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The Coffee Guy...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ah, the coffee guy... 
Ok, pervmigos, I need your help/advice.
So for the past 2/3 months I’ve been grabbing a coffee in the morning in a little place near my house. There’s a barista and he’s fucking delicious. Like, 11/10 and way out of my league 
He’s (I’m fairly shit with guessing ages!) around 29-32, I reckon. He’s flirty with me, but not overly so. Like, not in your face about it.l but definitely something. I’ve watched him with others, he doesn’t flirt but is naturally chatty(or maybe I’m just blinded by my ladyboner for him?!)
Anywho....(thanks if you’ve gotten this far x) I really, really wanna bang him. Really!
How the fuck do I go about finding out without looking like a total moron? Could I casually give my number? What, TELL ME?
Many thanks in advance 
Ps, I’m not very confident about putting myself out there in real life. Fab shit is easier!
Over and out! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ah, the coffee guy...
Ok, pervmigos, I need your help/advice.
So for the past 2/3 months I’ve been grabbing a coffee in the morning in a little place near my house. There’s a barista and he’s fucking delicious. Like, 11/10 and way out of my league
He’s (I’m fairly shit with guessing ages!) around 29-32, I reckon. He’s flirty with me, but not overly so. Like, not in your face about it.l but definitely something. I’ve watched him with others, he doesn’t flirt but is naturally chatty(or maybe I’m just blinded by my ladyboner for him?!)
Anywho....(thanks if you’ve gotten this far x) I really, really wanna bang him. Really!
How the fuck do I go about finding out without looking like a total moron? Could I casually give my number? What, TELL ME?
Many thanks in advance
Ps, I’m not very confident about putting myself out there in real life. Fab shit is easier!
Over and out! X"
leave an old handbag on the counter with a card inside with your number get a coffee to go and leave handbag making sure he knows it's yours......... Eg wave it while your deliberating which coffee to have in a to go cup and when he rings say to him you're in the bath can he bring it round as a big favour to you it's got sentimental value it was your mother's brothers sisters  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Flirt back. Go on when it's really quiet so you can strike up a conversation. Or do what I would probably do, nothing  "
awwww I flirt with almost every woman lol |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Boldy, go for it. In real life it's far easier than on here for me anyway. Ask him if he'd like to go for a non-caffeinated drink on his day off. If words will get swallowed up by your blushing, give him your number on the way out. Worst that can happen is you need to find a new coffee place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Boldy, go for it. In real life it's far easier than on here for me anyway. Ask him if he'd like to go for a non-caffeinated drink on his day off. If words will get swallowed up by your blushing, give him your number on the way out. Worst that can happen is you need to find a new coffee place. "
Exactly this!
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"Flirt back. Go on when it's really quiet so you can strike up a conversation. Or do what I would probably do, nothing awwww I flirt with almost every woman lol"
Yeah this is the problem with flirting or friendliness. I'm friendly with men and women but it sometimes gets misinterpreted although not so much now I'm older. In situations like this it can be difficult to infer intent |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Flirt back. Go on when it's really quiet so you can strike up a conversation. Or do what I would probably do, nothing awwww I flirt with almost every woman lol
Yeah this is the problem with flirting or friendliness. I'm friendly with men and women but it sometimes gets misinterpreted although not so much now I'm older. In situations like this it can be difficult to infer intent"
naaaa a pretty woman and the Op looks pretty can do wonders with the flutter of her eyelashes and a telephone number  |
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Now I mean no offence OP but if this was a guy saying "The nice lady in the coffee shop is polite and nice to me as a customer when I order my coffee, always smiling and making conversation, do you think I should bang her".... the answers would be different...
...but as its you
The only barrier in this life is fear, fear of rejection or humiliation, fear of pain or death, fear of being foolish etc. It stops us doing what our heart or our body desires the most. In that regard, so conquer that fear. I would ask him quite simply "do you fancy grabbing a coffee with me sometime?" and if he says "yes" you swap numbers and the world gets a little bit more soft and fuzzy.
Note Baristas are not sex objects, following the above advice may lead to the need to find a new coffee shop. Please take your own mug/cup, think of the turtles. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Boldy, go for it. In real life it's far easier than on here for me anyway. Ask him if he'd like to go for a non-caffeinated drink on his day off. If words will get swallowed up by your blushing, give him your number on the way out. Worst that can happen is you need to find a new coffee place. "
I wish I had more balls and 8am is too early for a Dutch courage beverage!
