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By *good-being-bad OP Man
over a year ago
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I don't... is there a secret code I'm not priviledged to.
Don't be pushy...
Like to get to know you...
I need a connection...
Its not all about looks...
So you message non pushy
exchange pictures yep all good
message a bit more to build a rappor and a connection ..
.... it seems you have no interest ..
Ladies please explain the code to me.. Confused.com.. 
I think I'll turn ghhey blokes seem less complicated. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Me neither. I understand men much more. I often think I should have been a bloke. Women baffle me!
Both genders are just as confusing. People, use your words. Be clear. "
Exactly. Just be honest ffs! It’s not that difficult. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Or perhaps there is no code and they found in those first few messages that there wasn't a connection for them and just let things fizzle.
As with anything in this world, you can't like all the people all of the time, and likewise can't expect all of the people to like you all of the time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just because you can follow rules doesn't mean there will be an attraction.
The fact she said looks aren't important means she has been judging you on personality which is why it's taken a few messages to decide you're not for her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everything will get clearer once you fuck your first ass
Are you volunteering ?? 
Can't your cock is too big dude
How to make a guy happy and sad all in one sentence. "
I sure know how to talk to men |
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"I don't... is there a secret code I'm not priviledged to.
Don't be pushy...
Like to get to know you...
I need a connection...
Its not all about looks...
So you message non pushy
exchange pictures yep all good
message a bit more to build a rappor and a connection ..
.... it seems you have no interest ..
Ladies please explain the code to me.. Confused.com..
I think I'll turn ghhey blokes seem less complicated.
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What did you expect? Not all men will automatically like a woman who does everything right, either. There is also attraction. Or not. |
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There is no code... Sometimes you just click with people and sometimes you just don't. Try not to take it personally, (easier said then done sometimes) fab is extremely fickle and when people treat it like a candy store going from one to another sadly for those more sensitive or genuine it just feels like a slap in the face.
Keep looking someone will turn up.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hey OP. I like to think I’m a nice person. I get my fair share of messages. I answer the ones that sound interesting- nothing too harsh or confusing- a nice message to encourage that person to write again... Very often they either don’t answer or they dry up. I’ll send another message offering help by giving them a subject to talk about but sometimes- nope it just doesn’t work. I then tell them to find someone else as no sparkies have gone off... |
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Rapport seems to mean different thing to different people.
A sweeping generalisation is that most guys seem to think a few short messages about the weather, what you like for breakfast (possibly with euphemisms) and if you've had 'any fun lately' constitutes a rapport....
It's not... That's exchanging pleasantries. A rapport is when someone has really engaged your mind, has drawn you deep into conversation, and you smile with anticipation when you see a message from them, because they stand out from the crowd. The conversation flows, and you never have to think about what you will write in response... It just comes naturally. Real responses... An indepth conversation... Not 'haha', 'lol' or a few emojis...
That's a rapport....
That's a connection....
Know the difference and it's no longer a mystery  |
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By *good-being-bad OP Man
over a year ago
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"I also wonder... If you had not been told not to be pushy, would you be pushy? Do you really need to be told all those things? "
Those things were in the ladies profile, why I thought we might get on.. I'm pretty sure any ladies I've messaged or chatted to will confirm I don't need to be told those things.   |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Rapport seems to mean different thing to different people.
A sweeping generalisation is that most guys seem to think a few short messages about the weather, what you like for breakfast (possibly with euphemisms) and if you've had 'any fun lately' constitutes a rapport....
It's not... That's exchanging pleasantries. A rapport is when someone has really engaged your mind, has drawn you deep into conversation, and you smile with anticipation when you see a message from them, because they stand out from the crowd. The conversation flows, and you never have to think about what you will write in response... It just comes naturally. Real responses... An indepth conversation... Not 'haha', 'lol' or a few emojis...
That's a rapport....
That's a connection....
Know the difference and it's no longer a mystery "
And post of the thread so far prize goes to....Kathleen Turner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Rapport seems to mean different thing to different people.
