"I've had a little luck... More than on here..
But as usual nothing comes of it.
She's went quiet and hasn't replied after a few weeks talking."
I get bored of chatting for a few weeks without a meet from tinder or pof so maybe that was why she went quiet.
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Luck implies success but if you've met people and it's been unsuccessful then luck hasn't much to do with it right? This is why most return to fab. And luck you definitely need on here to meet anyone half decent. You can get a shag easy as but finding someone worth it is virtually impossible. |
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"Luck implies success but if you've met people and it's been unsuccessful then luck hasn't much to do with it right? This is why most return to fab. And luck you definitely need on here to meet anyone half decent. You can get a shag easy as but finding someone worth it is virtually impossible. "
I agree,the standard of men is dire. |
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"I've had a little luck... More than on here..
But as usual nothing comes of it.
She's went quiet and hasn't replied after a few weeks talking.
I get bored of chatting for a few weeks without a meet from tinder or pof so maybe that was why she went quiet.
Maybe suggest a meet quicker "
I did... Planned a date and everything but she got called in for work ... She kept messaging first but things got slower, we got to know alot about eachother but it doesnt matter now. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"No,but Bumble is getting frustrating. You match,you message,silence..."
That is even worse for men. As we can't even initiate a convo. Just get a match and not even a half assed hi most of the time. |
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"No,but Bumble is getting frustrating. You match,you message,silence...
That is even worse for men. As we can't even initiate a convo. Just get a match and not even a half assed hi most of the time."
I don't think it's worse for men I think it's equally frustrating for both,I mean why swipe right if you're not going to reply to any messages you receive.
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"I found bumble was the worst, pof not so keen on, tinder is good for matching but very boring, just sitting swiping  "
See bumble is my fav. I like that it gives the first move to women. |
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I found a lot on Tinder just wanted lots of matches for an ego boost. I did get a couple of good matches though including one guy who also turned out to be into latex and BDSM. We met up for a few months before he went travelling round the world. It was good fun while it lasted! |
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"I've had a little luck... More than on here..
But as usual nothing comes of it.
She's went quiet and hasn't replied after a few weeks talking.
I get bored of chatting for a few weeks without a meet from tinder or pof so maybe that was why she went quiet.
Maybe suggest a meet quicker I did... Planned a date and everything but she got called in for work ... She kept messaging first but things got slower, we got to know alot about eachother but it doesnt matter now."
That’s happened to me a couple of times too I guess there is no winning formula  |
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"I found bumble was the worst, pof not so keen on, tinder is good for matching but very boring, just sitting swiping
See bumble is my fav. I like that it gives the first move to women. "
Yeah I don’t mind that lol it’s just the content of women Is not what I’m looking for that’s all |
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"No,but Bumble is getting frustrating. You match,you message,silence...
You do know as a woman you have to send the first message as the guys can't right? "
Oh my God is that right?! Yes I did know annddddd just now another one has expired...bonus though if I pay £936 for a month I can have the chance to rematch,lucky me  |
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"No,but Bumble is getting frustrating. You match,you message,silence...
You do know as a woman you have to send the first message as the guys can't right?
Oh my God is that right?! Yes I did know annddddd just now another one has expired...bonus though if I pay £936 for a month I can have the chance to rematch,lucky me "
Anyway dopey read what I wrote... |
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"I found bumble was the worst, pof not so keen on, tinder is good for matching but very boring, just sitting swiping
See bumble is my fav. I like that it gives the first move to women.
Yeah I don’t mind that lol it’s just the content of women Is not what I’m looking for that’s all "
In London they are much better than ’ve seen elsewhere. Lots more choice. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"No,but Bumble is getting frustrating. You match,you message,silence...
That is even worse for men. As we can't even initiate a convo. Just get a match and not even a half assed hi most of the time.
I don't think it's worse for men I think it's equally frustrating for both,I mean why swipe right if you're not going to reply to any messages you receive.
