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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its 2019 what percentage of women make the first move and approach the guy?
Not enough  "
More than enough. Just cause they’re not all approaching you, doesn’t mean they aren’t approaching anyone   |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"In the real world? Who knows.
On here? Too busy answering our messages. "
I approach on here a lot. I like being proactive and sorting out socials and meets if I want to meet them - I'm not the sort to dilly dally and wait for them to. Right now, I'm having a bit of a wobble so wouldn't but soon enough I will be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its 2019 what percentage of women make the first move and approach the guy?
Not enough
More than enough. Just cause they’re not all approaching you, doesn’t mean they aren’t approaching anyone "
My not enough might be more tham some elses enough  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its 2019 what percentage of women make the first move and approach the guy?
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100
Woman gives me change when I pay for fuel - she fancies me.
Woman asks me the way to Tesco - she fancies me
Waitress says thank you when I tip her - she fancies me
Woman behind the bar tells me to fuck off and stop leering- she fancies me
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its 2019 what percentage of women make the first move and approach the guy?
100
Woman gives me change when I pay for fuel - she fancies me.
Woman asks me the way to Tesco - she fancies me
Waitress says thank you when I tip her - she fancies me
Woman behind the bar tells me to fuck off and stop leering- she fancies me
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Gosh. Ain’t you just Mr Popular... |
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"In the real world? Who knows.
On here? Too busy answering our messages.
I approach on here a lot. I like being proactive and sorting out socials and meets if I want to meet them - I'm not the sort to dilly dally and wait for them to. Right now, I'm having a bit of a wobble so wouldn't but soon enough I will be."
I'd search myself if the tools could handle my parameters and I didn't have a constant influx of mail (my filters are where I want them to be).
I guess I'm saying that I don't wait to be approached because I'm old fashioned, but because of the site and the way it works. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its 2019 what percentage of women make the first move and approach the guy?
100
Woman gives me change when I pay for fuel - she fancies me.
Woman asks me the way to Tesco - she fancies me
Waitress says thank you when I tip her - she fancies me
Woman behind the bar tells me to fuck off and stop leering- she fancies me
Gosh. Ain’t you just Mr Popular..."
Just an average lunch hour. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Some real good answers there thanks all, same thing crops up alot about this not being the real world though which Is a shame really I know I'm real and most must be real
Guess it's the same as the dating apps then, a certain amount of single guys ruining it for the rest? |
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We do some of the time.
I did approach hubby back in the day and he's stuck around over 20 years.
Not adverse to doing it here, have still had a few knockbacks though, but often because they don't play with couples. Even tho we are a straight couple......not a fab straight couple
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never approach. I think it's fat girl syndrome I would be too embarrassed by rejection here and I'm the real world. "
You're a very attractive woman, I don't think you need worry about rejection. |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"Its 2019 what percentage of women make the first move and approach the guy?
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I suspect there aren't any statistics out there on this.
But I suspect the last dozen or so people I've slept with I've been the one to approach them. And I'd guess at least 2/3 of my relationships in the last decade I've instigated. |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"I never approach. I think it's fat girl syndrome I would be too embarrassed by rejection here and I'm the real world.
You're a very attractive woman, I don't think you need worry about rejection."
Funnily enough, not all men are that shallow, and not all men find the same thing attractive. I've not looked at the profile you're replying to, but the reality is that everyone should be aware rejection might happen, and nobody should feel like they can't reject someone.
Men have personal autonomy too in the dating/sex scene. |
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"Its 2019 what percentage of women make the first move and approach the guy?
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I'm sure some women make the first approach although that's not been my experience.
On the flipside my photos are dull and uninteresting and my biog is crap.
Both deliberately so, they're doing the job intended. |
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I'd probably still be a virgin if it wasnt for women making the first move. All of women I've ever done anything with have had to make the first move. Thank you ladies (who make a first move at least) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its 2019 what percentage of women make the first move and approach the guy?
I'm sure some women make the first approach although that's not been my experience.
On the flipside my photos are dull and uninteresting and my biog is crap.