A sweeping generalisation is that most guys seem to think a few short messages about the weather, what you like for breakfast (possibly with euphemisms) and if you've had 'any fun lately' constitutes a rapport....
It's not... That's exchanging pleasantries. A rapport is when someone has really engaged your mind, has drawn you deep into conversation, and you smile with anticipation when you see a message from them, because they stand out from the crowd. The conversation flows, and you never have to think about what you will write in response... It just comes naturally. Real responses... An indepth conversation... Not 'haha', 'lol' or a few emojis...
That's a rapport....
That's a connection....
Know the difference and it's no longer a mystery "
Oh heck yeah!
Hi
How are you
Nice weather
I want to sink my hairy cheesy dick deep into your minge you horny slut
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t think there is a secret code. We are all different. I get bored easily so if you’ve not grabbed my attention quickly, I’m off. Trouble is, I can’t even tell you how to get my attention as it differs all the time. |
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"Just because you can follow rules doesn't mean there will be an attraction.
The fact she said looks aren't important means she has been judging you on personality which is why it's taken a few messages to decide you're not for her. "
Yes. Not respecting my rules = get nowhere.
After that, it's about I as an individual react to you as an individual. I don't think that's a man/woman thing. You might not like my nose. I might not like your eyebrows. Not personal. |
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"I don't... is there a secret code I'm not priviledged to.
Don't be pushy...
Like to get to know you...
I need a connection...
Its not all about looks...
So you message non pushy
exchange pictures yep all good
message a bit more to build a rappor and a connection ..
.... it seems you have no interest ..
Ladies please explain the code to me.. Confused.com..
I think I'll turn ghhey blokes seem less complicated.
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Do it you may enjoy it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't... is there a secret code I'm not priviledged to.
Don't be pushy...
Like to get to know you...
I need a connection...
Its not all about looks...
So you message non pushy
exchange pictures yep all good
message a bit more to build a rappor and a connection ..
.... it seems you have no interest ..
Ladies please explain the code to me.. Confused.com..
I think I'll turn ghhey blokes seem less complicated.
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too much choice is your main combatant you may be chatting to 4 or 5 women but they can be chatting to many more men and women one wrong word and you're filtered lol |
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By *good-being-bad OP Man
over a year ago
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"I don't... is there a secret code I'm not priviledged to.
Don't be pushy...
Like to get to know you...
I need a connection...
Its not all about looks...
So you message non pushy
exchange pictures yep all good
message a bit more to build a rappor and a connection ..
.... it seems you have no interest ..
Ladies please explain the code to me.. Confused.com..
I think I'll turn ghhey blokes seem less complicated.
Do it you may enjoy it!"
I thought I had a volunteer... Apparently my cock is too big... he made me happy and sad in one sentence |
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"I don't... is there a secret code I'm not priviledged to.
Don't be pushy...
Like to get to know you...
I need a connection...
Its not all about looks...
So you message non pushy
exchange pictures yep all good
message a bit more to build a rappor and a connection ..
.... it seems you have no interest ..
Ladies please explain the code to me.. Confused.com..
I think I'll turn ghhey blokes seem less complicated.
Do it you may enjoy it!
I thought I had a volunteer... Apparently my cock is too big... he made me happy and sad in one sentence"
It was probably a woman..
Timewasters |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Soooo funny. I’ve been chatting to a newbie. It was going well. I kept asking, have you read my profile.... Yes he says. Tells me all the things he’d like to do to me. I listen patiently... Finally he asks, anything you’d like to do to me? So I tell him...
Blocked me.
It’s not just guys who get blocked. I’m really ready to put the anti-newbie filter on.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Soooo funny. I’ve been chatting to a newbie. It was going well. I kept asking, have you read my profile.... Yes he says. Tells me all the things he’d like to do to me. I listen patiently... Finally he asks, anything you’d like to do to me? So I tell him...
Blocked me.
It’s not just guys who get blocked. I’m really ready to put the anti-newbie filter on...."
