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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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After speaking to a few ladies I know I'm not the only one to feel this way but I was wondering the reasons why.
I find it much more difficult to approach and flirt with women than men. Couples are a complete minefield too.
So how do you deal with it? Is it easier in person? |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"After speaking to a few ladies I know I'm not the only one to feel this way but I was wondering the reasons why.
I find it much more difficult to approach and flirt with women than men. Couples are a complete minefield too.
So how do you deal with it? Is it easier in person? "
I don't flirt with blokes so I may be wide of yhe mark, surely whatever you'd do to flirt with a guy you'd transpose to a lady.
Couples I agree can be awkward.  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Far easier in person I think. I find with women you don't want to be the first to make a move in cause you've misinterpreted general platonic flirtiness for actual intent so then you're stuck playing lesbian sheep and waiting for the obvious to create a billboard advertising they want you. When they do make it obvious it's such a thrill though. Men are far easier - stroke their ego and you're giving them a virtual handjob. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"After speaking to a few ladies I know I'm not the only one to feel this way but I was wondering the reasons why.
I find it much more difficult to approach and flirt with women than men. Couples are a complete minefield too.
So how do you deal with it? Is it easier in person?
I don't flirt with blokes so I may be wide of yhe mark, surely whatever you'd do to flirt with a guy you'd transpose to a lady.
Couples I agree can be awkward. "
It's really not that straight forward. Men are generally simple creatures, they're much easier to read.
Women I get embarrassed and shy and it makes things a million times more awkward. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Far easier in person I think. I find with women you don't want to be the first to make a move in cause you've misinterpreted general platonic flirtiness for actual intent so then you're stuck playing lesbian sheep and waiting for the obvious to create a billboard advertising they want you. When they do make it obvious it's such a thrill though. Men are far easier - stroke their ego and you're giving them a virtual handjob."
This made me think about the fact that most of my female friends are straight too, we don't flirt. I don't flirt with women day to day and tend to assume they are straight yet with men it just happens. |
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I struggle to flirt with men, let alone getting into the world of women. I just tend to be myself
Flirting, if I was any good at it, with a couple I would struggle with. I see flirting as a natural reaction to each other 1-2-1, but I think with a couple I’d be too conscious of upsetting one of them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Women are mostly time wasters the one in your photo thought that 
Which one ? the one who knew how to use facial veet effectively. "
You mean that I have been using genital Veet on my face all this long without knowing that it exists a facial one? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After speaking to a few ladies I know I'm not the only one to feel this way but I was wondering the reasons why.
I find it much more difficult to approach and flirt with women than men. Couples are a complete minefield too.
So how do you deal with it? Is it easier in person? "
Definitley! |
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"Rubi
You can flirt with me anytime 
Those messages I send are me flirting   "
I don't even know how to flirt with men. Fortunately somehow they bridge the gap. Women... I talk, they talk, it's great... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just about anyone who has ever met me (Tom) knows that I am an incorrigible flirt. It comes naturally to me. Women, couples, sometimes men too.
There is always one ingredient without which flirting is a total waste of effort. For a really good flirt it is essential that all participants are full of personal confidence backed up by mutual attraction.
So, don’t expect it to be easy wit everyone. If it’s not, either they’re not right for you or the timing is wrong. Don’t be disheartened. Justly move on and try again |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a Flirty person but not so much with women, I tend to feel in the 'friend zone'.
It's really difficult I think.
Jo.Xx "
I’ll bet you and PT would flirt up a storm.
Tom xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After speaking to a few ladies I know I'm not the only one to feel this way but I was wondering the reasons why.
I find it much more difficult to approach and flirt with women than men. Couples are a complete minefield too.
So how do you deal with it? Is it easier in person? "
Just totally depends on the person/s who you are in contact with, some couples are really nice and easy to get along with the same as the singles it’s just the luck of the draw and going on your gut instinct |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I struggle to flirt with men, let alone getting into the world of women. I just tend to be myself
Flirting, if I was any good at it, with a couple I would struggle with. I see flirting as a natural reaction to each other 1-2-1, but I think with a couple I’d be too conscious of upsetting one of them "
Nah you can flirt. I’ve seen it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can't speak for flirting with women but flirting with couples, isn't it just about chatting at first?
Tea"
But it's hard to chat with 2 people by message, often you don't know which one is answering and it's hard to turn chat to more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't speak for flirting with women but flirting with couples, isn't it just about chatting at first?
Tea
But it's hard to chat with 2 people by message, often you don't know which one is answering and it's hard to turn chat to more. "
It is harder, I think it just takes practise though.
Whenever I chatted to a couple in the past I always asked who I was talking to initially, that then governed the tone of the messages. Bear in mind though that the couple will most likely be finding the messages clunky and hard to chat effectively too. I usually found that in most of my interactions with couples, things moved onto kik or texts fairly quickly, then it's just like any other chat based conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I just assume women see me as a kind of bloke with a minge, and it's only when I see them face to face and perhaps a little twinkle in the eye do I realise they may wanna get scissory with me.
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"I struggle to flirt with men, let alone getting into the world of women. I just tend to be myself
Flirting, if I was any good at it, with a couple I would struggle with. I see flirting as a natural reaction to each other 1-2-1, but I think with a couple I’d be too conscious of upsetting one of them
Nah you can flirt. I’ve seen it "
Haha Doc but it’s quirky and not straightforwards, most wouldn't understand it  . How is the car ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I struggle to flirt with men, let alone getting into the world of women. I just tend to be myself
Flirting, if I was any good at it, with a couple I would struggle with. I see flirting as a natural reaction to each other 1-2-1, but I think with a couple I’d be too conscious of upsetting one of them
Nah you can flirt. I’ve seen it
Haha Doc but it’s quirky and not straightforwards, most wouldn't understand it . How is the car ? "
Oh it’s yet to be revved up  |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"After speaking to a few ladies I know I'm not the only one to feel this way but I was wondering the reasons why.
I find it much more difficult to approach and flirt with women than men. Couples are a complete minefield too.
So how do you deal with it? Is it easier in person? "
I find this surprising. I always assumed the exact opposite to be honest. Women would feel less wary by being approached by one of their own rather than by opposite sex? Especially given the quality (or lack of) of many a man on here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I try to avoid flirting face to face as it would be more like a one man stand up comedy show... Can flirt writing... And I can t recognise someone flirting with me.. Reckon because I don t see anything to warrant attraction to me I don t bother considering flirting or being flirted with |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After speaking to a few ladies I know I'm not the only one to feel this way but I was wondering the reasons why.
I find it much more difficult to approach and flirt with women than men. Couples are a complete minefield too.
So how do you deal with it? Is it easier in person?
I find this surprising. I always assumed the exact opposite to be honest. Women would feel less wary by being approached by one of their own rather than by opposite sex? Especially given the quality (or lack of) of many a man on here? "
I personally can't tell with the written word at all, I naturally assume it's to look "more fun" in front of the blokes.
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By (user no longer on site)
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From a female point of view it’s definitely easier to flirt with other females in person, especially if you’re at a bi event.
On Fab the messaging always seems to turn to girly talk very quickly and we forget about the flirting.
With couples not so much of a difference.
Miss V x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Lots of guys are all over our profile until himself steps up to interact, then they get strangely reticent 
Any man who knows how to interact with both of us comfortably gets upgraded |
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