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"I see myself as friendly, flirty and quiet till you get to know me. I have a very sarcastic side to me and I'm fiercely loyal to those close to me x" I can't speak for your final point but the rest, for what Ive seen of you seems pretty close to the mark. Flirty and quiet would probably be my impression of you. | |||
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"Grey haired Stoney faced Tall Slim Gangly Introvert Mischievous ![]() I can speak for your physical characteristics and I've not seen you on the forums tbh! | |||
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"I see myself as an average, middle aged woman who has been blessed with good genes.. obviously I'm over average in the height department.. " I can't really speak for your physical characteristics but your postings have always been direct and honest. | |||
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"I’m a little bit of a daisy hence not sure I can handle it, but I’ll give that a go anyway. I see myself as flirty, jokey and seductive: a butterfly flying about inconsequentially. I’m also a short arsed, so typically French man with all the Gallic grumpiness that it implies. " You’re charming, articulate and handsome Yes you flirt , but without expectation or arrogance | |||
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"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty ![]() ![]() ![]() I don't think you are in the shadow of your wife - you just don't post as often. I think you're very friendly and funny and yes flirty. | |||
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"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty ![]() ![]() ![]() I see you as a lucky man! | |||
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"I’m a little bit of a daisy hence not sure I can handle it, but I’ll give that a go anyway. I see myself as flirty, jokey and seductive: a butterfly flying about inconsequentially. I’m also a short arsed, so typically French man with all the Gallic grumpiness that it implies. " I would certainly agree with you about the flirty and butterfly aspect of what you wrote | |||
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"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty ![]() ![]() ![]() Just as friendly, flirty and positive in real life too x | |||
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"Friendly, reserved in public , perceived as snobby ( due to my dislike for slang ) " You're dry witted, flirty and not snobby in the slightest - you're just spectacularly blunt and honest about what does and doesn't work for you. It's a good trait to have. You are quite private but also a softie. ![]() | |||
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"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty ![]() ![]() ![]() I can see why you would say about being in the shadow of Jo, when she receives so much attention. What I've seen of you posting, you're flirty and intelligent in your own right, I feel you're a touch reserved though. | |||
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"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty ![]() ![]() ![]() Thank you Meli! You just put a smile on my face ![]() | |||
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"Friendly, reserved in public , perceived as snobby ( due to my dislike for slang ) You're dry witted, flirty and not snobby in the slightest - you're just spectacularly blunt and honest about what does and doesn't work for you. It's a good trait to have. You are quite private but also a softie. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I'm friendly kind and tactile. I'm also in a lot of pain daily so sometimes I am short tempered. " ![]() | |||
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"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty ![]() ![]() ![]() Thank you Miss Choosey (sorry not used to the new name yet ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Mwaaah. Feels weird hearing that name now x | |||
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"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty ![]() ![]() ![]() I don't see you in the shadow either, not at all. It really is as simple as Jo posts more often and I'm equally as interested in what you have to say as what she does. I think you come across maybe not as confident as her in the photo and flirting department but certainly you have your own voice, and it's a secure, caring, loving one P | |||
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"I'm skinny with a bloated belly, quirky, harmless, invisible." You're not invisible. X | |||
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"I'm skinny with a bloated belly, quirky, harmless, invisible." Sssh Fever. You come across aa having self doubts but being genuinely caring and friendly. To the people who matter you are not ibvisible. You're definitely quirky but all the best people are. Fuck normality. x | |||
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"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty ![]() ![]() ![]() Thank you Tea ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I'm skinny with a bloated belly, quirky, harmless, invisible." Fo shizzle? You are random and funny with a sometimes serious side that makes me old lug holes listen. You have a lot of valuable stuff in that head of yours and I for one am thankful P | |||
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"On the one hand I'm not particularly confident yet I have a big ego. I think I'm hilarious but riddled with self doubt. All traits that made me a decent stand up comedian but a lousy human sometimes. I never should have laid down on this couch. " I’ll look out for your posts | |||
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"I like to think I'm friendly and outgoing, everyone comments on how my eyes sparkle. I think I'm just plain." you come across as a nice person, I don't think I've seen your eyes so can't comment and your pics don't portray you as plain at all ![]() | |||
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"On the one hand I'm not particularly confident yet I have a big ego. I think I'm hilarious but riddled with self doubt. All traits that made me a decent stand up comedian but a lousy human sometimes. I never should have laid down on this couch. I’ll look out for your posts " ![]() | |||
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"I see myself as thoughtful and caring. I'm a loyal friend and keeper of secrets. I think people will see me as more reserved and quiet on here then I may well be and only those close to me get to see my silly side. I'm not as confident as some may think and I massively overthink things and worry unnecessarily!" I'd agree with all that although I did think you must have a silly side because you're seeing Moriarty. ![]() | |||