Did you tell him how you wanted to peg him whilst he wore his Ann summers knickers? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Soooo funny. I’ve been chatting to a newbie. It was going well. I kept asking, have you read my profile.... Yes he says. Tells me all the things he’d like to do to me. I listen patiently... Finally he asks, anything you’d like to do to me? So I tell him...
Blocked me.
It’s not just guys who get blocked. I’m really ready to put the anti-newbie filter on...."
you told him you wanted to pluck his eyebrows and make him up didn't you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately following their rules isn’t always enough to build a connection and lead to a meet. I generally find it hard to connect with people (on and off here) and often get told I’m too picky/stuck up. However the way I see it is I’m not going to meet without a certain amount of security and trust. I don’t think that makes me complicated... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nah they all think there something special and believe they deserve anything they want. All on a high horse and when they don't get what they want.. my god you'll be the worst man alive! Crazy bitches |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Soooo funny. I’ve been chatting to a newbie. It was going well. I kept asking, have you read my profile.... Yes he says. Tells me all the things he’d like to do to me. I listen patiently... Finally he asks, anything you’d like to do to me? So I tell him...
Blocked me.
It’s not just guys who get blocked. I’m really ready to put the anti-newbie filter on....you told him you wanted to pluck his eyebrows and make him up didn't you? "
Shhh. That was a special I did just for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Soooo funny. I’ve been chatting to a newbie. It was going well. I kept asking, have you read my profile.... Yes he says. Tells me all the things he’d like to do to me. I listen patiently... Finally he asks, anything you’d like to do to me? So I tell him...
Blocked me.
It’s not just guys who get blocked. I’m really ready to put the anti-newbie filter on....you told him you wanted to pluck his eyebrows and make him up didn't you?
Shhh. That was a special I did just for you "
I did like that eyeliner was it Rimmel? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What is so hard to understand? They are same as men. Maybd its other people in general that you don't get?
Which is normal.. there are a trillion different variations of us walking around.. all unique. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You don't need to understand all women you just need to understand individuals. Just like women only need to understand individual men. "
Simply put and very well said. |
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"What is so hard to understand? They are same as men. Maybd its other people in general that you don't get?
Which is normal.. there are a trillion different variations of us walking around.. all unique."
Well said. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is so hard to understand? They are same as men. Maybd its other people in general that you don't get?
Which is normal.. there are a trillion different variations of us walking around.. all unique."
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I'm not  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Rapport seems to mean different thing to different people.
A sweeping generalisation is that most guys seem to think a few short messages about the weather, what you like for breakfast (possibly with euphemisms) and if you've had 'any fun lately' constitutes a rapport....
It's not... That's exchanging pleasantries. A rapport is when someone has really engaged your mind, has drawn you deep into conversation, and you smile with anticipation when you see a message from them, because they stand out from the crowd. The conversation flows, and you never have to think about what you will write in response... It just comes naturally. Real responses... An indepth conversation... Not 'haha', 'lol' or a few emojis...
That's a rapport....
That's a connection....
Know the difference and it's no longer a mystery "
Exactly!!!It seems like many of us ladies think like you
If somebody can't engage my mind I seriously prefer staying at home playing with my toys |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Rapport seems to mean different thing to different people.
A sweeping generalisation is that most guys seem to think a few short messages about the weather, what you like for breakfast (possibly with euphemisms) and if you've had 'any fun lately' constitutes a rapport....
It's not... That's exchanging pleasantries. A rapport is when someone has really engaged your mind, has drawn you deep into conversation, and you smile with anticipation when you see a message from them, because they stand out from the crowd. The conversation flows, and you never have to think about what you will write in response... It just comes naturally. Real responses... An indepth conversation... Not 'haha', 'lol' or a few emojis...
That's a rapport....
That's a connection....
