It's really worth trying if your in a low mood, you hear people saying running is good for the mind and it really is.
I started running last year and cannot believe the positive mental as well as physical benefits. First exercise I've found that really does that for me - just being outside is great for clearing my head "
It really is brilliant, there have been times in the past where I've just left all of my frustrations or negative thoughts out on the road. Most forms of exercise will do this sort of thing, for many it can be the gym or cycling or team sports. For me though, there's a freedom and almost zen feeling to a long run. |
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I never found any benefit from running, but definitely give it a try to anyone who needs a mood lift.
It works for some but don’t worry if it’s not for you, try something else. Everyone’s mental health is different which means the fixes can be too |
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"I never found any benefit from running, but definitely give it a try to anyone who needs a mood lift.
It works for some but don’t worry if it’s not for you, try something else. Everyone’s mental health is different which means the fixes can be too"
Very true, part of the process is finding what works best for you. |
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I feel much better I let that out, thank you x
Much as I appreciate your humour, can we keep the jokes for other threads please. "
You should have pmed before I did it. |
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Good thread
This morning i felt like the lonliest person on the planet.
Off to help celebrate my mates b'day now, so will have some good company to banter with |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Good thread
This morning i felt like the lonliest person on the planet.
Off to help celebrate my mates b'day now, so will have some good company to banter with"
That's good and I can totally empathise with feeling lonely. Do you have people that you can connect with away from the banter? |
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It’s not been a great week to be honest, struggling with a come down after a few lovely meets with one guy in a short space of time and the realisation/reminder that it’s only sex .. hmm
Wondering whether my low mood is more symptomatic of the menopause and whether I should speak to someone, need a sympathetic GP maybe |
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"It’s not been a great week to be honest, struggling with a come down after a few lovely meets with one guy in a short space of time and the realisation/reminder that it’s only sex .. hmm
Wondering whether my low mood is more symptomatic of the menopause and whether I should speak to someone, need a sympathetic GP maybe "
The bump back to reality can be a hard thing to deal with and does require a degree of self care.
As for a sympathetic GP, yes, that should be a basic need. If you need to talk then maybe a referral or switching doctors may help? |
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I'm struggling at the moment but I have a good support network so I know I'll be alright. If anyone is struggling and wants to chat, feel free to message me. |
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I think I'm in an ok place at the mo.
Had a panic yesterday but it passed pretty quickly and I didn't go into full blown meltdown so that's massive progress!
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Can I just ponder a moment? Those that know us are aware as to the complicated mental health issues we battle daily which affects every aspect of our life. While we are open and honest about it mostly, I personally keep it away from fab and swinging as much as I can unless someone asks. Fab and swinging to me is like an escape from the reality, a chance to empty my mind of the constant shadow and to enjoy bathing in a different light for a while.
Saying that, our inbox is open if anyone needs to talk, especially if there's EUPD involved in a diagnosis.
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"I'm stressed. My own mental health is good, but I'm involved with people who are emotionally immature and it's taking a toll on me. "
That can be tough, especially if you're being leaned on and relied on to sort them out constantly. Remember to take time for you too. |
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"I'm struggling at the moment but I have a good support network so I know I'll be alright. If anyone is struggling and wants to chat, feel free to message me. "
I'm sorry to hear that but it's good that you have that support. The same goes for you too; if you need to chat then feel free. |
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"Distant, as if down the far small end of a funnel and aware others are all together happy at the large end. "
I'm sorry to read that. I'm aware that perception is a reality unto itself but appearances can be deceptive. I think that that kind of thought process can be damaging in its own way, don't put pressure on yourself to be a certain way or be envious of what your perception of others have or are doing. Be gentle with yourself. |
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"I think I'm in an ok place at the mo.
Had a panic yesterday but it passed pretty quickly and I didn't go into full blown meltdown so that's massive progress!
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That is!
In a completely non patronising way; Well done. Take that as a big win. |
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"I'm struggling at the moment but I have a good support network so I know I'll be alright. If anyone is struggling and wants to chat, feel free to message me.
I'm sorry to hear that but it's good that you have that support. The same goes for you too; if you need to chat then feel free. "
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"Can I just ponder a moment? Those that know us are aware as to the complicated mental health issues we battle daily which affects every aspect of our life. While we are open and honest about it mostly, I personally keep it away from fab and swinging as much as I can unless someone asks. Fab and swinging to me is like an escape from the reality, a chance to empty my mind of the constant shadow and to enjoy bathing in a different light for a while.
