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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Says

‘Mum, you look really pretty today’

You know you can’t look too shabby

Yes I know she could be buttering me up, but I’m holding on to this as a genuine compliment.

Can you tell the difference between genuine compliments and the ones with an ulterior motive ?

I’m so cynical - I’m still questioning whether I am the most hilarious on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I tend to go by which ones I believe. If they are genuine they tend to get me right in the feels.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I tend to go by which ones I believe. If they are genuine they tend to get me right in the feels. "

That gut feeling

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think to be a genuine compliment there isn't an ulterior motive behind it! So on here I take them as a bit tongue in cheek! Yes a guy can think a lady is hot but unless they would actually say that when they're out and met her casually then I wouldn't take it as genuine on here! Even though lots probably do mean it, perhaps it is genuine but there will always be an ulterior motive on fab?

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By *rReyMan over a year ago

Fleet

The minute my teen talks to me at all, they're after something.

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By *dam1971Man over a year ago

Bedford

I think teenagers always have an ulterior motive, however sometimes there’s a coincidence of what they say being true

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think to be a genuine compliment there isn't an ulterior motive behind it! So on here I take them as a bit tongue in cheek! Yes a guy can think a lady is hot but unless they would actually say that when they're out and met her casually then I wouldn't take it as genuine on here! Even though lots probably do mean it, perhaps it is genuine but there will always be an ulterior motive on fab? "

Yup

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The minute my teen talks to me at all, they're after something.

I hear you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think teenagers always have an ulterior motive, however sometimes there’s a coincidence of what they say being true

I’m believing her ... I choose to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes I have a hard time believing compliments. If they come from someone who's not usually full of shit they give me a nice little boost.

Compliments about who I am always mean more to me than those about how I physically look. I struggle to believe anyone really finds me that attractive lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sometimes I have a hard time believing compliments. If they come from someone who's not usually full of shit they give me a nice little boost.

Compliments about who I am always mean more to me than those about how I physically look. I struggle to believe anyone really finds me that attractive lol"

I genuinely mean this

You’re gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sometimes I have a hard time believing compliments. If they come from someone who's not usually full of shit they give me a nice little boost.

Compliments about who I am always mean more to me than those about how I physically look. I struggle to believe anyone really finds me that attractive lol

I genuinely mean this

You’re gorgeous "

As are you! Inside and out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ah from the teen, it’s at least half genuine, they took the time to focus on being nice. Take it as a win, parents of teens get enough shit.

You are beautiful.

-Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sometimes I have a hard time believing compliments. If they come from someone who's not usually full of shit they give me a nice little boost.

Compliments about who I am always mean more to me than those about how I physically look. I struggle to believe anyone really finds me that attractive lol

I genuinely mean this

You’re gorgeous

As are you! Inside and out

Oh gosh

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ah from the teen, it’s at least half genuine, they took the time to focus on being nice. Take it as a win, parents of teens get enough shit.

You are beautiful.

-Mrs"

I’m winning at parenting

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By *rReyMan over a year ago

Fleet

"The minute my teen talks to me at all, they're after something.

I hear you "

But without any ulterior motive, you are gorgeous. I have said so on many threads

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The minute my teen talks to me at all, they're after something.

I hear you

But without any ulterior motive, you are gorgeous. I have said so on many threads

Too lovely - thanks

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By *latinumkittenWoman over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

I'm pretty astute, though at times, I'm definitely in a gullible haze. I think it depends if I want to believe it from that person, at that time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah they speak the truth. I remember wearing quite a short skirt with tights and boots and thought it looked quite good. Until I got Mum you look like Shirley off Eastenders.

Love em

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I tend to believe the ones that compliment my work/my mind/my words. I can believe them, you sort of know the intent behind which someone says something. I give people compliments a fair amount I think and I do sometimes worry it comes across as insincere but when I do think x about something I want to share it.

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

I believe my kids when they compliment me. My 9 year old is a charmer and he knows how to compliment the ladies, but my 7 year old has ASD and is very matter of fact, painfully blunt and very, very honest - if he says i look pretty i’m always secretly pleased

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm pretty astute, though at times, I'm definitely in a gullible haze. I think it depends if I want to believe it from that person, at that time."

