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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Depends on who by. I think I might be quite arrogant? Not arrogant. Ermm, I tend to be fairly cautious unless I think it could be reciprocated. So I've only been rejected once and yes, probably because of the newness of that it stung a bit. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I did mean in terms of approaching someone on fab and being turned down, but I do like all the answers and different ways the post could have been taken (all ambiguous and that) |
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Part and parcel of fab ,we had more rejection then would like to admit.its not a problem we just move on. On the other hand there is one of two women that we'd like to meet but it looks like they're not interested that's a bit shit.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can you handle it Op? "
In terms of fab? Yep, sure can. Would be absurd to think everyone wants me 
In real life? It depends. I’m suffering a rejection at the moment (on going for two years now) due to a falling out and it still hurts a lot.
Doesn’t help with all my hormones at the moment; for example, my dad uses his FB purely for his boxing. So he doesn’t have any of us as friends (he has my mum and that’s it). But when I was over the other day, he was chatting to one of my friends on Facebook, as he trains him. So I had a bitch and moan about how he had them as a friend and not me  |
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"Can you handle it?"
Of course, not everyone is going to find me attractive or their type.
You just get on with it and see what happens
The world would be pretty boring if we all liked the same people
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I actually don't mind rejection in any walk of life. Some things/people are for you, some aren't.
Much prefer a quick but polite "no thanks" than things being string out for ages. I do find that harder to deal with, particularly when it gets to the stage where its obvious that the answer was “no" all along.
Ps - I do appreciate that generally the latter situation is caused by folk wanting to be nice and not hurt others feelings, it just bugs me for some reason  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I actually don't mind rejection in any walk of life. Some things/people are for you, some aren't.
Much prefer a quick but polite "no thanks" than things being string out for ages. I do find that harder to deal with, particularly when it gets to the stage where its obvious that the answer was “no" all along.
Ps - I do appreciate that generally the latter situation is caused by folk wanting to be nice and not hurt others feelings, it just bugs me for some reason "
Ah yes I get that! No point in continuing, just rip the plaster off |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Been having to my whole life so handling it is second nature. Rejection from a stranger is nothing. Rejection from people you know is tougher.
Being able to handle it does not make it any less of a letdown though. |
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Rejection is part of life, you have to learn to deal with it or else it eats you up.
Of course it hurts, but the depth of that hurt all depends on the circumstances.
Fab life is very different than real life. If I got rejected here, no big deal. If I have a meet, I go in thinking it’s a one off anyway so what is there to be upset about if it doesn’t happen again.
It’s all about how you deal with your emotions |
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"Been having to my whole life so handling it is second nature. Rejection from a stranger is nothing. Rejection from people you know is tougher.
Being able to handle it does not make it any less of a letdown though. "
I understand disappointment, I think that's only natural. |
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I have 3 boys so face rejection every day in favour of their friends, electronics etc although they don’t reject me at dinner time 
Fab rejection as long as it’s polite then that’s life
Friends and family - never faced rejection so I’m obviously with a great crowd of people  |
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I tend to assess situations and if there's a high chance of rejection I avoid the situation if I can. I see no virtue in deliberately putting myself in situations that are unlikely to turn out well.
Obviously with things like job interviews that isn't possible. As an adult I am able to understand that rejection is part of life and deal with it. |
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on here doesnt bother me but ive not really been rejected. If i meet someone and they dont want to see me again that doesnt bother me as i used to go into new meets thinking it would be a one off so anything other than that is a bonus |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I tend to assess situations and if there's a high chance of rejection I avoid the situation if I can. "
 This is what I was poorly trying to say. I think on here you can sort of tell so then I let it fizzle or end the chat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As others have said; it entirely depends on the situation. People have their own sets of likes and wants, I know that I'm not going to be attractive to everyone so a 'no thanks' is part of fab life.
The rejection that's harder to swallow is when it becomes clear that someone was stringing you along or when it becomes clear that a friend, family member or loved one doesn't have you as a concern. That's harder to bear.
I trained as an actor, rejection is part of the job so I know how to handle professional rejection or based on looks. Rejection based on me as a person is a different thing and harder to swallow.