Saying that, our inbox is open if anyone needs to talk, especially if there's EUPD involved in a diagnosis.
Peach x"
I can absolutely understand how you feel about it, many folks will want to take themselves away from fab in times of fragility and that's absolutely fine, it's a case of what works for you and I think it's positive that you know how to manage things.
I would say that talking works both ways too, the inbox is always open. |
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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I think the problem with mental ill health like a lot of illnesses, is that often there is nothing immediately visible. Unless there is, people find them difficult to accept.
It is another disorder affecting the brain although structurally difficult to see and not something that shows up on an MRI or CT scan. Although depression and anxiety can have major issues with the various neurotransmitters in the brain it’s something that’s difficult to see even medically. I guess if it was easy they’d work out straight away which neurotransmitter was mis functioning and give you the right chemical balance, serotonin, dopamine, etc. I think what really complicates things is that there can be functional issues too and because those are problems that can’t be altered chemically that’s where things like CBT and other talking therapies often are helpful.
Having understanding family and friends, a support network somewhere, even just digitally can make a difference.
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"I think the problem with mental ill health like a lot of illnesses, is that often there is nothing immediately visible. Unless there is, people find them difficult to accept.
It is another disorder affecting the brain although structurally difficult to see and not something that shows up on an MRI or CT scan. Although depression and anxiety can have major issues with the various neurotransmitters in the brain it’s something that’s difficult to see even medically. I guess if it was easy they’d work out straight away which neurotransmitter was mis functioning and give you the right chemical balance, serotonin, dopamine, etc. I think what really complicates things is that there can be functional issues too and because those are problems that can’t be altered chemically that’s where things like CBT and other talking therapies often are helpful.
Having understanding family and friends, a support network somewhere, even just digitally can make a difference.
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I completely agree. Awareness is far better than it was but there is still a long way to go with removing the stigma. Talking about it in any form is important.
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"Mindful meditation and walks help a chance to check in to the moment and stop over thinking . I do have a few little slips "
I had a very nice time yesterday and it was because of this. I guess it helps to build up a bit of resilience when things go bad. |
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"Mindful meditation and walks help a chance to check in to the moment and stop over thinking . I do have a few little slips "
It's good that you have your management worked out. Everyone affected by it will have slips, it's knowing how to deal with it that's key. |
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In a bit of an odd place, feel like I’m keeping my head above water mostly. I’ve bern much better and much worse but I feel like I’m waiting for something and I don’t know what. Odd ramblings I know |
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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago
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Hi Tea I'm feeling really good at the moment we all have our ups and downs and it's always good to support people when there having there bad days your a good person always thoughtful of others |
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"In a bit of an odd place, feel like I’m keeping my head above water mostly. I’ve bern much better and much worse but I feel like I’m waiting for something and I don’t know what. Odd ramblings I know"
Not at all. I sometimes get that feeling and it can take a little while to put my finger on what I'm missing.
In those situations I think it's important not to pressure yourself to feel a certain way, take the time that you need to find what it is you're 'waiting' for. |
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I’m a bit up and down at the moment, up because I’m off on holiday Wednesday but worried as I’m going to a big city with just my youngest son and he suffers from anxiety. I’m not one for talking and tend to think things through in my own mind. I’ve had to stop exercising as I’ve got an undiagnosed stomach pain that can be aggravated by exercise so seem to have less time to myself.
I’m on citalopram which has helped stop me from crying all the time but the stresses are still there and unlikely to change. I just take each day as it comes and hope the good outweighs the bad x |
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I'm good. I'm better than I have been in a longtime. Granted I'm still struggling with paranoia but so much better than last year and I'm nowhere near as dysfunctional as I have been. I'm not sure why I'm coping this year so well compated to previous years as I'm not doing things noticably different. Maybe last year's breakdown and the reflection that comes with very nearly calling it a day is the difference, when you hit rock bottom there's only one way to go |
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"Hi Tea I'm feeling really good at the moment we all have our ups and downs and it's always good to support people when there having there bad days your a good person always thoughtful of others "
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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"I think the problem with mental ill health like a lot of illnesses, is that often there is nothing immediately visible. Unless there is, people find them difficult to accept.
