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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I'm going to talk generally rather than specifically to you OP - there's not a lot any of us can do to improve the way we look in terms of underlying physical features without undergoing surgery or cosmetic things such as make up or dying hair.
We can lose weight or work out to improve body shape, but essentially features such as eyes, nose, mouth etc remain the same, and with things like weight loss or body toning we can feel better about ourselves or more confident etc.
I guess it all comes down to personal comfort about how we look and feel and what steps we as individuals want to take - I know I was grossly overweight for years but was never "bothered" about it until 3 or 4 years ago when I finally got the wake up call I needed to do something about it and lost 3 and a half stone and I *did* feel so much better about myself for it - but for all those years I wasn't bothered and despite the fact I've put a chunk of that back on, I know when I'm ready to I'll shift it again. |
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Become more comfortable in your own skin and more self assured. It may be a mental trait but oldly it may also it makes people see you as more physically attractive. Oh and smile more.
Or as they say on The Phone Shop, 'man say he a ting, then he a ting'. |
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"Become more comfortable in your own skin and more self assured. It may be a mental trait but oldly it may also it makes people see you as more physically attractive. Oh and smile more.
Or as they say on The Phone Shop, 'man say he a ting, then he a ting'. "
Loved that programme.
The Elite selling crew!!!!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm going to talk generally rather than specifically to you OP - there's not a lot any of us can do to improve the way we look in terms of underlying physical features without undergoing surgery or cosmetic things such as make up or dying hair.
We can lose weight or work out to improve body shape, but essentially features such as eyes, nose, mouth etc remain the same, and with things like weight loss or body toning we can feel better about ourselves or more confident etc.
I guess it all comes down to personal comfort about how we look and feel and what steps we as individuals want to take - I know I was grossly overweight for years but was never "bothered" about it until 3 or 4 years ago when I finally got the wake up call I needed to do something about it and lost 3 and a half stone and I *did* feel so much better about myself for it - but for all those years I wasn't bothered and despite the fact I've put a chunk of that back on, I know when I'm ready to I'll shift it again."
So basically, unless we do some changes physically, we're pretty much fucked and not in a good way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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3 zinc tablets a day and 5 and a half hours of sleep a day. Wake up at 4am every morning and incorporate yoga into your day for at least an hour. Cheers |
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I believe in taking care of myself, and a balanced diet and a rigorous exercise routine. In the morning, if my face is a little puffy, I'll put on an ice pack while doing my stomach crunches. I can do a thousand now. After I remove the ice pack, I use a deep pore cleanser lotion. In the shower, I use a water activated gel cleanser. Then a honey almond body scrub. And on the face, an exfoliating gel scrub. Then apply an herb mint facial mask, which I leave on for 10 minutes while I prepare the rest of my routine. I always use an aftershave lotion with little or no alcohol, because alcohol dries your face out and makes you look older. Then moisturizer, then an anti-aging eye balm followed by a final moisturizing protective lotion.
Nothing to it really  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Work with what you got and own it!
Some very successful men on here are just ordinary blokes who just nail it every time.
You don't have to be a pretty boy or reinvent yourself. Just be the best you that you can be.
And don't be a dick. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I'm going to talk generally rather than specifically to you OP - there's not a lot any of us can do to improve the way we look in terms of underlying physical features without undergoing surgery or cosmetic things such as make up or dying hair.
We can lose weight or work out to improve body shape, but essentially features such as eyes, nose, mouth etc remain the same, and with things like weight loss or body toning we can feel better about ourselves or more confident etc.
I guess it all comes down to personal comfort about how we look and feel and what steps we as individuals want to take - I know I was grossly overweight for years but was never "bothered" about it until 3 or 4 years ago when I finally got the wake up call I needed to do something about it and lost 3 and a half stone and I *did* feel so much better about myself for it - but for all those years I wasn't bothered and despite the fact I've put a chunk of that back on, I know when I'm ready to I'll shift it again.
So basically, unless we do some changes physically, we're pretty much fucked and not in a good way."
Not at all - you can't *make* yourself attractive to someone - they have to find you attractive. Sure you can make changes like losing weight or changing your clothing style or your haircut etc that might help someone see you in a different light but ultimately that's down to them and not you.
The key is realising not only that you are attractive, but also accepting that you can't be attractive to everyone. I went for years not thinking of myself as particularly attractive, and not really caring about it either - I still don't to an extent, but since entering this lifestyle I've come to realise that *some* do find me attractive not just because of the way I look but the person I am too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm going to talk generally rather than specifically to you OP - there's not a lot any of us can do to improve the way we look in terms of underlying physical features without undergoing surgery or cosmetic things such as make up or dying hair.