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"I always find this kind of thing quite challenging, but also interesting! On fab I think I come across as flirty, open and direct but also thoughtful. In my daily life I am less direct and flirty, and more nurturing and calm. Mrs TMN x " To be honest, I can see both sides coming through in your posts. There seems to be a certain degree of self assurance coming through in your posts. | |||
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"I see myself as thoughtful and caring. I'm a loyal friend and keeper of secrets. I think people will see me as more reserved and quiet on here then I may well be and only those close to me get to see my silly side. I'm not as confident as some may think and I massively overthink things and worry unnecessarily!" I think I'd agree with you on a fair chunk of that, I think that you are quite quiet and I get the feeling that you observe and keep yourself to yourself for the most part but you are astute and careful about who you trust. There is a playful side there too though. | |||
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"I still see myself as short, fat and ugly. I've a kind heart and will help others. I try not to be nasty until there is a need for me to be. " I can't speak for you physically. I will say that it's the second time that you've called yourself fat though so I might consider that's something you're not necessarily happy about? Your posts can be direct but that's not a bad thing | |||
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"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty ![]() ![]() ![]() Thank you P! That really means a lot to me ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Is this a thread where you'll have to say nice things about me Tea? ![]() Give it a whirl... ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I’m a little bit of a daisy hence not sure I can handle it, but I’ll give that a go anyway. I see myself as flirty, jokey and seductive: a butterfly flying about inconsequentially. I’m also a short arsed, so typically French man with all the Gallic grumpiness that it implies. " How do I see you? Seductive, the romantic lover of everything feminine. Always something to say to forum writers to lift their spirits (especially if they’re female). You’re also incredibly sensitive and love to be adored. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Awww shucks ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I'm a bit of a free spirit, mainly just flitting about doing my own thing. Always friendly unless given a reason not to be. Very dry witted. I smile and laugh a lot, but probably come across as very reserved on here. " Free spirit and reserved, yes. I’d also say confident and true to yourself. You’re happy being yourself and not looking for validation or re-assurance. | |||
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"I'm skinny with a bloated belly, quirky, harmless, invisible." You certainly aren't invisible with those pics x | |||
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"Speaking for myself... I think that I'm complex, I think that I can be grumpy and forthright, direct to the point of being blunt. I think that I rub a lot of people up the wrong way and often seen as a SJW. I think that I'm also articulate and witty with a dry sense of humour that doesn't always come across on screen. I consider myself intelligent and bit of an idealist, something of an 'acquired taste'. Tea" I'd agree with that. I think you're also thoughtful and loving but a bit of a misanthropist. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Speaking for myself... I think that I'm complex, I think that I can be grumpy and forthright, direct to the point of being blunt. I think that I rub a lot of people up the wrong way and often seen as a SJW. I think that I'm also articulate and witty with a dry sense of humour that doesn't always come across on screen. I consider myself intelligent and bit of an idealist, something of an 'acquired taste'. Tea I'd agree with that. I think you're also thoughtful and loving but a bit of a misanthropist. ![]() ![]() Oh definitely, I was thinking in terms of how I'm seen on fab. You know me far too well ![]() | |||
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"Flippant twat" Would you care to extend on that just a tad? | |||
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"Friendly, reserved in public , perceived as snobby ( due to my dislike for slang ) " Reserved but not self-effacing. More confident but modest. I used to see you as distant but was proven wrong and it was a good surprise. You’re definitely friendly and caring. | |||
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"Speaking for myself... I think that I'm complex, I think that I can be grumpy and forthright, direct to the point of being blunt. I think that I rub a lot of people up the wrong way and often seen as a SJW. I think that I'm also articulate and witty with a dry sense of humour that doesn't always come across on screen. I consider myself intelligent and bit of an idealist, something of an 'acquired taste'. Tea" I see someone who's had a few "lightbulb" moments in their life that opens up thinking pathways. Someone who's aware the world isn't an ideal place but tries to point others onto those thinking pathways in order to give them the tools that may make things easier (or harder in the present asthere's things they may not want to address, but long term benefit) A challenger, a learner, a teacher. Someone who's got patience but will facepalm and then hit the "enough's enough" switch and then use blunt force trauma of words to spell things out. P | |||
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"I see myself as the aloof slacker who saunters around under the radar going with the flow. I’m flirty and like to tease in private and try my best not to be a twunt. " A teasy flirty music man P | |||
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"I see myself as flirty, jokey and seductive: a butterfly flying about inconsequentially. I’m also a short arsed, so typically French man with all the Gallic grumpiness that it implies. " This is based purely on forum observations. Ish. ![]() | |||
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"Flippant twat Would you care to extend on that just a tad?" Oh okay... I see myself as an unserious person who has seen too much to take life seriously. Used to be very unconfident, now I'm mildly confident, think I'm pretty boring. | |||
