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I'm not shy, but I'm shy....
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've never been someone to really suffer with shyness, I'm usually very happy talking to new people and approaching people, I appear very confident most of the time.
Lately I've been finding myself holding back, especially on fab. I'm not so quick to message someone I'm attracted to or would like to speak to more.
Anyone else the same? Or am I just a weirdo.
Also, if you're interesting and nice, say hello to me so I don't have to grow the metaphorical bollocks to approach you!
I have so many unfulfilled girl crushes!   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I get like this too from time to time, I'm usually very confident but there are a select few men and women I find it hard to approach xx"
Strange innit?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you're beautiful.
Is it shyness? Or laziness? As i imagine quite a few men message and you can just skim a few off the top?
If I were a woman on Fab, I'd close down my inbox to everyone, then message the men and women I like the look of. The cruder, undesirable messages from arrogant people make my skin crawl. Never had a woman make me feel that way. I always feel happy and slightly flattered, even if I'm not attracted to them, it's still a massive compliment.
I was explaining it to a friend last night, but she said very few women actually have the courage to do that.. which I don't get. |
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"I've never been someone to really suffer with shyness, I'm usually very happy talking to new people and approaching people, I appear very confident most of the time.
Lately I've been finding myself holding back, especially on fab. I'm not so quick to message someone I'm attracted to or would like to speak to more.
Anyone else the same? Or am I just a weirdo.
Also, if you're interesting and nice, say hello to me so I don't have to grow the metaphorical bollocks to approach you!
I have so many unfulfilled girl crushes! "
You're not alone.
I'm very shy. No one believes me.
I'm a clusterfuck waiting to happen. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Eileeeeen. Do it woman. Life is too short to not just say fuck it and go for it. What's the worst they could say? No thank you? At least you tried.
If you need a bit of a pep talk I'll cheerlead the fuck out of you before you message someone. 
I do approach. Actually yes, I definitely do. My confidence waivers at times but generally it's not too shabby. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think you're beautiful.
Is it shyness? Or laziness? As i imagine quite a few men message and you can just skim a few off the top?
If I were a woman on Fab, I'd close down my inbox to everyone, then message the men and women I like the look of. The cruder, undesirable messages from arrogant people make my skin crawl. Never had a woman make me feel that way. I always feel happy and slightly flattered, even if I'm not attracted to them, it's still a massive compliment.
I was explaining it to a friend last night, but she said very few women actually have the courage to do that.. which I don't get."
Awww GK! You know I think you're grand! 
I'm definitely a little more forward with men than women, and I don't know why! Maybe it's because I'm now not single and there's no worry if it was to lead to meeting... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Eileeeeen. Do it woman. Life is too short to not just say fuck it and go for it. What's the worst they could say? No thank you? At least you tried.
If you need a bit of a pep talk I'll cheerlead the fuck out of you before you message someone.
I do approach. Actually yes, I definitely do. My confidence waivers at times but generally it's not too shabby."
I'm glad you do! Or I'd still be admiring you quietly from a corner of the lounge
I have been a bit braver lately...I think, a little bit |
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"I think you're beautiful.
Is it shyness? Or laziness? As i imagine quite a few men message and you can just skim a few off the top?
If I were a woman on Fab, I'd close down my inbox to everyone, then message the men and women I like the look of. The cruder, undesirable messages from arrogant people make my skin crawl. Never had a woman make me feel that way. I always feel happy and slightly flattered, even if I'm not attracted to them, it's still a massive compliment.
I was explaining it to a friend last night, but she said very few women actually have the courage to do that.. which I don't get."
Without incurring the wrath of khan are you thinking of a sex change ? Or worse still buying a Kia ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think you're beautiful.
Is it shyness? Or laziness? As i imagine quite a few men message and you can just skim a few off the top?
If I were a woman on Fab, I'd close down my inbox to everyone, then message the men and women I like the look of. The cruder, undesirable messages from arrogant people make my skin crawl. Never had a woman make me feel that way. I always feel happy and slightly flattered, even if I'm not attracted to them, it's still a massive compliment.
I was explaining it to a friend last night, but she said very few women actually have the courage to do that.. which I don't get.
Without incurring the wrath of khan are you thinking of a sex change ? Or worse still buying a Kia ? "
"Wrath of the Khans" Awesome series of podcasts on Dan Carlin's Hardcore History channel. Reccomend him to anyone who has more than a passing interest in history.
Considering? I may have dabbled already, but I'm very happy in who I am and what I was born as. Nothing drastic on the horizon. Just hypothetically pondering what it's like to be in someone elses situation.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’m very confident in life, with my job and everything but fab?!!! I get so ridiculously nervous meeting anyone new for a social it’s mad! If I’m out and a man starts chatting to me I’m totally fine but arranging to meet someone on here I just find it nerve wracking! God knows why  |
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"I think you're beautiful.