I’ll try enlarge my balls by Tuesday morning.
#prayforboldy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Write you name and number on the coffee cup. Give it him back, and tell him your missing something with your coffee. Whilst looking at you name and number......... then run really quick and see how excited it makes you feel. |
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"I know I am sounding stupid, this is the bravest thing I have done in my life. Oh Gd, this is awkward. I feel if I don't do it now I will regret it. Ah well, I will either way.
What time will you be off work? I would see you again.
There, I said it".
Good luck. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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You need tongo in with a book. An eye carching book. Make sure he sees you with it. This may have to play out over a week so he knows the book belongs to you.
Then one day, when it’s not so busy (so nobody else picks it up!) you just “forget” the book. Inside you will have written your name, and telephone number, and “call me, Mr Barista man”.
I got this idea from We Bare Bears....it has possibilities.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Boldy, go for it. In real life it's far easier than on here for me anyway. Ask him if he'd like to go for a non-caffeinated drink on his day off. If words will get swallowed up by your blushing, give him your number on the way out. Worst that can happen is you need to find a new coffee place.
Exactly this!
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Yup! This  |
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Do you have a non single friend with a little more confidence you can go in with ? You don't want a single friend to get in there first
Get her to do some flirting with him then she could say if I was single I would ask you out but my friend is single if you're are interested |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My tuppence worth.. pay for his coffee in advance of him entering the shop..if he's there regularly the shop assistant will know him ..and even if you're not there when he comes in after you've paid for it ,it will make it all the more interesting to him to find out who paid for his coffee and will have him looking for you...don't complicate or over think it too much ..best of luck and l do Sincerely hope you get to enjoy him  |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
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"Guys, I’m reading all these.
I will do something on Tuesday. Dunno what yet, but some great suggestions.
Hopefully I don’t nervously pee, or fall. "
Just ask him if he would like to grab a coffee sometime. What have you got to lose?
That being said, I flirt with every woman at work, but do not flirt with someone I fancy.
So it's a hard one. Be bold, see what happens and you can move forward if the feeling isn't mutual.
Best of luck |
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Unless a totally to go coffee stop...
Make an effort and go in earlier and have a sit down coffee.... Chances are he's noticed you and if he's interested this might give him a chance to approach you (depending how busy venue is) but bear in mind if he don't approach you he could be busy...
Alternatively why not call in on way home.. You may have more time...
Also skip going in one day if he notices your absence it could prompt him into sayingg something.. |
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A very close 'friend' of mine is naturally flirty with both men and women.
It just means he likes people and he likes them to like him.
Ask him if he'd like a quick coffee with you one lunchtime this week cos you want a bit of new company and he seems like good company.
Don't lay everything on the line with a Jesus lad my fanny beats every time you serve me a latte ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hope y’all don’t think I’m rude by not replying individually, sorry. 
Meli - promise, I’ll bump it if you don’t! X
I’ll do something casual. Watch this space  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bake him a fresh lemon drizzle cake but just take him a little sliver of it in.
After he’s consumed it and complimented you on it just casually ask him if he’d like some more then he’s welcome to call in when he’s finished work and you’ll make him a drink to go with it for a change.
Then do this |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Just give him your number, or at the least offer it.
The confidence of doing so will enhance any attraction he already has. If he is not attracted then the worst he can do is say no, his personality (from limited info) seems that he won't be a dick about it if its the wrong signals.
Personally speaking, I'd love to have women (if I'm attracted to them or not) offer their number to me, it would gain huge bonus points from me if they did. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"If he likes you he will ask you out. I wouldn't do anything.
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Possibly not. He may be having similar reservations. Which gets nobody anywhere.
If you like something, go for it. People need to be more honest and not scared of asking for something or letting intentions be known. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Send a picture of your gapping anus while asking him how deep he thinks his dick could dig the chocolate gold? "
Now that's just stupid....At least my idea was subtle  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Send a picture of your gapping anus while asking him how deep he thinks his dick could dig the chocolate gold? "
This near made me pee laughing.
Cool and understated, I like it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Send a picture of your gapping anus while asking him how deep he thinks his dick could dig the chocolate gold?