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"I'm a bit of a free spirit, mainly just flitting about doing my own thing. Always friendly unless given a reason not to be. Very dry witted. I smile and laugh a lot, but probably come across as very reserved on here. Free spirit and reserved, yes. I’d also say confident and true to yourself. You’re happy being yourself and not looking for validation or re-assurance." So you was actually paying attention and not just looking at my tits ![]() | |||
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"I see myself as thoughtful and caring. I'm a loyal friend and keeper of secrets. I think people will see me as more reserved and quiet on here then I may well be and only those close to me get to see my silly side. I'm not as confident as some may think and I massively overthink things and worry unnecessarily! I'd agree with all that although I did think you must have a silly side because you're seeing Moriarty. ![]() I will take nice all day long. Thanks ![]() | |||
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"I still see myself as short, fat and ugly. I've a kind heart and will help others. I try not to be nasty until there is a need for me to be. " Huge heart and open book. Someone who many people would consider very lucky to have in their corner. P | |||
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"Speaking for myself... I think that I'm complex, I think that I can be grumpy and forthright, direct to the point of being blunt. I think that I rub a lot of people up the wrong way and often seen as a SJW. I think that I'm also articulate and witty with a dry sense of humour that doesn't always come across on screen. I consider myself intelligent and bit of an idealist, something of an 'acquired taste'. Tea I see someone who's had a few "lightbulb" moments in their life that opens up thinking pathways. Someone who's aware the world isn't an ideal place but tries to point others onto those thinking pathways in order to give them the tools that may make things easier (or harder in the present asthere's things they may not want to address, but long term benefit) A challenger, a learner, a teacher. Someone who's got patience but will facepalm and then hit the "enough's enough" switch and then use blunt force trauma of words to spell things out. P" I agree with that and I think part of that is why I rub some the wrong way, especially those that just see it as 'just a bit of fun' | |||
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"I'm a bit of a free spirit, mainly just flitting about doing my own thing. Always friendly unless given a reason not to be. Very dry witted. I smile and laugh a lot, but probably come across as very reserved on here. Free spirit and reserved, yes. I’d also say confident and true to yourself. You’re happy being yourself and not looking for validation or re-assurance. So you was actually paying attention and not just looking at my tits ![]() Nah! I just copied someone else’s notes. ![]() | |||
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"Speaking for myself... I think that I'm complex, I think that I can be grumpy and forthright, direct to the point of being blunt. I think that I rub a lot of people up the wrong way and often seen as a SJW. I think that I'm also articulate and witty with a dry sense of humour that doesn't always come across on screen. I consider myself intelligent and bit of an idealist, something of an 'acquired taste'. Tea I see someone who's had a few "lightbulb" moments in their life that opens up thinking pathways. Someone who's aware the world isn't an ideal place but tries to point others onto those thinking pathways in order to give them the tools that may make things easier (or harder in the present asthere's things they may not want to address, but long term benefit) A challenger, a learner, a teacher. Someone who's got patience but will facepalm and then hit the "enough's enough" switch and then use blunt force trauma of words to spell things out. P I agree with that and I think part of that is why I rub some the wrong way, especially those that just see it as 'just a bit of fun' " Yes, but only because you're trying to get them to understand that just because something may mean nothing to them, it could mean the world to someone else. I never see it coming from a bad place. P | |||
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"I’m a little bit of a daisy hence not sure I can handle it, but I’ll give that a go anyway. I see myself as flirty, jokey and seductive: a butterfly flying about inconsequentially. I’m also a short arsed, so typically French man with all the Gallic grumpiness that it implies. " Inclusive and flirtatious, definitely a social butterfly P | |||
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"I'm intelligent, occasionally hot-headed and passionate. I can be incredibly argumentative and blunt - not in a spiteful way but I enjoy the thrill of a good debate and quick thought exchange. I can be incredibly stubborn and oft think I'm right when I can rarely be wrong. I forgive easily. I'm more sensitive and self doubting than my assured posting style would convey. I can't flirt but enjoy my dire attempts. I'm one of life's talkers, a tad self centred and needy but overall not that bad." Sensitive and self-doubting, yes. Yet affirmed and confident in many ways. A bit posh too. A smart mind perched on superb pair of boobs. | |||
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"I'm intelligent, occasionally hot-headed and passionate. I can be incredibly argumentative and blunt - not in a spiteful way but I enjoy the thrill of a good debate and quick thought exchange. I can be incredibly stubborn and oft think I'm right when I can rarely be wrong. I forgive easily. I'm more sensitive and self doubting than my assured posting style would convey. I can't flirt but enjoy my dire attempts. I'm one of life's talkers, a tad self centred and needy but overall not that bad." You're also way more aware than you seem to realise and can pick up on the emotion behind the words, the between the lines stuff. You don't hurt people purposely, so if you do it comes from a good place, a reality check kinda thing. You don't suffer fools and have a soft side that I'm seeing much more of late. A side that's utterly beautiful, sentimental and makes me absolutely melt with happiness for you. P | |||
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"I can be incredibly argumentative and blunt - ." I could imagine that you occasionally jump in feet first and then have to backtrack. | |||
