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Is lack of intimacy destroying men?
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"If you subscribe to attachment theory it’s especially important to develop secure attachment in the first few years through intimate connection to primary care givers. "
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Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What do you think?
I think it does yes, it's a basic human need and if we don't get it, it leads to many a mental health problems. "
I think you’re wrong there. Not everyone does. I do definitely but look how many marriages fail or how many look elsewhere due to lack of intimacy. Depends on the type of person you are but no not everyone needs it. |
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it."
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves |
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"What do you think?
I think it does yes, it's a basic human need and if we don't get it, it leads to many a mental health problems.
I think you’re wrong there. Not everyone does. I do definitely but look how many marriages fail or how many look elsewhere due to lack of intimacy. Depends on the type of person you are but no not everyone needs it.
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That's not necessarily because the individuals don't want intimacy.
Just not with that person anymore.
They will often go on to be intimate with a new partner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What do you think?
I think it does yes, it's a basic human need and if we don't get it, it leads to many a mental health problems.
I think you’re wrong there. Not everyone does. I do definitely but look how many marriages fail or how many look elsewhere due to lack of intimacy. Depends on the type of person you are but no not everyone needs it.
That's not necessarily because the individuals don't want intimacy.
Just not with that person anymore.
They will often go on to be intimate with a new partner. "
True. Fair point |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Why did the article single out men? "
My thoughts entirely and without seeing the article in question it's difficult to know the background and context.
In general terms some (of all genders) crave intimacy more than others and I think it's a huge and sweeping generalisation to suggest it's destroying anyone.
Personally I thrive on intimacy, love and affection and simply feeling wanted but I know plenty who don't |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What do you think?
I think it does yes, it's a basic human need and if we don't get it, it leads to many a mental health problems.
I think you’re wrong there. Not everyone does. I do definitely but look how many marriages fail or how many look elsewhere due to lack of intimacy. Depends on the type of person you are but no not everyone needs it.
That's not necessarily because the individuals don't want intimacy.
Just not with that person anymore.
They will often go on to be intimate with a new partner. "
Very true I’d rather be on my own than with the wrong person because nothing good comes from that |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true "
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true "
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Very true I’d rather be on my own than with the wrong person because nothing good comes from that
Sometimes people confuse between being intimate and suffocatingly close.
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That’s just how I feel, I never try and say I’m right but the only opinion is what I think. We are all entitled to live our life’s our own way without anyone else judging x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
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I think that’s where it’s difficult, when one person still craves it in a relationship and the other one doesn’t. It’s easy to say well don’t be with that person then but when people have a life and a family it’s not that easy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
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So there is no quick fix for that it’s only you who can change it, it’s simple really. If we go through a difficult time people listen and help for a period of time then you have to get on with it, if you don’t it’s sad but a familiar story |
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
So there is no quick fix for that it’s only you who can change it, it’s simple really. If we go through a difficult time people listen and help for a period of time then you have to get on with it, if you don’t it’s sad but a familiar story "
No it’s not simple at all. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true "
It is very true, but its very hard to love yourself when your in a bad place, its a vicious circle, you know your a good person but no one will give you the time of day because of your mental state, even friends and family can give up on you and when this happens how can you love yourself, I know it's the cliche thing to say that you need to love yourself before anyone will love you but when your in that place and you hear this, it does not help at all, it makes you feel worse about yourself. |
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
I think that’s where it’s difficult, when one person still craves it in a relationship and the other one doesn’t. It’s easy to say well don’t be with that person then but when people have a life and a family it’s not that easy. "
Yes, never leaving my kids and I do love my wife but constant deferral has left me almost useless sexually
Thank god for showers, toys, lube and Fab |
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
So there is no quick fix for that it’s only you who can change it, it’s simple really. If we go through a difficult time people listen and help for a period of time then you have to get on with it, if you don’t it’s sad but a familiar story
No it’s not simple at all. "
Very difficult but life keeps going on with or without you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
So there is no quick fix for that it’s only you who can change it, it’s simple really. If we go through a difficult time people listen and help for a period of time then you have to get on with it, if you don’t it’s sad but a familiar story
No it’s not simple at all.
