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By *coxy69 OP Man
over a year ago
Stone |
Come on guys, where am I going wrong?
I ALWAYS read the profiles before I send a message
I literally play by the rules!!
The only thing I will not do (anymore) is send a message with a photo 1st time! Don’t tell me that this is the thing that holding me back, it actually makes no difference
I get it, i’m No spring chicken and i’m No oil painting but...
For my age a have a great body that is well and truly looked after!
I see lots of “sick of time wasters” yet I can’t get a bloody response
Perhaps this is just not for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There isn't much to go off on your profile. You have one picture of a leg, and nothing in your profile text that gives any idea of who you are, what you like, what you're looking for. You need to sell yourself  |
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I'm also the same boat, every message is personalised and not a short "I wanna fuck u" but rarely get a reply? Just to many guys around late 40's/50 I guess?
Most women of 40/50 want a 20/30 something and and most women aged 20/30 want a similar age...
so maybe we should be aiming at 65+? lol
maybe change your photo - as cant tell wht it is until you click in so can be off putting?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately great thighs, nice body and being a "nice/decent/genuine bloke" is not enough for me... I need to fancy your face and personality over everything! If I can't see a face in your first message or on your profile (as mine is showing when I am meeting) then I don't respond. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Come on guys, where am I going wrong?
I ALWAYS read the profiles before I send a message
I literally play by the rules!!
The only thing I will not do (anymore) is send a message with a photo 1st time! Don’t tell me that this is the thing that holding me back, it actually makes no difference
I get it, i’m No spring chicken and i’m No oil painting but...
For my age a have a great body that is well and truly looked after!
I see lots of “sick of time wasters” yet I can’t get a bloody response
Perhaps this is just not for me"
Firstly chill
I takes a while for people to know you
Read the pages of pages of advice and be you
We guys out number women pretty much 70/30 and yes there are some guys that look like god's but not everyone is into gods make a girl laugh and feel comfortable and everything will click into place.
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By *coxy69 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Unfortunately great thighs, nice body and being a "nice/decent/genuine bloke" is not enough for me... I need to fancy your face and personality over everything! If I can't see a face in your first message or on your profile (as mine is showing when I am meeting) then I don't respond. "
It’s a fair point but... want to keep my face off here unless in a PM |
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By *dinMan
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Come on guys, where am I going wrong?
I ALWAYS read the profiles before I send a message
I literally play by the rules!!
The only thing I will not do (anymore) is send a message with a photo 1st time! Don’t tell me that this is the thing that holding me back, it actually makes no difference
I get it, i’m No spring chicken and i’m No oil painting but...
For my age a have a great body that is well and truly looked after!
I see lots of “sick of time wasters” yet I can’t get a bloody response
Perhaps this is just not for me"
It's just good manners to finish after the lady  |
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"There isn't much to go off on your profile. You have one picture of a leg, and nothing in your profile text that gives any idea of who you are, what you like, what you're looking for. You need to sell yourself "
This, need a bit more about you, what you like, why you here, show us your personality |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most people would look at profile/pics when deciding whether to answer the message. There is nothing that would entice me to reply with anything but 'thanks but no, thanks' or similar. If you don't make yourself stand out, you won't have much luck. |
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By *coxy69 OP Man
over a year ago
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"There isn't much to go off on your profile. You have one picture of a leg, and nothing in your profile text that gives any idea of who you are, what you like, what you're looking for. You need to sell yourself "
Thanks ???? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The more effort you put in,the more you get out! Been said so many times. Your profile is as dull as 99 percent of them and your profile photo, what is it? You knee, your elbow? Just strange... |
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If you finish last it's aided by your choices. If a woman wants to see a photo (and who could blame them if they do?) and they have a choice of two messages - one with a face photo and one with a leg photo - what do you think they will pay more attention to?
If they have a choice between a profile with information, humour and a few photos, or one with a few sentences saying not very much, what do you think they are going to pay more attention to?
It's not that being nice puts you out of the running, it's that you are up against men that will present themselves in a way you refuse to.
You may not be the master of your own destiny on here but there are things you could do to give yourself a fighting chance but don't or won't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you want to know more, drop me a message". Really ? That tells me nothing if what you offer or seek, it reflects nothing if your personality. You read other profiles before constructing a message, great, but I am assuming the profiles you read give you something to indicate you seek the same as them. They read yours, they see what ?
More information and and a reflection of you would be better. Oh, and another leg  |
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"Come on guys, where am I going wrong?
I ALWAYS read the profiles before I send a message
I literally play by the rules!!
The only thing I will not do (anymore) is send a message with a photo 1st time! Don’t tell me that this is the thing that holding me back, it actually makes no difference
I get it, i’m No spring chicken and i’m No oil painting but...