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"I can be incredibly argumentative and blunt - . I could imagine that you occasionally jump in feet first and then have to backtrack." Yes I do, very astute Torch. Can I blame the Italian heritage? No, being serious, there's almost a torrent of words that come spilling out at times. And sometimes I regret them. It's why I try and take time before I respond to certain things. Or feel I have to clarify what I meant in case of misunderstanding. Work in progress. | |||
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"I'm intelligent, occasionally hot-headed and passionate. I can be incredibly argumentative and blunt - not in a spiteful way but I enjoy the thrill of a good debate and quick thought exchange. I can be incredibly stubborn and oft think I'm right when I can rarely be wrong. I forgive easily. I'm more sensitive and self doubting than my assured posting style would convey. I can't flirt but enjoy my dire attempts. I'm one of life's talkers, a tad self centred and needy but overall not that bad." I don't think you show all of that on the forums. You're not far wrong in your assessment but I think you bite your lip and hold your tongue often, in order to keep the peace. You're incredibly astute, intelligent and understand people probably as well as I do. Fiercely loyal and wear your heart on your sleeve in a very vulnerable but disarming way. I think you expect a lot from people, which isn't a bad thing and forgive their failings but you take those personally which I hate seeing. Probably too liberal with the cock pass but the quim wants what the quim wants! One of my favourite people and a genuine treasure. I'm proud to call you my friend. | |||
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"I'm intelligent, occasionally hot-headed and passionate. I can be incredibly argumentative and blunt - not in a spiteful way but I enjoy the thrill of a good debate and quick thought exchange. I can be incredibly stubborn and oft think I'm right when I can rarely be wrong. I forgive easily. I'm more sensitive and self doubting than my assured posting style would convey. I can't flirt but enjoy my dire attempts. I'm one of life's talkers, a tad self centred and needy but overall not that bad." Where to start with you? Sassy, headstrong, opinionated and sometimes incredibly argumentative in your own understated way. A few insecurities you still need to win over to make your star really shine... Never belittle yourself, even when you don’t really mean it, as many on here will believe what you are saying. Surround yourself with strong women as they will nourish you and give you what you need. ![]() | |||
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"As a married and cheating bloke on here I know that I’m unlikely to be highly thought of. However I try to be honest on here and it’s that ability to be honest that I really enjoy, as I can’t be honest at home. That seems to go against the grain of popular opinion here where if I’m not honest with my partner, I’ll never be honest about anything else. That’s an opinion that I see here often and it hurts. I’m far from attractive physically so I’m limited to the kind of photos I can show. I try to laugh at stuff, often my forum comments are made to get people smiling so I probably come across as flippant or a bit of a twat. I’ve occasionally been completely open about my mental health and reason for being unfaithful and it’s brought some support in private messages and some have said it’s good to be open as they’re having similar issues but were afraid to say. Hopefully that’s a good thing that I’ve brought. I’m not cool or popular so most people don’t know who I am. I’m mostly ok with that. I expect most people who see my post on here to think “who?”" Mad have chatted and I have never thought of you like this ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Well my post on the other thread was overlooked so now my self esteem is in tatters, I now know how I'm perceived on here!! ![]() I'm going to find it and talk nonsence on there as usual ![]() | |||
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"Well my post on the other thread was overlooked so now my self esteem is in tatters, I now know how I'm perceived on here!! ![]() I think you're sharp, funny but keep yourself to yourself of late, which is a shame as I always enjoyed your posts. Fun and flirty is how I would probably have typified your posts in general. Discerning and know your own mind. | |||
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"Well my post on the other thread was overlooked so now my self esteem is in tatters, I now know how I'm perceived on here!! ![]() Oh no! Sorry Lady Lick. I think you're not Mrs Average at all. You're beautiful. It always surprises me that you're not 5ft10 or something. ![]() | |||
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"I see myself as avarage looking I'm to young for some on here I'm too small for some on here Non of that matters though as we all like different looks and body types I make up for things with my fun loving nature and I'm always laughing So I don't care how people see me as I'm happy with just being me ![]() I don't think that age or size is the same barrier to women as it is to men. I can't speak as to my impressions of you as a poster as I've only just seen you though. | |||
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"I see myself as avarage looking I'm to young for some on here I'm too small for some on here Non of that matters though as we all like different looks and body types I make up for things with my fun loving nature and I'm always laughing So I don't care how people see me as I'm happy with just being me ![]() See....I'm too small for people to notice ![]() | |||
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"I wish I was 5'10, it's amazing what difference another 4.5'' can do for a woman ![]() It doesn't matter because your personality is 6'6! Q | |||
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"I wasn't fishing but I do appreciate those views because I've been known to worry what people think of me in the past, in rl to. I'm not so bothered anymore. I wish I was 5'10, it's amazing what difference another 4.5'' can do for a woman ![]() That would make mine 5.5 inches ![]() | |||
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"Well my post on the other thread was overlooked so now my self esteem is in tatters, I now know how I'm perceived on here!! ![]() I didn’t read your earlier post but I’ll tell you what I think without looking because I’m dead brave ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I wasn't fishing but I do appreciate those views because I've been known to worry what people think of me in the past, in rl to. I'm not so bothered anymore. I wish I was 5'10, it's amazing what difference another 4.5'' can do for a woman ![]() Don’t be a wally. You were the perfect height............. ![]() | |||