Very difficult but life keeps going on with or without you x"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
It is very true, but its very hard to love yourself when your in a bad place, its a vicious circle, you know your a good person but no one will give you the time of day because of your mental state, even friends and family can give up on you and when this happens how can you love yourself, I know it's the cliche thing to say that you need to love yourself before anyone will love you but when your in that place and you hear this, it does not help at all, it makes you feel worse about yourself. "
I didn’t mean to sound cliched, all I’m saying is your friends and family have stuff they are going through as well. We all are but giving up and losing confidence doesn’t help anyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Your probably going to get a one sided / warped perspective of this question on here. The fact that your here, pondering such depths suggests you’ve made a decision and most likely won’t change it whatever your reply.
The more interesting question.. is just how bored is everyone on these forums that a post on cheese is one of the most popular topics spanning weeks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
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Maybe she's on here too and meeting loads of horny men.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your probably going to get a one sided / warped perspective of this question on here. The fact that your here, pondering such depths suggests you’ve made a decision and most likely won’t change it whatever your reply.
The more interesting question.. is just how bored is everyone on these forums that a post on cheese is one of the most popular topics spanning weeks. "
Have you posted on the wrong thread? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
So there is no quick fix for that it’s only you who can change it, it’s simple really. If we go through a difficult time people listen and help for a period of time then you have to get on with it, if you don’t it’s sad but a familiar story
No it’s not simple at all.
Very difficult but life keeps going on with or without you x
How’s that comment relevant?"
I just mean I’m sure everyone at some point has thought I’ve had enough or I don’t know how to get through this but the world doesn’t ever stop for anyone, |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
I think that’s where it’s difficult, when one person still craves it in a relationship and the other one doesn’t. It’s easy to say well don’t be with that person then but when people have a life and a family it’s not that easy.
Yes, never leaving my kids and I do love my wife but constant deferral has left me almost useless sexually
Thank god for showers, toys, lube and Fab "
Maybe kick yourself into shape. Lose weight, stop smoking etc etc and stop blaming everyone else.
We all have a part to play in our own destination. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why did the article single out men?
Trying to find the link here for ya, it was on a feminist website, called unify"
Interesting article.
'Men can't be trusted because they can't control themselves. Hence no-one wants to risk touching them.' |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
Maybe she's on here too and meeting loads of horny men. "
Yep two wrongs make a right dont they |
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
I think that’s where it’s difficult, when one person still craves it in a relationship and the other one doesn’t. It’s easy to say well don’t be with that person then but when people have a life and a family it’s not that easy.
Yes, never leaving my kids and I do love my wife but constant deferral has left me almost useless sexually
Thank god for showers, toys, lube and Fab
Maybe kick yourself into shape. Lose weight, stop smoking etc etc and stop blaming everyone else.
We all have a part to play in our own destination. "
 ever thought about going into politics lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
So there is no quick fix for that it’s only you who can change it, it’s simple really. If we go through a difficult time people listen and help for a period of time then you have to get on with it, if you don’t it’s sad but a familiar story
No it’s not simple at all.
Very difficult but life keeps going on with or without you x
How’s that comment relevant?
I just mean I’m sure everyone at some point has thought I’ve had enough or I don’t know how to get through this but the world doesn’t ever stop for anyone,"
No but sometimes you can’t just think of yourself when making decisions.
My long term FWB was married and unfortunately most people on here only see black or white and that isn’t always the case. That’s why I’m usually the only woman jumping on the “married man” “cheating scum” threads. His situation was heartbreaking and for a site that you’d think would be non-judgemental it’s quite the opposite. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
I think that’s where it’s difficult, when one person still craves it in a relationship and the other one doesn’t. It’s easy to say well don’t be with that person then but when people have a life and a family it’s not that easy.
Yes, never leaving my kids and I do love my wife but constant deferral has left me almost useless sexually
Thank god for showers, toys, lube and Fab
Maybe kick yourself into shape. Lose weight, stop smoking etc etc and stop blaming everyone else.
We all have a part to play in our own destination.
ever thought about going into politics lol"
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
So there is no quick fix for that it’s only you who can change it, it’s simple really. If we go through a difficult time people listen and help for a period of time then you have to get on with it, if you don’t it’s sad but a familiar story
No it’s not simple at all.
