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By *ssex_tom OP Man
over a year ago
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A lady was attending her degree ceromany with her gown and graduation hat when her boyfriend proposed in front of all during the awards.
Some feminists are calling this an unacceptable hijack of her moment. Do you agree?
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over a year ago
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Yes. It was bl@ckmail. How could she say no in front of all those people?
Also he was taking the limelight away from her moment by making it about him. One to avoid. |
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"Had anyone asked her?
It is it another case of people being outraged on another's behalf"
it may have even been set up! only the lady in question will know the answers! personally i get a bit fed up of folks being outraged at other folks!!! what ever happened to the old saying " mind your own business!" lol  |
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This happened to a friend of mine a while ago and it was lovely. It didn't take the shine off the graduation it was done afterwards. (I doubt it would be done mid ceremony as grads are v tradition). Lovely thing to do, but some people look for the negative in everything. |
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I'm not worried about the feminist aspect.
It's disrespectful to put somebody in a situation where they feel pressured to make a particular free choice. It's especially bad with something as important as that kind of decision.
There are different circumstances in which this can happen that don't have to be a man pressuring a woman.
Nevertheless, they might have already talked about it and said they want to, and this could just be the big flourish. That wouldn't be so bad. |
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I don't think it's a dark act of the patriarchy. Although I can see the feminist veiw point on it (the feminist veiw tends to be hyper sensitive and see the dark forces of patriarchy in everthing). I really don't think the intention was to steal the moment or repress the woman. But it's (although ment well) terrible judgment and poor form. Unfortunately not everyone has common sense. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Far from a big deal. Who cares if he hijacked it.
The main difference is how she felt about it. That is where the issue lays.
Some women (men too) love to be in these situations, centre of attention, all eyes on them for a big moment thst gets people talking.
Others would have hated it, not only to be in that position of having to answer but just having all those eyes on them for that single question and reason.
He was very likely trying to make it a big moment for them both to truely remember, much more than a low key gesture.
If she loved it, it was fine, if she hated it then it was not fine.
Next case please! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Far from a big deal. Who cares if he hijacked it.
The main difference is how she felt about it. That is where the issue lays.
Some women (men too) love to be in these situations, centre of attention, all eyes on them for a big moment thst gets people talking.
Others would have hated it, not only to be in that position of having to answer but just having all those eyes on them for that single question and reason.
He was very likely trying to make it a big moment for them both to truely remember, much more than a low key gesture.
If she loved it, it was fine, if she hated it then it was not fine.
Next case please! "
I think he played very clever cards.
In years to come when she will remember the date of their first kiss, their first fuck, the first row etc, he'll be able to look at her Graduation certificate and know the date they got engaged.
As all men know, get engaged or married on Valentines day so Hallmark remind you annually when your anniversary is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont think it's fair to hijack the ceremony and take the shine off the special day for all their graduates and their families. "
 Not fair on them either. |
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According to what I read today about it she was thrilled to bits and didn't see why anyone was getting upset about it...
Well done to the professionally agrieved for getting their knickers in a twist about something that had shag all to do with them.. |
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Well done to the professionally agrieved for getting their knickers in a twist about something that had shag all to do with them.. "
So if, for example, you were enjoying a play at the theatre and someone jumped out of the audience and proposed to his girlfriend who was acting, wouldn't you be annoyed that it was spoiling the play ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Possibly but in that case it was because I was there in the audience and it would have something to do with me..
My point was those being offended who weren't there and had shag all to do with it."
I'm not offended. I think it's shit. |
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"A bit of a difference between terrorism and a marriage proposal isn't there "
Of course there is. I was just saying you can be offended by something even if you are not there. For example a comedian's racist comment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"According to what I read today about it she was thrilled to bits and didn't see why anyone was getting upset about it...
Well done to the professionally agrieved for getting their knickers in a twist about something that had shag all to do with them.. "
plenty of those here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hope they are happy together. Me? I think it's a shitty thing to do, I think public proposals in a setting where the person is going to look awful of they say no are pretty grim at the best of times but even worse when it turns her big day away from her graduation and all about their engagement and his proposal. And that's fuck all to do with feminism, it's just decency. |
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"I hope they are happy together. Me? I think it's a shitty thing to do, I think public proposals in a setting where the person is going to look awful of they say no are pretty grim at the best of times but even worse when it turns her big day away from her graduation and all about their engagement and his proposal. And that's fuck all to do with feminism, it's just decency. "
This is exactly how I feel about this story too By all accounts it turned out for the best but he couldn't have been 100% sure it would and it was therefore an unacceptable gamble IMO which could have made the day memorable for all the wrong reasons, not just for the woman concerned but all the other attendees. I actually feel it was quite selfish really regardless of how it turned out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If she was happy I don't see the issue. It makes her day even more special and memorable and I don't see how it could take all the attention away from the others who were graduating! I mean, yes you'd have a quick look and clap but the day suddenly wouldn't be about the two of them and nobody else. |
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