It is another disorder affecting the brain although structurally difficult to see and not something that shows up on an MRI or CT scan. Although depression and anxiety can have major issues with the various neurotransmitters in the brain it’s something that’s difficult to see even medically. I guess if it was easy they’d work out straight away which neurotransmitter was mis functioning and give you the right chemical balance, serotonin, dopamine, etc. I think what really complicates things is that there can be functional issues too and because those are problems that can’t be altered chemically that’s where things like CBT and other talking therapies often are helpful.
Having understanding family and friends, a support network somewhere, even just digitally can make a difference.
I completely agree. Awareness is far better than it was but there is still a long way to go with removing the stigma. Talking about it in any form is important.
Thank you for this. "
I think the more people get use to the idea that your brain is just another body part than go wrong, whether that be temporarily or long term in the same way that an arm, a leg, a kidney or your heart can fail.
Just because it can’t be seen doesn’t mean it’s not happening
Just because it’s your head doesn’t make it any different to any other part of your body. |
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"I’m a bit up and down at the moment, up because I’m off on holiday Wednesday but worried as I’m going to a big city with just my youngest son and he suffers from anxiety. I’m not one for talking and tend to think things through in my own mind. I’ve had to stop exercising as I’ve got an undiagnosed stomach pain that can be aggravated by exercise so seem to have less time to myself.
I’m on citalopram which has helped stop me from crying all the time but the stresses are still there and unlikely to change. I just take each day as it comes and hope the good outweighs the bad x "
That does seem like a bit of a mixed bag and quite hard to unpick.
Have you tried alternative therapies to work alongside your medication? As you say; the stresses won't change and just keeping the worst at bay sounds like a tough way to be.
Going away on holiday can be a great thing but whilst focusing on your son, please try and remember to look after yourself and take time for you too. |
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"I'm good. I'm better than I have been in a longtime. Granted I'm still struggling with paranoia but so much better than last year and I'm nowhere near as dysfunctional as I have been. I'm not sure why I'm coping this year so well compated to previous years as I'm not doing things noticably different. Maybe last year's breakdown and the reflection that comes with very nearly calling it a day is the difference, when you hit rock bottom there's only one way to go"
I'm really glad to hear that, sometimes the difference is just time and a little perspective, putting your finger on why it is, might be a case for future reflection. The simple fact that you are is a big positive.
I'm really glad to see you doing well fella. |
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"I think the problem with mental ill health like a lot of illnesses, is that often there is nothing immediately visible. Unless there is, people find them difficult to accept.
It is another disorder affecting the brain although structurally difficult to see and not something that shows up on an MRI or CT scan. Although depression and anxiety can have major issues with the various neurotransmitters in the brain it’s something that’s difficult to see even medically. I guess if it was easy they’d work out straight away which neurotransmitter was mis functioning and give you the right chemical balance, serotonin, dopamine, etc. I think what really complicates things is that there can be functional issues too and because those are problems that can’t be altered chemically that’s where things like CBT and other talking therapies often are helpful.
Having understanding family and friends, a support network somewhere, even just digitally can make a difference.
I completely agree. Awareness is far better than it was but there is still a long way to go with removing the stigma. Talking about it in any form is important.
Thank you for this.
I think the more people get use to the idea that your brain is just another body part than go wrong, whether that be temporarily or long term in the same way that an arm, a leg, a kidney or your heart can fail.
Just because it can’t be seen doesn’t mean it’s not happening
Just because it’s your head doesn’t make it any different to any other part of your body."
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"I’m a bit up and down at the moment, up because I’m off on holiday Wednesday but worried as I’m going to a big city with just my youngest son and he suffers from anxiety. I’m not one for talking and tend to think things through in my own mind. I’ve had to stop exercising as I’ve got an undiagnosed stomach pain that can be aggravated by exercise so seem to have less time to myself.
I’m on citalopram which has helped stop me from crying all the time but the stresses are still there and unlikely to change. I just take each day as it comes and hope the good outweighs the bad x
That does seem like a bit of a mixed bag and quite hard to unpick.
Have you tried alternative therapies to work alongside your medication? As you say; the stresses won't change and just keeping the worst at bay sounds like a tough way to be.
