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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Feel as if they can't click with anyone on this site?
No it can happen. "
Well it seems like mission impossible sometimes.. And people in the forums seem to have false personalities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Feel as if they can't click with anyone on this site?
No it can happen.
Well it seems like mission impossible sometimes.. And people in the forums seem to have false personalities. "
Saying that isn't going to help you tbh... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Feel as if they can't click with anyone on this site?
No it can happen.
Well it seems like mission impossible sometimes.. And people in the forums seem to have false personalities.
Saying that isn't going to help you tbh..."
I rather be true to everyone than false |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" And people in the forums seem to have false personalities.
So you know us from outside the Forums to compare ?"
Not many. I was talking more about how some chat in forums and then when messaged they change or don't reply at all.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" And people in the forums seem to have false personalities.
So you know us from outside the Forums to compare ?
Not many. I was talking more about how some chat in forums and then when messaged they change or don't reply at all.
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That's because they aren't interested in chatting privately for whatever reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" And people in the forums seem to have false personalities.
So you know us from outside the Forums to compare ?
Not many. I was talking more about how some chat in forums and then when messaged they change or don't reply at all.
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I think this is all women on fab not just those who use the forums. Not enough time to answer all messages.
Perhaps you should ask for advice on what to write in your messages? |
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"Just because someone posts in a forum doesn't mean they want to chat in a private message with you.
I know. Don't take it personal. "
But you obviously do or you wouldn't have started this thread. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" And people in the forums seem to have false personalities.
So you know us from outside the Forums to compare ?
Not many. I was talking more about how some chat in forums and then when messaged they change or don't reply at all.
I think this is all women on fab not just those who use the forums. Not enough time to answer all messages.
Perhaps you should ask for advice on what to write in your messages?"
Meh I've just about given up now to be honest. I hardly message anymore. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just because someone posts in a forum doesn't mean they want to chat in a private message with you.
I know. Don't take it personal.
But you obviously do or you wouldn't have started this thread. "
Sometimes I do yes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" And people in the forums seem to have false personalities.
So you know us from outside the Forums to compare ?
Not many. I was talking more about how some chat in forums and then when messaged they change or don't reply at all.
I think this is all women on fab not just those who use the forums. Not enough time to answer all messages.
Perhaps you should ask for advice on what to write in your messages?
Meh I've just about given up now to be honest. I hardly message anymore. "
How long have you been on Fab? It takes a while.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Feel as if they can't click with anyone on this site?
No it can happen.
Well it seems like mission impossible sometimes.. And people in the forums seem to have false personalities. "
Go to a club meet people there is a outside world |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been on and off here for around 6 years now. Best thing I ever did was to go to socials and then clubs. This site is just another tool to help do those things but I wouldn't rely on it solely to get meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd suggest getting yourself to a social event where there's a group of people, you'll get your personality across more easily as when you speak in person you can hear tone of voice, which you can't always pick up on through the written word.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've been knocking around these parts for a good 10 years or so now
In that time, I've shared private messages with maybe 25-30 people
I like the forums because I can sit back, have a gab and a chuckle with good people
For me that doesn't require any private messaging
Part of the fun is the public nature of it all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" And people in the forums seem to have false personalities.
So you know us from outside the Forums to compare ?
Not many. I was talking more about how some chat in forums and then when messaged they change or don't reply at all.
I think this is all women on fab not just those who use the forums. Not enough time to answer all messages.
Perhaps you should ask for advice on what to write in your messages?
Meh I've just about given up now to be honest. I hardly message anymore.
How long have you been on Fab? It takes a while...."
3 months and before that I logged in last year, but no good, so I left and came back again. I like the forums, I just can't click with anyone who I fancy. In fact just getting messages from a anyone is like a little miracle when it happens lol.. Since being here I've only had one wink from a woman and the only people who have messaged me are men who don't seem to know you meaning of the word straight.