Is it shyness? Or laziness? As i imagine quite a few men message and you can just skim a few off the top?
If I were a woman on Fab, I'd close down my inbox to everyone, then message the men and women I like the look of. The cruder, undesirable messages from arrogant people make my skin crawl. Never had a woman make me feel that way. I always feel happy and slightly flattered, even if I'm not attracted to them, it's still a massive compliment.
I was explaining it to a friend last night, but she said very few women actually have the courage to do that.. which I don't get.
Without incurring the wrath of khan are you thinking of a sex change ? Or worse still buying a Kia ?
"Wrath of the Khans" Awesome series of podcasts on Dan Carlin's Hardcore History channel. Reccomend him to anyone who has more than a passing interest in history.
Considering? I may have dabbled already, but I'm very happy in who I am and what I was born as. Nothing drastic on the horizon. Just hypothetically pondering what it's like to be in someone elses situation.
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How very noble !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not shy. I get nervous, but I love that feeling and seek it. I'm a bit of an extrovert, but I've also spent a fair portion of my life a bit introverted, so I know how crippling nerves can be to confidence when it comes to making the first move.
Some men may be nasty and vulgar when they get rejected, they're usually pretty good at dealing with flattering messages in their own inboxes though. Once we recover from the shock of finding one. In my experience we tend to ignore or politely thank them, which can sometimes lead to something else.
So what if man/woman of your dreams doesn't want you just yet. It's not the end of the world, it may not be a permanent decision and you'll probably get talking to someone even nicer by end of the week. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm confident in person but not on fab
I speak better than I can type
see I'm rubbish "
This is me.. In real, I find it so much easier to speak with people, here I find that my spelling or grammer isn't the best and my weird sense of humour can be easily mistaken for being a complete cunt.. When really, I'm trying to be funny.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I go through phases of messaging but at the minute definitely cant be doing with any more knock backs so I'm just foruming and chatting and bugging the shit out of eileen Haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I go through phases of messaging but at the minute definitely cant be doing with any more knock backs so I'm just foruming and chatting and bugging the shit out of eileen Haha "
I'll never knock you back  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've never been someone to really suffer with shyness, I'm usually very happy talking to new people and approaching people, I appear very confident most of the time.
Lately I've been finding myself holding back, especially on fab. I'm not so quick to message someone I'm attracted to or would like to speak to more.
Anyone else the same? Or am I just a weirdo.
Also, if you're interesting and nice, say hello to me so I don't have to grow the metaphorical bollocks to approach you!
I have so many unfulfilled girl crushes! "
Normal human nature to me I’m always happy to make a fool of myself on here  |
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Few years ago I made the conscious decision to not give a flying f**k about what people think of me. After all, it's absolutely none of my business what people think of me. That's their business. Since that day, I haven't felt shy or insecure. I've grabbed opportunities as they've come my way and had the courage to ask for things I'd only dreamed about.
I've not been on here very long but it's been such an interesting experience & learning curve. I'm grateful for every chat, meet and rejection as it's helped me understand me just a little but more.
You are gorgeous OP, be brave, take a chance. If you don't you'll never know |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Few years ago I made the conscious decision to not give a flying f**k about what people think of me. After all, it's absolutely none of my business what people think of me. That's their business. Since that day, I haven't felt shy or insecure. I've grabbed opportunities as they've come my way and had the courage to ask for things I'd only dreamed about.
I've not been on here very long but it's been such an interesting experience & learning curve. I'm grateful for every chat, meet and rejection as it's helped me understand me just a little but more.
You are gorgeous OP, be brave, take a chance. If you don't you'll never know "
Oooh check you out |
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Getting knock backs is pretty common for me, sometimes I can shrug it off, sometimes it’s difficult.
You’ve got to care enough when you send a message but not care too much when it gets ignored which can be tough |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've never been someone to really suffer with shyness, I'm usually very happy talking to new people and approaching people, I appear very confident most of the time.
Lately I've been finding myself holding back, especially on fab. I'm not so quick to message someone I'm attracted to or would like to speak to more.
Anyone else the same? Or am I just a weirdo.
Also, if you're interesting and nice, say hello to me so I don't have to grow the metaphorical bollocks to approach you!
I have so many unfulfilled girl crushes! "
I’m very much the same, I’ve found myself taking a step back from flirting and messaging. I did try messaging men but got oh nice and then nothing. Perhaps I need to rethink my approach x |
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"Few years ago I made the conscious decision to not give a flying f**k about what people think of me. After all, it's absolutely none of my business what people think of me. That's their business. Since that day, I haven't felt shy or insecure. I've grabbed opportunities as they've come my way and had the courage to ask for things I'd only dreamed about.
I've not been on here very long but it's been such an interesting experience & learning curve. I'm grateful for every chat, meet and rejection as it's helped me understand me just a little but more.
You are gorgeous OP, be brave, take a chance. If you don't you'll never know
Oooh check you out "
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