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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What you guys think of having a social before play or just jump straight in. Seems to us couples that want to play on first meet generally ain't couples discuss |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I quite enjoy socials with a potential for more. That's how I oft meet. I think people meeting and straight in to fucking happens and it doesn't make them "fake", just not compatible with you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer a social with potential for more if we hit it off.
I don't always divulge the fact that I'd maybe be willing for more as some see it like a challenge. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We haven't done socials before. Usually you generally know whether you click before you meet (unless you do last minute meets). We like to just chill, drink, have a laugh and see where it goes, so no pressure! If they want to go straight to fucking, we are also down for that too  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
For me I like a social element to any meet, especially first meets, rather than getting straight down to it (although that has been known with people I've met more than once) - I like the build up and sense of anticipation it provides.
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By *rReyMan
over a year ago
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I prefer a social, never plan or expect beyond that. Just because you chat and get on doesn't mean it will be right when you meet. I have gone for the straight in approach, and it just wasn't right...for me and probably not them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think socials with a potential for more are great if both parties already feel that more is highly likely. However if that isn’t the case then just a social would be my preference, as that way you simply meet as friends.
In the dim and distant past my early meets were simply sex meets, even if there was a bit of socialising before jumping to it. However if I was doing the latter now then we would likely have a very strong online attraction to each other that has built over a period of time. In the end it would probably still effectively be a social with potential. |
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By *eys00Man
over a year ago
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If I feel we have been getting on well enough then no problem. It's easier to get a read on some people over the phone and text than others. Whatever the other party is more comfortable with really! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd rather not bother.. to me a first meet should be social.. in my home, or yours.. with the view to have a bit of fun.
I spend time communicating and getting the feel of someone before I've any desire to meet them. Makes for a great filter. If you ask the right questions and are a little Fab-wise.. you can usually figure out whether you'll click in person.
It's always on the provisio that we can both back out, say "I'm not feeling it" And leave.. Without any hard feelings. I don't want to make anyone feel like they have to "Walk the walk" or "Take one for the team". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd rather not bother.. to me a first meet should be social.. in my home, or yours.. with the view to have a bit of fun.
I spend time communicating and getting the feel of someone before I've any desire to meet them. Makes for a great filter. If you ask the right questions and are a little Fab-wise.. you can usually figure out whether you'll click in person.
It's always on the provisio that we can both back out, say "I'm not feeling it" And leave.. Without any hard feelings. I don't want to make anyone feel like they have to "Walk the walk" or "Take one for the team". "
I completely disagree, you can get a vibe for someone, conversations flow,both enjoy the same things, like their photos, but when you meet, it just isn't there, that spark, that 'yeah, I wanna fuck you'
But that's just my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like to have a social. Things can be quite different when you meet face to face so I think it’s worth taking the time to have a social first then I'll ask them.to fuck my anus behind asda"
You started well ! |
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"I'd rather not bother.. to me a first meet should be social.. in my home, or yours.. with the view to have a bit of fun.
I spend time communicating and getting the feel of someone before I've any desire to meet them. Makes for a great filter. If you ask the right questions and are a little Fab-wise.. you can usually figure out whether you'll click in person.
It's always on the provisio that we can both back out, say "I'm not feeling it" And leave.. Without any hard feelings. I don't want to make anyone feel like they have to "Walk the walk" or "Take one for the team". "
I agree with this, I rarely met anyone for a social, always met for sex really, the times things haven’t worked out I can count on on one hand and even then there was no argument if neither of us were feeling the right vibe  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd rather not bother.. to me a first meet should be social.. in my home, or yours.. with the view to have a bit of fun.
I spend time communicating and getting the feel of someone before I've any desire to meet them. Makes for a great filter. If you ask the right questions and are a little Fab-wise.. you can usually figure out whether you'll click in person.
It's always on the provisio that we can both back out, say "I'm not feeling it" And leave.. Without any hard feelings. I don't want to make anyone feel like they have to "Walk the walk" or "Take one for the team".
I completely disagree, you can get a vibe for someone, conversations flow,both enjoy the same things, like their photos, but when you meet, it just isn't there, that spark, that 'yeah, I wanna fuck you'
But that's just my opinion. "
I treat the time before we have sex.. the flirting, the chatting.. awkward silences.. as that time to decide if the vibe isn't just digital.
So it always has potential to just be a social. In very good company that's sometimes better. I'm quite happy to social first, just prefer it my way 
Like my profile says towards the end.. play this game with your own rule set and go your own way. One two Fabs, but many different ways to use them. |
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