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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If it's within a fab context? Absolutely. We can't appeal to everyone and rejection is part of being here. I don't have lingering insecurities, so it doesn't bother me. I do, however, believe that it can be crushing for people with low self esteem or who feel insecure about themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I see someone deleted the message then I get it, or if they say no then just say ok, delete it, and move on, there’s a lot of members on this site, and we all have our own likes/dislikes xx |
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"I tend to assess situations and if there's a high chance of rejection I avoid the situation if I can.
This is what I was poorly trying to say. I think on here you can sort of tell so then I let it fizzle or end the chat."
I'm not particularly concerned by rejection from people I hardly know but of course rejection from a loved one would be very painful and more difficult to deal with |
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On here I think it stings a bit when you’ve done the groundwork, made a connection, laid all your cards on the table and then they say ‘no ta’ when you do meet.
In real life/relationships I try and examine if or where it went wrong and learn from it however; sometimes it’s the person doing the rejecting that has an issue and then you’ve got to just draw a line under it.
If it’s family, I would be heartbroken.
With work, just look at the bigger picture and take a deep breath. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hatter has been rejecting my wooing for years now. He will cave in one day and I'll get the chance to feed him kebab. I'll need to find a new chippy tho coz the one round the corner has closed. I take it like the champ I am.
If B had rejected me in person when we first met I'd have probably been floored! We had already built up such a bond by then, video calling for hours a day etc, there was no question in my mind that things would have been any different to how they went, well, apart from the fact we're now in a relationship! We went above and beyond anything I was expecting there.
Those I like, it can be a bit stingy I suppose but it serves you well to remember not everyone fancies everyone and some people have tastes you wouldn't expect them to. I'm well aware my gob can put some people off, or I may not be tall enough etc. I think a fair few see me as someone they want to protect rather than toss around a bedroom.
Someone I'm just starting to get to know, then no, it doesn't phase me in the least
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can you handle it?"
Absolutely...one should not be here if they can't handle rejection...ladies rule the jungle here ..if they don't reply...if they don't engage in chat etc etc ..they're doing so for a reason..their reason...their choice...not all shoes fit...it's all part of the " welcome to the jungle " sign you walk under when you step on in....so no point in spitting out the dummy...or throwing the toys outta the pram..it only gives to prove to the ladies that they were right not to engage in conversation with you in the first place... rejection is a huge ingredient thats in the mix here...just handle it with the maturity that ladies look for. |
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"Oh, specifically on here?
Yeah, it's never that important to me. I know I won't be everyone's cup of tea, that's cool very much ours lol you two will give me a big head!   "
Big head and lots of it lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On here it wouldn't bother me.
In the real world I do struggle. I'm currently preparing myself for quite a big rejection at the moment and it's already really upsetting me.
I'm a sensitive soul and wear my heart on my sleeve sadly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope so I don't generally put my self in a position that I can be rejected. Although I opened up yesterday about concerns and my own feelings and no rejection happened yay |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never look back.
Where’s my roses
That's not rejection, it's delay.....
Is it delayed rejection...lol...  "
I would never do that to a lady. If you turn out to be a man I'll bury you where you stand though.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never look back.
Where’s my roses
That's not rejection, it's delay.....
Is it delayed rejection...lol...
I would never do that to a lady. If you turn out to be a man I'll bury you where you stand though...."
In roses ..my real names Dave |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never look back.
Where’s my roses
That's not rejection, it's delay.....
Is it delayed rejection...lol...
I would never do that to a lady. If you turn out to be a man I'll bury you where you stand though....
In roses ..my real names Dave "
Stewart? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never look back.
Where’s my roses
That's not rejection, it's delay.....
Is it delayed rejection...lol...
I would never do that to a lady. If you turn out to be a man I'll bury you where you stand though....
In roses ..my real names Dave "
eurythmics? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never look back.
Where’s my roses
That's not rejection, it's delay.....
Is it delayed rejection...lol...
I would never do that to a lady. If you turn out to be a man I'll bury you where you stand though....
In roses ..my real names Dave "
It's turning out to be that kind of day..... |
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I wouldn't be arsed on here, real life when I've developed real feelings for someone would be and has been different though. But they wouldn't know it, I'm very good at pretending it doesn't sting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Rejection is fine all part and parcel of Fab.
What is dispiriting it to watch your carefully crafted message sink unread to the oblivion of auto-delete.
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