We can lose weight or work out to improve body shape, but essentially features such as eyes, nose, mouth etc remain the same, and with things like weight loss or body toning we can feel better about ourselves or more confident etc.
I guess it all comes down to personal comfort about how we look and feel and what steps we as individuals want to take - I know I was grossly overweight for years but was never "bothered" about it until 3 or 4 years ago when I finally got the wake up call I needed to do something about it and lost 3 and a half stone and I *did* feel so much better about myself for it - but for all those years I wasn't bothered and despite the fact I've put a chunk of that back on, I know when I'm ready to I'll shift it again.
So basically, unless we do some changes physically, we're pretty much fucked and not in a good way.
Not at all - you can't *make* yourself attractive to someone - they have to find you attractive. Sure you can make changes like losing weight or changing your clothing style or your haircut etc that might help someone see you in a different light but ultimately that's down to them and not you.
The key is realising not only that you are attractive, but also accepting that you can't be attractive to everyone. I went for years not thinking of myself as particularly attractive, and not really caring about it either - I still don't to an extent, but since entering this lifestyle I've come to realise that *some* do find me attractive not just because of the way I look but the person I am too."
I do my best to like my own skin but sometimes I can't help but feel like no matter what I do, I'll never be good enough and it puts me in a state of mind where I doubt I should even try anymore.  |
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"I'm going to talk generally rather than specifically to you OP - there's not a lot any of us can do to improve the way we look in terms of underlying physical features without undergoing surgery or cosmetic things such as make up or dying hair.
We can lose weight or work out to improve body shape, but essentially features such as eyes, nose, mouth etc remain the same, and with things like weight loss or body toning we can feel better about ourselves or more confident etc.
I guess it all comes down to personal comfort about how we look and feel and what steps we as individuals want to take - I know I was grossly overweight for years but was never "bothered" about it until 3 or 4 years ago when I finally got the wake up call I needed to do something about it and lost 3 and a half stone and I *did* feel so much better about myself for it - but for all those years I wasn't bothered and despite the fact I've put a chunk of that back on, I know when I'm ready to I'll shift it again.
So basically, unless we do some changes physically, we're pretty much fucked and not in a good way.
Not at all - you can't *make* yourself attractive to someone - they have to find you attractive. Sure you can make changes like losing weight or changing your clothing style or your haircut etc that might help someone see you in a different light but ultimately that's down to them and not you.
The key is realising not only that you are attractive, but also accepting that you can't be attractive to everyone. I went for years not thinking of myself as particularly attractive, and not really caring about it either - I still don't to an extent, but since entering this lifestyle I've come to realise that *some* do find me attractive not just because of the way I look but the person I am too."
Well your in good shape so ahead there, trip to barber's is a suggestion tho |
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"I'm going to talk generally rather than specifically to you OP - there's not a lot any of us can do to improve the way we look in terms of underlying physical features without undergoing surgery or cosmetic things such as make up or dying hair.
We can lose weight or work out to improve body shape, but essentially features such as eyes, nose, mouth etc remain the same, and with things like weight loss or body toning we can feel better about ourselves or more confident etc.
I guess it all comes down to personal comfort about how we look and feel and what steps we as individuals want to take - I know I was grossly overweight for years but was never "bothered" about it until 3 or 4 years ago when I finally got the wake up call I needed to do something about it and lost 3 and a half stone and I *did* feel so much better about myself for it - but for all those years I wasn't bothered and despite the fact I've put a chunk of that back on, I know when I'm ready to I'll shift it again.
So basically, unless we do some changes physically, we're pretty much fucked and not in a good way.
Not at all - you can't *make* yourself attractive to someone - they have to find you attractive. Sure you can make changes like losing weight or changing your clothing style or your haircut etc that might help someone see you in a different light but ultimately that's down to them and not you.
The key is realising not only that you are attractive, but also accepting that you can't be attractive to everyone. I went for years not thinking of myself as particularly attractive, and not really caring about it either - I still don't to an extent, but since entering this lifestyle I've come to realise that *some* do find me attractive not just because of the way I look but the person I am too.
I do my best to like my own skin but sometimes I can't help but feel like no matter what I do, I'll never be good enough and it puts me in a state of mind where I doubt I should even try anymore. "
I’m guessing you feel like this because of the parallel thread about attractiveness.
