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By *ondon lad 44 OP   Man  over a year ago

swindon

Who are cheating on there partners and why?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple  over a year ago

Hailsham

Lots of confessions here then

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

No partner so not cheating

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman  over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"Who are cheating on there partners and why? "

Are you?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

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By *ed-monkeyCouple  over a year ago

Hailsham


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me "

And you're still with her because ....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

No sex at home

Shit sex at home

Good sex at home but they're selfish and want something different.

Neglectful partner but can't/won't leave.

Seriously ill partner who they cannot leave.

I'm not cheating but these are some of the reasons I've been told. I'm sure some are lying and some will be telling the truth.

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By *ce WingerMan  over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me "

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan  over a year ago

Aylesbury

I'm in an open relationship so not cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I have an open marriage so no cheating here

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By *ed-monkeyCouple  over a year ago

Hailsham

Here as a couple .. so no cheating here either

No secrets no lies

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

And you're still with her because ...."

Lots of reason my friends

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? "

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

And you're still with her because ....

Lots of reason my friends "

Let’s hope no one sees your face on here then!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

What about you OP?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

And you're still with her because ....

Lots of reason my friends

Let’s hope no one sees your face on here then!"

Agreed !

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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East Sussex

If I was going to cheat I wouldn't use a site like fab to do it. It would leave too much of a trail.

I'm not going to, I'm too old and too tired.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me "

The worse kind of husband.

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By *ugby 123Couple  over a year ago
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O o O oo

Don't be personal about posters please.

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By *ce WingerMan  over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit "

It's obviously gone off the boil then hasn't it? Do you think that you can rekindle your relationship, or are you just looking for an escape route by cheating on her?

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By *ugby 123Couple  over a year ago
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O o O oo


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit "

Two years isn't long, if you are not compatible after that short time then I would be off

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By *ed-monkeyCouple  over a year ago

Hailsham

[Removed by poster at 02/07/19 10:13:36]

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By *ed-monkeyCouple  over a year ago

Hailsham


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit

Two years isn't long, if you are not compatible after that short time then I would be off"

Kind of why I wondered what the draw of staying with was ... if you're not happy ... change what isn't making you happy

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit "

And how much effort do you make?

I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe?

P

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By *utchersDogMan  over a year ago

Bromley

Once, during a game of monopoly I took an extra 100.

But it wasn't intentional.

Does that count?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Once, during a game of monopoly I took an extra 100.

But it wasn't intentional.

Does that count? "

SINNER

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By *ondon lad 44 OP   Man  over a year ago

swindon


"Who are cheating on there partners and why?

Are you? "

No I’m here to meet nice people lol x

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By *ugby 123Couple  over a year ago
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O o O oo


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit

And how much effort do you make?

I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe?

P"

It works both ways, she might not be giving him any attention but it is always the man who is accused of it

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By *ondon lad 44 OP   Man  over a year ago

swindon


"I have an open marriage so no cheating here "

Cool x

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By *ondon lad 44 OP   Man  over a year ago

swindon


"Here as a couple .. so no cheating here either

No secrets no lies"

It works for u both so good on u x

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By *ondon lad 44 OP   Man  over a year ago

swindon


"What about you OP?"

I’m single just curious why people cheat x

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By *ugby 123Couple  over a year ago
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O o O oo

Sorry OP your thread has gone off track a bit...lets get back to his question please

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit

And how much effort do you make?

I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe?

P"

Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh

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By *ebjonnsonMan  over a year ago

Maldon

I guess we all marry with the best of intentions and nobody sets out or looks to cheat. Views on this are personal and depend if your were the cheater or the cheated. It’s been going on forever of course, nothing new.

The happiest time of my life was the seventeen years relationship and marriage that produced two sons. Life was good, I never thought about another woman. That all changed one night in Turin when I had dinner with a business contact that led to the most exciting sex of my life. The genie was out of the bottle. I live dangerously by the way as her husband was a member of the Caribinieri - the armed police!

I had to see her again, we fell in love. While not proud I wasn’t ashamed, even though I knew it was wrong. It broke my heart when it ended, hers also and of course my wife when she found out.

