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over a year ago
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Whether they have had none or 100s doesn't brother me in the slightest. It would be the amount of activity and with whom whilst playing with me that would be the issue |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris.
So I’ve hidden them all recently.
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I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site.......
This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does  |
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris.
So I’ve hidden them all recently.
I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site.......
This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does "
Me and you both.... Still at least it sorts out the "to-do" list  |
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over a year ago
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris.
So I’ve hidden them all recently.
I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site.......
This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does "
Why should people be open minded? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris.
So I’ve hidden them all recently.
I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site.......
This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does "
How’s it judging? People are looking for different things. People can do what they like if it doesn’t affect me. I don’t see where judging comes into it. If it affects me then yeah I’ll judge, doesn’t everyone? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris.
So I’ve hidden them all recently.
I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site.......
This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does
Why should people be open minded?"
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris.
So I’ve hidden them all recently.
I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site.......
This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does
Why should people be open minded?"
Because of the nature of the site.
How people use fab is up to them but it’s not a vanilla site and personally judging people for having sex with others is a little odd to me.
Maybe I’ve got it all wrong and I’m in the wrong place |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris.
So I’ve hidden them all recently.
I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site.......
This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does
Why should people be open minded?
Because of the nature of the site.
How people use fab is up to them but it’s not a vanilla site and personally judging people for having sex with others is a little odd to me.
Maybe I’ve got it all wrong and I’m in the wrong place "
No that’ll be me who’s in the wrong place, but I’m cool with it. |
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris.
So I’ve hidden them all recently.
I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site.......
This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does
Why should people be open minded?
Because of the nature of the site.
How people use fab is up to them but it’s not a vanilla site and personally judging people for having sex with others is a little odd to me.
Maybe I’ve got it all wrong and I’m in the wrong place "
I am finding the forums to be extremely judgemental of late, you try and ignore it but it just insidious. Live and Let Live. You do You and such thoughts are rapidly diminishing |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris.
So I’ve hidden them all recently.
I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site.......
This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does
How’s it judging? People are looking for different things. People can do what they like if it doesn’t affect me. I don’t see where judging comes into it. If it affects me then yeah I’ll judge, doesn’t everyone?"
I personally feel it’s very judgemental. From experiences on here.
And I totally agree with what you say but not everyone is like that. |
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris.
So I’ve hidden them all recently.
I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site.......
This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does
Why should people be open minded?
Because of the nature of the site.
How people use fab is up to them but it’s not a vanilla site and personally judging people for having sex with others is a little odd to me.
Maybe I’ve got it all wrong and I’m in the wrong place
No that’ll be me who’s in the wrong place, but I’m cool with it. "
Nothing to do with the site, people don't change their mind set as soon as they sign up to fab.......and why should they.... |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris.
So I’ve hidden them all recently.
I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site.......
This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does
Why should people be open minded?
Because of the nature of the site.
How people use fab is up to them but it’s not a vanilla site and personally judging people for having sex with others is a little odd to me.
Maybe I’ve got it all wrong and I’m in the wrong place
No that’ll be me who’s in the wrong place, but I’m cool with it. "
I wouldn’t say you was. To me you use this place for what you want and I’ve never felt you judge anyone else’s actions.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They used to, when I was meeting. But it did depend on how long they'd been on here and the content of their veris. I wasn't looking for someone who met a lot (sexually speaking, not social) as I wasn't interested in complete NSA and that to me was an indicator that they were there for the sexual encounters only. Nothing wrong with that of course, but it wasn't for me 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris.
So I’ve hidden them all recently.
I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site.......
This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does
Why should people be open minded?
Because of the nature of the site.
How people use fab is up to them but it’s not a vanilla site and personally judging people for having sex with others is a little odd to me.
Maybe I’ve got it all wrong and I’m in the wrong place "
I'm not saying you got it wrong, sorry. Just wondering.
It's a site where people look for fucks but they can have whatever rules they want about who they fuck. |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris.
So I’ve hidden them all recently.
I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site.......
This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does
Why should people be open minded?
Because of the nature of the site.
How people use fab is up to them but it’s not a vanilla site and personally judging people for having sex with others is a little odd to me.
Maybe I’ve got it all wrong and I’m in the wrong place
I am finding the forums to be extremely judgemental of late, you try and ignore it but it just insidious. Live and Let Live. You do You and such thoughts are rapidly diminishing "
I couldn’t agree with you more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris.
So I’ve hidden them all recently.
I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site.......
This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does
How’s it judging? People are looking for different things. People can do what they like if it doesn’t affect me. I don’t see where judging comes into it. If it affects me then yeah I’ll judge, doesn’t everyone?
I personally feel it’s very judgemental. From experiences on here.
And I totally agree with what you say but not everyone is like that. "
And that’s fine for those people. How is it judgemental? I’m here to have just one FWB I’m not here to meet lots of people. So why would I want someone who does? And how am I judging those people? I just don’t contact them or politely decline. I don’t say ewww no im not meeting you you’ve met 3 people this week! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Isn’t it up to the individual ?