Now that's just stupid....At least my idea was subtle "
None of my ideas are stupid expect if you read them backward |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Send a picture of your gapping anus while asking him how deep he thinks his dick could dig the chocolate gold? "
chocolate gold omg that's a first lol back in a minute darling just gonna flush some gold |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just whatever you do don't wait for him to finish work, grab him and shove him into the back of a rental van and say he's yours for all eternity and your not letting him go. |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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I would go for more on the flirting side but a little bit more up front where you don’t tell him your up for it but more like I could be lol.
In my second life I will be very up front lol sadly we don’t get that. |
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Keep it simple. Either number on the cup or a card. Paper can be easily lost but he’ll be aware to the card in his pocket etc.
Might be an idea to do a local fab search as well, he may have read this thread and then it’s going to be very easy.
Looking forward to Tuesday’s update. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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K.I.S.S. Protocol
Note with first name and phone number, and a simple invite to drinks.
If you get a text in 24 hours you have a date. If you don't never mention it again. |
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"Write down your number on a piece of paper and when you go to pay give it to him and say call me, then walk out without saying anything else.
Mr2  "
This is so cool. Oh I wish it would happen to me lol. |
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"Write down your number on a piece of paper and when you go to pay give it to him and say call me, then walk out without saying anything else.
Mr2
This is so cool. Oh I wish it would happen to me lol. "
This is what I would do...good luck OP hope all goes well |
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Visit when it's most likely to be quiet, so there's less pressure not to have to escape with your coffee quickly. You don't have to achieve getting a date or number on the first visit - just start making it part of your routine that you're there for longer periods, where you can both start chatting and flirting a bit more.
Put the idea out of your head that he's out of your league. Everyone is in your league, is the approach that I always take.
Aim to discover more about him, what he's doing away from work etc. He may mention hobbies, a partner etc. If some of his hobbies/interests sound potentially fun, they obviously may be something that you could potentially explore together. Show your interest - it could act as a prompt for him to invite you along. If you don't find him picking up on your hint, it's fine to state you'd love to explore it, as a further, clearer hint.
By trying to pursue meeting for something that's interesting to him, you're not potentially pressurising him or you, to ask the other out on a date. Achieving time away from the coffee grinds, you'll be much more able to be more fully intimate, opening up the conversation onto more or less anything. Bonus points if any of his interests might involve traveling some way from home
That would be an easier way to influence getting together somewhere away from the coffee outlet. There's no reason why you can't suggest getting together for a drink - probably not coffee, or letting him know you have some free time, for whatever reasons, giving him more hooks that he could be caught by, encouraging him to bite and make a suggestion that you meet up.
Something that you'll be doing together is better than just a number - ideally you can discuss a prospective date/time for when it would be. You can exchange numbers too but preferably have the outline meeting discussed. You could potentially do all of this on one visit for coffee, or let things develop over a couple, where you're spending a bit more time there. Showing interest in him will almost certainly lead him to do the same in return - and if there's some sexual/other interest, then all the better. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I have to agree with Norman further up with regards to the difference in responses to if a bloke had posted this, and as I read through it did have the Harry Enfield sketch where he's smitten with the Polish barista playing through my head
However as others have said fortune favours the brave OP so you just have to get your big girl pants on and go for it - worst that can happen is you have to find somewhere else for your morning coffee |
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"Write you name and number on the coffee cup. Give it him back, and tell him your missing something with your coffee. Whilst looking at you name and number......... then run really quick and see how excited it makes you feel. "
Do this but be prepared to find a new coffee shop if he doesn't ring.
Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Result!!!!
It’s good news people. It was quiet when I went in, got chatting to him for longer than usual. I asked if he’d done anything over the weekend and he explained he spent most of it paddle boarding. I was trying to keep him chatting so I said it’s something I’ve always wanted to try(big fat lie!) but hadn’t got around to it. His response “when I get back from holidays in two weeks, I’ll show you how”
I grabbed a pen from the counter and wrote my number on the notepad in his hand and told him not to be afraid to use it. I think I winked, or had some kind of face spasm, told him to enjoy his holiday and walked out.
Thank you all! Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Great result but what if he actually asked you to go..I hope you can swim hah. "
Well, he’s offered to show me when he gets back. That’s something
I can swim, but my balance is pants |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Write down your number on a piece of paper and when you go to pay give it to him and say call me, then walk out without saying anything else.