We limped on for many years but found that when the boys had grown and no longer came on holiday with us we had nothing in common and split up. Do I regret it and the hurt caused - yes of course. Do I wish it hadn’t ever happened? No!

In a perfect world nobody would cheat. We are human beings though.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit

Two years isn't long, if you are not compatible after that short time then I would be off

Kind of why I wondered what the draw of staying with was ... if you're not happy ... change what isn't making you happy"

I am happy with her just no sexual chemistry and no effort from her end maybe she's unhappy with me

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By *ed-monkeyCouple  over a year ago

Hailsham


"What about you OP?

I’m single just curious why people cheat x"

I think there are so many reasons people do it ... some for genuine reasons .. some for selfish reasons

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

A little Story, I thought twas a brilliant one ..this man passed away ,met St.Peter at the Pearly gates ..St.Peter said to him .." you've lived a brilliant life ..totally faithful .kind and helpful..you can drive this beautiful amazing car for all eternity..the man was delighted..the next person arrived and St.Peter said to him .." now you were a bit of a boyo on earth so you can drive this motor bike for all eternity...the next appeared...St.Peter said..." Oh my..you really did the dog on it on earth didn't you ..so much unfaithfulness..etc etc...so you can cycle this bicycle for all eternity....after a while the guy who got to cycle the bike came upon the guy who got the car and he was crying with his head over the steering wheel .." the guy on the bike said .." hey man ..why are you crying..you lived a great life and got this magnificent car To drive around in for all eternity..why are you crying...?...." .he replied.." cause l've just seen my wife pass by on a skateboard ".....

.. that's only a made up story but who really knows huh ?? ..when some are " practised at the art of deception "...who knows say if a guy cheats " because the wife or girlfriend isn't giving it up to them "..that she isn't fucking big time with others .... Interesting ..not everything always seems to be what it looks like ...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit

And how much effort do you make?

I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe?

P

It works both ways, she might not be giving him any attention but it is always the man who is accused of it"

I'm not saying at all that it's one way or the other and I'm not accusing him of anything. He's already said she isn't making any effort so I've taken that as the truth, I'm simply asking if he is putting in his share so to speak. If he is then fair play to him, if he isn't then he needs to shoulder some of the responsibility.

P

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By *ed-monkeyCouple  over a year ago

Hailsham


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit

Two years isn't long, if you are not compatible after that short time then I would be off

Kind of why I wondered what the draw of staying with was ... if you're not happy ... change what isn't making you happy

I am happy with her just no sexual chemistry and no effort from her end maybe she's unhappy with me"

2 way honest communication is something to try

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit

It's obviously gone off the boil then hasn't it? Do you think that you can rekindle your relationship, or are you just looking for an escape route by cheating on her? "

Escape route prob

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By *ce WingerMan  over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"It works both ways, she might not be giving him any attention but it is always the man who is accused of it"

I had a 3 year relationship with a lass back in the 80's, don't know why I bothered really

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit

Two years isn't long, if you are not compatible after that short time then I would be off

Kind of why I wondered what the draw of staying with was ... if you're not happy ... change what isn't making you happy

I am happy with her just no sexual chemistry and no effort from her end maybe she's unhappy with me

2 way honest communication is something to try"

Yes agreed , I don't think the sexual chemistry will come back tbh

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By *ondon lad 44 OP   Man  over a year ago

swindon

I think people cheat because they get bored of the same routine. Like having eggs and bacon every day. Spice it up , have outdoor sex , share toys be spontaneous. If that don’t work end it and move on. They say there is 1 special person for everyone u obviously haven’t found him or her yet.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple  over a year ago

Hailsham


"I think people cheat because they get bored of the same routine. Like having eggs and bacon every day. Spice it up , have outdoor sex , share toys be spontaneous. If that don’t work end it and move on. They say there is 1 special person for everyone u obviously haven’t found him or her yet. "

Some people do enjoy the thrill and risk factor ... that's the part they get off on

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I think people cheat because they get bored of the same routine. Like having eggs and bacon every day. Spice it up , have outdoor sex , share toys be spontaneous. If that don’t work end it and move on. They say there is 1 special person for everyone u obviously haven’t found him or her yet. "

There’s maaaaaaaaany complex reasons why people cheat

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By *eamgreen30Couple  over a year ago

stroud

I cheated on my ex to be with Mr B but it was a one off kinda thing. I don’t like cheaters in general and although I did it, I didn’t feel good about it even if he was an utter wank stain. It’s been done to me and it wasn’t peasant. I don’t understand if you’re not happy why not just leave the other person and crack on?

