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over a year ago
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So our of curiosity Beginning to think it's Irish men. I've just been in a busy bar for 3 hrs, and not one person approached me to say hi. I have chatted to guts on here and said I never get chatted up and they always reply "oh I'd chat you up" but been out alone the last two nights in busy bars and not one guy said hello.
Is everyone too busy swiping left or right to actually have a conversation with the opposite sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So our of curiosity Beginning to think it's Irish men. I've just been in a busy bar for 3 hrs, and not one person approached me to say hi. I have chatted to guts on here and said I never get chatted up and they always reply "oh I'd chat you up" but been out alone the last two nights in busy bars and not one guy said hello.
Is everyone too busy swiping left or right to actually have a conversation with the opposite sex."
People on average go out later in the night these days. Heaven forbid you should expect an Irishman to to actually approach you and actually chat you up Steph ( regardless of how hot you are ) before they're full lubricated by a minimum of 8 pints !
.....it's just not the done thing....It's not like the old days when Mickileen from the Quite Man could do the talking for us  . That John Wayne and his talking to coleens sober has put too much unrealistic pressure on us Irishmen for too long now.
Actually chat up a stranger before kicking out time ???....the idea of it, I tell you  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So our of curiosity Beginning to think it's Irish men. I've just been in a busy bar for 3 hrs, and not one person approached me to say hi. I have chatted to guts on here and said I never get chatted up and they always reply "oh I'd chat you up" but been out alone the last two nights in busy bars and not one guy said hello.
Is everyone too busy swiping left or right to actually have a conversation with the opposite sex.
People on average go out later in the night these days. Heaven forbid you should expect an Irishman to to actually approach you and actually chat you up Steph ( regardless of how hot you are ) before they're full lubricated by a minimum of 8 pints !
.....it's just not the done thing....It's not like the old days when Mickileen from the Quite Man could do the talking for us . That John Wayne and his talking to coleens sober has put too much unrealistic pressure on us Irishmen for too long now.
Actually chat up a stranger before kicking out time ???....the idea of it, I tell you "
Ya so it seems ah well |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So our of curiosity Beginning to think it's Irish men. I've just been in a busy bar for 3 hrs, and not one person approached me to say hi. I have chatted to guts on here and said I never get chatted up and they always reply "oh I'd chat you up" but been out alone the last two nights in busy bars and not one guy said hello.
Is everyone too busy swiping left or right to actually have a conversation with the opposite sex."
I chat to everyone theirs absolutely no way I'd leave you out, are you short maybe they never saw you Irish bars are always crammed  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe none found you attractive?
Yep thats the reason sure I'm a fat ugly cunt "
Maybe they were thinking you were attached? The reality as opposed to FAB is very different |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I was sat alone in a bar and not one person even said hi how you doing? I did not go out with any illusions of pulling or getting chatted up but as a person sitting alone in a bar in a country where us Irish are renowned for our friendliness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The world has changed totally, I spend lots of time eating & drinking solo and it's 50/50 whether guys will chat to you. They always do if you give them a signal because they actually don't like bothering a single lady for fear of retribution unfortunately. But honestly give them a smile and they still do and never be on your phone/ipad etc because that's an instant barrier.
Hope that helps some |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The world has changed totally, I spend lots of time eating & drinking solo and it's 50/50 whether guys will chat to you. They always do if you give them a signal because they actually don't like bothering a single lady for fear of retribution unfortunately. But honestly give them a smile and they still do and never be on your phone/ipad etc because that's an instant barrier.
Hope that helps some "
. I actually left my phone in my bag and sat in a busy area of the bar. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The world has changed totally, I spend lots of time eating & drinking solo and it's 50/50 whether guys will chat to you. They always do if you give them a signal because they actually don't like bothering a single lady for fear of retribution unfortunately. But honestly give them a smile and they still do and never be on your phone/ipad etc because that's an instant barrier.
Hope that helps some . I actually left my phone in my bag and sat in a busy area of the bar. "
Wow that is bad!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why didn't you approach anyone when it became clear nobody was coming to you? "
Dont have the nerve. The couple of times I have tried have been very publicly rejected. Not easy for a woman to approach a group of guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why didn't you approach anyone when it became clear nobody was coming to you?
Dont have the nerve. The couple of times I have tried have been very publicly rejected. Not easy for a woman to approach a group of guys "
Perhaps the guys felt the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe none found you attractive?
Yep thats the reason sure I'm a fat ugly cunt "
She didn't say that.
Perhaps the men in the bar were all attached.
Perhaps they didn't want to approach a woman on her own for fear of appearing pervy.
Perhaps you gave off an annoyed vibe.
Perhaps there were 300 other single women in the bar and you just got unlucky. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Maybe none found you attractive?
Yep thats the reason sure I'm a fat ugly cunt
She didn't say that.
Perhaps the men in the bar were all attached.
Perhaps they didn't want to approach a woman on her own for fear of appearing pervy.
Perhaps you gave off an annoyed vibe.
