We both read our messages. I think the clue is in the word 'private' but I'm very well aware that lots of people lack discretion therefore never give personal information.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It depends on the context.

I think that some people are assumptive that what they write is to be kept private between two people but if the messages are abusive or hateful or about another user, then it's possible that they can and will be disseminated further.

I think that if it's an intimate conversation between two people about themselves, then they should never be passed on. If you're gossiping about other people that they know, it's a question of loyalty and judgement.

It's not a simple or as black and white as 'never ever'.

Tea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't care.

My OH has access to my account and can pop on and read my messages whenever he likes

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I've seen people sending screenshots from here on WhatsApp groups so nothing surprises me

Now that's naughty.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just assume that it goes on, although I'd be quite pissed off if my photo was being dallied around.

I've never sent a message on or relayed information/gossip to anyone else. They're never salacious enough to impress anyone with

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS over a year ago

Stockport

If i receive unwanted dick pics and crude messages, i may share them with friends to have a giggle at the weird shape or colour, and to give literary criticism of the misuse of English language.

But private communication is private.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If i receive unwanted dick pics and crude messages, i may share them with friends to have a giggle at the weird shape or colour, and to give literary criticism of the misuse of English language.

But private communication is private."

'But private communication is private'

Practice what you preach

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If i receive unwanted dick pics and crude messages, i may share them with friends to have a giggle at the weird shape or colour, and to give literary criticism of the misuse of English language.

But private communication is private.

'But private communication is private'

Practice what you preach"

Oh ! There is a story there!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If they are close friends it wouldn't surprise me but I would be disappointed if someone I was chatting with was sharing info and pictures with someone else. I think it's very juvenile.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS over a year ago

Stockport

"If i receive unwanted dick pics and crude messages, i may share them with friends to have a giggle at the weird shape or colour, and to give literary criticism of the misuse of English language.

But private communication is private.

'But private communication is private'

Practice what you preach"

I don't think we've ever communicated?

If you receive an uninvited explicit message and photographs in the post, identified only by a pseudonym, it's not a "private communication". You didn't ask for it, you don't know who sent it, you have no obligation of confidentiality. It's a perfectly reasonable assumption that the sender doesn't care who sees it.

If my reaction is amusement, i have no problems sharing the laughter with my friends. If my reaction is disgust, i delete, wash my eyes with bleach, and try to forget...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve heard of it happening, but I wouldn’t be happy x

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I know it happens as I've had people share messages and pictures of other people with me. It puts me off as I assume they'll do the same with mine. Its not something I've done or would do, unless it was an abusive message maybe.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OK, here's a scenario;

Someone messages a friend of yours (without knowing the connection) via PM making derogatory comments about yourself. Would you then expect your friend to keep that message private or would you expect your friend to let you know what's being said?

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan over a year ago

Aylesbury

I wouldn't really care. It's not like I'm filthy in what messages I do send to people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OK, here's a scenario;

I would expect a friend to tell.me they were chatting shit about me. Someone I chat to but am not really friends with, I wouldn't expect anything of them.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple over a year ago

Hailsham

"OK, here's a scenario;

I would expect the friend to defend me / us without the need to tell me / us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If i receive unwanted dick pics and crude messages, i may share them with friends to have a giggle at the weird shape or colour, and to give literary criticism of the misuse of English language.

But private communication is private."

would it be o.k to say your hair is beautiful ??

no one else would know x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh god I really hope this sort of thing isn't happening.

I'll be careful from now on I think.

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By *ndrew CareyMan over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

"How would you feel if you were mailing someone but then you found out that they are showing someone else all your messages?

Do you let other people read the messages sent to you on here?"

Nothing I can do about it so I won't let it bother me.

I would stop messaging the person if I found out though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OK, here's a scenario;

I would expect a friend to tell.me they were chatting shit about me. Someone I chat to but am not really friends with, I wouldn't expect anything of them."

This is the grey area that I was talking about in my first post.

There are situations where the assumption of privacy and rules about messages can and maybe should be bent.

Of course, messages being passed on for titillation and to demean or mock is completely wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OK, here's a scenario;

I would expect the friend to defend me / us without the need to tell me / us "

I would expect them to do both.

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By *irty desireWoman over a year ago

newcatle

I share the abusive ones with my close female friends who I swing with!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How would you feel if you were mailing someone but then you found out that they are showing someone else all your messages?

Do you let other people read the messages sent to you on here?"

I believe that face pics are passed around without the users knowledge. It's shady behaviour

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By *heIcebreakersCouple over a year ago

Cramlington

"How would you feel if you were mailing someone but then you found out that they are showing someone else all your messages?

Do you let other people read the messages sent to you on here?"
we're a couple who both access the site - so we often sign forum posts to identify ourselves. That said, are we cynical and hard bitten enough to assume that some people don't get confidentiality, or that some other people will share without our consent through malice or nastiness? You bet.

Mr icebreaker

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

"How would you feel if you were mailing someone but then you found out that they are showing someone else all your messages?

Do you let other people read the messages sent to you on here?"

Pissed. Our messages are sent to an individual or a couple specifically and that's who we expect to be reading them. Showing others messages is a betrayal of the senders trust and wrong.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"OK, here's a scenario;

Keep the message private,by passing it on all you're doing is upsetting the other person.

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By *ensualtouch15Man over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"How would you feel if you were mailing someone but then you found out that they are showing someone else all your messages?

Do you let other people read the messages sent to you on here?"