Going away on holiday can be a great thing but whilst focusing on your son, please try and remember to look after yourself and take time for you too. "
Yes my life is pretty complicated, I do try to have time to myself where I just read and empty my head of all the worry. Not sure what other therapies are available and my time can be limited because of caring for my sons. And yes I’ve got a few things planned while he is in taking part of his competition. X |
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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago
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I’m the MH lead at work but use the term Wellbeing champion as the words mental health can place barriers in front of the people you are most trying to help.
We follow the five ways to wellbeing to support our children, families and staff. They are;
Take notice
Connect
Be active
Keep learning
Give
We have an open door policy for our families where I’m available for them when needed. |
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"Im struggling really bad at the moment cant get out the house and massive panic attacks. I was ok tuesday and it came on when i got home tuesday night. Im struggling to type this"
Have you got someone to talk to, or a number you can call. You need some company even if it’s just to hold your hand and let you know you’re not alone x |
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"I’m a bit up and down at the moment, up because I’m off on holiday Wednesday but worried as I’m going to a big city with just my youngest son and he suffers from anxiety. I’m not one for talking and tend to think things through in my own mind. I’ve had to stop exercising as I’ve got an undiagnosed stomach pain that can be aggravated by exercise so seem to have less time to myself.
I’m on citalopram which has helped stop me from crying all the time but the stresses are still there and unlikely to change. I just take each day as it comes and hope the good outweighs the bad x
That does seem like a bit of a mixed bag and quite hard to unpick.
Have you tried alternative therapies to work alongside your medication? As you say; the stresses won't change and just keeping the worst at bay sounds like a tough way to be.
Going away on holiday can be a great thing but whilst focusing on your son, please try and remember to look after yourself and take time for you too.
Yes my life is pretty complicated, I do try to have time to myself where I just read and empty my head of all the worry. Not sure what other therapies are available and my time can be limited because of caring for my sons. And yes I’ve got a few things planned while he is in taking part of his competition. X "
Beyond the medication there are quite a few talking therapies which can help you understand and potentially resolve issues or give you tools to better cope with stresses.
If you go and talk to your GP, they can help and refer you. Just getting by is the very bare minimum |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Thankfully, I’ve not needed medication for a fair few years now (2015 was last time). I was on Citrolopram.
Not sure what the turning point was, but I’m lucky to live in an area with plenty of forestry walks and beaches nearby and personally being outside in nature really, really helps me, rain or shine. I have a walking anorak for every Season
I still have days where i feel down and feel overwhelmed but i feel equipped to manage them myself now, whereas before i’d have mini meltdowns and was in tears, often.
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"Good thread !
It’s important people talk things through and not bottle them up and sometimes with a complete stranger that is easier
I’m a mental health first aider at work, trained to spot the signs as individual’s behaviour, have that initial “are you ok chat” and take it from there
What is really important is understanding how you deal with each different situation; listen without judgment and just be there when needed whatever the time of day. "
What is a mental health first aider? What kind of signs would there be? |
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"Im struggling really bad at the moment cant get out the house and massive panic attacks. I was ok tuesday and it came on when i got home tuesday night. Im struggling to type this"
I'm really sorry to read this, I know that you struggle a times. What do you do that helps? |
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"I’m the MH lead at work but use the term Wellbeing champion as the words mental health can place barriers in front of the people you are most trying to help.
We follow the five ways to wellbeing to support our children, families and staff. They are;
Take notice
Connect
Be active
Keep learning
Give
We have an open door policy for our families where I’m available for them when needed."
I do understand that and removing barriers is important, it shouldn't be a taboo or 'dirty phrase' but sometimes, phrasing can make a big difference.
It sounds really positive what you do. |
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"Thankfully, I’ve not needed medication for a fair few years now (2015 was last time). I was on Citrolopram.
Not sure what the turning point was, but I’m lucky to live in an area with plenty of forestry walks and beaches nearby and personally being outside in nature really, really helps me, rain or shine. I have a walking anorak for every Season
I still have days where i feel down and feel overwhelmed but i feel equipped to manage them myself now, whereas before i’d have mini meltdowns and was in tears, often.