Very difficult but life keeps going on with or without you x
How’s that comment relevant?
I just mean I’m sure everyone at some point has thought I’ve had enough or I don’t know how to get through this but the world doesn’t ever stop for anyone,
No but sometimes you can’t just think of yourself when making decisions.
My long term FWB was married and unfortunately most people on here only see black or white and that isn’t always the case. That’s why I’m usually the only woman jumping on the “married man” “cheating scum” threads. His situation was heartbreaking and for a site that you’d think would be non-judgemental it’s quite the opposite. "
I agree with you, this site is nothing like I expected it’s got a lot of insecure judgemental people on it. I’m not being judgemental all I’m saying is life is hard and it’s not black or white it’s grey. I just think because everyone has different personalities that people don’t realise it’s difficult for everyone but we all deal with stuff our way x |
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
So there is no quick fix for that it’s only you who can change it, it’s simple really. If we go through a difficult time people listen and help for a period of time then you have to get on with it, if you don’t it’s sad but a familiar story
No it’s not simple at all.
Very difficult but life keeps going on with or without you x
How’s that comment relevant?
I just mean I’m sure everyone at some point has thought I’ve had enough or I don’t know how to get through this but the world doesn’t ever stop for anyone,
No but sometimes you can’t just think of yourself when making decisions.
My long term FWB was married and unfortunately most people on here only see black or white and that isn’t always the case. That’s why I’m usually the only woman jumping on the “married man” “cheating scum” threads. His situation was heartbreaking and for a site that you’d think would be non-judgemental it’s quite the opposite.
I agree with you, this site is nothing like I expected it’s got a lot of insecure judgemental people on it. I’m not being judgemental all I’m saying is life is hard and it’s not black or white it’s grey. I just think because everyone has different personalities that people don’t realise it’s difficult for everyone but we all deal with stuff our way x"
It sure has, very judgemental. We all judge but if I do I do it in my own head, I don’t slate other people for what they do and don’t do. A lot of the things I see on here are not for me but I don’t have to do it so it’s of no relevance to me.
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
So there is no quick fix for that it’s only you who can change it, it’s simple really. If we go through a difficult time people listen and help for a period of time then you have to get on with it, if you don’t it’s sad but a familiar story
No it’s not simple at all.
Very difficult but life keeps going on with or without you x
How’s that comment relevant?
I just mean I’m sure everyone at some point has thought I’ve had enough or I don’t know how to get through this but the world doesn’t ever stop for anyone,
No but sometimes you can’t just think of yourself when making decisions.
My long term FWB was married and unfortunately most people on here only see black or white and that isn’t always the case. That’s why I’m usually the only woman jumping on the “married man” “cheating scum” threads. His situation was heartbreaking and for a site that you’d think would be non-judgemental it’s quite the opposite.
I agree with you, this site is nothing like I expected it’s got a lot of insecure judgemental people on it. I’m not being judgemental all I’m saying is life is hard and it’s not black or white it’s grey. I just think because everyone has different personalities that people don’t realise it’s difficult for everyone but we all deal with stuff our way x
It sure has, very judgemental. We all judge but if I do I do it in my own head, I don’t slate other people for what they do and don’t do. A lot of the things I see on here are not for me but I don’t have to do it so it’s of no relevance to me.
Anyway we’re straying from the original op here. Sorry! I have a habit of doing that "
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
Maybe she's on here too and meeting loads of horny men. "
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders. "
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person. |
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person. "
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha "
I’m on here because I thought people didn’t want that, I’m on here to get away from being emotional but it’s full of people trying to deal with something that’s happened, a catch 22 |
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over a year ago
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha "
You and me alike Nora. |
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
I’m on here because I thought people didn’t want that, I’m on here to get away from being emotional but it’s full of people trying to deal with something that’s happened, a catch 22"
To be honest I think I’m in the minority with my views! In fact I know I am so you’ll be fine. I’ve sort of given up now and only pop on for the forums. I do think there’s a lot of people with different issues on here though. I read some posts and I think to myself is this really the best place for you!? I think fab is whatever you want it to be. |
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora. "
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever! "
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol |
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over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever! "
or I turn  or I just say fuck it I'm off just like that. The end is near...that's a great song hah |
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol "
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one |
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever! or I turn or I just say fuck it I'm off just like that. The end is near...that's a great song hah "
My favourite song is ‘thats Life’ riding high in April but shot down in may’ |
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over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one "
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one but you dont what to share thats the problem isn't it? "
Yep. I don’t share. Unless I’m there too |
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one "
That’s my point if I don’t feel enough then I can’t even just have sex with them, well maybe once then I move on haha |
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over a year ago
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one but you dont what to share thats the problem isn't it?