I personally won’t meet people who’ve met lots from the forum on a sexual basis as it’s just a recipe for disaster
What amuses me is people’s perception of how it’s assumed you should be behaving on a site like this
Use it how you wish ...
Fucks sake
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris.
So I’ve hidden them all recently.
I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site.......
This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does
Why should people be open minded?
Because of the nature of the site.
How people use fab is up to them but it’s not a vanilla site and personally judging people for having sex with others is a little odd to me.
Maybe I’ve got it all wrong and I’m in the wrong place
I'm not saying you got it wrong, sorry. Just wondering.
It's a site where people look for fucks but they can have whatever rules they want about who they fuck. "
Yeah exactly.
I’ve just had my eyes opened lately that’s all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris.
So I’ve hidden them all recently.
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Each to their own ... wouldn’t you say
They’re entitled to their choice .. |
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Depends... If they're lots of play veris from individual meets spread over a few months or a year... Then yes. Not because of any judgement on how they choose to meet, but because I know we would be incompatible. I prefer regular meets and lots of communication, and if someone is prolific they won't be able to give me the time and attention I would be looking for  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends... If they're lots of play veris from individual meets spread over a few months or a year... Then yes. Not because of any judgement on how they choose to meet, but because I know we would be incompatible. I prefer regular meets and lots of communication, and if someone is prolific they won't be able to give me the time and attention I would be looking for "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They can be a bit off putting but I've loads anyway. I've been on this site since 2010 and people keep verifying me. Most of mine were coffee meets but I don't like it when people verify me without asking poops as often I cannot remember them |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris.
So I’ve hidden them all recently.
I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site.......
This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does
How’s it judging? People are looking for different things. People can do what they like if it doesn’t affect me. I don’t see where judging comes into it. If it affects me then yeah I’ll judge, doesn’t everyone?"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The reason I ask is I was arranging to meet someone next week and in the last week they have 6 new veris and they're all sex... I feel like that's put me off now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I joined fab looking for casual encounters, not commitment. I make no pretence about it. If someone is put off by that they are probably not for me.
Also who I meet is between me and them, nobody else’s business. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I joined fab looking for casual encounters, not commitment. I make no pretence about it. If someone is put off by that they are probably not for me.
Also who I meet is between me and them, nobody else’s business."
Yeah I totally get that. I guess I'm looking in to things a little too much. |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"I joined fab looking for casual encounters, not commitment. I make no pretence about it. If someone is put off by that they are probably not for me.
Also who I meet is between me and them, nobody else’s business."
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"The reason I ask is I was arranging to meet someone next week and in the last week they have 6 new veris and they're all sex... I feel like that's put me off now. "
So you are put off by the fact that a swinger enjoys sex ? I've had sex with six people in one night ! But as they didn't verify me you wouldn't know, would you ? |
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"I joined fab looking for casual encounters, not commitment. I make no pretence about it. If someone is put off by that they are probably not for me.
Also who I meet is between me and them, nobody else’s business."
Bingo |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I joined fab looking for casual encounters, not commitment. I make no pretence about it. If someone is put off by that they are probably not for me.
Also who I meet is between me and them, nobody else’s business.
Yeah I totally get that. I guess I'm looking in to things a little too much. "
No, you're not. If you feel uncomfortable meeting someone who has met six others in the past week, you do. Don't meet them. It shows you're not compatible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The reason I ask is I was arranging to meet someone next week and in the last week they have 6 new veris and they're all sex... I feel like that's put me off now. "
Do what you want to do my lovely. I wouldn’t meet them but like I said it depends what you’re looking for on here. Plenty of people on here don’t even meet. There are no rules as such |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I joined fab looking for casual encounters, not commitment. I make no pretence about it. If someone is put off by that they are probably not for me.
Also who I meet is between me and them, nobody else’s business."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I joined fab looking for casual encounters, not commitment. I make no pretence about it. If someone is put off by that they are probably not for me.
Also who I meet is between me and them, nobody else’s business.
Yeah I totally get that. I guess I'm looking in to things a little too much. "
Do verifications mean alot to you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I joined fab looking for casual encounters, not commitment. I make no pretence about it. If someone is put off by that they are probably not for me.
Also who I meet is between me and them, nobody else’s business.
Yeah I totally get that. I guess I'm looking in to things a little too much.
No, you're not. If you feel uncomfortable meeting someone who has met six others in the past week, you do. Don't meet them. It shows you're not compatible. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you judge what is too many?
Someone could have 100 but have been here 10 years. Someone else 15 but in three weeks."
5 is too many for me. Any time frame, 10 days or 10 years. |
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"How do you judge what is too many?
Someone could have 100 but have been here 10 years. Someone else 15 but in three weeks.
5 is too many for me. Any time frame, 10 days or 10 years."
Says the person with 20,485! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do you judge what is too many?
Someone could have 100 but have been here 10 years. Someone else 15 but in three weeks.
