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Is sex over rated?
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It depends. I don't feel it's possible to develop a meaningful connection while engaging in casual sex. It's pretty shallow but as long as you understand that and are respectful of your partners I can't see a problem |
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If you are in a loving relationship and there is amazing sex, fulfilment, desire and trust then you are able to do this
Why do I swing if my relationship is so amazing
Because we love the excitement and thrill and we have no doubt in our minds that having sex in the same room with another couple will be nothing else other than sexual pleasure
No one will ever make me feel like my partner!!!
Oh and it took four years for us to want this and accept it as nothing else but fun
If your asking this question then there is doubt
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I wonder if it's because I'm part of a relationship in which we have a very deep connection formed over nearly 40 years that I don't think it's possible to form a connection in a short period of time? |
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over a year ago
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"It’s usually under/overrated when you aren’t getting any"
I don’t agree. I’ve had a bit of action this year but nothing really stands out as it was just sex. I need feelings involved for it to be great. |
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By *wentMan
over a year ago
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"It’s usually under/overrated when you aren’t getting any
I don’t agree. I’ve had a bit of action this year but nothing really stands out as it was just sex. I need feelings involved for it to be great. "
Depends what you want in all
Aspects, anyone can usually get sex if they want it enough but to have a connection is something different and makes it special and more enjoyable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think it’s over rated but I guess it depends on how you feel about it. If you haven’t got a high sex drive, then it probably isn’t important to you. My drive is quite high. If I could have sex every day, I would. We do it because we enjoy it. How can something that is so good be over rated? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t think it’s over rated but I guess it depends on how you feel about it. If you haven’t got a high sex drive, then it probably isn’t important to you. My drive is quite high. If I could have sex every day, I would. We do it because we enjoy it. How can something that is so good be over rated?"
Mine is not high at all but more adventurous when I am in the mood. |
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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago
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"It’s usually under/overrated when you aren’t getting any
I don’t agree. I’ve had a bit of action this year but nothing really stands out as it was just sex. I need feelings involved for it to be great. "
Isn’t that one of the fundamental differences between men and women though? I’m not disagreeing with you point, in fact I’d rather have a good wank than a shit shag 
So I guess the answer is yes, no, maybe, milk 2 sugars |
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By *wentMan
over a year ago
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It can be a personality thing as well, some boys could basically fuck anything at points and girls can be the same.
I like to be someone who makes me feel special in the time I spend with them. It’s not always the sex it can be the lead up to it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s usually under/overrated when you aren’t getting any
I don’t agree. I’ve had a bit of action this year but nothing really stands out as it was just sex. I need feelings involved for it to be great.
Isn’t that one of the fundamental differences between men and women though? I’m not disagreeing with you point, in fact I’d rather have a good wank than a shit shag
So I guess the answer is yes, no, maybe, milk 2 sugars "
I agree with your first point. It’s more of a NEED for men generally. Mine is more of a WANT. |
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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago
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"It’s usually under/overrated when you aren’t getting any
I don’t agree. I’ve had a bit of action this year but nothing really stands out as it was just sex. I need feelings involved for it to be great.
Isn’t that one of the fundamental differences between men and women though? I’m not disagreeing with you point, in fact I’d rather have a good wank than a shit shag
So I guess the answer is yes, no, maybe, milk 2 sugars
I agree with your first point. It’s more of a NEED for men generally. Mine is more of a WANT. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think a connection with a person is far more important
Discuss...  "
Connecting with what though Op
Your mind your soul and your body sounds like marriage.
Same wavelength so when you meet its not a cold Fuck n go type maybe.
I used to go to clubs and meet guys and snog n have sex without a connection.
We all want sex so just go get it. Have fun. |
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By *wentMan
over a year ago
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"I think a connection with a person is far more important
Discuss...
Connecting with what though Op
Your mind your soul and your body sounds like marriage.
Same wavelength so when you meet its not a cold Fuck n go type maybe.
I used to go to clubs and meet guys and snog n have sex without a connection.
We all want sex so just go get it. Have fun. "
Same wavelength is a must, if you want it get it. But it’s much better if you have connection. I wouldn’t just have sex for the sake of it. |
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"I think a connection with a person is far more important
Discuss... "
I think sex is a key ingredient in a total package. No so good on its own but neither is a good relationship without it. Sex to me a huge part of building and maintaining a great connection with each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think a connection with a person is far more important
Discuss... "
100%, id sooner have amazing mind blowing sex with someone i have a amazing conection with once every few months, rather than daily with different people i have no connection with.
For me casual multiple partner sex is totally unforfilling & empty. |
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Good sex isn’t overrated, it’s absolutely fantastic.
Mediocre sex is alright but when you connect with someone it means you both want it to be good because you pay attention to what each other wants.
That’s the bit that makes it zingy |
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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago
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"Sex is a biological imperative that most of us ha e a drive to fulfil. It's not really about it being over rated, just something that we all must do."
That might have been true thousands of years ago, but we have evolved to have sex purely for pleasure, I think dolphins and some apes do as well. If we all have a biological need, why are there people who choose celibacy or at the other end, self-imposed chastity (which is also sexually pleasurable to the chastised) conscious thought, imagination and self awareness in humans has taught/enabled (most)us to over-ride our more primal base instincts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a mood thing you're either in it or not, drinking too much ruins it body can't do what mind wants it to, women's monthly cycles affect it to, then theirs the insatiables just can't get enough, hooked on endorphins  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on my mood
I prefer sex with a connection but sometimes I want a purely physical fuck.
Being single makes the former difficult - especially on sites like this.
That's probably why I'm practically a nun these days 
Put the kettle on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having sex with someone is a connection though isnt it really. If Im having sex with you Im connected or we wouldn't be there. 
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Isn’t sex without a connection with someone else wanking? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Having sex with someone is a connection though isnt it really. If Im having sex with you Im connected or we wouldn't be there.
Isn’t sex without a connection with someone else wanking?"
Id say even the most unfulfilling of sex will have had the very briefest of connections, she will have still taken him inside her and he will have cum from the effects of her body on his, they will have had hands on each other at some point, There's going to be a second or two of connection at least |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you are in a loving relationship and there is amazing sex, fulfilment, desire and trust then you are able to do this
Why do I swing if my relationship is so amazing
Because we love the excitement and thrill and we have no doubt in our minds that having sex in the same room with another couple will be nothing else other than sexual pleasure
No one will ever make me feel like my partner!!!
Oh and it took four years for us to want this and accept it as nothing else but fun
If your asking this question then there is doubt
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This exactly x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wonder if it's because I'm part of a relationship in which we have a very deep connection formed over nearly 40 years that I don't think it's possible to form a connection in a short period of time?"
I suspect you also don't want to or need to as your partner gives you all the connection you need in life. And I think what you allude to is true ... a quickly formed connection feels somewhat contrived when you have the real thing already. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can’t enjoy sex properly unless there is a connection. I’d rather fuck my dildo.
Is that what you call Gary ? "
Gary, Keith and Trevor. The perfect trio! Ha |
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