You men like to think that everything's always worse for you "
No sorry what I mean is that since it is only the women that can send the first message, that greatly reduces the chances of a conversation being started in the first place.
Its the exact same or premise as tinder but at least either party can take the first step and message on tinder. Bumble meanwhile is just as many matches and even less conversations started (regardless of how long they go on for). |
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"No,but Bumble is getting frustrating. You match,you message,silence...
That is even worse for men. As we can't even initiate a convo. Just get a match and not even a half assed hi most of the time.
I don't think it's worse for men I think it's equally frustrating for both,I mean why swipe right if you're not going to reply to any messages you receive.
You men like to think that everything's always worse for you
No sorry what I mean is that since it is only the women that can send the first message, that greatly reduces the chances of a conversation being started in the first place.
Its the exact same or premise as tinder but at least either party can take the first step and message on tinder. Bumble meanwhile is just as many matches and even less conversations started (regardless of how long they go on for). "
The woman that set it up worked for tinder and had a lawsuit against someone for sexual harassment. She then decided to set up bumble, giving women the power to make the first move. I like that you have a time limit too as it makes you make contact or lose the match. |
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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago
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Very little success on Tinder - most won't even respond, let alone chat (although I'm guilty of that sometimes). Only met with one who was a fb for a while. Seem to get heaps of matches when I'm hundreds of miles from home - they love me in Glasgow. It's not the shagfest people assume though, most profiles say they're after ltr. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"No,but Bumble is getting frustrating. You match,you message,silence...
That is even worse for men. As we can't even initiate a convo. Just get a match and not even a half assed hi most of the time.
I don't think it's worse for men I think it's equally frustrating for both,I mean why swipe right if you're not going to reply to any messages you receive.
You men like to think that everything's always worse for you
No sorry what I mean is that since it is only the women that can send the first message, that greatly reduces the chances of a conversation being started in the first place.
Its the exact same or premise as tinder but at least either party can take the first step and message on tinder. Bumble meanwhile is just as many matches and even less conversations started (regardless of how long they go on for).
The woman that set it up worked for tinder and had a lawsuit against someone for sexual harassment. She then decided to set up bumble, giving women the power to make the first move. I like that you have a time limit too as it makes you make contact or lose the match. "
Oh I get that. And understandable for the reasons. It just carries over one of the downsides of tinder, and makes it even worse. |
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over a year ago
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"No,but Bumble is getting frustrating. You match,you message,silence...
That is even worse for men. As we can't even initiate a convo. Just get a match and not even a half assed hi most of the time.
I don't think it's worse for men I think it's equally frustrating for both,I mean why swipe right if you're not going to reply to any messages you receive.
You men like to think that everything's always worse for you
No sorry what I mean is that since it is only the women that can send the first message, that greatly reduces the chances of a conversation being started in the first place.
Its the exact same or premise as tinder but at least either party can take the first step and message on tinder. Bumble meanwhile is just as many matches and even less conversations started (regardless of how long they go on for).
The woman that set it up worked for tinder and had a lawsuit against someone for sexual harassment. She then decided to set up bumble, giving women the power to make the first move. I like that you have a time limit too as it makes you make contact or lose the match.
Oh I get that. And understandable for the reasons. It just carries over one of the downsides of tinder, and makes it even worse. "
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Nope don't even get me started on online dating... In fact it's official I give up... You read it here first... Talk about NSA on those sites.. Or just been able to be open and honest about sex..you can't on there because they just think your an easy lay grrrrr.
I don't want a vanilla sex life, I want a varied and exciting one... I want more then just one off fab meets but it ain't happening at the moment. So I will just embrace my single life if no one wants what I would like then that's fine... FAF   |
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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago
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"I have met plenty in the past. Not used it much recently, now using hinge, bumble and feeld when I feel like browsing. "
I've quite liked feeld, apart from the glitches. It strips away the bullshit you get on other apps. Bumble I hated, only one match - with a lesbian - and it told me to start the conversation. My settings were all correct.  |
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"No,but Bumble is getting frustrating. You match,you message,silence...
