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By *edmark07 OP Man
over a year ago
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Is gallantry dead and buried.
Ladies do you like or hate a guy holding a door or taking your hand to steady you on steps
Gents do you act this way or steer clear through fear of seeming old fashioned or through apathy ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is gallantry dead and buried.
Ladies do you like or hate a guy holding a door or taking your hand to steady you on steps
Gents do you act this way or steer clear through fear of seeming old fashioned or through apathy ?"
No I'm a gent doesn't matter if it's a woman even I do the gentlemanly thing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My balance isn't that bad that I'm unable to negotiate a set of stairs 
But would you appreciate the gesture or not ?"
If he wasn't already holding my hand, I'd find it a bit old fashioned |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I hold doors open, help others in need etc but not because of someone's gender or age or any other criteria, and I certainly don't think of it as a gallant act - more a decent and considerate one regardless of the gender of the person I am doing it for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hold doors open, help others in need etc but not because of someone's gender or age or any other criteria, and I certainly don't think of it as a gallant act - more a decent and considerate one regardless of the gender of the person I am doing it for."
Yes. It’s called good manners and I do it too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I needed a hand and someone offered help, sure. But offering me help purely because I’m a woman, and I don’t need it? Nah.
Just now my balance is awful so C gives me a hand, I struggle to get out the car (we have a really low down, small car) so he will come round and help me out. No need to do those things if I’m able to do them for myself.
And I’d do the same to other people - being male or female doesn’t come into it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hold doors open, help others in need etc but not because of someone's gender or age or any other criteria, and I certainly don't think of it as a gallant act - more a decent and considerate one regardless of the gender of the person I am doing it for.
Yes. It’s called good manners and I do it too."
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When I was about 20 a guy got up to help me off the train  . A good looking young guy held my basket for me in the supermarket queue the other day which I appreciated. Nobody has steadied me on steps yet but I'm getting on a bit it's bound to happen soon.  |
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I like it to a point,I used to go out with someone that was pretty old fashioned in that respect but that's how he'd been brought up he said. I can open my own car door though or walk on the outside side of the pavement etc that was a bit much for me. |
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You don't have to be a lady for me to hold a door for you. I'll hold a door for whoever is either coming in the door I'm about to walk through, or behind me....
Manners are everything whether you're man, woman or child |
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I like it based on need not gender. And I really hate it when they're trying to look impressive to an attractive woman (whether that's me or not). I generally accept with good grace or decline quietly and politely. |
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By *omaMan
over a year ago
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Can we swap the word "gallantry^ for maybe "politeness"?
That said, it costs nothing to be polite and helpful.
Then again, in this world of political correctness and sometimes extreme feminism you might just find someone taking great offence at a door being opened for them!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like it in small doses. I know it's not what I'm meant to say but there are some gender roles I do enjoy, I like feeling feminine and protected, I don't need it but with the right guy at the right time it gives me butterflies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My parents brought me up to always be polite. Always offer to help, always hold doors open, always say please and thank you, be respectful and perhaps most importantly, don’t fart in elevators. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can we swap the word "gallantry^ for maybe "politeness"?
That said, it costs nothing to be polite and helpful.
Then again, in this world of political correctness and sometimes extreme feminism you might just find someone taking great offence at a door being opened for them!
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I think that's fairly unlikely with reasonable people |
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By *edmark07 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I would appreciate anyone walking ahead of me holding the door, and if the door is heavy and I am with a physically stronger person (most men are), also opening it for me. This is basic manners. "
That's is the difference. I'd hope we all hold a door open for the person behind, that's good manners. but a gentleman would walk ahead and open it for his partner, I'd say that is gallant |
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