I know I could block men from messaging me all together, but for entertainment I don't bother. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Feel as if they can't click with anyone on this site? "
Tbh if i relied on the online personalities of some of the people on here i wouldn't bother trying to get into a conversation with them either...
My advice would be to not take it too seriously and get yourself along to an organised social where you can meet real people |
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"Feel as if they can't click with anyone on this site? "
Do you click with people in "real life" ,OP?
If not, why or what did you think would be different on here?
I think people sometimes come on to Fab with unrealistic expectations.
Try looking inwards rather than outwards.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've been knocking around these parts for a good 10 years or so now
In that time, I've shared private messages with maybe 25-30 people
I like the forums because I can sit back, have a gab and a chuckle with good people
For me that doesn't require any private messaging
Part of the fun is the public nature of it all"
10years! Don't you try to chat with people in private to see if you can meet them? Why not. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP, since lots of people here have a good time, maybe it's your attitude, expectations and effort that is the issue here."
Maybe. I don't know of any socials/clubs around me either and it's not my thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Feel as if they can't click with anyone on this site?
No it can happen.
Well it seems like mission impossible sometimes.. And people in the forums seem to have false personalities. "
You charmer  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP, since lots of people here have a good time, maybe it's your attitude, expectations and effort that is the issue here.
Maybe. I don't know of any socials/clubs around me either and it's not my thing. "
So you want to talk to people and meet people, but going to places where you can talk to people and meet people isn't your thing?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been knocking around these parts for a good 10 years or so now
In that time, I've shared private messages with maybe 25-30 people
I like the forums because I can sit back, have a gab and a chuckle with good people
For me that doesn't require any private messaging
Part of the fun is the public nature of it all
10years! Don't you try to chat with people in private to see if you can meet them? Why not. "
I don't meet for sex at the moment anyway, but that's an aside to this discussion
I have previously met a lot of people from the site
Very few of them have been from the forums
I've never come to the forums looking for sex partners
Most of those I've met for sex are people who have taken my eye in local searches who were looking for the same things as me
I think, living in a major city might stack numbers in my favour, but a lot of my 'success' has come from recognising that I might be in with a chance
You only have to read some of the experiences here to know that a lot of guys aren't so particular
If they like someone, they'll throw their cap in the ring and then get huffy if the responses aren't forthcoming |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is there this thread every day?
There should be an option to stick a 'cabt get a meet moan' at the top of the forum so everyone can have the same moan and have the same advice'."
Here is an idea, don't read the thread  |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"OP, since lots of people here have a good time, maybe it's your attitude, expectations and effort that is the issue here.
Maybe. I don't know of any socials/clubs around me either and it's not my thing. "
I rest my case.. |
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"Why is there this thread every day?
There should be an option to stick a 'cabt get a meet moan' at the top of the forum so everyone can have the same moan and have the same advice'.
Here is an idea, don't read the thread "
Thanks for the advice |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Feel as if they can't click with anyone on this site?
Do you click with people in "real life" ,OP?
If not, why or what did you think would be different on here?
I think people sometimes come on to Fab with unrealistic expectations.
Try looking inwards rather than outwards.
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It depends. I'm abit shy in reality though.
If I put as much effort into trying to click with ladies in reality as I have on this site then yes I'm sure I would of clicked with many.
I just thought people would want to chat more with someone who is in the area and get to know them to meet up with or give them a miss.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been knocking around these parts for a good 10 years or so now
In that time, I've shared private messages with maybe 25-30 people
I like the forums because I can sit back, have a gab and a chuckle with good people
For me that doesn't require any private messaging
Part of the fun is the public nature of it all
10years! Don't you try to chat with people in private to see if you can meet them? Why not.