Yea I get that too

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yeah they speak the truth. I remember wearing quite a short skirt with tights and boots and thought it looked quite good. Until I got Mum you look like Shirley off Eastenders.

Love em

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I tend to believe the ones that compliment my work/my mind/my words. I can believe them, you sort of know the intent behind which someone says something. I give people compliments a fair amount I think and I do sometimes worry it comes across as insincere but when I do think x about something I want to share it."

I love the openness of compliments that are so sincere, you just have to say them when you think them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I believe my kids when they compliment me. My 9 year old is a charmer and he knows how to compliment the ladies, but my 7 year old has ASD and is very matter of fact, painfully blunt and very, very honest - if he says i look pretty i’m always secretly pleased

God bless the honesty that comes without filters

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By *cgkcCouple over a year ago

Hitchin

'It's very you, dad' is my teen's diplomatic go-to when confronted by my latest outre purchase.

I'll certainly take praise in the spirit in which it's given. I try not to brush off a compliment, but a dash of self-deprecation will slip in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"'It's very you, dad' is my teen's diplomatic go-to when confronted by my latest outre purchase.

I'll certainly take praise in the spirit in which it's given. I try not to brush off a compliment, but a dash of self-deprecation will slip in. "

I know what you mean

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By *edmark07Man over a year ago

liverpool

"Sometimes I have a hard time believing compliments. If they come from someone who's not usually full of shit they give me a nice little boost.

Compliments about who I am always mean more to me than those about how I physically look. I struggle to believe anyone really finds me that attractive lol"

This made me a little sad. Your very gorgeous, I'd hope your hear that every day. Quite rightly

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan over a year ago

Seen in far off places

When my teenage daughter says "Dad, you look nice", or something similar, I believe it's meant with genuine intent.

There's nobody I'd rather hear it from either.

Floro - you ARE very pretty from what I've seen...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"When my teenage daughter says "Dad, you look nice", or something similar, I believe it's meant with genuine intent.

There's nobody I'd rather hear it from either.

Floro - you ARE very pretty from what I've seen..."

Cheers

The bits you’ve not seen are pretty horrendous

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

My 10 year old said

Mum you're not very wrinkly , are you?

I'm taking that as a backhanded compliment!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My 10 year old said

Mum you're not very wrinkly , are you?

I'm taking that as a backhanded compliment!"

Mine named my forehead wrinkle

Maureen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My middle child ( 22 now) has aspergers and I felt the same when he complimented me. I get that

You are pretty. - Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

My middle child ( 22 now) has aspergers and I felt the same when he complimented me. I get that

You are pretty. - Mrs "

Heartfelt compliments

The best

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

I can tell genuine compliments from false flattery. I know pretty much what I look like and my character so if someone says I look 35 I know they're flattering with intent.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I tend to be very cynical about most compliments I receive especially on here. But I know that the ones I get off someone special are truly genuine and heartfelt. Plus my youngest is ASD and if he says I look good I must. Yesterday I tried on a new dress style I bought ready for holiday, he said I don’t like it makes you look big. Dress is going back today! X

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman over a year ago

Hull

I believe my son when he gives me a compliment he's nearly 14 so I know he doesn't say it unless he means it. Nothing makes me feel happier.

As for on here I take anything that is said to me with a big sack of salt... Apart from if from maybe two of my close friends on here. I don't like been cynical but it's hard not to be when experience hasn't showed me to be anything less. Sad but true

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By *ookie46Woman over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

My youngest has ASD and years ago he said to me “ Mam I wouldn’t say you’re fat, you might look it but I wouldn’t say it.” Didn’t know wether to laugh or cry

Absolute legend that boy in my eyes

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I tend to let compliments land from people I've developed rapport with.

I can choose to accept them more generally, although don't always. But I'm very good at keeping "You're hot" separate from "therefore you owe me attention". (so often the way on here!)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I get a compliment I take it as genuine. I’m not the sort of person that receives them unless they are. I also don’t give them lightly.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"My youngest has ASD and years ago he said to me “ Mam I wouldn’t say you’re fat, you might look it but I wouldn’t say it.” Didn’t know wether to laugh or cry

Absolute legend that boy in my eyes

Oh that's sweet. Ish

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If my kids take the time to leave their ps4 or iPad or phone to speak to me ,know they're after something

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve also started giving less compliments than I used to, because they are taken with a pinch of salt.

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