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"Definitely.
The way most people communicate is definitely different from real life.
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I think it’s real, but can be a bit of fantasy.
People sometimes treat me like a fantasy or their own made to order porn star and that leaves me uneasy. It’s hard to ask to be treated like a person not parr’s when the parts are on show. This has been on my mind the last few days. I sometimes feel it’s pointless to ask for respect and to find the boundaries of what is a compliment and what’s over the line. Always learning ( sorry I do ramble!). -Mrs. |
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"I certainly hope I don't treat people differently."
No to the second question,it's not like I'm some super model I'm just a normal woman with no super special sexual skills to speak off so a fantasy no. |
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and I don’t treat people differently. I want to talk to them, learn interesting things and chat, it doesn’t mean I’m after love, I have love with the Mr who is my perfect match, I just like people and chatting rubbish and a bit of banter.
I think being here is making me more assertive with people lol -Mrs |
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It's a very different forum to real life, i wouldn't speak to people in the flesh the way i do on here simply because I'm looking for specifics on here. I will always be true to myself but the goals are different and so the interactions reflect this.
Pretty sure i get treated differently but again this is just due to the nature of the site, example being if i walk up to a woman at a bar and try to make small talk I'd like to think most wouldn't just ignore me or "delete" my message. That's not a moan before anyone says, i fully understand the why. |
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over a year ago
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"Definitely.
The way most people communicate is definitely different from real life.
This
I don't usually tell women I want to come on their labia in passing conversation "
Would that be your first message to them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you treat people on here differently because it's not real life?
Do you think people treat you as just a fantasy?"
There are definitely some that treat it as a game, as not "real life"
Yet they forget that being invited into someones relationship IS real life. The words are real, the actions are real, therefore it's fucking real.
Yes, some may wear an alter ego cloak and act completely differently to the person they are away from fab, however, those whom they're interacting with, well, they're real (unless of course they're wearing a cloak too)
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"I think it’s real, but can be a bit of fantasy.
People sometimes treat me like a fantasy or their own made to order porn star and that leaves me uneasy. It’s hard to ask to be treated like a person not parr’s when the parts are on show. This has been on my mind the last few days. I sometimes feel it’s pointless to ask for respect and to find the boundaries of what is a compliment and what’s over the line. Always learning ( sorry I do ramble!). -Mrs."
I like rambling. 
Why can't you ask for respect?
One person's idea of a compliment may be someone else's idea of abuse. |
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The way I see it is online life is real life, that what I believe. So I treat people the same as I would in real life. The only difference is if my perception of them is different than if I met them in real life (people often come across different online) then of course I can only treat them in accordance to my perception of them. |
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"It's a very different forum to real life, i wouldn't speak to people in the flesh the way i do on here simply because I'm looking for specifics on here. I will always be true to myself but the goals are different and so the interactions reflect this.
Pretty sure i get treated differently but again this is just due to the nature of the site, example being if i walk up to a woman at a bar and try to make small talk I'd like to think most wouldn't just ignore me or "delete" my message. That's not a moan before anyone says, i fully understand the why."
Why wouldn't you speak to people in the flesh how you do on here?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Definitely.
The way most people communicate is definitely different from real life.
This
I don't usually tell women I want to come on their labia in passing conversation "
Really? I do that quite often, hmmm maybe that's why I'm single  |
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It's real for us but I also think it can give you an added confidence boost, so you might say things you wouldn't normally outside of fab, you have the chance to be more direct as we all know pretty much why we are here.
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It's a bit of a fantasy that can in some cases can become real.
I (Luke) certainly do treat people on here differently to normal life - not less respectfully, but I feel being flirty is much more appropriate here. I wouldn't dream of talking to people in real life about sexual things in the way I would on here. I wouldn't tell real life about our sexual fantasies and experiences. This is a place of acceptance and much more like-minds. |
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"It's a very different forum to real life, i wouldn't speak to people in the flesh the way i do on here simply because I'm looking for specifics on here. I will always be true to myself but the goals are different and so the interactions reflect this.
Pretty sure i get treated differently but again this is just due to the nature of the site, example being if i walk up to a woman at a bar and try to make small talk I'd like to think most wouldn't just ignore me or "delete" my message. That's not a moan before anyone says, i fully understand the why.
Why wouldn't you speak to people in the flesh how you do on here?