I don't meet for sex at the moment anyway, but that's an aside to this discussion
I have previously met a lot of people from the site
Very few of them have been from the forums
I've never come to the forums looking for sex partners
Most of those I've met for sex are people who have taken my eye in local searches who were looking for the same things as me
I think, living in a major city might stack numbers in my favour, but a lot of my 'success' has come from recognising that I might be in with a chance
You only have to read some of the experiences here to know that a lot of guys aren't so particular
If they like someone, they'll throw their cap in the ring and then get huffy if the responses aren't forthcoming "
We met through the forums. Are we both fake personalities  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been knocking around these parts for a good 10 years or so now
In that time, I've shared private messages with maybe 25-30 people
I like the forums because I can sit back, have a gab and a chuckle with good people
For me that doesn't require any private messaging
Part of the fun is the public nature of it all
10years! Don't you try to chat with people in private to see if you can meet them? Why not.
I don't meet for sex at the moment anyway, but that's an aside to this discussion
I have previously met a lot of people from the site
Very few of them have been from the forums
I've never come to the forums looking for sex partners
Most of those I've met for sex are people who have taken my eye in local searches who were looking for the same things as me
I think, living in a major city might stack numbers in my favour, but a lot of my 'success' has come from recognising that I might be in with a chance
You only have to read some of the experiences here to know that a lot of guys aren't so particular
If they like someone, they'll throw their cap in the ring and then get huffy if the responses aren't forthcoming
We met through the forums. Are we both fake personalities "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been on and off here for around 6 years now. Best thing I ever did was to go to socials and then clubs. This site is just another tool to help do those things but I wouldn't rely on it solely to get meets. "
This is good advice, don't just rely on this site alone. We actually prefer and have had more successful meets (resulting in repeat meets) from attending clubs. We then use this site to keep in contact, keep an eye on the forums for social events and just utilise the site to add to our sex life.... not to be our only avenue for fun.
Hope this helps
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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" I don't know of any socials/clubs around me either
But you travel all round the UK with your work
Correct for work not clubbing. "
It seems to me that you are blaming everything else for your lack of success, except yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP, since lots of people here have a good time, maybe it's your attitude, expectations and effort that is the issue here.
Maybe. I don't know of any socials/clubs around me either and it's not my thing.
So you want to talk to people and meet people, but going to places where you can talk to people and meet people isn't your thing?
P"
Sex clubs or whatever people call them isnt for me. I just don't feel it. |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"OP, since lots of people here have a good time, maybe it's your attitude, expectations and effort that is the issue here.
Maybe. I don't know of any socials/clubs around me either and it's not my thing.
So you want to talk to people and meet people, but going to places where you can talk to people and meet people isn't your thing?
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Sex clubs or whatever people call them isnt for me. I just don't feel it. "
Are you actually a swinger, or do you just want yo get laid?
I can guess the answer already. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" I don't know of any socials/clubs around me either
But you travel all round the UK with your work
Correct for work not clubbing.
It seems to me that you are blaming everything else for your lack of success, except yourself."
has a man ever messaged you through the site and you have met up, without going to a club?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think its sort of expected that because people are here they are up for chatting and meeting when that isnt the case. The joy of the forum is you can be or appear as chatty as you like but it is from behind a mirror almost. I dont particulary want that invasion into private messages and the more personal chats however friendly (or not) I may appear. I want to be here but with none of the hassle.
Just find your own groove on here a bit, without the moaning. Watch a bit more and really consider those who you may get along with rather just those you think you fancy as such. Be a listener. There aren't that many people that really truly get us in life and finding them here can be a needle in a haystack. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its not gonna come bite you on the ass op!
If u want something in life you have to make a effort and go for it
This is a true story Too "
Better to have tried and think “what if” |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Its not gonna come bite you on the ass op!
If u want something in life you have to make a effort and go for it"
I read the verifications and it looks like lots! Of people are meeting through this site alone. So I think I am making an effort,its just not happening. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP, since lots of people here have a good time, maybe it's your attitude, expectations and effort that is the issue here.
Maybe. I don't know of any socials/clubs around me either and it's not my thing.
So you want to talk to people and meet people, but going to places where you can talk to people and meet people isn't your thing?
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Sex clubs or whatever people call them isnt for me. I just don't feel it.
Are you actually a swinger, or do you just want yo get laid?