Don’t take it to heart. Would you like people to
Lie to you and use the old cute line etc?
It only takes one special person to find you attractive and your whole perspective will change.
Don’t sweat the small things. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I'm going to talk generally rather than specifically to you OP - there's not a lot any of us can do to improve the way we look in terms of underlying physical features without undergoing surgery or cosmetic things such as make up or dying hair.
We can lose weight or work out to improve body shape, but essentially features such as eyes, nose, mouth etc remain the same, and with things like weight loss or body toning we can feel better about ourselves or more confident etc.
I guess it all comes down to personal comfort about how we look and feel and what steps we as individuals want to take - I know I was grossly overweight for years but was never "bothered" about it until 3 or 4 years ago when I finally got the wake up call I needed to do something about it and lost 3 and a half stone and I *did* feel so much better about myself for it - but for all those years I wasn't bothered and despite the fact I've put a chunk of that back on, I know when I'm ready to I'll shift it again.
So basically, unless we do some changes physically, we're pretty much fucked and not in a good way.
Not at all - you can't *make* yourself attractive to someone - they have to find you attractive. Sure you can make changes like losing weight or changing your clothing style or your haircut etc that might help someone see you in a different light but ultimately that's down to them and not you.
The key is realising not only that you are attractive, but also accepting that you can't be attractive to everyone. I went for years not thinking of myself as particularly attractive, and not really caring about it either - I still don't to an extent, but since entering this lifestyle I've come to realise that *some* do find me attractive not just because of the way I look but the person I am too.
I do my best to like my own skin but sometimes I can't help but feel like no matter what I do, I'll never be good enough and it puts me in a state of mind where I doubt I should even try anymore. "
Self-perception is the hardest thing to overcome and all you can do in those moments of doubt is try and reflect on what others see rather than what you see yourself, which I know isn't easy - having just scanned through your veris and from what I have seen of you around the forums you're obviously a well liked guy who is thoughtful and considerate etc just keep on being you and the rest will follow |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm going to talk generally rather than specifically to you OP - there's not a lot any of us can do to improve the way we look in terms of underlying physical features without undergoing surgery or cosmetic things such as make up or dying hair.
We can lose weight or work out to improve body shape, but essentially features such as eyes, nose, mouth etc remain the same, and with things like weight loss or body toning we can feel better about ourselves or more confident etc.
I guess it all comes down to personal comfort about how we look and feel and what steps we as individuals want to take - I know I was grossly overweight for years but was never "bothered" about it until 3 or 4 years ago when I finally got the wake up call I needed to do something about it and lost 3 and a half stone and I *did* feel so much better about myself for it - but for all those years I wasn't bothered and despite the fact I've put a chunk of that back on, I know when I'm ready to I'll shift it again."
Yep this..the very wise one speaks |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm going to talk generally rather than specifically to you OP - there's not a lot any of us can do to improve the way we look in terms of underlying physical features without undergoing surgery or cosmetic things such as make up or dying hair.
We can lose weight or work out to improve body shape, but essentially features such as eyes, nose, mouth etc remain the same, and with things like weight loss or body toning we can feel better about ourselves or more confident etc.
I guess it all comes down to personal comfort about how we look and feel and what steps we as individuals want to take - I know I was grossly overweight for years but was never "bothered" about it until 3 or 4 years ago when I finally got the wake up call I needed to do something about it and lost 3 and a half stone and I *did* feel so much better about myself for it - but for all those years I wasn't bothered and despite the fact I've put a chunk of that back on, I know when I'm ready to I'll shift it again.
So basically, unless we do some changes physically, we're pretty much fucked and not in a good way.
Not at all - you can't *make* yourself attractive to someone - they have to find you attractive. Sure you can make changes like losing weight or changing your clothing style or your haircut etc that might help someone see you in a different light but ultimately that's down to them and not you.
The key is realising not only that you are attractive, but also accepting that you can't be attractive to everyone. I went for years not thinking of myself as particularly attractive, and not really caring about it either - I still don't to an extent, but since entering this lifestyle I've come to realise that *some* do find me attractive not just because of the way I look but the person I am too.
I do my best to like my own skin but sometimes I can't help but feel like no matter what I do, I'll never be good enough and it puts me in a state of mind where I doubt I should even try anymore.