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"I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms ![]() I don't get that from you at all, I get chic, sophisticated, mature,sexy, aloof ![]() | |||
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"I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms ![]() I think that's pretty spot on, plus humourous ![]() | |||
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"I make no excuses for pasting my self-perception from the last thread here - joined that one late so am open to more thoughts: How do I see myself? Thoughtful, considerate, respectful, balanced, open and honest (too honest sometimes), lack self-confidence and prone to bouts of awkwardness, self-deprectating. Open minded and fairly uninhibited. Chronic overthinker. Treat others as I'd like to be treated. Stubborn as a mule at times too. Over to you ![]() forum pappa bear ![]() | |||
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"I make no excuses for pasting my self-perception from the last thread here - joined that one late so am open to more thoughts: How do I see myself? Thoughtful, considerate, respectful, balanced, open and honest (too honest sometimes), lack self-confidence and prone to bouts of awkwardness, self-deprectating. Open minded and fairly uninhibited. Chronic overthinker. Treat others as I'd like to be treated. Stubborn as a mule at times too. Over to you ![]() Opinionated, verbose and eloquent. So serious and mature about things. Like a pit bull when you believe in something as you won’t let go. I often pity the poster who decides to battle it out with you but enjoy the read with my gin or popcorn to hand. So politically correct and confident- sometimes. A bit like the OP ![]() | |||
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"I make no excuses for pasting my self-perception from the last thread here - joined that one late so am open to more thoughts: How do I see myself? Thoughtful, considerate, respectful, balanced, open and honest (too honest sometimes), lack self-confidence and prone to bouts of awkwardness, self-deprectating. Open minded and fairly uninhibited. Chronic overthinker. Treat others as I'd like to be treated. Stubborn as a mule at times too. Over to you ![]() I'd agree with what you typed. You are very opinionated. I think sometimes you're perhaps not as willing to listen to others as you wish to be; not as willing to consider the alternative view. It makes for an amusing read. ![]() | |||
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"Well my post on the other thread was overlooked so now my self esteem is in tatters, I now know how I'm perceived on here!! ![]() With apologies for pasting your post from the last across "I see myself as Mrs Average who is a great friend but quite shy in social settings. I know some people find me aloof which I find a bit upsetting because I'm really not!" I don't see you as Mrs Average at all - you strike me as classy, creative, fun and with more than just a bit of a naughty twinkle. You give good advice when called to, and have an empathetic side which stands out. You know what you're looking for from the site and won't compromise to get it, which may explain why some think you're aloof but that's wide of the mark if they do. | |||
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"I make no excuses for pasting my self-perception from the last thread here - joined that one late so am open to more thoughts: How do I see myself? Thoughtful, considerate, respectful, balanced, open and honest (too honest sometimes), lack self-confidence and prone to bouts of awkwardness, self-deprectating. Open minded and fairly uninhibited. Chronic overthinker. Treat others as I'd like to be treated. Stubborn as a mule at times too. Over to you ![]() A welcomer, an includer. A helper - especially if someone makes the effort to help themself you'll back them all the way. Kind hearted and sticks by your guns when you're right. The kind of soul people go to for advice as you know that it will be honest even if it isn't what you may want to hear A real gem. ![]() | |||
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"I’m pasting mine from the last thread too Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice." With the wisdom and compassion to be someone others are lucky to call a friend. An open book who owns his shit, will raise his hands when believing he's wrong. A good heart with a no nonsense side, unless the side is being a prat and having a giggle. Wonderful human ![]() | |||
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"This is what I put on yesterdays thread, which had 2 replies of which I appreciate, I would also be interested in others opinion of me. I like to be nice, other people find this annoying but I genuinely think the world would be a better place if others were too, I'm passionate, loyal and I try to always see the positive in things however this trait has led to me being nieve at times. I lack confidence and ability to rock the skin I'm in. Jo.Xx" I don't see the lacking in confidence I must admit. A flirty ball of fun who doesn't want to stand out TOO much and is happy to find her own place rather than try to force something or someone she may not be. Caring and considerate. A good egg ![]() | |||
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"I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms ![]() ![]() Perhaps I ought to have checked with you first, that’s probably more accurate ![]() | |||
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"I make no excuses for pasting my self-perception from the last thread here - joined that one late so am open to more thoughts: How do I see myself? Thoughtful, considerate, respectful, balanced, open and honest (too honest sometimes), lack self-confidence and prone to bouts of awkwardness, self-deprectating. Open minded and fairly uninhibited. Chronic overthinker. Treat others as I'd like to be treated. Stubborn as a mule at times too. Over to you ![]() ![]() Not going to disagree with either you or Meli completely like I said I'm a stubborn old mule at times but usually on the subject of values I hold dear and feel both knowledgeable and able to discuss, and yep I do like to have the last word - it's a lifelong trait ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms ![]() ![]() ![]() please do I am your humble servant ![]() | |||