Both deliberately so, they're doing the job intended."
lol keeping the overthinking, goal post moving, delightfully sexy women away? |
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"Its 2019 what percentage of women make the first move and approach the guy?
I'm sure some women make the first approach although that's not been my experience.
On the flipside my photos are dull and uninteresting and my biog is crap.
Both deliberately so, they're doing the job intended.
lol keeping the overthinking, goal post moving, delightfully sexy women away? "
Next time I do a rewrite it's going to be in Latin. |
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"Its 2019 what percentage of women make the first move and approach the guy?
I'm sure some women make the first approach although that's not been my experience.
On the flipside my photos are dull and uninteresting and my biog is crap.
Both deliberately so, they're doing the job intended.
lol keeping the overthinking, goal post moving, delightfully sexy women away?
Next time I do a rewrite it's going to be in Latin. "
Ooh err  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its 2019 what percentage of women make the first move and approach the guy?
I'm sure some women make the first approach although that's not been my experience.
On the flipside my photos are dull and uninteresting and my biog is crap.
Both deliberately so, they're doing the job intended.
lol keeping the overthinking, goal post moving, delightfully sexy women away?
Next time I do a rewrite it's going to be in Latin. "
ahhhh so that only Italian women understand it I get your thinking |
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"Its 2019 what percentage of women make the first move and approach the guy?
I'm sure some women make the first approach although that's not been my experience.
On the flipside my photos are dull and uninteresting and my biog is crap.
Both deliberately so, they're doing the job intended.
lol keeping the overthinking, goal post moving, delightfully sexy women away?
Next time I do a rewrite it's going to be in Latin.
ahhhh so that only Italian women understand it I get your thinking "
I don't think I've ever seen an Italian woman on Fab. I feel a thread coming on.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its 2019 what percentage of women make the first move and approach the guy?
I'm sure some women make the first approach although that's not been my experience.
On the flipside my photos are dull and uninteresting and my biog is crap.
Both deliberately so, they're doing the job intended.
lol keeping the overthinking, goal post moving, delightfully sexy women away?
Next time I do a rewrite it's going to be in Latin.
ahhhh so that only Italian women understand it I get your thinking
I don't think I've ever seen an Italian woman on Fab. I feel a thread coming on...."
lol......... Allura |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its 2019 what percentage of women make the first move and approach the guy?
I'm sure some women make the first approach although that's not been my experience.
On the flipside my photos are dull and uninteresting and my biog is crap.
Both deliberately so, they're doing the job intended.
lol keeping the overthinking, goal post moving, delightfully sexy women away?
Next time I do a rewrite it's going to be in Latin.
ahhhh so that only Italian women understand it I get your thinking
I don't think I've ever seen an Italian woman on Fab. I feel a thread coming on...."
You obviously didn’t meet Bumbralina |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my case, I'd give it 0% as I don't think I remember being approached by any ladies I've never met or spoken to.
Either they assume I wouldn't be interested, not their type or I'm just physically attractive enough  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my case, I'd give it 0% as I don't think I remember being approached by any ladies I've never met or spoken to.
Either they assume I wouldn't be interested, not their type or I'm just physically attractive enough "
I'm meant I'm juse NOT physically attractive enough |
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I have noticed a real change in attitude in women approaching men in the real world, it happens far more often which is great. I think a lot of women have gained confidence from various inspirations, long may it continue!!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer to make the first move usually I know what I want and like I really don't know why a lot of women don't do it the worst that can happen is a no thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never approach. I think it's fat girl syndrome I would be too embarrassed by rejection here and I'm the real world.
You're a very attractive woman, I don't think you need worry about rejection.
Funnily enough, not all men are that shallow, and not all men find the same thing attractive. I've not looked at the profile you're replying to, but the reality is that everyone should be aware rejection might happen, and nobody should feel like they can't reject someone.
Men have personal autonomy too in the dating/sex scene."
Well beg my pudding for being complimentary to someone. I wont do it again you ugly wench |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find I spend so much time messaging friends and answering other messages, that I rarely have time to search (and the search facility on here is rubbish).