That is even worse for men. As we can't even initiate a convo. Just get a match and not even a half assed hi most of the time.
I don't think it's worse for men I think it's equally frustrating for both,I mean why swipe right if you're not going to reply to any messages you receive.
You men like to think that everything's always worse for you
No sorry what I mean is that since it is only the women that can send the first message, that greatly reduces the chances of a conversation being started in the first place.
Its the exact same or premise as tinder but at least either party can take the first step and message on tinder. Bumble meanwhile is just as many matches and even less conversations started (regardless of how long they go on for). "
It's just annoying when there is a match and you send a message that they don't respond,I don't understand it. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"No,but Bumble is getting frustrating. You match,you message,silence...
That is even worse for men. As we can't even initiate a convo. Just get a match and not even a half assed hi most of the time.
I don't think it's worse for men I think it's equally frustrating for both,I mean why swipe right if you're not going to reply to any messages you receive.
You men like to think that everything's always worse for you
No sorry what I mean is that since it is only the women that can send the first message, that greatly reduces the chances of a conversation being started in the first place.
Its the exact same or premise as tinder but at least either party can take the first step and message on tinder. Bumble meanwhile is just as many matches and even less conversations started (regardless of how long they go on for).
It's just annoying when there is a match and you send a message that they don't respond,I don't understand it."
Exactly, and that kind of is my point with the selling point but also the downside of bumble.
Tinder - get a match, either one can initiate the conversation. Replies to that can then vary.
Bumble - get a match, then have to wait for only one side to send the first message. Fair enough replies even at thst point will still vary.
Initial connection is just one way, and despite having a good number of matches on bumble, I've had 5 conversations started.
Compared to tinder where I can at least attempt to start the conversation - which actually often helps get the ball rolling. |
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"No,but Bumble is getting frustrating. You match,you message,silence...
That is even worse for men. As we can't even initiate a convo. Just get a match and not even a half assed hi most of the time.
I don't think it's worse for men I think it's equally frustrating for both,I mean why swipe right if you're not going to reply to any messages you receive.
You men like to think that everything's always worse for you
No sorry what I mean is that since it is only the women that can send the first message, that greatly reduces the chances of a conversation being started in the first place.
Its the exact same or premise as tinder but at least either party can take the first step and message on tinder. Bumble meanwhile is just as many matches and even less conversations started (regardless of how long they go on for).
It's just annoying when there is a match and you send a message that they don't respond,I don't understand it.
Exactly, and that kind of is my point with the selling point but also the downside of bumble.
Tinder - get a match, either one can initiate the conversation. Replies to that can then vary.
Bumble - get a match, then have to wait for only one side to send the first message. Fair enough replies even at thst point will still vary.
Initial connection is just one way, and despite having a good number of matches on bumble, I've had 5 conversations started.
Compared to tinder where I can at least attempt to start the conversation - which actually often helps get the ball rolling. "
But this way, tinder ends up being more a hook up than bumble. |
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"No,but Bumble is getting frustrating. You match,you message,silence...
That is even worse for men. As we can't even initiate a convo. Just get a match and not even a half assed hi most of the time.
I don't think it's worse for men I think it's equally frustrating for both,I mean why swipe right if you're not going to reply to any messages you receive.
You men like to think that everything's always worse for you
No sorry what I mean is that since it is only the women that can send the first message, that greatly reduces the chances of a conversation being started in the first place.
Its the exact same or premise as tinder but at least either party can take the first step and message on tinder. Bumble meanwhile is just as many matches and even less conversations started (regardless of how long they go on for).
It's just annoying when there is a match and you send a message that they don't respond,I don't understand it."
I don't mean to be cynical but a lot of people are married or taken on the dating sites and just want to see who they cam match with.. Or they just can't be bothered. It's the same for both genders. But I agree it is very frustrating.. Which is why I've given up now haha x |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Initial connection is just one way, and despite having a good number of matches on bumble, I've had 5 conversations started.