S

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit

And how much effort do you make?

I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe?

P

Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh "

Fair play to ya for trying.

You're little one must be very young if you've only been together 2 years. They can be extremely tiring as you well know.

It can be terribly hard to feel sexy after having kids. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but there's a possibility there's more at play, maybe PND or simply not being able to get her head out of "mum mode" and back into girlfriend mode if that makes sense.

She may not even realise it's happening. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? It's pretty common for sex drive to diminish after children for a fair while.

Maybe a good honest talk would be better than cheating.

P

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By *ondon lad 44 OP   Man  over a year ago

swindon


"I think people cheat because they get bored of the same routine. Like having eggs and bacon every day. Spice it up , have outdoor sex , share toys be spontaneous. If that don’t work end it and move on. They say there is 1 special person for everyone u obviously haven’t found him or her yet.

Some people do enjoy the thrill and risk factor ... that's the part they get off on"

Yes see ur point x

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By *ugby 123Couple  over a year ago
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O o O oo


"I think people cheat because they get bored of the same routine. Like having eggs and bacon every day. Spice it up , have outdoor sex , share toys be spontaneous. If that don’t work end it and move on. They say there is 1 special person for everyone u obviously haven’t found him or her yet. "

There are lots of reasons why people cheat, it isn't always about sex

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By *ce WingerMan  over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"There’s maaaaaaaaany complex reasons why people cheat"

I must say that you have a very mature head on young shoulders

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There’s maaaaaaaaany complex reasons why people cheat

I must say that you have a very mature head on young shoulders "

It’s been said many a time

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By *ondon lad 44 OP   Man  over a year ago

swindon


"I think people cheat because they get bored of the same routine. Like having eggs and bacon every day. Spice it up , have outdoor sex , share toys be spontaneous. If that don’t work end it and move on. They say there is 1 special person for everyone u obviously haven’t found him or her yet.

There are lots of reasons why people cheat, it isn't always about sex"

Guess its about feeling wanted too and wooed again . Bit of attention x

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By *uciyassMan  over a year ago

Blackrock

I hate cheating cunts. Tie them up I say

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By * Lexi xWoman  over a year ago

stockport

I’m separated and he knows I’m on here. Even drops me off at clubs when I need it.

I’m the worst liar and couldn’t be arsed with the hassle.

Saying that I’m a magnet for bloody married men!!!

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By *ondon lad 44 OP   Man  over a year ago

swindon


"I’m separated and he knows I’m on here. Even drops me off at clubs when I need it.

I’m the worst liar and couldn’t be arsed with the hassle.

Saying that I’m a magnet for bloody married men!!! "

Why married men? Is it the excitement? X

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By *orthyorkypairCouple  over a year ago

North Yorkshire

no cheating here! but also we are mature enough to accept some do and they have their reasons we dont take the moral high ground, but would not knowingly entertain someone going behind their partners back

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By * Lexi xWoman  over a year ago

stockport


"I’m separated and he knows I’m on here. Even drops me off at clubs when I need it.

I’m the worst liar and couldn’t be arsed with the hassle.

Saying that I’m a magnet for bloody married men!!!

Why married men? Is it the excitement? X"

No not at all. I don’t choose them. They approach me. Always disappointed when they say oh btw I’m married

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I think people cheat because they get bored of the same routine. Like having eggs and bacon every day. Spice it up , have outdoor sex , share toys be spontaneous. If that don’t work end it and move on. They say there is 1 special person for everyone u obviously haven’t found him or her yet.

There are lots of reasons why people cheat, it isn't always about sex

Guess its about feeling wanted too and wooed again . Bit of attention x"

Thats part of it for me defo

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit

And how much effort do you make?

I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe?

P

Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh

Fair play to ya for trying.

You're little one must be very young if you've only been together 2 years. They can be extremely tiring as you well know.

