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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Someone has been messaging me for weeks (different site) and it's the same boring messages everyday... I'm far too polite (and chilled out and cool) to say anything, can you advise me on how I should deal with this?? Please? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m the same OP, I get drawn into a conversation with people I have no interest in as just being polite and just can’t see a way out without being rude or hurting their feelings. |
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Few boring people know they're boring. If the majority of your socials don't lead to any physical interaction or messages just fizzle out without leading anywhere it's odds on you're a boring bugger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Few boring people know they're boring. If the majority of your socials don't lead to any physical interaction or messages just fizzle out without leading anywhere it's odds on you're a boring bugger."
I'm a boring bugger I think. But people bore me too so it evens out.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Where's wally 
STOP MESSAGING ME!!!!!!!
I see you
I can use this as a book avatar lol
Can believe no one said it earlier lol "
Someone did but I didn't make the connection |
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"Where's wally
STOP MESSAGING ME!!!!!!!
I see you
I can use this as a book avatar lol
Can believe no one said it earlier lol
Just change your name to wally now
Someone did but I didn't make the connection "
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"Just tell them to fuck off."
Or maybe they're just responding to your boring messages to be fair. I find the more effort someone puts in to their messages to me the more effort I put in back to them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are they matching your bori..ahem...chilled conversational style? "
I swear to god if you weren't so lovely and I wasn't so god damn chilled I'd block you right now |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just tell them to fuck off.
Or maybe they're just responding to your boring messages to be fair. I find the more effort someone puts in to their messages to me the more effort I put in back to them."
I never instigate and I'm not boring |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just tell them to fuck off.
Or maybe they're just responding to your boring messages to be fair. I find the more effort someone puts in to their messages to me the more effort I put in back to them.
I never instigate and I'm not boring "
Oh I see... that could be true I guess |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m the same OP, I get drawn into a conversation with people I have no interest in as just being polite and just can’t see a way out without being rude or hurting their feelings. "
Thanks for humouring me all this time! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok, I feel guilty about just not replying"
Aren't you a big considerate softie?
When you say same messages, is it,
Good morning / night
How are you today?
What you up to?
That kind of thing? If there is attraction there on your part, why not try and spice up the conversation yourself?
Or if attraction is not there, then it is one of those times where you have to be cruel to be kind, and just reply saying you don't feel there is a spark, but thanks for the chat.
Niki x |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"Are they matching your bori..ahem...chilled conversational style?
I swear to god if you weren't so lovely and I wasn't so god damn chilled I'd block you right now"
Phew! Hurrah for your chilledness. Don’t block me, I’m lovely. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok, I feel guilty about just not replying
Aren't you a big considerate softie?
When you say same messages, is it,
Good morning / night
How are you today?
What you up to?
That kind of thing? If there is attraction there on your part, why not try and spice up the conversation yourself?
Or if attraction is not there, then it is one of those times where you have to be cruel to be kind, and just reply saying you don't feel there is a spark, but thanks for the chat.
Niki x"
It's exactly like you say and with no attraction, thanks for the advice |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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Just message and reduce each answer you give numerically by one letter until you simply reply with one letter. They’ll find you boring and stop, as you psychologically coach them that the conversation is winding down. It’s also stimulating for you to have to answer ensuring you’re lowering by just one letter each time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A swift throat chop 
On himself?
Obvs 
Mean 
Jokes mate
Iron fist. End it, lifes too short!
End what I don't think it's that bad?!   "
I don't mean slot the poor lady  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just message and reduce each answer you give numerically by one letter until you simply reply with one letter. They’ll find you boring and stop, as you psychologically coach them that the conversation is winding down. It’s also stimulating for you to have to answer ensuring you’re lowering by just one letter each time. "
Brilliant! I'm doing this |
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Her : Hi howz u ?
You: I'm great thanks. My fiancee is here today. We just got engaged. I'm really glad you messaged as she has said I cannot message other women.
Lovely talking to you all this time.
Bye Bye..... Bye..... no you first.. Bye .... bye bye xx bye xx bye....
phew..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone has been messaging me for weeks (different site) and it's the same boring messages everyday... I'm far too polite (and chilled out and cool) to say anything, can you advise me on how I should deal with this?? Please?"
Your no polite OP your complaining about it on Fab, tut tut |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"Just message and reduce each answer you give numerically by one letter until you simply reply with one letter. They’ll find you boring and stop, as you psychologically coach them that the conversation is winding down. It’s also stimulating for you to have to answer ensuring you’re lowering by just one letter each time.
Brilliant! I'm doing this"
You can practice on me if you want. (27) |
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"A swift throat chop
On himself?