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That's really good to hear. I think that most people who have suffered, recognise that it's not a case of it 'going' but more a case of actively managing and dealing with symptoms, as and when they occur. |
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"thankyou for the pms i will get back to you. My mum has just left me and jay was here for a couple of days. Mum only lives 5 minutes away and my nurse looks after me. If im really bad i have the crisis team number. Thanks for your kindness
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I'm glad that you're being looked after |
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I've had an enormously up and down year so far... Which is better than last year! I'm beginning to like myself and not to worry what others think. Someone called me fat the other day and I shrugged it off, other times I would have gone into a fasting spiral of feeling awful about myself x |
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My depression is rampant,my BPD is wreaking havoc,my bipolar is in yo-yo mode,my anxiety is forever sat on my shoulder whispering away,my ADHD is going nuts,my psychopathy lurks constantly just below the surface and trying to get any help for any of it is like pissing into a gale force wind.Apart from that I'm grand,thanks for asking |
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"I've had an enormously up and down year so far... Which is better than last year! I'm beginning to like myself and not to worry what others think. Someone called me fat the other day and I shrugged it off, other times I would have gone into a fasting spiral of feeling awful about myself x"
I pleased you are starting to see what others do, your a good guy
As for the other comment, they need to get their eyes tested  but I’m glad you were able to shrug it off xx |
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"I never found any benefit from running, but definitely give it a try to anyone who needs a mood lift.
It works for some but don’t worry if it’s not for you, try something else. Everyone’s mental health is different which means the fixes can be too"
Absolutely! I've used CBT, yoga, mindfulness meditation and various drugs over the years. All useful in different ways and at different times. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Good days, and bad days to be honest. I'm finding that distancing myself from people than going to others for help and support is just better for me.
It is easier to deal with things alone, than try to reach out and be pushed away or ignored. In fact the worst thing people can do is offer support and then never give it when needed. False hope is a very dangerous thing to give to somebody.
So many do it, but very rarely ever follow through with it. |
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"My depression is rampant,my BPD is wreaking havoc,my bipolar is in yo-yo mode,my anxiety is forever sat on my shoulder whispering away,my ADHD is going nuts,my psychopathy lurks constantly just below the surface and trying to get any help for any of it is like pissing into a gale force wind.Apart from that I'm grand,thanks for asking "
I'm sorry to read all of this. It does definitely sound as though you need help. Have you been to your GP and asked for a referral? Spoken to crisis assistance? |
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"It's nice to see so many people offering help and talking to each other.
Getting ideas out there of things to try to help."
That's very true, there are some lovely folks around |
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"Good days, and bad days to be honest. I'm finding that distancing myself from people than going to others for help and support is just better for me.
It is easier to deal with things alone, than try to reach out and be pushed away or ignored. In fact the worst thing people can do is offer support and then never give it when needed. False hope is a very dangerous thing to give to somebody.
So many do it, but very rarely ever follow through with it. "
That's really sad to hear but I can also absolutely empathise with how you feel about it. If working things out yourself works for you, then that's OK. If it's a case of 'not really but I've been left hanging too many times', though, then I would say that finding the support that you need would be better than cutting yourself off.
My inbox is open if you want to chat. |
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"Good days, and bad days to be honest. I'm finding that distancing myself from people than going to others for help and support is just better for me.
It is easier to deal with things alone, than try to reach out and be pushed away or ignored. In fact the worst thing people can do is offer support and then never give it when needed. False hope is a very dangerous thing to give to somebody.
So many do it, but very rarely ever follow through with it. "
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I'd just like to say, thank you to the people that have shared. I know it's not always easy to open up about this type of thing and I haven't been able to respond as in depth to everyone as I might have liked, so apologies if I came across as being glib.
If anyone does want or need a chat, whether you've posted or are just reading this, then please do.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Great post as people far to often keep there feeling to themselves ! Especially men. I have my own business and work in the building game so lots of problems and lots of stress ! Now am mentally tough but on occasion it does get to me. I’ve found these things help
1) chocolate
2)wanking
3)having a fuck it attitude
Now this won’t work for everyone but helps me out loads |
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"thankyou for the pms i will get back to you. My mum has just left me and jay was here for a couple of days. Mum only lives 5 minutes away and my nurse looks after me. If im really bad i have the crisis team number. Thanks for your kindness
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I’m glad to hear that, I’ve been worried about you all afternoon x |
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"Mental health is important and there should always be an open chat available for people to talk openly and frankly about things. Support is a vital tool for many people, so I thought that a thread for folks to talk, vent, support or simply post their experiences would be a useful tool for others, even if they don't want to post.
I'm always open to talk things through with people if they want it as well.
So... How are you feeling?
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