I’ve messaged 3 men first. Number one ignored me, number 2 answered, very friendly but not interested and the 3rd is now my regular FWB |
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"I find I spend so much time messaging friends and answering other messages, that I rarely have time to search (and the search facility on here is rubbish).
I’ve messaged 3 men first. Number one ignored me, number 2 answered, very friendly but not interested and the 3rd is now my regular FWB "
That's good odds......
It's a "slightly" different story for the chaps I'll wager. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find I spend so much time messaging friends and answering other messages, that I rarely have time to search (and the search facility on here is rubbish).
I’ve messaged 3 men first. Number one ignored me, number 2 answered, very friendly but not interested and the 3rd is now my regular FWB
That's good odds......
It's a "slightly" different story for the chaps I'll wager."
I’m sure it is very different for men on here. Despite my good odds I think it’s easier to meet people at socials and clubs. You never know who you’ll click with  |
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"I find I spend so much time messaging friends and answering other messages, that I rarely have time to search (and the search facility on here is rubbish).
I’ve messaged 3 men first. Number one ignored me, number 2 answered, very friendly but not interested and the 3rd is now my regular FWB
That's good odds......
It's a "slightly" different story for the chaps I'll wager.
I’m sure it is very different for men on here. Despite my good odds I think it’s easier to meet people at socials and clubs. You never know who you’ll click with "
True story.
Sometimes you just click with someone amazing. |
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"Some real good answers there thanks all, same thing crops up alot about this not being the real world though which Is a shame really I know I'm real and most must be real
Guess it's the same as the dating apps then, a certain amount of single guys ruining it for the rest?"
It's not the guys ruining it for us, i think it's more that women tend to be sexually passive and so don't approach guys for sex. Slut shaming is a thing and it seems to have worked.
Also many guys have no pics or profiles so we can't tell if we fancy them or not so don't waste our time asking. |
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"I find I spend so much time messaging friends and answering other messages, that I rarely have time to search (and the search facility on here is rubbish).
I’ve messaged 3 men first. Number one ignored me, number 2 answered, very friendly but not interested and the 3rd is now my regular FWB "
That’s brilliant, 3rd time lucky and all that. Would love to find my own fwb.
Think it’s the 21st century and why can’t a woman message a guy first, as long as everyone is respectful then that’s what counts.
I love to receive messages from women and I’m very flattered if they’ve made the first move too. x |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"Its 2019 what percentage of women make the first move and approach the guy?
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Out there in the non fab world I see women often times taking the initiative and though I won't try to guess percentages, i'd say they're healthy numbers.
As to fab, i've found that more women decide to take a passive approach. I've been told it's easier to sit back and sift through the hundreds (potentially) messages that come through and reply to that occasional one that sparks interest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont doubt women do approach men but honestly speaking do they do it as much as men?? Or is the majority of the first move made by men 90% of the time?? Thats my point? |
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"I dont doubt women do approach men but honestly speaking do they do it as much as men?? Or is the majority of the first move made by men 90% of the time?? Thats my point?"
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Well, I haven't sent an inaugural message in nearly two years, other than engaging with friends from the fora.
Every meet/social I've had since then has been instigated by the woman. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I dont doubt women do approach men but honestly speaking do they do it as much as men?? Or is the majority of the first move made by men 90% of the time?? Thats my point?"
I'm half a couple.
But Fox deals with all the messages (in and out) whilst I talk shit in here.
She browses profiles rather than wait for incoming messages, sends winks and messages and currently has half a dozen guys lined up for potential socials soon. And she's just arranged on for this week for us. I haven't had to read a message, answer one or send one myself.
All I had to do was cast a cursory glance over a profile and nod sagely or say 'fuck right off'. She'd already done the shortlisting and knows me well so there was no 'fuck right off'to be heard.
Women send messages all the time, whether they're single or in couples.