Obvs
Mean
Jokes mate
Iron fist. End it, lifes too short!
End what I don't think it's that bad?!
I don't mean slot the poor lady "
I thought you were referring to the op  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A swift throat chop
On himself?
Obvs
Mean
Jokes mate
Iron fist. End it, lifes too short!
End what I don't think it's that bad?!
I don't mean slot the poor lady
I thought you were referring to the op "
Negative dear |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just message and reduce each answer you give numerically by one letter until you simply reply with one letter. They’ll find you boring and stop, as you psychologically coach them that the conversation is winding down. It’s also stimulating for you to have to answer ensuring you’re lowering by just one letter each time.
Brilliant! I'm doing this
You can practice on me if you want. (27)"
Estella, am I counting commas &?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Someone has been messaging me for weeks (different site) and it's the same boring messages everyday... I'm far too polite (and chilled out and cool) to say anything, can you advise me on how I should deal with this?? Please?
Your no polite OP your complaining about it on Fab, tut tut "
Put some trousers on an help |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"Just message and reduce each answer you give numerically by one letter until you simply reply with one letter. They’ll find you boring and stop, as you psychologically coach them that the conversation is winding down. It’s also stimulating for you to have to answer ensuring you’re lowering by just one letter each time.
Brilliant! I'm doing this
You can practice on me if you want. (27)
Estella, am I counting commas &??"
No, you’re only counting letters. (26) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is the other site similar to fab or completely different? If it is a boring site, tell them to come on fab and I'm sure messages won't be boring anymore |
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"A swift throat chop
On himself?
Obvs
Mean
Jokes mate
Iron fist. End it, lifes too short!
End what I don't think it's that bad?!
I don't mean slot the poor lady
I thought you were referring to the op
Negative dear "
Dear?! I'm not 'that' old cheeky bugger. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just message and reduce each answer you give numerically by one letter until you simply reply with one letter. They’ll find you boring and stop, as you psychologically coach them that the conversation is winding down. It’s also stimulating for you to have to answer ensuring you’re lowering by just one letter each time.
Brilliant! I'm doing this
You can practice on me if you want. (27)
Estella, am I counting commas &??
No, you’re only counting letters. (26)"
I'm counting letters, hungover x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just tell them "look you're a nice person and all that but we've been talking for a while and things aren't getting anywhere, we're messaging eachother the same stuff over and over again to the point im not as excited anymore, what do you think? Should we move on and try someone else or should we try something different, see if we can relight the excitement?" ...
That's something I'd say ... never works like but hey! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is the other site similar to fab or completely different? If it is a boring site, tell them to come on fab and I'm sure messages won't be boring anymore "
It's a site called fabswongers i accidentally went to via a typo |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Stop replying.
This
Just say you’re not feeling it anymore. Take care. Job done.
Do not reply if they answer. You’ll be going around in circles!"
Yeah, I know this deep down, but I'm too empathetic (and cool and chilled) |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
London |
"Just message and reduce each answer you give numerically by one letter until you simply reply with one letter. They’ll find you boring and stop, as you psychologically coach them that the conversation is winding down. It’s also stimulating for you to have to answer ensuring you’re lowering by just one letter each time.
Brilliant! I'm doing this
You can practice on me if you want. (27)
Estella, am I counting commas &??
No, you’re only counting letters. (26)
I'm counting letters, hungover x"
You’re doing well then, Retweet. (25) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes boring can be a two way street. If you are not responding in a certain way, it can get agonising on both sides. If the conversation is not clicking, best let her down politely, than draw it out with a long yawn.
Holly |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"Sometimes boring can be a two way street. If you are not responding in a certain way, it can get agonising on both sides. If the conversation is not clicking, best let her down politely, than draw it out with a long yawn.
Holly"
How does one draw a yawn? This will have me thinking for a while.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just message and reduce each answer you give numerically by one letter until you simply reply with one letter. They’ll find you boring and stop, as you psychologically coach them that the conversation is winding down. It’s also stimulating for you to have to answer ensuring you’re lowering by just one letter each time.
Brilliant! I'm doing this
You can practice on me if you want. (27)
Estella, am I counting commas &??
No, you’re only counting letters. (26)
I'm counting letters, hungover x
You’re doing well then, Retweet. (25)"
We miss you when you leave fab (24) |
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"Just message and reduce each answer you give numerically by one letter until you simply reply with one letter. They’ll find you boring and stop, as you psychologically coach them that the conversation is winding down. It’s also stimulating for you to have to answer ensuring you’re lowering by just one letter each time.