5 is too many for me. Any time frame, 10 days or 10 years.
Says the person with 20,485! "
20,483 were socials. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"How do you judge what is too many?
Someone could have 100 but have been here 10 years. Someone else 15 but in three weeks."
It boils down to what you’re comfortable with that’s all and we’re all different I suppose. Just because I’m on a sex site I don’t have to be constantly lining someone up.
I rarely meet and that suits me because I take my time and do things in my own way. I wouldn’t want to be the next person on someone’s tick list and before they’ve even removed their penis they’re already planning their next meet. The fab carousel is not my thing and I know I am not compatible with that person or their approach. I don’t care if others do it, it’s their choice and it’s none of my business. I just don’t want to be part of it and that way we’re all happy |
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"How do you judge what is too many?
Someone could have 100 but have been here 10 years. Someone else 15 but in three weeks.
It boils down to what you’re comfortable with that’s all and we’re all different I suppose. Just because I’m on a sex site I don’t have to be constantly lining someone up.
I rarely meet and that suits me because I take my time and do things in my own way. I wouldn’t want to be the next person on someone’s tick list and before they’ve even removed their penis they’re already planning their next meet. The fab carousel is not my thing and I know I am not compatible with that person or their approach. I don’t care if others do it, it’s their choice and it’s none of my business. I just don’t want to be part of it and that way we’re all happy "
Absolutely this x |
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"How do you judge what is too many?
Someone could have 100 but have been here 10 years. Someone else 15 but in three weeks.
It boils down to what you’re comfortable with that’s all and we’re all different I suppose. Just because I’m on a sex site I don’t have to be constantly lining someone up.
I rarely meet and that suits me because I take my time and do things in my own way. I wouldn’t want to be the next person on someone’s tick list and before they’ve even removed their penis they’re already planning their next meet. The fab carousel is not my thing and I know I am not compatible with that person or their approach. I don’t care if others do it, it’s their choice and it’s none of my business. I just don’t want to be part of it and that way we’re all happy "
Spot on there Babs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people have used the amount of my verifications as a reason to block me
They block you for having 5 verifications in a year ?"
Yes it's been a little sparse this year.
Last year was much better |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people have used the amount of my verifications as a reason to block me
How do you know why that’s the reason ?"
Because they messaged me then blocked me.
How else? |
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It never bothered us when we were meeting , although many were bothered by how many we had . Especially as they were all play and often five or six in a week .
Couldn’t care less to be honest as we could simply choose not to show them if people didn’t like fact that we were sluts .
Some people like to feel special , and choose not to meet those who meet lots of people . That’s cool , and bad luck if they thought meeting is was going to be anything more than a one off , meaningless , but fun encounter . We always saw swinging as a hobby . Nothing more , nothing less . We always enjoyed the meets and so did those who met us , and we certainly ticked off everything on our bucket list .
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"Some people have used the amount of my verifications as a reason to block me
How do you know why that’s the reason ?
Because they messaged me then blocked me.
How else?"
Maybe they didnt like something on your profile, like the BDSM test results for example ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some people have used the amount of my verifications as a reason to block me
How do you know why that’s the reason ?
Because they messaged me then blocked me.
How else?
Maybe they didnt like something on your profile, like the BDSM test results for example ?"
They specifically said it was the number of veris. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have over 200 veris. I like to go to the club's and socials . I display them all .if people don't like that then I'm afraid they're not for me and I will concentrate on the ones that do want to meet me. |
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I’m sometimes jealous that people have so much spare time
Have as many as you want, it doesn’t bother me. I don’t care if they’re social or sex meets either. I’m not here to judge, I’m here for fun. |
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"The reason I ask is I was arranging to meet someone next week and in the last week they have 6 new veris and they're all sex... I feel like that's put me off now.
So you are put off by the fact that a swinger enjoys sex ? I've had sex with six people in one night ! But as they didn't verify me you wouldn't know, would you ?"
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We look at it other way no veris means ur on wrong site,not all veris are about sex,we meet and socialise with lots we not had sex with,also for us we don't meet with any profiles with very little or no veris after being on the site years |
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No, but I think I’m in the minority and my views have changed. The content and style have always been more important for me than the numbers.
I would favour people with a lot of the right kind of play veris. If 200 other women have thoroughly enjoyed the company of a man I’m thinking he’s probably pretty good at what he does! |
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"No, but I think I’m in the minority and my views have changed. The content and style have always been more important for me than the numbers.
I would favour people with a lot of the right kind of play veris. If 200 other women have thoroughly enjoyed the company of a man I’m thinking he’s probably pretty good at what he does!"
I'll sit with you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends. If they are all say from various bareback gangbangs I wouldn't meet ever.
If alot are from club goers and been on here a while. Then it doesn't bother me no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do loads of veri put you off meeting someone? "
Not necessarily lots of veri, but when you put the veri content together with multiple photos of different people and unprotected sex. Then yes, instant put off. |
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It doesn’t make sense really but I’d like to think I’m not just another number even though that’s more than likely what I am haha 