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"I’m pasting mine from the last thread too Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice. With the wisdom and compassion to be someone others are lucky to call a friend. An open book who owns his shit, will raise his hands when believing he's wrong. A good heart with a no nonsense side, unless the side is being a prat and having a giggle. Wonderful human ![]() Tear in my eye ![]() | |||
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"I'd disagree that I'm opinionated as such, I'll listen to others and take on board what they say, but if I disagree with their opinion I'll defend mine to the hilt, but I also hold my hands up and admit I was wrong in the face of a reasoned opinion that sways my thinking. And why use 10 words when 100 can be used ![]() Oh GM. This has made me smile a lot. Not in a mean way. It's just a very *you* response. But yes, if you thought you were opinionated you would have put that in how you see yourself. Perception is subjective isn't it? We add our experiences, our own views on to others posts they might not see themselves. | |||
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"I see myself as thoughtful and caring. I'm a loyal friend and keeper of secrets. I think people will see me as more reserved and quiet on here then I may well be and only those close to me get to see my silly side. I'm not as confident as some may think and I massively overthink things and worry unnecessarily! I'd agree with all that although I did think you must have a silly side because you're seeing Moriarty. ![]() I agree with Meli Miss Red, you’re an absolutely lovely lady ![]() | |||
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"This is what I put on yesterdays thread, which had 2 replies of which I appreciate, I would also be interested in others opinion of me. I like to be nice, other people find this annoying but I genuinely think the world would be a better place if others were too, I'm passionate, loyal and I try to always see the positive in things however this trait has led to me being nieve at times. I lack confidence and ability to rock the skin I'm in. Jo.Xx" You are both two very lovely people ![]() | |||
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"I'd disagree that I'm opinionated as such, I'll listen to others and take on board what they say, but if I disagree with their opinion I'll defend mine to the hilt, but I also hold my hands up and admit I was wrong in the face of a reasoned opinion that sways my thinking. And why use 10 words when 100 can be used ![]() This time you beat me to it Meli. I 100% wanted to say the same... | |||
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"On my profile I come across as a demanding little bitch. In reality I'm one of the nicest people you'll ever meet. " Someone who is not apologetic for liking what they like and being who they are, as it is your right to do and be those things and you have every right to be happy. Generally a happy person who can get pissed off when people behave like idiots and you will tell them in no uncertain terms. Someone who's relationship clearly means more to them than anything in the world and has a world full of love surrounding them. P | |||
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"I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms ![]() I thought at first you didn't particularly care for many on here. Since seeing more of your posts I've realised you're incredibly inclusive, intelligent, fun, (a bit snobby about some things!) and yes, very loyal. I like having my opinions changed about forumites - my perception of you has definitely changed for the better. | |||
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"Oh back again Taff , a splendidly happy ,positive chap who is straight out of an Enid Blyton novel . Oh I enjoy waffling on and wandering the hills of North Wales. Jolly friendly , not super sexy but classically daft ![]() A lover of life and the wonder nature can bring. Oozes positivity even in the face of adversity and joy spreader. Something incredibly calming about your aura. Wants people to be their best selves. P | |||
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"I'd disagree that I'm opinionated as such, I'll listen to others and take on board what they say, but if I disagree with their opinion I'll defend mine to the hilt, but I also hold my hands up and admit I was wrong in the face of a reasoned opinion that sways my thinking. And why use 10 words when 100 can be used ![]() I know it was and wrote it that way for a reason ![]() ![]() | |||
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"On my profile I come across as a demanding little bitch. In reality I'm one of the nicest people you'll ever meet. " No you don’t! You stand up for what you believe in and aren’t afraid to say so even if it goes against the majority belief ![]() ![]() | |||
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"On my profile I come across as a demanding little bitch. In reality I'm one of the nicest people you'll ever meet. No you don’t! You stand up for what you believe in and aren’t afraid to say so even if it goes against the majority belief ![]() ![]() Thank you sweetie xoxo | |||
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"I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms ![]() ![]() ![]() I only replied so I can come and nick your posh caviar and champers on the sly. ![]() | |||
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"I'd disagree that I'm opinionated as such, I'll listen to others and take on board what they say, but if I disagree with their opinion I'll defend mine to the hilt, but I also hold my hands up and admit I was wrong in the face of a reasoned opinion that sways my thinking. And why use 10 words when 100 can be used ![]() ![]() ![]() This is kind of the beauty of this thread. It's not intended as an echo chamber or to tell each other how wonderful or lovely we all are. It's to get a snapshot of how others see us and how that differs from how we see ourselves. The purpose is to shift the perspective and see outside ourselves... | |||
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"I make no excuses for pasting my self-perception from the last thread here - joined that one late so am open to more thoughts: How do I see myself? Thoughtful, considerate, respectful, balanced, open and honest (too honest sometimes), lack self-confidence and prone to bouts of awkwardness, self-deprectating. Open minded and fairly uninhibited. Chronic overthinker. Treat others as I'd like to be treated. Stubborn as a mule at times too. Over to you ![]() ![]() A friend for life. Passionate, compassionate, silly, thoughtful, considerate, understanding, ready to fight the fight when you need to, vulnerable but learning. Fiercely loyal, offer reasoned and balanced advice often surprisingly not what was expected but always bang on the mark. Not frightened to give a kick in the nuts when it's called for but also capable of holding close and providing comfort. That's the one, the only, they broke the mould Princess Peach in a nutshell. | |||