I assume any message or pic I send , is either viewed by men pretending to be female , and his school friends, or is shown to others

What one may want and what reality is , differ significantly

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

Something along these lines has happened to me recently. A chap i was chatting to decided to tell me what a female friend of his on here had said about the fact he was messaging me.

I was peeved that

a) he’d been talking about me

b) he was clearly indiscreet

c) he had no backbone to make his own mind up about things (me).

d) he was a gossipy man. One of the biggest turn offs for me is that.

Wasn’t even if we were chatting to meet. It was just passing the time of day stuff.

The messages i exchange with folk should remain between thentwo of. If a third party becomes involved then my interest in them withers and dies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I allow trim to read all my messages. We are a couple and he has that right, as do I with his.

I'd imagine a lot of swinging couples allow this and I don't see the problem.

If I'm messaging a stranger I have no control over what is said is shared and I would never know if they are sharing it with their friends or anyone else for that matter.

Hence I do not share personal information and very guarded over what I share on here. Doesn't everyone ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OK, here's a scenario;

Keep the message private,by passing it on all you're doing is upsetting the other person."

Aren't you then making the decision for your friend as to what their reaction is? In keeping it quiet you're (to a degree) permitting the senders bad behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Oh god I really hope this sort of thing isn't happening.

I'll be careful from now on I think."

It is happening.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing I can do to stop someone doing it, so not much point in me losing sleep over it. If I don't want it out in the public domain, I won't write it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn’t care tbh

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By *oppet22TV/TS over a year ago

huddersfield

Would never show anyone messages as the other party send to you it's not the right thing to do unless you have there permission to do so

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Let's be honest, there are WhatsApp and kik groups where those who don't have the balls or gumption to say stuff to people for fear of scuppering their white than white holier than thou image chat shit and gossip, whilst keeping their nose clean here, so I'm willing to bet PMs have been shared on there.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"OK, here's a scenario;

Keep the message private,by passing it on all you're doing is upsetting the other person.

Aren't you then making the decision for your friend as to what their reaction is? In keeping it quiet you're (to a degree) permitting the senders bad behaviour. "

It's exactly that,bad behaviour so why would I pass on bad behaviour,in my opinion that makes me as bad as the person that said it. I don't need to know crap that someone else thinks.

I'm talking from experience,once a good friend told me some rubbish that someone else had said to her about me. Now at the time I was going through fertility treatment and needed calmness which she knew. I was anything but calm,but I was only annoyed at her for telling me,I couldn't give a stuff what some random person thinks about me.

I personally don't believe in passing on shit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Let's be honest, there are WhatsApp and kik groups where those who don't have the balls or gumption to say stuff to people for fear of scuppering their white than white holier than thou image chat shit and gossip, whilst keeping their nose clean here, so I'm willing to bet PMs have been shared on there.

P "

Not good.

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By *ntrigued32Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

This is very dishonest, as a couple we both see all messages, if we have a conversation with someone we expect that to remain between us.

If this was happening to us we would hope our 'friends' told us.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've screen shotted abusive ones a few times to see if they re appear on a new profile.

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By *ne4meMan over a year ago

London

One person I meet on here showed some of her best friends some of my private photos and messages - it happens for sure but I was hoping one of them might have wanted to join us and instigate a threesome - sadly that remained a dream

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not good. "

No, it really isn't but it does happen, far more than people know or would imagine. I personally know of several popular forum users who have done this.

Tea

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Not good.

No, it really isn't but it does happen, far more than people know or would imagine. I personally know of several popular forum users who have done this.

Tea"

So the Clique does exist.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not good.

No, it really isn't but it does happen, far more than people know or would imagine. I personally know of several popular forum users who have done this.

Tea

So the Clique does exist.

First rule of the clique: do not mention the clique

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How would you feel if you were mailing someone but then you found out that they are showing someone else all your messages?

Do you let other people read the messages sent to you on here?"

Never. There is a thing called discretion.

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Well as a couple we both read them.

I guess it depends on what messages I sent.

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By *wo4FemCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

No one reads any messages sent to us apart from us.

Mr2

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How would you feel if you were mailing someone but then you found out that they are showing someone else all your messages?

Do you let other people read the messages sent to you on here?"

Only you OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No i never show anyone messages on here.

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By *edoriartyCouple over a year ago

Peterborough

I logged into some other guys profile by mistake once, I couldn't remember my password and was trying various combinations. I just had a quick nose around and left

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"How would you feel if you were mailing someone but then you found out that they are showing someone else all your messages?

Do you let other people read the messages sent to you on here?

Only you OP

You show everyone my messages? I wondered why so many people were losing their sex drive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How would you feel if you were mailing someone but then you found out that they are showing someone else all your messages?

Do you let other people read the messages sent to you on here?

Only you OP

You show everyone my messages? I wondered why so many people were losing their sex drive.

The thought of steelheels pressing against the private areas could put someone out of action

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"How would you feel if you were mailing someone but then you found out that they are showing someone else all your messages?

Do you let other people read the messages sent to you on here?

Only you OP

You show everyone my messages? I wondered why so many people were losing their sex drive.

The thought of steelheels pressing against the private areas could put someone out of action

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How would you feel if you were mailing someone but then you found out that they are showing someone else all your messages?

Do you let other people read the messages sent to you on here?

Only you OP

You show everyone my messages? I wondered why so many people were losing their sex drive.

The thought of steelheels pressing against the private areas could put someone out of action

Need something a bit more upbeat then that... I just found out I am holding on to a small fortune

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