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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have had a female agree to meet me numerous times now and agrees to meet after work. I message her to get where to meet and then she goes silent. Then the next day she says she wants to meet again and then the same thing.
How many chances is too many chances? |
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"I have had a female agree to meet me numerous times now and agrees to meet after work. I message her to get where to meet and then she goes silent. Then the next day she says she wants to meet again and then the same thing.
How many chances is too many chances?"
Two. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks to all.
I can see shes been online. I also have her on whatsapp and see shes on there and not picking up messages. But shes complaining about men on here
She has 1 final chance I think. Problem is I know she will verify me and others wont meet none verified too |
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By *bwplaydateMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and travel/hotel |
"I have had a female agree to meet me numerous times now and agrees to meet after work. I message her to get where to meet and then she goes silent. Then the next day she says she wants to meet again and then the same thing.
How many chances is too many chances?"
It's really a man - block and move on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"One chance.
Move on, op.
Well not one she didn't make him go + didn't turn up, thats one chance. BUT not to keep doing what she's doing.
1. Are you sure she's even real + not a fake profile? Send me a message if you would like me to look + give my opinion
2. How many times has "she" done this?"
Yes she is real. I know other real women friends who know she is real.
2 times now |
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"Thanks to all.
I can see shes been online. I also have her on whatsapp and see shes on there and not picking up messages. But shes complaining about men on here
She has 1 final chance I think. Problem is I know she will verify me and others wont meet none verified too"
She's cancelled on you numerous times - your words on the OP.
But you're positive she'll give you a veri  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Two if first reason genuine. Your not guaranteed a Veri even then. Her loss stick with it I'm sure someone will give u a chance "
Thanks Steph. I appreciate that and youre right about the veri |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks to all.
I can see shes been online. I also have her on whatsapp and see shes on there and not picking up messages. But shes complaining about men on here
She has 1 final chance I think. Problem is I know she will verify me and others wont meet none verified too
She's cancelled on you numerous times - your words on the OP.
But you're positive she'll give you a veri "
She seems to have given and recieved loads herself. Maybe I should be more fussy. She does seem to have a lot of veris. Tho getting women who want to meet is hard to do. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would be dubious about her veris by the sound of it, it looks suspiciously like she is giving and receiving veris without actually meeting or even speaking to people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As many chances as you feel comfortable with.
On the other side, in terms of my mental health I have had to cancel plans. Those that don't support this aren't worth the effort |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Only you can know OP as you're the one in conversation - has she given reasons for why she's not been able to meet on the days you planned? If so do they appear genuine?
When you say "Then the next day she says she wants to meet again" is it her saying that unprompted, or are you the one doing the suggesting? If the latter, perhaps she's just keeping you at arms length and hoping you'll get the message rather than being upfront.
Ultimately though, the decision is yours whether to continue trying to meet her, and potentially being let down, or to let it drop.
Put any notion of meeting to get a veri aside too - surely the reason to meet is because you like the person not just to get a tick in a box? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With the silence. No chances. I have a friend on here who I've been terrible for cancelling on but he's been really patient with me. But it was genuine reasons and I was having a hard time. His patience has actually led to a better friendship. So the reasons you list then absolutely no chances if its something else then its a situation by situation decision |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had a meet vanish today, same couple, second time it's happened, I get that life gets in the way and I'm really sanguine about it, what annoys me though is the general lack of communication that is has actually cancelled, the just organise then stop opening their mail.
Two chances is my new rule.
I'm free tonight.... Anyone....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks to all.
I can see shes been online. I also have her on whatsapp and see shes on there and not picking up messages. But shes complaining about men on here
She has 1 final chance I think. Problem is I know she will verify me and others wont meet none verified too
She's cancelled on you numerous times - your words on the OP.
But you're positive she'll give you a veri
She seems to have given and recieved loads herself. Maybe I should be more fussy. She does seem to have a lot of veris. Tho getting women who want to meet is hard to do. Lol"
Women will find it easy to blag veris from guys, on the promise of a meet. Beware.
I think you should move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have had a female agree to meet me numerous times now and agrees to meet after work. I message her to get where to meet and then she goes silent. Then the next day she says she wants to meet again and then the same thing.
How many chances is too many chances?
Two."
Two |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have had a female agree to meet me numerous times now and agrees to meet after work. I message her to get where to meet and then she goes silent. Then the next day she says she wants to meet again and then the same thing.
How many chances is too many chances?"
2. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have had a female agree to meet me numerous times now and agrees to meet after work. I message her to get where to meet and then she goes silent. Then the next day she says she wants to meet again and then the same thing.
How many chances is too many chances?"
lol its a guy |
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"Only you can know OP as you're the one in conversation - has she given reasons for why she's not been able to meet on the days you planned? If so do they appear genuine?
When you say "Then the next day she says she wants to meet again" is it her saying that unprompted, or are you the one doing the suggesting? If the latter, perhaps she's just keeping you at arms length and hoping you'll get the message rather than being upfront.
Ultimately though, the decision is yours whether to continue trying to meet her, and potentially being let down, or to let it drop.
Put any notion of meeting to get a veri aside too - surely the reason to meet is because you like the person not just to get a tick in a box?"
This absolutely! Couldn’t have put it better myself! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have had a female agree to meet me numerous times now and agrees to meet after work. I message her to get where to meet and then she goes silent. Then the next day she says she wants to meet again and then the same thing.
How many chances is too many chances?"
Are you sure its a woman?
Personally speaking I would block and move on but i guess it depends on how optimistic you are |
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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago
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"I've had a meet vanish today, same couple, second time it's happened, I get that life gets in the way and I'm really sanguine about it, what annoys me though is the general lack of communication that is has actually cancelled, the just organise then stop opening their mail.
Two chances is my new rule.
I'm free tonight.... Anyone.... "
Totally agree when u can see that they've read it then to make matters worse lie n say the next day they've only just noticed it. That to me is yr not just a timewaster but yr also lying to me now. I call people out on that n tell 'em that I noticed they'd read it. Normally ends contact but sorry, yeah life gets in way and things happen, but don't ignore me n treat me like a cunt. If yr online and have time to read the message, then u def have a minute to respond. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a strong believer of persistence I would give her at least 76. If she still makes excuses move on.
Her reasons could be legitimate and she’s just plain unlucky. However once she meets you and you give her the pounding of her life that she obviously deserves she’ll be annoyed why she hadn’t met you sooner. |
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Had a couple wink at me twice, I sent a thanks message the first time and invited to chat, no answer. Last week another wink from the same couple, same message, in both cases read and ignored. Now blocked.
So I’ll always give someone a second chance but won’t hesitate in blocking so not to waste any further time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Life has a habit of happening so I would give two chances. I had to cancel a meet at the eleventh hour due to work, but boy did I make it up to him when we did eventually get together...  |
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One chance, unless they can convince me it was a real emergency!
I’ve never stood anyone up, so I expect the same back!
Life does get in the way sometimes, but all I ask is don’t waste my time, be honest!
I’m happy to chat and laugh on here, but don’t tell me you want to meet if you really don’t! |
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