Self-perception is the hardest thing to overcome and all you can do in those moments of doubt is try and reflect on what others see rather than what you see yourself, which I know isn't easy - having just scanned through your veris and from what I have seen of you around the forums you're obviously a well liked guy who is thoughtful and considerate etc just keep on being you and the rest will follow "
Very true. With me being an Aspire, it can sometimes be an internal struggle which can make my confidence go up and down. I'm always fine when with friends but with new people, making a the move is near impossible as it's like being hit by an invisible wall. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm going to talk generally rather than specifically to you OP - there's not a lot any of us can do to improve the way we look in terms of underlying physical features without undergoing surgery or cosmetic things such as make up or dying hair.
We can lose weight or work out to improve body shape, but essentially features such as eyes, nose, mouth etc remain the same, and with things like weight loss or body toning we can feel better about ourselves or more confident etc.
I guess it all comes down to personal comfort about how we look and feel and what steps we as individuals want to take - I know I was grossly overweight for years but was never "bothered" about it until 3 or 4 years ago when I finally got the wake up call I needed to do something about it and lost 3 and a half stone and I *did* feel so much better about myself for it - but for all those years I wasn't bothered and despite the fact I've put a chunk of that back on, I know when I'm ready to I'll shift it again.
So basically, unless we do some changes physically, we're pretty much fucked and not in a good way.
Not at all - you can't *make* yourself attractive to someone - they have to find you attractive. Sure you can make changes like losing weight or changing your clothing style or your haircut etc that might help someone see you in a different light but ultimately that's down to them and not you.
The key is realising not only that you are attractive, but also accepting that you can't be attractive to everyone. I went for years not thinking of myself as particularly attractive, and not really caring about it either - I still don't to an extent, but since entering this lifestyle I've come to realise that *some* do find me attractive not just because of the way I look but the person I am too.
I do my best to like my own skin but sometimes I can't help but feel like no matter what I do, I'll never be good enough and it puts me in a state of mind where I doubt I should even try anymore.
I’m guessing you feel like this because of the parallel thread about attractiveness.
Don’t take it to heart. Would you like people to
Lie to you and use the old cute line etc?
It only takes one special person to find you attractive and your whole perspective will change.
Don’t sweat the small things. "
I know that they were honest and wouldn’t want them to lie. There are just times where I would doubt myself despite all the achievements I have made over the past two years. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I'm going to talk generally rather than specifically to you OP - there's not a lot any of us can do to improve the way we look in terms of underlying physical features without undergoing surgery or cosmetic things such as make up or dying hair.
We can lose weight or work out to improve body shape, but essentially features such as eyes, nose, mouth etc remain the same, and with things like weight loss or body toning we can feel better about ourselves or more confident etc.
I guess it all comes down to personal comfort about how we look and feel and what steps we as individuals want to take - I know I was grossly overweight for years but was never "bothered" about it until 3 or 4 years ago when I finally got the wake up call I needed to do something about it and lost 3 and a half stone and I *did* feel so much better about myself for it - but for all those years I wasn't bothered and despite the fact I've put a chunk of that back on, I know when I'm ready to I'll shift it again.
So basically, unless we do some changes physically, we're pretty much fucked and not in a good way.
Not at all - you can't *make* yourself attractive to someone - they have to find you attractive. Sure you can make changes like losing weight or changing your clothing style or your haircut etc that might help someone see you in a different light but ultimately that's down to them and not you.
The key is realising not only that you are attractive, but also accepting that you can't be attractive to everyone. I went for years not thinking of myself as particularly attractive, and not really caring about it either - I still don't to an extent, but since entering this lifestyle I've come to realise that *some* do find me attractive not just because of the way I look but the person I am too.
I do my best to like my own skin but sometimes I can't help but feel like no matter what I do, I'll never be good enough and it puts me in a state of mind where I doubt I should even try anymore.
Self-perception is the hardest thing to overcome and all you can do in those moments of doubt is try and reflect on what others see rather than what you see yourself, which I know isn't easy - having just scanned through your veris and from what I have seen of you around the forums you're obviously a well liked guy who is thoughtful and considerate etc just keep on being you and the rest will follow
Very true. With me being an Aspire, it can sometimes be an internal struggle which can make my confidence go up and down. I'm always fine when with friends but with new people, making a the move is near impossible as it's like being hit by an invisible wall."
Whilst I know, and understand the difficulties that being an Aspie brings (and admire you all the more for tackling it) some of those difficulties are faced by all too - I get awkward around new people and scared I'm going to say the wrong thing - know it's magnified ten fold for you. Ultimately though you have to take strength from the moments of confidence and the good things that happen during them and accept that sometimes it doesn't go right, or isn't meant to be. |
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but not enticing on pics for me 