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"I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Caviar ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I'd disagree that I'm opinionated as such, I'll listen to others and take on board what they say, but if I disagree with their opinion I'll defend mine to the hilt, but I also hold my hands up and admit I was wrong in the face of a reasoned opinion that sways my thinking. And why use 10 words when 100 can be used ![]() ![]() ![]() Nail on the head as ever TM ![]() | |||
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"I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I ain't eating the caviar.... I'm selling it on Ebay ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I make no excuses for pasting my self-perception from the last thread here - joined that one late so am open to more thoughts: How do I see myself? Thoughtful, considerate, respectful, balanced, open and honest (too honest sometimes), lack self-confidence and prone to bouts of awkwardness, self-deprectating. Open minded and fairly uninhibited. Chronic overthinker. Treat others as I'd like to be treated. Stubborn as a mule at times too. Over to you ![]() ![]() I nearly blushed but fuck it.... I'm taking a motherfucking bow for that ![]() | |||
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"Meli & Miss.Red are lovely people ![]() ![]() Oh and with a crap figure ![]() | |||
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"I'd disagree that I'm opinionated as such, I'll listen to others and take on board what they say, but if I disagree with their opinion I'll defend mine to the hilt, but I also hold my hands up and admit I was wrong in the face of a reasoned opinion that sways my thinking. And why use 10 words when 100 can be used ![]() ![]() ![]() I’m not sure how much of my ‘blind self’ would be really be revealed on a thread like this. However I think those who have quite a negative self-perception and are critical of themselves. are likely to receive positive affirmation of their qualities that can help challenge that self-critical view. As a result that may shift one’s perspective. | |||
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"Oh back again Taff , a splendidly happy ,positive chap who is straight out of an Enid Blyton novel . Oh I enjoy waffling on and wandering the hills of North Wales. Jolly friendly , not super sexy but classically daft ![]() Thank you that was so kind x | |||
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"Taff I think you are a very genuine and caring person. But that you may be hiding some sorrow." thank you , its always good to take the things that may hurt you and help shape your future , take positives from negatives and move forward x | |||
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"This is what I put on yesterdays thread, which had 2 replies of which I appreciate, I would also be interested in others opinion of me. I like to be nice, other people find this annoying but I genuinely think the world would be a better place if others were too, I'm passionate, loyal and I try to always see the positive in things however this trait has led to me being nieve at times. I lack confidence and ability to rock the skin I'm in. Jo.Xx I don't see the lacking in confidence I must admit. A flirty ball of fun who doesn't want to stand out TOO much and is happy to find her own place rather than try to force something or someone she may not be. Caring and considerate. A good egg ![]() Thanks P, I think that's fair, I'm still learning about my sexual desires and how to deal with certain emotions that come with them too. I am a big overthinker and that's what knocks my confidence. I'm pleased my caring and considerate side shows though. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"A bit of a piss taker. Sometimes impatient and sometimes critical... though more critical of myself. Fiercely loyal to those I've developed a care for. I can be pretty straight, but try to sprinkle some sugar on my harshness, because i don't like to hurt people's feelings. Only those closest to me get to see how dark and dry my humour can get ![]() You come across as much softer than that to me Holly. I don’t perceive that harder edge in the same way as you. | |||
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"I'd disagree that I'm opinionated as such, I'll listen to others and take on board what they say, but if I disagree with their opinion I'll defend mine to the hilt, but I also hold my hands up and admit I was wrong in the face of a reasoned opinion that sways my thinking. And why use 10 words when 100 can be used ![]() ![]() ![]() I think that people reveal more of themselves than they ever realise on here and certainly over time, words and intents can build up a picture that a person may not know or recognise about themselves. We all have mental pictures of ourselves that we believe, whether it be negative or positive, getting outside views can help us to see a broader view that we may have been ignorant or blind to. That was the intent of the thread. Its nice to hear nice things about ourselves too but not my original intent. | |||
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"This is what I put on yesterdays thread, which had 2 replies of which I appreciate, I would also be interested in others opinion of me. I like to be nice, other people find this annoying but I genuinely think the world would be a better place if others were too, I'm passionate, loyal and I try to always see the positive in things however this trait has led to me being nieve at times. I lack confidence and ability to rock the skin I'm in. Jo.Xx You are both two very lovely people ![]() Thank you DC, you were one of the first to welcome us to fab with such a warm friendly welcome, then we met you at the MLS, you confirmed our thoughts that you are a genuinely a lovely person who is funny sexy and always friendly, thank you for your friendship and positive comments on us both. ![]() | |||