I can guess the answer already."
Of course I want to get laid. Isn't it obvious that I'm not a swinger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, since lots of people here have a good time, maybe it's your attitude, expectations and effort that is the issue here.
Maybe. I don't know of any socials/clubs around me either and it's not my thing.
So you want to talk to people and meet people, but going to places where you can talk to people and meet people isn't your thing?
P
Sex clubs or whatever people call them isnt for me. I just don't feel it. "
Social events are social events not sex events. Yes they may lead to meeting people you might wanna fuck in the future, but you ain't exactly gonna bang someone in the middle of a pub or the local British legion club. They're about getting to know people.
Going to a club is going to a club in the hope of enjoying yourself regardless of whether you get a bird on your bell end or not.
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By (user no longer on site)
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" And people in the forums seem to have false personalities.
So you know us from outside the Forums to compare ?
Not many. I was talking more about how some chat in forums and then when messaged they change or don't reply at all.
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How does that make anyone false? I don’t reply to the majority of people from the forums, 9 times out of 10 it’s something either creepy, or something they can ask me on the forums. Doesn’t make me false, or my personality false. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" I don't know of any socials/clubs around me either
But you travel all round the UK with your work
Correct for work not clubbing.
It seems to me that you are blaming everything else for your lack of success, except yourself.
has a man ever messaged you through the site and you have met up, without going to a club?
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I have met lots of men for a social drink in a normal public setting. Hasn't often led to sex, but lots of opportunities. |
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" I don't know of any socials/clubs around me either
But you travel all round the UK with your work
Correct for work not clubbing.
It seems to me that you are blaming everything else for your lack of success, except yourself.
has a man ever messaged you through the site and you have met up, without going to a club?
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The messages I respond to are positive. Positive is sexy.
They are usually funny, and take the piss out of themselves a little bit, or make me laugh at daft things..
They can chat in a natural way and engage my attention, they don't come across as bitter, twisted or entitled.
And I'll repeat, they're positive...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" I don't know of any socials/clubs around me either
But you travel all round the UK with your work
Correct for work not clubbing.
It seems to me that you are blaming everything else for your lack of success, except yourself.
has a man ever messaged you through the site and you have met up, without going to a club?
The messages I respond to are positive. Positive is sexy.
They are usually funny, and take the piss out of themselves a little bit, or make me laugh at daft things..
They can chat in a natural way and engage my attention, they don't come across as bitter, twisted or entitled.
And I'll repeat, they're positive...
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In other words yes then lol. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" And people in the forums seem to have false personalities.
So you know us from outside the Forums to compare ?
Not many. I was talking more about how some chat in forums and then when messaged they change or don't reply at all.
How does that make anyone false? I don’t reply to the majority of people from the forums, 9 times out of 10 it’s something either creepy, or something they can ask me on the forums. Doesn’t make me false, or my personality false. "
Geez whenever something like this is said, everyone takes it personal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" And people in the forums seem to have false personalities.
So you know us from outside the Forums to compare ?
Not many. I was talking more about how some chat in forums and then when messaged they change or don't reply at all.
How does that make anyone false? I don’t reply to the majority of people from the forums, 9 times out of 10 it’s something either creepy, or something they can ask me on the forums. Doesn’t make me false, or my personality false.
Geez whenever something like this is said, everyone takes it personal. "
I haven’t taken it personal, I’m just explaining my point of view. Don’t take everything so seriously  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't think I've clicked with many people really but I have had some lovely conversations and I'm still new here and getting to k oq people and making friends doesn't happen overnight.
I don't think going around accusing people of having fake personalities will make you any friends. And how would you know that a stranger on a forum has a fake personality anyway?
Keep joining in, be nice and let things happen naturally. I'm sure eventually you'll have a good chat with someone! |
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"OP, since lots of people here have a good time, maybe it's your attitude, expectations and effort that is the issue here.
Maybe. I don't know of any socials/clubs around me either and it's not my thing.