Know the difference and it's no longer a mystery
Exactly!!!It seems like many of us ladies think like you
If somebody can't engage my mind I seriously prefer staying at home playing with my toys "
Yep same I know if I'm going to have fun with someone and get naked I want to be able to enjoy myself and between the hot mindblowing sex we can chat and have a laugh |
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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago
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Doubt half the people would conduct themselves in a social environment......in the manner we have experienced. Then again ain't got time for over inflated egos thinkin they are the hottest thing God ever made lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't get some of the men who frequently post these threads. I will sometimes use the opportunity to private mail on the back of a comment, they eventually answer the mail... then nothing. I check my sent box, and my reply will be sat there for an hour or so unopened, but they are posting fervently in the forum, often on why do women ? ....I can't get a meet thread |
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"Nah they all think there something special and believe they deserve anything they want. All on a high horse and when they don't get what they want.. my god you'll be the worst man alive! Crazy bitches "
...aaand 'block'.
These threads sure can prove useful sometimes |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nah they all think there something special and believe they deserve anything they want. All on a high horse and when they don't get what they want.. my god you'll be the worst man alive! Crazy bitches
...aaand 'block'.
These threads sure can prove useful sometimes "
They sure do |
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"Nah they all think there something special and believe they deserve anything they want. All on a high horse and when they don't get what they want.. my god you'll be the worst man alive! Crazy bitches "
Is there irony in there somewhere? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Women never mean what they say.
Life tip, not just for here."
Yes, when we ask does my bum look big in this? We don’t always want the honest answer. (Btw I know my bum is big anyway) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't... is there a secret code I'm not priviledged to.
Don't be pushy...
Like to get to know you...
I need a connection...
Its not all about looks...
So you message non pushy
exchange pictures yep all good
message a bit more to build a rappor and a connection ..
.... it seems you have no interest ..
Ladies please explain the code to me.. Confused.com..
I think I'll turn ghhey blokes seem less complicated.
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As someone stated earlier it's more to do with the volume of men that message them. Had it loads of times when you are messaging and then all of a sudden they go quiet. Doesn't mean you've done anything wrong just that their attention has been shifted onto someone else. Also why you can put effort into messages then get a two word reply: They are talking to 10 men and don't have time to message anything meaningful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't... is there a secret code I'm not priviledged to.
Don't be pushy...
Like to get to know you...
I need a connection...
Its not all about looks...
So you message non pushy
exchange pictures yep all good
message a bit more to build a rappor and a connection ..
.... it seems you have no interest ..
Ladies please explain the code to me.. Confused.com..
I think I'll turn ghhey blokes seem less complicated.
As someone stated earlier it's more to do with the volume of men that message them. Had it loads of times when you are messaging and then all of a sudden they go quiet. Doesn't mean you've done anything wrong just that their attention has been shifted onto someone else. Also why you can put effort into messages then get a two word reply: They are talking to 10 men and don't have time to message anything meaningful."
Thats almost to say we have no attention span and our heads are just turned at every new pretty thing. If someone attracts my attention I am perfectly capabale of focusing on them and building on that. Key words again being attraction |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't... is there a secret code I'm not priviledged to.
Don't be pushy...
Like to get to know you...
I need a connection...
Its not all about looks...
So you message non pushy
exchange pictures yep all good
message a bit more to build a rappor and a connection ..
.... it seems you have no interest ..
Ladies please explain the code to me.. Confused.com..
I think I'll turn ghhey blokes seem less complicated.
As someone stated earlier it's more to do with the volume of men that message them. Had it loads of times when you are messaging and then all of a sudden they go quiet. Doesn't mean you've done anything wrong just that their attention has been shifted onto someone else. Also why you can put effort into messages then get a two word reply: They are talking to 10 men and don't have time to message anything meaningful.
Thats almost to say we have no attention span and our heads are just turned at every new pretty thing. If someone attracts my attention I am perfectly capabale of focusing on them and building on that. Key words again being attraction "
More hedging your bets than attention. As someone stated earlier, one slightly less interesting message from the man you are talking to gives the other 50 the opportunity to step up. |
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No man does understand woman, if she's clearly not interested after couple messages, just move on.
Don't understand that constant whining, she blocked me, she ghosted me etc.. Ffs grow a pair, forget and move on |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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"Nah they all think there something special and believe they deserve anything they want. All on a high horse and when they don't get what they want.. my god you'll be the worst man alive! Crazy bitches "
That sounds more like a lot of the men that message me and a lot of the ones that post in my local updates. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't... is there a secret code I'm not priviledged to.