It can be terribly hard to feel sexy after having kids. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but there's a possibility there's more at play, maybe PND or simply not being able to get her head out of "mum mode" and back into girlfriend mode if that makes sense.

She may not even realise it's happening. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? It's pretty common for sex drive to diminish after children for a fair while.

Maybe a good honest talk would be better than cheating.

P"

That is a good point I have never thought of it from her view tbh, I know she had been suffering from pnd recently but she hasn't bothered with me for ages. I really should talk to her and say we have lost the spark together, but tbh my main priority and interest is being with my son so don't really want to split with her

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By *ed-monkeyCouple  over a year ago

Hailsham


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit

And how much effort do you make?

I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe?

P

Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh

Fair play to ya for trying.

You're little one must be very young if you've only been together 2 years. They can be extremely tiring as you well know.

It can be terribly hard to feel sexy after having kids. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but there's a possibility there's more at play, maybe PND or simply not being able to get her head out of "mum mode" and back into girlfriend mode if that makes sense.

She may not even realise it's happening. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? It's pretty common for sex drive to diminish after children for a fair while.

Maybe a good honest talk would be better than cheating.

P

That is a good point I have never thought of it from her view tbh, I know she had been suffering from pnd recently but she hasn't bothered with me for ages. I really should talk to her and say we have lost the spark together, but tbh my main priority and interest is being with my son so don't really want to split with her "

It's good to talk ... she may surprise you!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit

And how much effort do you make?

I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe?

P

Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh

Fair play to ya for trying.

You're little one must be very young if you've only been together 2 years. They can be extremely tiring as you well know.

It can be terribly hard to feel sexy after having kids. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but there's a possibility there's more at play, maybe PND or simply not being able to get her head out of "mum mode" and back into girlfriend mode if that makes sense.

She may not even realise it's happening. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? It's pretty common for sex drive to diminish after children for a fair while.

Maybe a good honest talk would be better than cheating.

P

That is a good point I have never thought of it from her view tbh, I know she had been suffering from pnd recently but she hasn't bothered with me for ages. I really should talk to her and say we have lost the spark together, but tbh my main priority and interest is being with my son so don't really want to split with her

It's good to talk ... she may surprise you!"

The good news is that she can recover from pnd.

The bad news is that you can't undo cheating.

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By *ce WingerMan  over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"There’s maaaaaaaaany complex reasons why people cheat

I must say that you have a very mature head on young shoulders

It’s been said many a time "

I know I'm too late but.....

B.B. King & Eric Clapton - Marry You

www.youtube.com/watch?v=0G-v8YNMhbE

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan  over a year ago

Coventry

I've heard it said often men cheat to stay in a relationship and women cheat when they want to exit the relationship their in.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I've heard it said often men cheat to stay in a relationship and women cheat when they want to exit the relationship their in."

That's a good way of putting it I chest to feel like I can stay with her

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I've heard it said often men cheat to stay in a relationship and women cheat when they want to exit the relationship their in."

Hmmmm ..

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I've heard it said often men cheat to stay in a relationship and women cheat when they want to exit the relationship their in."

That has me thinking

P

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By *dam1971Man  over a year ago

Bedford


"I've heard it said often men cheat to stay in a relationship and women cheat when they want to exit the relationship their in.

That has me thinking

P"

Me too. Although the fog isn’t clearing much for me yet

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

No. In fact I've never cheated on a partner

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

The worse kind of husband."

Let's not judge please.

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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East Sussex


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit

And how much effort do you make?

I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe?

P

Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh

Fair play to ya for trying.

You're little one must be very young if you've only been together 2 years. They can be extremely tiring as you well know.

It can be terribly hard to feel sexy after having kids. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but there's a possibility there's more at play, maybe PND or simply not being able to get her head out of "mum mode" and back into girlfriend mode if that makes sense.

She may not even realise it's happening. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? It's pretty common for sex drive to diminish after children for a fair while.

Maybe a good honest talk would be better than cheating.

P

That is a good point I have never thought of it from her view tbh, I know she had been suffering from pnd recently but she hasn't bothered with me for ages. I really should talk to her and say we have lost the spark together, but tbh my main priority and interest is being with my son so don't really want to split with her "

It's hard living with someone who is depressed whatever the reason. It's a horrible illness that affects everyone around it. You might find that she's not able to talk at the moment but if you want the best outcome for both of you it might help if you spoke to somebody to try and get a better understanding. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit

And how much effort do you make?