So you want to talk to people and meet people, but going to places where you can talk to people and meet people isn't your thing?
P
Sex clubs or whatever people call them isnt for me. I just don't feel it. "
This was explained to you before.... Repeatedly. A social is not a sex club. It's a place for people to chat and get to know each other. You are also in an area that is overflowing with different social events. The majority of those who are successful in the South Wales area, have made the effort to meet people in a social setting. It is a Mecca here. If you were to take advantage of that, you may find yourself having more success
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"OP, since lots of people here have a good time, maybe it's your attitude, expectations and effort that is the issue here.
Maybe. I don't know of any socials/clubs around me either and it's not my thing.
So you want to talk to people and meet people, but going to places where you can talk to people and meet people isn't your thing?
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Sex clubs or whatever people call them isnt for me. I just don't feel it.
This was explained to you before.... Repeatedly. A social is not a sex club. It's a place for people to chat and get to know each other. You are also in an area that is overflowing with different social events. The majority of those who are successful in the South Wales area, have made the effort to meet people in a social setting. It is a Mecca here. If you were to take advantage of that, you may find yourself having more success
Holly
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Feel as if they can't click with anyone on this site?
No it can happen.
Well it seems like mission impossible sometimes.. And people in the forums seem to have false personalities.
Saying that isn't going to help you tbh...
I rather be true to everyone than false "
tbh I think yer talking pish,plenty genuine folk on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have clicked with a few guys over my time on fab. At least I thought so any way.
They ticked everything I was looking for in a man accept one huge issue. They all came with the same issue.... They live miles away!
Any local guy I've met, never worked out, I felt uncomfortable alone with him or they didn't look like their photo. A couple of local men I liked, turned out to be married. So that was a non starter.
OP I feel your pain! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Really OP - do you "click" with everyone you meet in your day to day life? I bet you don't and here is no different, in fact just as in real life people you click with and have a connection and chemistry with enough to want get involved with them in some way is a rarity (unless you truly aren't bothered about all that) and it's no different on here.
You're not going to find everyone attractive, and of those that you do, you're going to find a connection with a small percentage of them - the key is finding those that you do connect with, and that takes both time and effort, along with a positive attitude, the right approach and correctly set expectations.
I was here for a lot longer than you have been before I got talking to someone enough to want to meet them and even longer still before I felt I had found the right approach to the site that worked for me.
As I have said to you before though, having a negative attitude, the wrong approach and false expectations are not going to get you anywhere and until you change that, you're going to find the site very frustrating. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't think I've clicked with many people really but I have had some lovely conversations and I'm still new here and getting to k oq people and making friends doesn't happen overnight.
I don't think going around accusing people of having fake personalities will make you any friends. And how would you know that a stranger on a forum has a fake personality anyway?
Keep joining in, be nice and let things happen naturally. I'm sure eventually you'll have a good chat with someone!"
Some people portray themselves differently in text. I know people who are lovely in reality but grumpy online and vice versa.
I used to chat with a lady who had a very happy bubbly way of chatting in text and after meeting her, I felt as if I was talking to a brick wall.
I have also interacted with the forums for awhile now and I have chatted with one or two in pms and they came across differently to me.
If I think something then I will say it in the forums.. Because I think honesty is the best policy, whether people like it or not. |
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"OP, since lots of people here have a good time, maybe it's your attitude, expectations and effort that is the issue here.
Maybe. I don't know of any socials/clubs around me either and it's not my thing.
So you want to talk to people and meet people, but going to places where you can talk to people and meet people isn't your thing?
P
Sex clubs or whatever people call them isnt for me. I just don't feel it.
This was explained to you before.... Repeatedly. A social is not a sex club. It's a place for people to chat and get to know each other. You are also in an area that is overflowing with different social events. The majority of those who are successful in the South Wales area, have made the effort to meet people in a social setting. It is a Mecca here. If you were to take advantage of that, you may find yourself having more success
Holly
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The only one I know of is in Newport and I wouldn't want to go by my self. I'm sure there are more, however I have given it some thought and I decided its not my scene. |
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Nope, but it’s no good trying to click with every lady in a 30 mile radius.