For my age a have a great body that is well and truly looked after!
I see lots of “sick of time wasters” yet I can’t get a bloody response
Perhaps this is just not for me"
Think you'll find a face pic does make a massive difference. Why wouldn't you send one? |
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The only fun you're likely to get here mate is on the forums you've more chance of becoming king of England than getting laid on here, I gave up sending messages, you never get a reply even when it's says on their profile message me, it's just not worth bothering about, stick to the forum mate or look at other sites |
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"Come on guys, where am I going wrong?
I ALWAYS read the profiles before I send a message
I literally play by the rules!!
The only thing I will not do (anymore) is send a message with a photo 1st time! Don’t tell me that this is the thing that holding me back, it actually makes no difference
I get it, i’m No spring chicken and i’m No oil painting but...
For my age a have a great body that is well and truly looked after!
I see lots of “sick of time wasters” yet I can’t get a bloody response
Perhaps this is just not for me"
Ok I've turned my phone a few times, what is your profile picture of? Jo x |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds |
"Come on guys, where am I going wrong?
I ALWAYS read the profiles before I send a message
I literally play by the rules!!
The only thing I will not do (anymore) is send a message with a photo 1st time! Don’t tell me that this is the thing that holding me back, it actually makes no difference
I get it, i’m No spring chicken and i’m No oil painting but...
For my age a have a great body that is well and truly looked after!
I see lots of “sick of time wasters” yet I can’t get a bloody response
Perhaps this is just not for me"
Folk often suggest reasons (outside of their control) for their failings or lack of success ..when as often as not the real reasom lays far closer to home.
Have fun  |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds |
"Come on guys, where am I going wrong?
I ALWAYS read the profiles before I send a message
I literally play by the rules!!
The only thing I will not do (anymore) is send a message with a photo 1st time! Don’t tell me that this is the thing that holding me back, it actually makes no difference
I get it, i’m No spring chicken and i’m No oil painting but...
For my age a have a great body that is well and truly looked after!
I see lots of “sick of time wasters” yet I can’t get a bloody response
Perhaps this is just not for me
Ok I've turned my phone a few times, what is your profile picture of? Jo x"
Ok (I'm not ghey) I did look though . Its his tensed thigh |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Come on guys, where am I going wrong?
I ALWAYS read the profiles before I send a message
I literally play by the rules!!
The only thing I will not do (anymore) is send a message with a photo 1st time! Don’t tell me that this is the thing that holding me back, it actually makes no difference
I get it, i’m No spring chicken and i’m No oil painting but...
For my age a have a great body that is well and truly looked after!
I see lots of “sick of time wasters” yet I can’t get a bloody response
Perhaps this is just not for me"
No profile info, one pic of your leg, whiny status and whiny forum post, what do YOU think is holding you back? |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds |
"Why do men keep saying that nice guys finish last? Do you all honestly think all women want horrible men? "
Great lovers finish last. 
And in answer to your question.. not all women..just the ones we can't have ..its just gotta be why .. isn't it |
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"How does my profile come across miss Claire "
It’s ok, a couple of photos, be good to see more. Mixture of veris, including recent ones. Bio could have more, put me off reading about 3somes straight away, might appeal to some |
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"Why do men keep saying that nice guys finish last? Do you all honestly think all women want horrible men?
Great lovers finish last.
And in answer to your question.. not all women..just the ones we can't have ..its just gotta be why .. isn't it "
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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago
the land of saints & sinners |
"A profile is like a shop window. Put something in it to tempt people in."
Add that you are partial to a Mexican pancake and you should be fist deep in clunge by the end of the week..... |
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By *coxy69 OP Man
over a year ago
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"It's not personal, I'm told that most men have a hard time.
What kind of messages are you sending?"
For example, the last message I sent to a lady she was asking fFor something specific in her profile,
I “fitted the bill” so messaged to telling her I was up for it but asked how a question or two to get the conversation going, at the end I asked if she wanted to swap a face photo, both of us didn’t have face photos on our profiles
She read the message and blocked me |
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"It's not personal, I'm told that most men have a hard time.
What kind of messages are you sending?
For example, the last message I sent to a lady she was asking fFor something specific in her profile,
I “fitted the bill” so messaged to telling her I was up for it but asked how a question or two to get the conversation going, at the end I asked if she wanted to swap a face photo, both of us didn’t have face photos on our profiles
She read the message and blocked me "
Ah, you THOUGHT you ‘fitted the bill’. All I can suggest is don’t get downhearted and don’t take it personally. Try this message: “GIZZASHAGYABITCH”. |
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