I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe?

P

Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh

Fair play to ya for trying.

You're little one must be very young if you've only been together 2 years. They can be extremely tiring as you well know.

It can be terribly hard to feel sexy after having kids. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but there's a possibility there's more at play, maybe PND or simply not being able to get her head out of "mum mode" and back into girlfriend mode if that makes sense.

She may not even realise it's happening. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? It's pretty common for sex drive to diminish after children for a fair while.

Maybe a good honest talk would be better than cheating.

P

That is a good point I have never thought of it from her view tbh, I know she had been suffering from pnd recently but she hasn't bothered with me for ages. I really should talk to her and say we have lost the spark together, but tbh my main priority and interest is being with my son so don't really want to split with her

It's hard living with someone who is depressed whatever the reason. It's a horrible illness that affects everyone around it. You might find that she's not able to talk at the moment but if you want the best outcome for both of you it might help if you spoke to somebody to try and get a better understanding. Good luck"

Definitely agree, I have told her to speak to the doctor as I've tried helping her with it to no avail

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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East Sussex


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit

And how much effort do you make?

I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe?

P

Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh

Fair play to ya for trying.

You're little one must be very young if you've only been together 2 years. They can be extremely tiring as you well know.

It can be terribly hard to feel sexy after having kids. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but there's a possibility there's more at play, maybe PND or simply not being able to get her head out of "mum mode" and back into girlfriend mode if that makes sense.

She may not even realise it's happening. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? It's pretty common for sex drive to diminish after children for a fair while.

Maybe a good honest talk would be better than cheating.

P

That is a good point I have never thought of it from her view tbh, I know she had been suffering from pnd recently but she hasn't bothered with me for ages. I really should talk to her and say we have lost the spark together, but tbh my main priority and interest is being with my son so don't really want to split with her

It's hard living with someone who is depressed whatever the reason. It's a horrible illness that affects everyone around it. You might find that she's not able to talk at the moment but if you want the best outcome for both of you it might help if you spoke to somebody to try and get a better understanding. Good luck

Definitely agree, I have told her to speak to the doctor as I've tried helping her with it to no avail "

Part of depression for some people is an inability or unwillingness to talk about it, especially to a professional. At one point with my mum things got to a stage that both my dad and I spoke to a gp at her surgery, they can't do anything unless the patient themselves approaches them but it makes them aware there's a problem and if they go in about something else they can ask questions.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit

And how much effort do you make?

I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe?

P

Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh

Fair play to ya for trying.

You're little one must be very young if you've only been together 2 years. They can be extremely tiring as you well know.

It can be terribly hard to feel sexy after having kids. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but there's a possibility there's more at play, maybe PND or simply not being able to get her head out of "mum mode" and back into girlfriend mode if that makes sense.

She may not even realise it's happening. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? It's pretty common for sex drive to diminish after children for a fair while.

Maybe a good honest talk would be better than cheating.

P

That is a good point I have never thought of it from her view tbh, I know she had been suffering from pnd recently but she hasn't bothered with me for ages. I really should talk to her and say we have lost the spark together, but tbh my main priority and interest is being with my son so don't really want to split with her

It's hard living with someone who is depressed whatever the reason. It's a horrible illness that affects everyone around it. You might find that she's not able to talk at the moment but if you want the best outcome for both of you it might help if you spoke to somebody to try and get a better understanding. Good luck

Definitely agree, I have told her to speak to the doctor as I've tried helping her with it to no avail "

I've been in a similar situation to the one you're currently in, if I could offer you a few honest words...

Firstly; talk to her, she will know that something is up with you and that you're not fully invested with her. It may be contributing to how she's feeling currently.

Secondly; if you don't want to be with her, then do the right thing. End it and do it with respect, you are going to have a relationship with her through your child for a very very long time, mutual trust and respect is paramount in that. You child will grow up better knowing two happy parents than two miserable ones.

Thirdly; depression is an awful awful thing, it is debilitating and insidious, get her help and get her talking. It is an illness, just the same as cancer and it can be just as hard to survive.