If you make a concerted effort with a well thought out first message normally that peaks their interest to chat further. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Feel as if they can't click with anyone on this site?
No it can happen.
Well it seems like mission impossible sometimes.. And people in the forums seem to have false personalities.
Saying that isn't going to help you tbh...
I rather be true to everyone than false
tbh I think yer talking pish,plenty genuine folk on here"
yes there are plenty of genuine folk on here. I don't doubt that. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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The only one I know of is in Newport and I wouldn't want to go by my self. I'm sure there are more, however I have given it some thought and I decided its not my scene. "
Out of interest why is going to a pub and having a couple of drinks with people not your scene? Because that is all a group social is and it's a great way to get to know people and get yourself known without any pressure.
It beats sending countless messages to people that delete them surely? |
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over a year ago
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The only one I know of is in Newport and I wouldn't want to go by my self. I'm sure there are more, however I have given it some thought and I decided its not my scene.
Out of interest why is going to a pub and having a couple of drinks with people not your scene? Because that is all a group social is and it's a great way to get to know people and get yourself known without any pressure.
It beats sending countless messages to people that delete them surely?"
I don't understand it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only one I know of is in Newport and I wouldn't want to go by my self. I'm sure there are more, however I have given it some thought and I decided its not my scene.
Out of interest why is going to a pub and having a couple of drinks with people not your scene? Because that is all a group social is and it's a great way to get to know people and get yourself known without any pressure.
It beats sending countless messages to people that delete them surely?
I don't understand it "
you dont understand how people can have drinks in a pub? give it a go, it’s fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only one I know of is in Newport and I wouldn't want to go by my self. I'm sure there are more, however I have given it some thought and I decided its not my scene.
Out of interest why is going to a pub and having a couple of drinks with people not your scene? Because that is all a group social is and it's a great way to get to know people and get yourself known without any pressure.
It beats sending countless messages to people that delete them surely?
I don't understand it "
What bit don't you understand?
What a social is?
A group social is where a group of people from the site get together. They meet somewhere public like a local pub, they talk to each other and get to know each other. There's no fucking. It's about meeting people, making friends and potential plans to meet again for possible sexy time.
P |
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The only one I know of is in Newport and I wouldn't want to go by my self. I'm sure there are more, however I have given it some thought and I decided its not my scene.
Out of interest why is going to a pub and having a couple of drinks with people not your scene? Because that is all a group social is and it's a great way to get to know people and get yourself known without any pressure.
It beats sending countless messages to people that delete them surely?
I don't understand it
What bit don't you understand?
What a social is?
A group social is where a group of people from the site get together. They meet somewhere public like a local pub, they talk to each other and get to know each other. There's no fucking. It's about meeting people, making friends and potential plans to meet again for possible sexy time.
P"
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over a year ago
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The only one I know of is in Newport and I wouldn't want to go by my self. I'm sure there are more, however I have given it some thought and I decided its not my scene.
Out of interest why is going to a pub and having a couple of drinks with people not your scene? Because that is all a group social is and it's a great way to get to know people and get yourself known without any pressure.
It beats sending countless messages to people that delete them surely?
I don't understand it
What bit don't you understand?
What a social is?
A group social is where a group of people from the site get together. They meet somewhere public like a local pub, they talk to each other and get to know each other. There's no fucking. It's about meeting people, making friends and potential plans to meet again for possible sexy time.
P
oooooh its your round I,ll have a double"
I'd like a double too... you and B, both in my poontang oooft!
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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The only one I know of is in Newport and I wouldn't want to go by my self. I'm sure there are more, however I have given it some thought and I decided its not my scene.
Out of interest why is going to a pub and having a couple of drinks with people not your scene? Because that is all a group social is and it's a great way to get to know people and get yourself known without any pressure.