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It's more about context and content, sorry i probably made it sound like i talk to people like a typical internet troll with no repercussion. In life i don't speak to people with the intention of trying to get in their pants(generally) whereas on here it's a primary motivator and so tailor conversation accordingly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Still treat people on here with respect like you would in the real world we have met some good friends through this but it is fantasy with no emotion attached to it what so ever we're all here full fill our own desires nothing more nothing less |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s mainly a fantasy. It only becomes real if I actually meet someone which is rare. "
I treat people as I’d like or expect to be treated given the circumstances. |
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"It’s mainly a fantasy. It only becomes real if I actually meet someone which is rare. "
I like you because of the personality you put across on the forum.. that's real. Even if we never meet. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think for most on here it’s pure fantasy which is sad.
I think this site sort be devided to fantasy fab and real fab as that should help make it easier to get a meet.
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Why is it sad? |
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"It's a very different forum to real life, i wouldn't speak to people in the flesh the way i do on here simply because I'm looking for specifics on here. I will always be true to myself but the goals are different and so the interactions reflect this.
Pretty sure i get treated differently but again this is just due to the nature of the site, example being if i walk up to a woman at a bar and try to make small talk I'd like to think most wouldn't just ignore me or "delete" my message. That's not a moan before anyone says, i fully understand the why.
Why wouldn't you speak to people in the flesh how you do on here?
It's more about context and content, sorry i probably made it sound like i talk to people like a typical internet troll with no repercussion. In life i don't speak to people with the intention of trying to get in their pants(generally) whereas on here it's a primary motivator and so tailor conversation accordingly. "
No I didn't assume you meant like a troll. I wondered if you meant like more sexual in chat, so I asked what you meant. |
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No... I don't see the point in treating anyone in any way differently. Even down to guys who send me inappropriate first messages... I ignore them just as I would if they walked up to me in public and said it  |
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"Still treat people on here with respect like you would in the real world we have met some good friends through this but it is fantasy with no emotion attached to it what so ever we're all here full fill our own desires nothing more nothing less "
But not everyone is here for the same thing and with no emotion. |
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"No... I don't see the point in treating anyone in any way differently. Even down to guys who send me inappropriate first messages... I ignore them just as I would if they walked up to me in public and said it "
You get people randomly showing their bits in the street!?  |
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"No... I don't see the point in treating anyone in any way differently. Even down to guys who send me inappropriate first messages... I ignore them just as I would if they walked up to me in public and said it
You get people randomly showing their bits in the street!? "
It's been known to happen!! |
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I’m not a fantasy
I treat people the same on and off here, if they like me great, if not then I’m not going to pretend to try to be this other person in the hope that they do, I don’t see how that benefits either of us. |
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As I become more active and enjoy the profiles etc I actually think Fab is more reality than fantasy
It's a very honest and at times more brutal way of exploring yourself. I think the rewards once you except the site and way members are will be greater than on any other site...
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"It's a very different forum to real life, i wouldn't speak to people in the flesh the way i do on here simply because I'm looking for specifics on here. I will always be true to myself but the goals are different and so the interactions reflect this.
Pretty sure i get treated differently but again this is just due to the nature of the site, example being if i walk up to a woman at a bar and try to make small talk I'd like to think most wouldn't just ignore me or "delete" my message. That's not a moan before anyone says, i fully understand the why.
Why wouldn't you speak to people in the flesh how you do on here?
It's more about context and content, sorry i probably made it sound like i talk to people like a typical internet troll with no repercussion. In life i don't speak to people with the intention of trying to get in their pants(generally) whereas on here it's a primary motivator and so tailor conversation accordingly.
No I didn't assume you meant like a troll. I wondered if you meant like more sexual in chat, so I asked what you meant. "
Ah well short answer yes, i will rarely open with something overly sexual, maybe a little innuendo but if I'm chatting to someone on here and the conversation is flowing then i would more likely seek a sexual angle at some stage. In the real world i struggle to think of times I've said some of the things I've come out with here. I think also the medium is different, face to face you have to reply instantly and so not being a natural risk taker i air on the safe side unlessthe signals are clear. Here you have time to formulate a response and choose your wording carefully (doesn't always work). Plus there is no consequence to your actions here at least nothing comparable to in person. |
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"As I become more active and enjoy the profiles etc I actually think Fab is more reality than fantasy
It's a very honest and at times more brutal way of exploring yourself. I think the rewards once you except the site and way members are will be greater than on any other site...
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How is it more brutal? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's a very different forum to real life, i wouldn't speak to people in the flesh the way i do on here simply because I'm looking for specifics on here. I will always be true to myself but the goals are different and so the interactions reflect this.