Relationships aren't just about sex, they are about support and mutual care, sometimes it's uneven and you feel like you're doing the heavy lifting. If you're only in it for the fun times then respect her enough to let her find someone that will give her the full package.

Tea

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By *ondon lad 44 OP   Man  over a year ago

swindon

Some great advice , thanks everyone who commented. Xx

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By *ed-monkeyCouple  over a year ago

Hailsham


"Some great advice , thanks everyone who commented. Xx"

I think this one did well

Threads with this title can get a little personal and opinionated

People seem to be behaving

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me

How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place?

2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit

And how much effort do you make?

I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe?

P

Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh

Fair play to ya for trying.

You're little one must be very young if you've only been together 2 years. They can be extremely tiring as you well know.

It can be terribly hard to feel sexy after having kids. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but there's a possibility there's more at play, maybe PND or simply not being able to get her head out of "mum mode" and back into girlfriend mode if that makes sense.

She may not even realise it's happening. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? It's pretty common for sex drive to diminish after children for a fair while.

Maybe a good honest talk would be better than cheating.

P

That is a good point I have never thought of it from her view tbh, I know she had been suffering from pnd recently but she hasn't bothered with me for ages. I really should talk to her and say we have lost the spark together, but tbh my main priority and interest is being with my son so don't really want to split with her

It's hard living with someone who is depressed whatever the reason. It's a horrible illness that affects everyone around it. You might find that she's not able to talk at the moment but if you want the best outcome for both of you it might help if you spoke to somebody to try and get a better understanding. Good luck

Definitely agree, I have told her to speak to the doctor as I've tried helping her with it to no avail

I've been in a similar situation to the one you're currently in, if I could offer you a few honest words...

Firstly; talk to her, she will know that something is up with you and that you're not fully invested with her. It may be contributing to how she's feeling currently.

Secondly; if you don't want to be with her, then do the right thing. End it and do it with respect, you are going to have a relationship with her through your child for a very very long time, mutual trust and respect is paramount in that. You child will grow up better knowing two happy parents than two miserable ones.

Thirdly; depression is an awful awful thing, it is debilitating and insidious, get her help and get her talking. It is an illness, just the same as cancer and it can be just as hard to survive.

Relationships aren't just about sex, they are about support and mutual care, sometimes it's uneven and you feel like you're doing the heavy lifting. If you're only in it for the fun times then respect her enough to let her find someone that will give her the full package.

Tea"

Wise words

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple  over a year ago

Cardiff


"I think people cheat because they get bored of the same routine. Like having eggs and bacon every day. Spice it up , have outdoor sex , share toys be spontaneous. If that don’t work end it and move on. They say there is 1 special person for everyone u obviously haven’t found him or her yet. "

You are so right, so easy to get stuck in a rut of kids, life and work. It's hard being a parent, can take its toll. As well as bring lots of joy obviously.

Jo x

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By *reelanderMan  over a year ago

rotherham

Cant see point in cheating as someone down the line will get hurt eventully,im a taxi driver and obviously see and hear cheaters reguler in my car,

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I agree I need to end it really instead of hurting her just need to man up lol

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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East Sussex


"I agree I need to end it really instead of hurting her just need to man up lol "

Don't let this be something you look back on and wish you'd done differently.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I agree I need to end it really instead of hurting her just need to man up lol

Don't let this be something you look back on and wish you'd done differently. "

Thanks for advice, feel like I'm wasting life now tbh but am not unhappy, weird situation and feeling x

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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East Sussex


"I agree I need to end it really instead of hurting her just need to man up lol

Don't let this be something you look back on and wish you'd done differently.

Thanks for advice, feel like I'm wasting life now tbh but am not unhappy, weird situation and feeling x"

It's easy for me to say with the benefit of hindsight and at more than twice your age.

Good luck to you and everyone involved

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Single for past 10 years. No cheating here.

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By *entleman JayMan  over a year ago

Wakefield

100% single.

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By *issmorganWoman  over a year ago

Calderdale innit

In a relationship,but here as a couple too ,so not cheating

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman  over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

He doesn't want to know about it, and he has ED and can't fuck me.

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