Mr2 "
This! I would be surprised if it wouldn't work! Now you need to let us know how it went!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Result!!!!
It’s good news people. It was quiet when I went in, got chatting to him for longer than usual. I asked if he’d done anything over the weekend and he explained he spent most of it paddle boarding. I was trying to keep him chatting so I said it’s something I’ve always wanted to try(big fat lie!) but hadn’t got around to it. His response “when I get back from holidays in two weeks, I’ll show you how”
I grabbed a pen from the counter and wrote my number on the notepad in his hand and told him not to be afraid to use it. I think I winked, or had some kind of face spasm, told him to enjoy his holiday and walked out.
Thank you all! Xxx "
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Great result but what if he actually asked you to go..I hope you can swim hah.
Well, he’s offered to show me when he gets back. That’s something
I can swim, but my balance is pants "
Good for you OP well done. A perfect date I love it. You'll look sexy in a wetsuit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Great result but what if he actually asked you to go..I hope you can swim hah.
Well, he’s offered to show me when he gets back. That’s something
I can swim, but my balance is pants
Good for you OP well done. A perfect date I love it. You'll look sexy in a wetsuit "
omg dont get me started on wetsuits lol
you could get him to put his number in froth on the top of your coffee too x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Result!!!!
It’s good news people. It was quiet when I went in, got chatting to him for longer than usual. I asked if he’d done anything over the weekend and he explained he spent most of it paddle boarding. I was trying to keep him chatting so I said it’s something I’ve always wanted to try(big fat lie!) but hadn’t got around to it. His response “when I get back from holidays in two weeks, I’ll show you how”
I grabbed a pen from the counter and wrote my number on the notepad in his hand and told him not to be afraid to use it. I think I winked, or had some kind of face spasm, told him to enjoy his holiday and walked out.
Thank you all! Xxx "
Seeing this has reminded why I stopped reading Mills & Boon.
(wipes tear from my eye) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Result!!!!
It’s good news people. It was quiet when I went in, got chatting to him for longer than usual. I asked if he’d done anything over the weekend and he explained he spent most of it paddle boarding. I was trying to keep him chatting so I said it’s something I’ve always wanted to try(big fat lie!) but hadn’t got around to it. His response “when I get back from holidays in two weeks, I’ll show you how”
I grabbed a pen from the counter and wrote my number on the notepad in his hand and told him not to be afraid to use it. I think I winked, or had some kind of face spasm, told him to enjoy his holiday and walked out.
Thank you all! Xxx "
Good on ya Boldy |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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Result!!!!
It’s good news people. It was quiet when I went in, got chatting to him for longer than usual. I asked if he’d done anything over the weekend and he explained he spent most of it paddle boarding. I was trying to keep him chatting so I said it’s something I’ve always wanted to try(big fat lie!) but hadn’t got around to it. His response “when I get back from holidays in two weeks, I’ll show you how”
I grabbed a pen from the counter and wrote my number on the notepad in his hand and told him not to be afraid to use it. I think I winked, or had some kind of face spasm, told him to enjoy his holiday and walked out.
Thank you all! Xxx "
Face spasm 
Well done |
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Result!!!!
It’s good news people. It was quiet when I went in, got chatting to him for longer than usual. I asked if he’d done anything over the weekend and he explained he spent most of it paddle boarding. I was trying to keep him chatting so I said it’s something I’ve always wanted to try(big fat lie!) but hadn’t got around to it. His response “when I get back from holidays in two weeks, I’ll show you how”
I grabbed a pen from the counter and wrote my number on the notepad in his hand and told him not to be afraid to use it. I think I winked, or had some kind of face spasm, told him to enjoy his holiday and walked out.
Thank you all! Xxx "
Brilliant! Well done you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Write down your number on a piece of paper and when you go to pay give it to him and say call me, then walk out without saying anything else.
Mr2
This! I would be surprised if it wouldn't work! Now you need to let us know how it went! "
Read up a few posts |
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"Write down your number on a piece of paper and when you go to pay give it to him and say call me, then walk out without saying anything else.
Mr2
This! I would be surprised if it wouldn't work! Now you need to let us know how it went!
Read up a few posts "
Caught up! |
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