Compared to tinder where I can at least attempt to start the conversation - which actually often helps get the ball rolling.
But this way, tinder ends up being more a hook up than bumble. "
Yes which is one of the upsides to a certain point. But it is definitely at the detriment of sparking initial connections and conversations do to it all being in the hands of a single party. It is a trade off more than an actual overwhelming benefit that fixes the problem.
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"Initial connection is just one way, and despite having a good number of matches on bumble, I've had 5 conversations started.
Compared to tinder where I can at least attempt to start the conversation - which actually often helps get the ball rolling.
But this way, tinder ends up being more a hook up than bumble.
Yes which is one of the upsides to a certain point. But it is definitely at the detriment of sparking initial connections and conversations do to it all being in the hands of a single party. It is a trade off more than an actual overwhelming benefit that fixes the problem.
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Which is why I prefer bumble as gives time to answer after maybe initially swiping horny. I don’t want a hook up, I want someone a bit more serious about getting to know me. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Initial connection is just one way, and despite having a good number of matches on bumble, I've had 5 conversations started.
Compared to tinder where I can at least attempt to start the conversation - which actually often helps get the ball rolling.
But this way, tinder ends up being more a hook up than bumble.
Yes which is one of the upsides to a certain point. But it is definitely at the detriment of sparking initial connections and conversations do to it all being in the hands of a single party. It is a trade off more than an actual overwhelming benefit that fixes the problem.
Which is why I prefer bumble as gives time to answer after maybe initially swiping horny. I don’t want a hook up, I want someone a bit more serious about getting to know me. "
I get that, and from the point of view as you taking it seriously it works.
Flip it around, as a guy using it seriously it is twice as frustrating because, I don't mean this as a men vs women argument but a purely functional practice.
Put yourself on the other end of it but somehow suspend your disbelief that hookups are not allowed at all (somehow), that man are only able to initiate conversation. You see match after match and no message and no way to "bump" the connection forward. It just sits there until it expires.
The bottom line is, the problem is people. As I've said, I've so far had many more serious connections (not hookups) from tinder than bumble, because I was able to nudge the conversation forward instead of only one side having all the control. |
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I’ve used tinder a few times over the years and every time I go back to it, it’s a little worse than the time before. A fair few matches each time, but no one talks, and if they do it’s very half arsed. |
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"No,but Bumble is getting frustrating. You match,you message,silence...
That is even worse for men. As we can't even initiate a convo. Just get a match and not even a half assed hi most of the time.
I don't think it's worse for men I think it's equally frustrating for both,I mean why swipe right if you're not going to reply to any messages you receive.
You men like to think that everything's always worse for you
No sorry what I mean is that since it is only the women that can send the first message, that greatly reduces the chances of a conversation being started in the first place.
Its the exact same or premise as tinder but at least either party can take the first step and message on tinder. Bumble meanwhile is just as many matches and even less conversations started (regardless of how long they go on for).
It's just annoying when there is a match and you send a message that they don't respond,I don't understand it.
I don't mean to be cynical but a lot of people are married or taken on the dating sites and just want to see who they cam match with.. Or they just can't be bothered. It's the same for both genders. But I agree it is very frustrating.. Which is why I've given up now haha x"
You're probably right it would make sense with all the blank profiles. You can't write much on Bumble but to read something would be nice. |
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over a year ago
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"I found bumble was the worst, pof not so keen on, tinder is good for matching but very boring, just sitting swiping
See bumble is my fav. I like that it gives the first move to women. "
So is bumble worth it for the over 40s too? |
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"I found bumble was the worst, pof not so keen on, tinder is good for matching but very boring, just sitting swiping
See bumble is my fav. I like that it gives the first move to women.
So is bumble worth it for the over 40s too?"
I’m 48 and like it. Depends on where you live tbh. |
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"I found bumble was the worst, pof not so keen on, tinder is good for matching but very boring, just sitting swiping
See bumble is my fav. I like that it gives the first move to women.