Brilliant! I'm doing this
You can practice on me if you want. (27)
Estella, am I counting commas &??
No, you’re only counting letters. (26)
I'm counting letters, hungover x"
I'm hungove |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stop replying.
This
Just say you’re not feeling it anymore. Take care. Job done.
Do not reply if they answer. You’ll be going around in circles!
Yeah, I know this deep down, but I'm too empathetic (and cool and chilled)"
Are you really cool and chilled? You sound unsure. |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"Just message and reduce each answer you give numerically by one letter until you simply reply with one letter. They’ll find you boring and stop, as you psychologically coach them that the conversation is winding down. It’s also stimulating for you to have to answer ensuring you’re lowering by just one letter each time.
Brilliant! I'm doing this
You can practice on me if you want. (27)
Estella, am I counting commas &??
No, you’re only counting letters. (26)
I'm counting letters, hungover x
You’re doing well then, Retweet. (25)
We miss you when you leave fab (24)"
That is very kind of you to say. (24) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Stop replying.
This
Just say you’re not feeling it anymore. Take care. Job done.
Do not reply if they answer. You’ll be going around in circles!
Yeah, I know this deep down, but I'm too empathetic (and cool and chilled)
Are you really cool and chilled? You sound unsure."
Please don't question me again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stop replying.
This
Just say you’re not feeling it anymore. Take care. Job done.
Do not reply if they answer. You’ll be going around in circles!
Yeah, I know this deep down, but I'm too empathetic (and cool and chilled)
Are you really cool and chilled? You sound unsure.
Please don't question me again "
Bitc* |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just message and reduce each answer you give numerically by one letter until you simply reply with one letter. They’ll find you boring and stop, as you psychologically coach them that the conversation is winding down. It’s also stimulating for you to have to answer ensuring you’re lowering by just one letter each time.
Brilliant! I'm doing this
You can practice on me if you want. (27)
Estella, am I counting commas &??
No, you’re only counting letters. (26)
I'm counting letters, hungover x
You’re doing well then, Retweet. (25)
We miss you when you leave fab (24)
That is very kind of you to say. (24) "
Estella beer reminds me of u (23) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Stop replying.
This
Just say you’re not feeling it anymore. Take care. Job done.
Do not reply if they answer. You’ll be going around in circles!
Yeah, I know this deep down, but I'm too empathetic (and cool and chilled)
Are you really cool and chilled? You sound unsure.
Please don't question me again
Bitc*"
??? I'm not a fan of acronyms |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's estrella I messed up
Death to you then!!!
I welcome death (13)
Welcome, Death. (12)
With a coffee (11)
Milk and one (10)
Froth it up? (9)
Cock stir! (8)"
How rude! (7) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's estrella I messed up
Death to you then!!!
I welcome death (13)
Welcome, Death. (12)
With a coffee (11)
Milk and one (10)
Froth it up? (9)
Cock stir! (8)
How rude! (7)
Tis, yes. (6)"
Bored? (5) |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
London |
"It's estrella I messed up
Death to you then!!!
I welcome death (13)
Welcome, Death. (12)
With a coffee (11)
Milk and one (10)
Froth it up? (9)
Cock stir! (8)
How rude! (7)
Tis, yes. (6)
Bored? (5)"
Haha! (4) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's estrella I messed up
Death to you then!!!
I welcome death (13)
Welcome, Death. (12)
With a coffee (11)
Milk and one (10)
Froth it up? (9)
Cock stir! (8)
How rude! (7)
Tis, yes. (6)
Bored? (5)
Haha! (4)"
Yes? (3) |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
London |
"It's estrella I messed up
Death to you then!!!
I welcome death (13)
Welcome, Death. (12)
With a coffee (11)
Milk and one (10)
Froth it up? (9)
Cock stir! (8)
How rude! (7)
Tis, yes. (6)
Bored? (5)
Haha! (4)
Yes? (3) "
No (2) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's estrella I messed up
Death to you then!!!
I welcome death (13)
Welcome, Death. (12)
With a coffee (11)
Milk and one (10)
Froth it up? (9)
Cock stir! (8)
How rude! (7)
Tis, yes. (6)
Bored? (5)
Haha! (4)
Yes? (3)
No (2)"
U |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm starting to think she isn't the issue....
Holly
Do you think it's technology?
Zzzzzzz.... sorry, what was that? "
Ah sleep apnea, no need to apologise, I have experience with this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm starting to think she isn't the issue....
Holly
Do you think it's technology?
Zzzzzzz.... sorry, what was that?
Ah sleep apnea, no need to apologise, I have experience with this "
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