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over a year ago
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Nope, I won't be there to enjoy it so I'm not particular about music or readings etc. I'd like to cause the least anount of hassle to my loved ones who have to sort it out, so eventually I'll stipulate that I want the cheapest method of body disposal available, possibly also the location of said dispisal, but beyond that I don't care what happens. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I have. It’s about making it as easy as possible for those you love.
Both of my parents prepared for theirs which completely removed the need to have to plan and second guess someone else’s wishes when you’re grieving  |
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"I have. It’s about making it as easy as possible for those you love.
Both of my parents prepared for theirs which completely removed the need to have to plan and second guess someone else’s wishes when you’re grieving "
But isn't it selfish to make your loved ones do what you want when you're not there ? Shouldn't it be their choice to do what they feel appropriate ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not yet. I probably should.
My father refused point blank to discuss it when he was terminally ill and it made us have to guess what he would prefer, my stepmum and half brother and half sister took over and I had no say at all, it was hard not to feel resentment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So far I've only figured out what songs will be played and that there will be absolutely no religious content whatsoever.
I will be leaving very clear instructions that there must be no mention of god or prayers at all |
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Yes I have mine all planned, my father passed away last year and his arrangements were all made, the fact it was all written down made it easier for my mother to sort things out. I decided that I wanted things to be easier for my sons if anything happened to me, they know not to make a fuss, I’m not even bothered about a service, a cardboard coffin will do and they can put me in the family plot after that  |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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Only in as much as my ever expanding playlist. I'll be able to force people to listen to stuff, that appeals to me.
I think I want Verdi's "requiem" at full, deafening pelt as I'm carried down the aisle, either that or "The Hymn of the Soviet Republic", depends upon how mischievous I'm feeling. |
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"I’m not even bothered about a service, a cardboard coffin will do and they can put me in the family plot after that
In Leeds just to open a family plot for another burial is £1333."
Exactly that’s why I don’t want all the other stuff that goes along with it, pop me in the oven then what’s left can go in the ground  |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I have. It’s about making it as easy as possible for those you love.
Both of my parents prepared for theirs which completely removed the need to have to plan and second guess someone else’s wishes when you’re grieving
But isn't it selfish to make your loved ones do what you want when you're not there ? Shouldn't it be their choice to do what they feel appropriate ?"
No it’s not selfish. How can it be when the whole purpose is to take the burden off those remaining? It’s their body and their wishes. If they have organised everything and paid for everything I’m not sure why you would go against someone’s wishes. I wouldn’t. |
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I'm not saying I would go against someone's wishes. I just think it should be the choice of the people left behind what they choose to do with me. For example I am an atheist but if a prayer brought comfort to my relatives why shouldn't they say one ? |
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I've talked about it with my children. I don't want it to be a sad occasion. I've told them some silly things I want to happen to make them laugh at the absurdity of the situation. I've insured myself but told them to do it as cheap as possible x |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm not saying I would go against someone's wishes. I just think it should be the choice of the people left behind what they choose to do with me. For example I am an atheist but if a prayer brought comfort to my relatives why shouldn't they say one ?"
If someone has arranged their funeral then they have expressed their wishes.
A prayer doesn’t change your arrangements does it? If you’re an atheist and they gave you a catholic funeral it would be against your beliefs and wishes. I believe that would be the selfish act. It’s not about you it’s about the person that has passed. |
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"Definitely not, years and years away and if not, I’m not there so whoever is organising it will decide
That's how I feel. "
It’s cone up with friends / family when we’ve had a drink all they know (or we chatted about) was I’m not religious so don’t bother with any of that.
I’ll come into wherever I go to “oh when the spurs go marching in” and I’ll leave to “I did it my way” and then everyone has to go have a laugh. Some have said they’ll sprinkle me at the emirates and I can haunt it
Either way I’m not there so as said before it’s for those left behind how they wish to do it, whatever is easiest for them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I planned my mum's, she getting that classic song Ding dong the witch is dead as I dance the Irish jig as she is lowered into the hole. "
I'm with you on that one x |
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"It’s not about you it’s about the person that has passed. "
But when I'm dead I dont care what anyone does for my funeral. My will says my eldest daughter can do whatever she chooses with me and there is plenty of money from me to pay for it and any left over is split between my four children. |
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By *abs..Woman
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"It’s not about you it’s about the person that has passed.
But when I'm dead I dont care what anyone does for my funeral. My will says my eldest daughter can do whatever she chooses with me and there is plenty of money from me to pay for it and any left over is split between my four children. "
Then you have expressed your wishes so that’s perfectly fine. Others express their wishes in a different way. |
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"Im having one of those non funeral funerals, body gets picked up, ashes get returned, just like the vets. Cheap and family can have a party, be happy and say how lovely i was lol"
You can make it even cheaper by not getting the ashes back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes we got problems in this country. If the wife dies first we're going to have to send her back to Japan for a proper funeral due to the cremation rules here. If I go first no worries she sells all here and returns to Japan. We do find the crematoriums in this country not very agreeable to Shinto-Buddhist practices. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you planned yours?
Songs, readings, anything?"
I'm reading this in a very sinister voice and trying to guess who it's aimed at. It reads like a line from The Godfather.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hope I have time to save or create a financial legacy for my boys. That's more important to me than anything else.
They know I'm happy to donate my organs and I suppose at some point I'll tell them I want my ashes scattered to the sea.
I've not long since done my mum's, I did my dad's and my grans. I don't really have it in me to think of any others right now x |
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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None, but it is noted that I couldn’t care less what they do with me once I’m gone.
However
If I die with old lady grey hair and a set of old man style whiskers they get nowt in my will. They have to keep me pruned and looking good in my dementia, that’s the deal.
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I’ve even recorded some of my kids favourite stories onto mp3 just in case the worst happens. 