Yep. I don’t share. Unless I’m there too "
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"Well coming from someone that gets pretty much next to no intimacy whatsoever .... Its stressful and makes one think they're worthless and no one wants.
I've lost all ambition and the get go and I just don't care anymore it's how it is ... There's no one out there for me and I accept it.
Mate, the 1 thing I’ve learned in life is that it’s very difficult for everyone. We all have a story but as soon as we give up lose confidence it’s all down hill. How can anyone love someone who doesn’t love themselves
This is so true
Agreed.
Lost intimacy about 7yrs ago.
3st heavier, smoking like a trooper and sex is an annual event.
Tried everything but nothing of an evening. Kisses during day when kids are around but once its evening, tired face/sore tummy/headache, so I have a beer.
I think that’s where it’s difficult, when one person still craves it in a relationship and the other one doesn’t. It’s easy to say well don’t be with that person then but when people have a life and a family it’s not that easy.
Yes, never leaving my kids and I do love my wife but constant deferral has left me almost useless sexually
Thank god for showers, toys, lube and Fab
Maybe kick yourself into shape. Lose weight, stop smoking etc etc and stop blaming everyone else.
We all have a part to play in our own destination. "
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one
That’s my point if I don’t feel enough then I can’t even just have sex with them, well maybe once then I move on haha "
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one but you dont what to share thats the problem isn't it?
Yep. I don’t share. Unless I’m there too
Exclusive...that's the elephant in the room "
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one
That’s my point if I don’t feel enough then I can’t even just have sex with them, well maybe once then I move on haha
I can’t either which is why I’m looking for a regular thing. Hundred percent don’t want anything else and never will. Not gonna happen. There’s fab and there’s real life. Will always be separate for me. "
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one
That’s my point if I don’t feel enough then I can’t even just have sex with them, well maybe once then I move on haha
I can’t either which is why I’m looking for a regular thing. Hundred percent don’t want anything else and never will. Not gonna happen. There’s fab and there’s real life. Will always be separate for me.
Scotland is rather far from Hertfordshire "
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over a year ago
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one but you dont what to share thats the problem isn't it?
Yep. I don’t share. Unless I’m there too
Exclusive...that's the elephant in the room
Yep! But that’s what I want and if it happens it happens. There’ll be no compromising on that one. "
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one
That’s my point if I don’t feel enough then I can’t even just have sex with them, well maybe once then I move on haha
I can’t either which is why I’m looking for a regular thing. Hundred percent don’t want anything else and never will. Not gonna happen. There’s fab and there’s real life. Will always be separate for me.
Scotland is rather far from Hertfordshire
Is that where you are then? Yeah just a bit!"
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one but you dont what to share thats the problem isn't it?
Yep. I don’t share. Unless I’m there too
Exclusive...that's the elephant in the room
Yep! But that’s what I want and if it happens it happens. There’ll be no compromising on that one. I dont think hes here somehow...spider looks under pillow"
You’re hiding him!! Yeah there’s a few here I just don’t fancy any of them lol  |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one but you dont what to share thats the problem isn't it?
Yep. I don’t share. Unless I’m there too
Exclusive...that's the elephant in the room
Yep! But that’s what I want and if it happens it happens. There’ll be no compromising on that one. I dont think hes here somehow...spider looks under pillow
You’re hiding him!! Yeah there’s a few here I just don’t fancy any of them lol "
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one
That’s my point if I don’t feel enough then I can’t even just have sex with them, well maybe once then I move on haha
I can’t either which is why I’m looking for a regular thing. Hundred percent don’t want anything else and never will. Not gonna happen. There’s fab and there’s real life. Will always be separate for me.