It beats sending countless messages to people that delete them surely?
I don't understand it
What bit don't you understand?
What a social is?
A group social is where a group of people from the site get together. They meet somewhere public like a local pub, they talk to each other and get to know each other. There's no fucking. It's about meeting people, making friends and potential plans to meet again for possible sexy time.
P
oooooh its your round I,ll have a double
I'd like a double too... you and B, both in my poontang oooft!
P"
See OP? It's that easy |
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over a year ago
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The only one I know of is in Newport and I wouldn't want to go by my self. I'm sure there are more, however I have given it some thought and I decided its not my scene.
Out of interest why is going to a pub and having a couple of drinks with people not your scene? Because that is all a group social is and it's a great way to get to know people and get yourself known without any pressure.
It beats sending countless messages to people that delete them surely?
I don't understand it
What bit don't you understand?
What a social is?
A group social is where a group of people from the site get together. They meet somewhere public like a local pub, they talk to each other and get to know each other. There's no fucking. It's about meeting people, making friends and potential plans to meet again for possible sexy time.
P
oooooh its your round I,ll have a double
I'd like a double too... you and B, both in my poontang oooft!
P
See OP? It's that easy "
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over a year ago
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The only one I know of is in Newport and I wouldn't want to go by my self. I'm sure there are more, however I have given it some thought and I decided its not my scene.
Out of interest why is going to a pub and having a couple of drinks with people not your scene? Because that is all a group social is and it's a great way to get to know people and get yourself known without any pressure.
It beats sending countless messages to people that delete them surely?
I don't understand it
What bit don't you understand?
What a social is?
A group social is where a group of people from the site get together. They meet somewhere public like a local pub, they talk to each other and get to know each other. There's no fucking. It's about meeting people, making friends and potential plans to meet again for possible sexy time.
P
oooooh its your round I,ll have a double
I'd like a double too... you and B, both in my poontang oooft!
P
See OP? It's that easy "
What can I say, Mikki makes my muff excited and my cheeks smile. I do believe an evening with Mikki would leave me aching all over from laughing so hard. Plus I want to "borrow" many clothing items and run off with them. 
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over a year ago
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The only one I know of is in Newport and I wouldn't want to go by my self. I'm sure there are more, however I have given it some thought and I decided its not my scene.
Out of interest why is going to a pub and having a couple of drinks with people not your scene? Because that is all a group social is and it's a great way to get to know people and get yourself known without any pressure.
It beats sending countless messages to people that delete them surely?
I don't understand it
What bit don't you understand?
What a social is?
A group social is where a group of people from the site get together. They meet somewhere public like a local pub, they talk to each other and get to know each other. There's no fucking. It's about meeting people, making friends and potential plans to meet again for possible sexy time.
P
oooooh its your round I,ll have a double
I'd like a double too... you and B, both in my poontang oooft!
P
See OP? It's that easy
What can I say, Mikki makes my muff excited and my cheeks smile. I do believe an evening with Mikki would leave me aching all over from laughing so hard. Plus I want to "borrow" many clothing items and run off with them.
P"
oh,,i was just after a few free drinks n a shag ,xxxxxx |
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over a year ago
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The only one I know of is in Newport and I wouldn't want to go by my self. I'm sure there are more, however I have given it some thought and I decided its not my scene.
Out of interest why is going to a pub and having a couple of drinks with people not your scene? Because that is all a group social is and it's a great way to get to know people and get yourself known without any pressure.
It beats sending countless messages to people that delete them surely?
I don't understand it
What bit don't you understand?
What a social is?
A group social is where a group of people from the site get together. They meet somewhere public like a local pub, they talk to each other and get to know each other. There's no fucking. It's about meeting people, making friends and potential plans to meet again for possible sexy time.
P
oooooh its your round I,ll have a double
I'd like a double too... you and B, both in my poontang oooft!
P
See OP? It's that easy
What can I say, Mikki makes my muff excited and my cheeks smile. I do believe an evening with Mikki would leave me aching all over from laughing so hard. Plus I want to "borrow" many clothing items and run off with them.