Men don't think they do simply because it's highly likely most of the women are messaging the same small percentage of men, because their profiles and pictures attract the female eye - rather than the majority of men who think that simply setting up a profile with a couple of lines of words and a cock shot or two will have women rushing to make contact the second they stumble across their profiles.
And I say that having been here nearly 15 years as a single guy and a couple.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont doubt women do approach men but honestly speaking do they do it as much as men?? Or is the majority of the first move made by men 90% of the time?? Thats my point?"
in the majority of the cases, the man will approach women more than the women approach him. In the minority of the case women will be approaching the man more than he approaches women. Or at least it's more balanced.
So overall men are sending our more winks and messages than women. 9 to one may even be generous. But individual experiences will vary.  |
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Alright. Own up. Who necromanced a fucken 4 year old thread full of unlos and why 
Generally, a lot more approaches are made to me than I initiate.
However, if someone really strikes me, I will make that first contact. But it's not often someone catches my eye like that, and usually, I'm already swamped in dealing with people I'm working out if there's a potential with after their initial approach. |
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"Alright. Own up. Who necromanced a fucken 4 year old thread full of unlos and why
Generally, a lot more approaches are made to me than I initiate.
However, if someone really strikes me, I will make that first contact. But it's not often someone catches my eye like that, and usually, I'm already swamped in dealing with people I'm working out if there's a potential with after their initial approach."
Except me - pretty sure you offered me a knee trembler and some pork scratchings if I’d let you snog me xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some real good answers there thanks all, same thing crops up alot about this not being the real world though which Is a shame really I know I'm real and most must be real
Guess it's the same as the dating apps then, a certain amount of single guys ruining it for the rest?
It's not the guys ruining it for us, i think it's more that women tend to be sexually passive and so don't approach guys for sex. Slut shaming is a thing and it seems to have worked.
Also many guys have no pics or profiles so we can't tell if we fancy them or not so don't waste our time asking."
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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago
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I was at an organised social the other weekend and a guy did catch my eye. I waited a while hoping he’d approach me but he didn’t. So I took the initiative and walked over to say hello fancy getting naked some time? We’re seeing each other tomorrow |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont doubt women do approach men but honestly speaking do they do it as much as men?? Or is the majority of the first move made by men 90% of the time?? Thats my point?"
No probably not as much, but that's because women don't think with their dick like men.
On here, men will just message every woman in a 50 mile radius. Women tend to message guys they actually like the look of. So obviously it's going to be a lot less.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In the olden days……. A woman was subtle but still made the 1st move (drop a handkerchief etc). I like that, it’s about getting a guys attention and asking them to approach them.
Nowadays they swipe right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do guys really want to be approached/chatted up? IMO, not. Not for anything longterm anyway. I think it comes down to
something akin to "hero instinct" which is biological in most men
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"Do guys really want to be approached/chatted up? IMO, not. Not for anything longterm anyway. I think it comes down to
something akin to "hero instinct" which is biological in most men
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Nah. Life is too fast and short. Why leave stones unturned in the moment? |
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"In the olden days……. A woman was subtle but still made the 1st move (drop a handkerchief etc). I like that, it’s about getting a guys attention and asking them to approach them.
Nowadays they swipe right "
Or send a wink in Fab.... |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"In the olden days……. A woman was subtle but still made the 1st move (drop a handkerchief etc). I like that, it’s about getting a guys attention and asking them to approach them.
Nowadays they swipe right "
The thing is you swipe right, they swipe right, both are a match and yet they* still don't send the first message to initiate contact fully. So the it is still the man that is generally expected to make the first move.
*not all! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Alright. Own up. Who necromanced a fucken 4 year old thread full of unlos and why
Generally, a lot more approaches are made to me than I initiate.
However, if someone really strikes me, I will make that first contact. But it's not often someone catches my eye like that, and usually, I'm already swamped in dealing with people I'm working out if there's a potential with after their initial approach."
It was me after finding it by chance |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its 2019 what percentage of women make the first move and approach the guy?
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Online I will make the first move if I really like the look and sound of someone from their profile. I just rarely like anyone. |
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