Scotland is rather far from Hertfordshire
Is that where you are then? Yeah just a bit!
Yes, I always say doesn’t matter where you come from or what religion you are if I meet someone I like it’s just very natural "
If people can do that it’s great. I need someone local, I have children and responsibilities that don’t allow me to travel too far. It’s just not feasible. Distance is the nightmare of fab! |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one
That’s my point if I don’t feel enough then I can’t even just have sex with them, well maybe once then I move on haha
I can’t either which is why I’m looking for a regular thing. Hundred percent don’t want anything else and never will. Not gonna happen. There’s fab and there’s real life. Will always be separate for me.
Scotland is rather far from Hertfordshire
Is that where you are then? Yeah just a bit!
Yes, I always say doesn’t matter where you come from or what religion you are if I meet someone I like it’s just very natural
If people can do that it’s great. I need someone local, I have children and responsibilities that don’t allow me to travel too far. It’s just not feasible. Distance is the nightmare of fab! "
You just took the words out of my mouth. This 100% it's called the fabulous curse |
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over a year ago
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one
That’s my point if I don’t feel enough then I can’t even just have sex with them, well maybe once then I move on haha
I can’t either which is why I’m looking for a regular thing. Hundred percent don’t want anything else and never will. Not gonna happen. There’s fab and there’s real life. Will always be separate for me.
Scotland is rather far from Hertfordshire
Is that where you are then? Yeah just a bit!
Yes, I always say doesn’t matter where you come from or what religion you are if I meet someone I like it’s just very natural
If people can do that it’s great. I need someone local, I have children and responsibilities that don’t allow me to travel too far. It’s just not feasible. Distance is the nightmare of fab! "
I didn’t mean we would meet or get married lol just that I know if I like someone and it’s not because of nationality or religion |
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over a year ago
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one
That’s my point if I don’t feel enough then I can’t even just have sex with them, well maybe once then I move on haha
I can’t either which is why I’m looking for a regular thing. Hundred percent don’t want anything else and never will. Not gonna happen. There’s fab and there’s real life. Will always be separate for me.
Scotland is rather far from Hertfordshire
Is that where you are then? Yeah just a bit!
Yes, I always say doesn’t matter where you come from or what religion you are if I meet someone I like it’s just very natural
If people can do that it’s great. I need someone local, I have children and responsibilities that don’t allow me to travel too far. It’s just not feasible. Distance is the nightmare of fab!
I didn’t mean we would meet or get married lol just that I know if I like someone and it’s not because of nationality or religion "
I wasn’t referring to you lol. Just in general. Anyone i seem to ever have any interest in is a trillion miles away! |
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over a year ago
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one
That’s my point if I don’t feel enough then I can’t even just have sex with them, well maybe once then I move on haha
I can’t either which is why I’m looking for a regular thing. Hundred percent don’t want anything else and never will. Not gonna happen. There’s fab and there’s real life. Will always be separate for me.
Scotland is rather far from Hertfordshire
Is that where you are then? Yeah just a bit!
Yes, I always say doesn’t matter where you come from or what religion you are if I meet someone I like it’s just very natural
If people can do that it’s great. I need someone local, I have children and responsibilities that don’t allow me to travel too far. It’s just not feasible. Distance is the nightmare of fab!
I didn’t mean we would meet or get married lol just that I know if I like someone and it’s not because of nationality or religion
I wasn’t referring to you lol. Just in general. Anyone i seem to ever have any interest in is a trillion miles away!"
Lol that’s maybe because our imagination is usually better than the real thing |
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over a year ago
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one
That’s my point if I don’t feel enough then I can’t even just have sex with them, well maybe once then I move on haha
I can’t either which is why I’m looking for a regular thing. Hundred percent don’t want anything else and never will. Not gonna happen. There’s fab and there’s real life. Will always be separate for me.
Scotland is rather far from Hertfordshire
Is that where you are then? Yeah just a bit!
Yes, I always say doesn’t matter where you come from or what religion you are if I meet someone I like it’s just very natural
If people can do that it’s great. I need someone local, I have children and responsibilities that don’t allow me to travel too far. It’s just not feasible. Distance is the nightmare of fab!