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"I'd disagree that I'm opinionated as such, I'll listen to others and take on board what they say, but if I disagree with their opinion I'll defend mine to the hilt, but I also hold my hands up and admit I was wrong in the face of a reasoned opinion that sways my thinking. And why use 10 words when 100 can be used ![]() ![]() ![]() I understand the intent Tea. I’m still not sure how many of our blind spots would be revealed on this thread. I agree that we do reveal a lot about ourselves on this site. However I don’t think we are really likely to shine a light on an individual’s dark side on this thread. That doesn’t devalue the thread’s worth though as I see it as positive. And I’ve enjoyed participating in it. | |||
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"I see myself as an average, middle aged woman who has been blessed with good genes.. obviously I'm over average in the height department.. " Someone who's been through her fair share of shit, but can embrace the happiness and good stuff when it comes along. Sarcastic but not in a mean way. P | |||
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"I will have another go. Honest. Straighr talking opinionate. Pretty self aware and inciteful. Underneath the exterior. Warm. Kind generous. Quite retisant and only my true friends see the real me. In also soft as shit" I think you come across as forthright with a vulnerable side. Will pull people up on stuff if you think they're wrong P | |||
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"I still see myself as short, fat and ugly. I've a kind heart and will help others. I try not to be nasty until there is a need for me to be. " I think you're short sexy and hot. And really nice. | |||
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"I will have another go. Honest. Straighr talking opinionate. Pretty self aware and inciteful. Underneath the exterior. Warm. Kind generous. Quite retisant and only my true friends see the real me. In also soft as shit" Sometimes your straight talking makes me go ![]() | |||
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"I’m pasting mine from the last thread too Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice." congratulations your seeing yourself as others see you. The reforming self depreciater is working | |||
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"As a married and cheating bloke on here I know that I’m unlikely to be highly thought of. However I try to be honest on here and it’s that ability to be honest that I really enjoy, as I can’t be honest at home. That seems to go against the grain of popular opinion here where if I’m not honest with my partner, I’ll never be honest about anything else. That’s an opinion that I see here often and it hurts. I’m far from attractive physically so I’m limited to the kind of photos I can show. I try to laugh at stuff, often my forum comments are made to get people smiling so I probably come across as flippant or a bit of a twat. I’ve occasionally been completely open about my mental health and reason for being unfaithful and it’s brought some support in private messages and some have said it’s good to be open as they’re having similar issues but were afraid to say. Hopefully that’s a good thing that I’ve brought. I’m not cool or popular so most people don’t know who I am. I’m mostly ok with that. I expect most people who see my post on here to think “who?”" I like your posts, you usually say something really cool and/ or insightful. | |||
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"I make no excuses for pasting my self-perception from the last thread here - joined that one late so am open to more thoughts: How do I see myself? Thoughtful, considerate, respectful, balanced, open and honest (too honest sometimes), lack self-confidence and prone to bouts of awkwardness, self-deprectating. Open minded and fairly uninhibited. Chronic overthinker. Treat others as I'd like to be treated. Stubborn as a mule at times too. Over to you ![]() ![]() Perfect, yes this. ![]() | |||
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"I will have another go. Honest. Straighr talking opinionate. Pretty self aware and inciteful. Underneath the exterior. Warm. Kind generous. Quite retisant and only my true friends see the real me. In also soft as shit Sometimes your straight talking makes me go ![]() Thats true i dont mean anything nasty. I see words not people and respond to the words doesnt mean i dont like the person | |||
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"I still see myself as short, fat and ugly. I've a kind heart and will help others. I try not to be nasty until there is a need for me to be. Huge heart and open book. Someone who many people would consider very lucky to have in their corner. P" Bless you x | |||
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"I’m pasting mine from the last thread too Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice. congratulations your seeing yourself as others see you. The reforming self depreciater is working" Thanks DS. I put my comment on yours on the first thread. I have always valued your warmth, openness, humour and willingness to talk openly about your challenges. Your support for others is admirable. I have also personally appreciated your forthright feedback even when it was difficult to hear, because I learned from it. I’m finally shaking off my self-deprecating ways however there are some things about myself I will probably continue to take the piss out of until they change, because it amuses me to do so and keeps me grounded ![]() | |||
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"I still see myself as short, fat and ugly. I've a kind heart and will help others. I try not to be nasty until there is a need for me to be. I think you're short sexy and hot. And really nice. " Thank you x Your one straight talking lady who doesn't stand for any bs. | |||
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"You're all brilliant then? This was better when it was done by pm, there was a certain brutality about it. ![]() Didnt like or understand him when he first used the forums but ive come round now | |||
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"I like to be nice, other people find this annoying but I genuinely think the world would be a better place if others were too, I'm passionate, loyal and I try to always see the positive in things however this trait has led to me being nieve at times. I lack confidence and ability to rock the skin I'm in. Jo.Xx" On the forums you are all of those positive things Jo - your niceness isn't annoying, it's an incredibly positive thing to be. You do sometimes come across as uncertain but you shouldn't lack confidence, it's easy to say that, not so easy to do. I hope you find the inner belief in how wonderful you are. | |||
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