Don't be pushy...
Like to get to know you...
I need a connection...
Its not all about looks...
So you message non pushy
exchange pictures yep all good
message a bit more to build a rappor and a connection ..
.... it seems you have no interest ..
Ladies please explain the code to me.. Confused.com..
I think I'll turn ghhey blokes seem less complicated.
As someone stated earlier it's more to do with the volume of men that message them. Had it loads of times when you are messaging and then all of a sudden they go quiet. Doesn't mean you've done anything wrong just that their attention has been shifted onto someone else. Also why you can put effort into messages then get a two word reply: They are talking to 10 men and don't have time to message anything meaningful.
Thats almost to say we have no attention span and our heads are just turned at every new pretty thing. If someone attracts my attention I am perfectly capabale of focusing on them and building on that. Key words again being attraction "
yes obviously what you're saying is true for you but out of the people you chat to you will have favourites so you could be chatting away to guys or women if that's your bag then one of your favs turns up and you're gone all concentration on him, the same thing can be applied to the forums all attention shifts to the hottie that enters the thread, so if it's a woman the guys are all over her comments like nothing she can say is wrong and if it's a guy almost always it's his humour that's talked about |
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"I don't... is there a secret code I'm not priviledged to.
Don't be pushy...
Like to get to know you...
I need a connection...
Its not all about looks...
So you message non pushy
exchange pictures yep all good
message a bit more to build a rappor and a connection ..
.... it seems you have no interest ..
Ladies please explain the code to me.. Confused.com..
I think I'll turn ghhey blokes seem less complicated.
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Honestly I find most rather simple to fathom
Normally I find if they like you and find you attractive they will want to chat and ease themselves into your pants and if they dont the wont ?????
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"As someone stated earlier it's more to do with the volume of men that message them. Had it loads of times when you are messaging and then all of a sudden they go quiet. Doesn't mean you've done anything wrong just that their attention has been shifted onto someone else. Also why you can put effort into messages then get a two word reply: They are talking to 10 men and don't have time to message anything meaningful.
Thats almost to say we have no attention span and our heads are just turned at every new pretty thing. If someone attracts my attention I am perfectly capabale of focusing on them and building on that. Key words again being attraction
More hedging your bets than attention. As someone stated earlier, one slightly less interesting message from the man you are talking to gives the other 50 the opportunity to step up. "
I think to say that women are hedging their bets is somewhat wide of the mark to be honest, not to mention a tad insulting - the good ladies of Fab are, for the most part, here for the same things that us men are, they look for attraction and connection, respect and consideration, just the same as we do - yes they may be chatting to others, that's the nature of the site but to expect them to give complete attention to you, is somewhat naive (and I'm talking generally here not aiming at any specific person).
I chat to quite a few people (men and women), some of whom it's a constant ebb and flow of messages, some it's an occasional burst that comes to a natural conclusion until the next time, some it'll be a quick and lengthy catch up every now and then - at no point do I have any expectation around anything, including whether they'll reply or not.
I guess it all comes down to whether your only reason for talking to others is with the ultimate endgame of meeting them to have sex in mind, or whether you just see it as chatting to them and seeing where those conversations lead but without necessarily seeing a meet as the aim. Personally I fall into the latter camp and find it serves me well to think that way, and hasn't hindered me in any way.
Sure there are times when I might wonder why someone hasn't replied, but then remember they have lives they live, or that perhaps they weren't as invested in the conversation as I was, or any other number of reasons they may not have replied - ultimately if they don't then it really is no big deal just means the conversation has come to an end, and may or may not resume in the future. |
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"Don’t think there is a secret code. We are all different. I get bored easily so if you’ve not grabbed my attention quickly, I’m off. Trouble is, I can’t even tell you how to get my attention as it differs all the time. "
Exactly lol, I only know it when I feel it! |
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you see women like different things 