I didn’t mean we would meet or get married lol just that I know if I like someone and it’s not because of nationality or religion
I wasn’t referring to you lol. Just in general. Anyone i seem to ever have any interest in is a trillion miles away!
Lol that’s maybe because our imagination is usually better than the real thing"
True! I do tend to be one of those people who wants what they can’t have. If I get it I probably won’t want it then! |
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"Anyway in answer to the original op. I need intimacy and affection, not easily found here which is why I don’t really bother as I want that but I don’t want a “proper relationship”. I also make it clear from the beginning and on my profile that I’m not here looking for random meets etc. So I think this definitely applies to both genders.
So I want that but I don’t need it, it’s something that cannot be manufactured and I’ll happily be alone rather than be with the wrong person.
Oh yes definitely. Hence me being on here for 18 months and can’t seem to find the person for me! Haha
You and me alike Nora.
Hahaha don’t we know it! Me and you will be here forever!
Are you both on here for a boyfriend or to explore new things? It’s not a place to find a soulmate lol
God no! That’s what I don’t want! I just want a FWB but just one. A few people want the same to be honest it’s just finding the right one
That’s my point if I don’t feel enough then I can’t even just have sex with them, well maybe once then I move on haha
I can’t either which is why I’m looking for a regular thing. Hundred percent don’t want anything else and never will. Not gonna happen. There’s fab and there’s real life. Will always be separate for me.
Scotland is rather far from Hertfordshire
Is that where you are then? Yeah just a bit!
Yes, I always say doesn’t matter where you come from or what religion you are if I meet someone I like it’s just very natural
If people can do that it’s great. I need someone local, I have children and responsibilities that don’t allow me to travel too far. It’s just not feasible. Distance is the nightmare of fab!
I didn’t mean we would meet or get married lol just that I know if I like someone and it’s not because of nationality or religion
I wasn’t referring to you lol. Just in general. Anyone i seem to ever have any interest in is a trillion miles away!
Lol that’s maybe because our imagination is usually better than the real thing
True! I do tend to be one of those people who wants what they can’t have. If I get it I probably won’t want it then! "
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"Your probably going to get a one sided / warped perspective of this question on here. The fact that your here, pondering such depths suggests you’ve made a decision and most likely won’t change it whatever your reply.
The more interesting question.. is just how bored is everyone on these forums that a post on cheese is one of the most popular topics spanning weeks.
Have you posted on the wrong thread?"
No. The reason for the lack of intimacy is because this is a swinging site. People try not to get intimate. Therefore the perspective on the question will be warped. |
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"Your probably going to get a one sided / warped perspective of this question on here. The fact that your here, pondering such depths suggests you’ve made a decision and most likely won’t change it whatever your reply.
The more interesting question.. is just how bored is everyone on these forums that a post on cheese is one of the most popular topics spanning weeks.
Have you posted on the wrong thread?
No. The reason for the lack of intimacy is because this is a swinging site. People try not to get intimate. Therefore the perspective on the question will be warped. "
I wasn't referring it to the site, just as a general question in life. |
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"Read an interesting article on this topic recently, it made a lot of sense. "
If by being here then I’m inclined to agree as I think sites like this mean you can avoid intimacy, say for example you have had a bad relationship and want something simpler. The same is probably true of women though to be fair |
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Without reading the article its hard to judge
However I know with my fwb he didn't have intimacy with meets. It actually caused some issues for us because I was craving the intimacy and he didn't know how to give it. We got through it and are incredibly strong as fwb.. Any girls that meet him now you have me to thank if he head kisses and cuddles... #jusy sayin
But on the same note some men are just not comfortable with intimacy and some woman are the same. It doesn't have to be a bad thing |
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"Your probably going to get a one sided / warped perspective of this question on here. The fact that your here, pondering such depths suggests you’ve made a decision and most likely won’t change it whatever your reply.
The more interesting question.. is just how bored is everyone on these forums that a post on cheese is one of the most popular topics spanning weeks.
Have you posted on the wrong thread?
No. The reason for the lack of intimacy is because this is a swinging site. People try not to get intimate. Therefore the perspective on the question will be warped.
I wasn't referring it to the site, just as a general question in life. "
But by asking the question here, you will get a warped response. Ask it in real life for the true answer. |
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