Pretty sure i get treated differently but again this is just due to the nature of the site, example being if i walk up to a woman at a bar and try to make small talk I'd like to think most wouldn't just ignore me or "delete" my message. That's not a moan before anyone says, i fully understand the why.
Why wouldn't you speak to people in the flesh how you do on here?
It's more about context and content, sorry i probably made it sound like i talk to people like a typical internet troll with no repercussion. In life i don't speak to people with the intention of trying to get in their pants(generally) whereas on here it's a primary motivator and so tailor conversation accordingly.
No I didn't assume you meant like a troll. I wondered if you meant like more sexual in chat, so I asked what you meant.
Ah well short answer yes, i will rarely open with something overly sexual, maybe a little innuendo but if I'm chatting to someone on here and the conversation is flowing then i would more likely seek a sexual angle at some stage. In the real world i struggle to think of times I've said some of the things I've come out with here. I think also the medium is different, face to face you have to reply instantly and so not being a natural risk taker i air on the safe side unlessthe signals are clear. Here you have time to formulate a response and choose your wording carefully (doesn't always work). Plus there is no consequence to your actions here at least nothing comparable to in person."
What do you mean no consequence to your actions? |
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"It's a very different forum to real life, i wouldn't speak to people in the flesh the way i do on here simply because I'm looking for specifics on here. I will always be true to myself but the goals are different and so the interactions reflect this.
Pretty sure i get treated differently but again this is just due to the nature of the site, example being if i walk up to a woman at a bar and try to make small talk I'd like to think most wouldn't just ignore me or "delete" my message. That's not a moan before anyone says, i fully understand the why.
Why wouldn't you speak to people in the flesh how you do on here?
It's more about context and content, sorry i probably made it sound like i talk to people like a typical internet troll with no repercussion. In life i don't speak to people with the intention of trying to get in their pants(generally) whereas on here it's a primary motivator and so tailor conversation accordingly.
No I didn't assume you meant like a troll. I wondered if you meant like more sexual in chat, so I asked what you meant.
Ah well short answer yes, i will rarely open with something overly sexual, maybe a little innuendo but if I'm chatting to someone on here and the conversation is flowing then i would more likely seek a sexual angle at some stage. In the real world i struggle to think of times I've said some of the things I've come out with here. I think also the medium is different, face to face you have to reply instantly and so not being a natural risk taker i air on the safe side unlessthe signals are clear. Here you have time to formulate a response and choose your wording carefully (doesn't always work). Plus there is no consequence to your actions here at least nothing comparable to in person.
What do you mean no consequence to your actions?"
So if i say something out of line or that is not taken well on here then the absolute worst that can happen is i get banned from the site.
If I'm flirting with someone at work and get the wrong idea, say something sexual i could be out of a job. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Definitely.
The way most people communicate is definitely different from real life.
This
I don't usually tell women I want to come on their labia in passing conversation
Would that be your first message to them?"
For example;
Last night I commented on a post... I haven't spoken to the couple in question before, but i answered the question they asked. I very much doubt I would have said the same thing if we were at a social, or in a public place...
Lady on the street and all that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's a very different forum to real life, i wouldn't speak to people in the flesh the way i do on here simply because I'm looking for specifics on here. I will always be true to myself but the goals are different and so the interactions reflect this.
Pretty sure i get treated differently but again this is just due to the nature of the site, example being if i walk up to a woman at a bar and try to make small talk I'd like to think most wouldn't just ignore me or "delete" my message. That's not a moan before anyone says, i fully understand the why.
Why wouldn't you speak to people in the flesh how you do on here?
It's more about context and content, sorry i probably made it sound like i talk to people like a typical internet troll with no repercussion. In life i don't speak to people with the intention of trying to get in their pants(generally) whereas on here it's a primary motivator and so tailor conversation accordingly.
No I didn't assume you meant like a troll. I wondered if you meant like more sexual in chat, so I asked what you meant.
Ah well short answer yes, i will rarely open with something overly sexual, maybe a little innuendo but if I'm chatting to someone on here and the conversation is flowing then i would more likely seek a sexual angle at some stage. In the real world i struggle to think of times I've said some of the things I've come out with here. I think also the medium is different, face to face you have to reply instantly and so not being a natural risk taker i air on the safe side unlessthe signals are clear. Here you have time to formulate a response and choose your wording carefully (doesn't always work). Plus there is no consequence to your actions here at least nothing comparable to in person.