Perhaps there were 300 other single women in the bar and you just got unlucky. "
Well I hope I didn't give off an annoyed vibe. As I've already said I put my phone away and sat in middle of bar.
At end of day I enjoyed the music and stepped completely out of my comfort zone by heading away for two nights alone and going out to a pub on my own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe none found you attractive?
Yep thats the reason sure I'm a fat ugly cunt
She didn't say that.
Perhaps the men in the bar were all attached.
Perhaps they didn't want to approach a woman on her own for fear of appearing pervy.
Perhaps you gave off an annoyed vibe.
Perhaps there were 300 other single women in the bar and you just got unlucky.
Well I hope I didn't give off an annoyed vibe. As I've already said I put my phone away and sat in middle of bar.
At end of day I enjoyed the music and stepped completely out of my comfort zone by heading away for two nights alone and going out to a pub on my own."
I have a grumpy face even when I'm happy. 
That's really good, doing something new. Don't give up. If it was something new you may have been nervous and they may have sensed that.
Next time try and catch the eye of a man also on his own. See if you can get him to chat. |
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"Why didn't you approach anyone when it became clear nobody was coming to you?
Dont have the nerve. The couple of times I have tried have been very publicly rejected. Not easy for a woman to approach a group of guys "
Maybe, just maybe, the guys felt exactly the same.
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"So our of curiosity Beginning to think it's Irish men. I've just been in a busy bar for 3 hrs, and not one person approached me to say hi. I have chatted to guts on here and said I never get chatted up and they always reply "oh I'd chat you up" but been out alone the last two nights in busy bars and not one guy said hello.
Is everyone too busy swiping left or right to actually have a conversation with the opposite sex."
the men on here will say that. How did the guys know you weren't waiting for somebody? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So our of curiosity Beginning to think it's Irish men. I've just been in a busy bar for 3 hrs, and not one person approached me to say hi. I have chatted to guts on here and said I never get chatted up and they always reply "oh I'd chat you up" but been out alone the last two nights in busy bars and not one guy said hello.
Is everyone too busy swiping left or right to actually have a conversation with the opposite sex.
the men on here will say that. How did the guys know you weren't waiting for somebody?"
I sat for 3 hours alone think it was obvious noone was coming |
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I went alone into a bar in Dublin, came out 4 hours later d*unk as a skunk, with 22 new phone numbers in my phone, knowing the name of everyone in there.
That was a few years ago mind, smart phones weren't around then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So our of curiosity Beginning to think it's Irish men. I've just been in a busy bar for 3 hrs, and not one person approached me to say hi. I have chatted to guts on here and said I never get chatted up and they always reply "oh I'd chat you up" but been out alone the last two nights in busy bars and not one guy said hello.
Is everyone too busy swiping left or right to actually have a conversation with the opposite sex."
It is possibly an Irish thing or where you are... for me as a Glaswegian and part of to friendly celts... I would always say hello... |
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"How many did you approach in those 3 hrs?"
 its a changing world what with inappropriate behavior being so broad one could get arrested for sexual harassment now day chatting up a girl you don't know |
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"So our of curiosity Beginning to think it's Irish men. I've just been in a busy bar for 3 hrs, and not one person approached me to say hi. I have chatted to guts on here and said I never get chatted up and they always reply "oh I'd chat you up" but been out alone the last two nights in busy bars and not one guy said hello.
Is everyone too busy swiping left or right to actually have a conversation with the opposite sex.
the men on here will say that. How did the guys know you weren't waiting for somebody?
I sat for 3 hours alone think it was obvious noone was coming "
I'm just offering a possible explanation as to why you weren't approached.
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"How many did you approach in those 3 hrs?
its a changing world what with inappropriate behavior being so broad one could get arrested for sexual harassment now day chatting up a girl you don't know "
I don't think anyone would be arrested for approaching a woman respectfully in front of witnesses and taking no for an answer. I do think that some men moderate behaviour that they previously deemed acceptable and that's a good thing |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How many did you approach in those 3 hrs?
its a changing world what with inappropriate behavior being so broad one could get arrested for sexual harassment now day chatting up a girl you don't know
I don't think anyone would be arrested for approaching a woman respectfully in front of witnesses and taking no for an answer. I do think that some men moderate behaviour that they previously deemed acceptable and that's a good thing"
Exactly I wasn't looking to pull or get chatted up but are things that bad that we don't even chat to each other now. |
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"How many did you approach in those 3 hrs?
its a changing world what with inappropriate behavior being so broad one could get arrested for sexual harassment now day chatting up a girl you don't know
I don't think anyone would be arrested for approaching a woman respectfully in front of witnesses and taking no for an answer. I do think that some men moderate behaviour that they previously deemed acceptable and that's a good thing
Exactly I wasn't looking to pull or get chatted up but are things that bad that we don't even chat to each other now. "
It was only ment light heartedly but I do think guys are more weary and reserved now days is strange you didn't at least a hi from any one |
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