So is bumble worth it for the over 40s too?
I’m 48 and like it. Depends on where you live tbh. "
I use bumble.. Haven't had any success but I find it better then the others xx |
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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago
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"I found bumble was the worst, pof not so keen on, tinder is good for matching but very boring, just sitting swiping
See bumble is my fav. I like that it gives the first move to women.
So is bumble worth it for the over 40s too?"
No, I'm not on Bumble. |
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over a year ago
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In installed without issue, that's about as much luck as I had while I had it. Made me think I must have a face only a mother could love lol although it told me I had 10 plus people who had swiped right on me, I never had a match. Think it tells you that so that you'll pay to see who it is that swiped right. |
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"In installed without issue, that's about as much luck as I had while I had it. Made me think I must have a face only a mother could love lol although it told me I had 10 plus people who had swiped right on me, I never had a match. Think it tells you that so that you'll pay to see who it is that swiped right. "
that's exactly it  companies know they can exploit us like that |
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over a year ago
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"In installed without issue, that's about as much luck as I had while I had it. Made me think I must have a face only a mother could love lol although it told me I had 10 plus people who had swiped right on me, I never had a match. Think it tells you that so that you'll pay to see who it is that swiped right. that's exactly it companies know they can exploit us like that "
Agreed, and I'm sure plenty of guys have fallen for this only to either have the matches disapear or whatever else they do to fuck you over |
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"In installed without issue, that's about as much luck as I had while I had it. Made me think I must have a face only a mother could love lol although it told me I had 10 plus people who had swiped right on me, I never had a match. Think it tells you that so that you'll pay to see who it is that swiped right. that's exactly it companies know they can exploit us like that
Agreed, and I'm sure plenty of guys have fallen for this only to either have the matches disapear or whatever else they do to fuck you over "
then they still don't get matches sex sells always does always will. |
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over a year ago
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Bumble is quite cute... Build your own hive... Women message first and have 24 hours to message after match...
Well it looks like im getting nowhere with that haha! I don't have a chance whatsoever. |
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over a year ago
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"Never tried tinder is it better than POF for hookups ? equally bad I reckon.
More like POS amiright???"
definitely haha... I've been through bumble ... Just as a thought no local lasses no one in Newcastle |
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"Never used it...was told i should give it a go"
looks like it gets rid of men messaging first, so women don't get bombarded by messages.... Just means uglies have no chance haha
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I love Tinder. As long as you are up front about what you are looking for and have decent pics and profile then you can have some great fun and dates.
I had a great summer on it met some very lovely people |
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"I love Tinder. As long as you are up front about what you are looking for and have decent pics and profile then you can have some great fun and dates.
I had a great summer on it met some very lovely people "
My photos must be bad along with my profile then |
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"I nearly joined myself until was told its just fab dressed up as a dating site. You may fair better here "
anything and everything is just the same. Just another option and a bigger chance |
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"It’s more dating than hookups these days, and no one reads profiles there either so you end up with people moaning about not being single "
so just the same as fab then? haha |
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"I nearly joined myself until was told its just fab dressed up as a dating site. You may fair better here anything and everything is just the same. Just another option and a bigger chance "
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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago
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Tried tinder and pof. Even paid out to join match. But from what I could tell the women have to same view of men as they do on here. Just think you want to get your end away. I gave up on all 3 in the end as find people on here more open from the start and of the same mindset. But I dont use fabs as a dating site. Where as I used the others to start dating. |
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"Has anybody had any luck with tinder? I havent "
Today is 3 for tinder.
Today is 4 for pof.
Which I'm meeting one off pof an some festival for "drinks" in august |
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over a year ago
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"ive never used a dating app. There alien to me. Its really interesting hearing about them"
Tinder is actually rated more as a sex app than dating app mind. |
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My tinder experiences are generally no conversation, and at best a few messages back and forth and then getting ghosted for absolutely no reason.
To be fair though, that is the same on every dating/hookup/swing/fetish site I am and have used |
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