What do you mean no consequence to your actions?
So if i say something out of line or that is not taken well on here then the absolute worst that can happen is i get banned from the site.
If I'm flirting with someone at work and get the wrong idea, say something sexual i could be out of a job."
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"As I become more active and enjoy the profiles etc I actually think Fab is more reality than fantasy
It's a very honest and at times more brutal way of exploring yourself. I think the rewards once you except the site and way members are will be greater than on any other site...
How is it more brutal?"
I'm a confident guy generally, I'm out going, I don't think I'm bad looking and I have no problem meeting ladies. ( I don't mean this in an arrogant way )
But on here, none of this seems to matters, I'm polite, friendly and respectful but the level of interest is pretty low...
This is the reality I face on this site and I will continue to learn, understand and in enjoy myself regardless
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"Definitely.
The way most people communicate is definitely different from real life.
This
I don't usually tell women I want to come on their labia in passing conversation
Would that be your first message to them?
For example;
Last night I commented on a post... I haven't spoken to the couple in question before, but i answered the question they asked. I very much doubt I would have said the same thing if we were at a social, or in a public place...
Lady on the street and all that. "
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"As I become more active and enjoy the profiles etc I actually think Fab is more reality than fantasy
It's a very honest and at times more brutal way of exploring yourself. I think the rewards once you except the site and way members are will be greater than on any other site...
How is it more brutal?
I'm a confident guy generally, I'm out going, I don't think I'm bad looking and I have no problem meeting ladies. ( I don't mean this in an arrogant way )
But on here, none of this seems to matters, I'm polite, friendly and respectful but the level of interest is pretty low...
This is the reality I face on this site and I will continue to learn, understand and in enjoy myself regardless
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That means your 'X factor' is only apparent in person - the internet isn't strong enough to handle it.
Take it as a compliment. |
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"As I become more active and enjoy the profiles etc I actually think Fab is more reality than fantasy
It's a very honest and at times more brutal way of exploring yourself. I think the rewards once you except the site and way members are will be greater than on any other site...
How is it more brutal?
I'm a confident guy generally, I'm out going, I don't think I'm bad looking and I have no problem meeting ladies. ( I don't mean this in an arrogant way )
But on here, none of this seems to matters, I'm polite, friendly and respectful but the level of interest is pretty low...
This is the reality I face on this site and I will continue to learn, understand and in enjoy myself regardless
That means your 'X factor' is only apparent in person - the internet isn't strong enough to handle it.
Take it as a compliment. "
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I think some people use fab as a distraction from real life... And maybe a fantasy in that sense.
How I treat and speak to people is the same on here as in real life. Im not here to be something I'm not because that would only become evident if I met someone. Why be someone your not?
At times I do fanatasise though... Especially with those I know I will never met or can't met...  |
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"It’s mainly a fantasy. It only becomes real if I actually meet someone which is rare.
I like you because of the personality you put across on the forum.. that's real. Even if we never meet."
Yeah that bits real as is the lack of thought that goes into my posts before hitting send |
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"It’s mainly a fantasy. It only becomes real if I actually meet someone which is rare.
I like you because of the personality you put across on the forum.. that's real. Even if we never meet.
Yeah that bits real as is the lack of thought that goes into my posts before hitting send "
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I think I'm more open on here when it comes to talking about sex and flirting. I'm definitely not as flirty and filthy in real life. So, in that way, I probably do treat and talk to people differently. I think my personality does come across though, so it isn't all fantasy.
It would be interesting to be put in a room with you all and see how different it was. |
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"I think I'm more open on here when it comes to talking about sex and flirting. I'm definitely not as flirty and filthy in real life. So, in that way, I probably do treat and talk to people differently. I think my personality does come across though, so it isn't all fantasy.
It would be interesting to be put in a room with you all and see how different it was."
Try a forum social. |
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I am not into fantasy
There are people I'd like to have sex with
There are people I'd happy to be friends with
There are people who I would be polite with but wouldn't want to know them
That applies on here and in real life |
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My world is a bit surreal compared to most and this is just part of it. I wouldn't speak to anybody on here any different than I would face to face, or vice versa.
This site is just part of my life.
And sometimes it isn't at all.
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"Do you treat people on here differently because it's not real life?
Do you think people treat you as just a fantasy?"
I treat people differently in some respects but not because it's not real life, because it's a different part of my life.
Some people treat me as if I'm not quite a real person but mostly they're fine |
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