P
oh,,i was just after a few free drinks n a shag ,xxxxxx"
Sold to the not quite small enough to be a dwarf lady!
I got half a bottle of red, might have a bit of back wash in it from sorrow drowning but other than that it's good to go
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"No, I met one of my best friends on this site
We spoke today and she told me all about her having the shits
It was magical
She sounds charming 
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" And people in the forums seem to have false personalities.
So you know us from outside the Forums to compare ?
Not many. I was talking more about how some chat in forums and then when messaged they change or don't reply at all.
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I had someone message me from the forums once and I had no interest in chatting to this person. It made for awkward small talk. |
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"OP, since lots of people here have a good time, maybe it's your attitude, expectations and effort that is the issue here.
Maybe. I don't know of any socials/clubs around me either and it's not my thing.
So you want to talk to people and meet people, but going to places where you can talk to people and meet people isn't your thing?
P
Sex clubs or whatever people call them isnt for me. I just don't feel it.
This was explained to you before.... Repeatedly. A social is not a sex club. It's a place for people to chat and get to know each other. You are also in an area that is overflowing with different social events. The majority of those who are successful in the South Wales area, have made the effort to meet people in a social setting. It is a Mecca here. If you were to take advantage of that, you may find yourself having more success
Holly
The only one I know of is in Newport and I wouldn't want to go by my self. I'm sure there are more, however I have given it some thought and I decided its not my scene. "
The one in Newport is a swinger's club. Socials are held in normal pubs as they are just that. Socials. You are completely confusing the two.
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Does socialising 'scare' you OP?
Do you want to go straight from message to balls deep?
If so, you need to look outside the forums
Most here want a level of interaction you don't seem to appreciate
There's usually a couple of hundred taking part here at any one time
There's regularly 30,000+ logged onto the site at any one time
If I wanted a shag, I know where I'd look 
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From another angle, no one here owes you a response just because they recognise your user name
Many may respond out of politeness, but others might not be interested in private chats
I view the Forums like a party - socialising and drinks downstairs, fun and frivolities upstairs (or when we go home later)
A lot of people are happy downstairs
Ever been cornered at a party by a someone you don't fancy / don't particularly care for who's trying to get into your knickers?
I have. It's not nice. |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"OP, since lots of people here have a good time, maybe it's your attitude, expectations and effort that is the issue here.
Maybe. I don't know of any socials/clubs around me either and it's not my thing.
So you want to talk to people and meet people, but going to places where you can talk to people and meet people isn't your thing?
P
Sex clubs or whatever people call them isnt for me. I just don't feel it.
Are you actually a swinger, or do you just want yo get laid?
I can guess the answer already.
Of course I want to get laid. Isn't it obvious that I'm not a swinger. "
So maybe a swinging site is not the the best place for you. |
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How can you say something isn't for you if you haven't tried it? It's like saying you don't like a certain type of food because you don't like the look of it but have never tasted it. I found clubs to be very friendly social places where you can make good contacts and get yourself known. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I've been giving this some thought OP based on not only this thread but also some of your others and I'll be honest, I'm confused as to what exactly you are looking to get from the site - on the one hand you seem to want a connection and to 'click' with people, yet on the other you seem to want instant gratification.
Either way, any advice you are given you seem to find a reason you can't follow it - you've shown it on this thread with your apparent aversion to attending group socials (which *are* just drinks in a pub and *nothing* more).
Maybe take a step back and think about what you really expect to get out of the site, and work out how *you* think you can achieve that, what approach will work for you etc
Positivity is key though, taking a negative view really will get you nowhere here. |
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over a year ago
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"Does socialising 'scare' you OP?
Do you want to go straight from message to balls deep?
If so, you need to look outside the forums
Most here want a level of interaction you don't seem to appreciate
There's usually a couple of hundred taking part here at any one time
There's regularly 30,000+ logged onto the site at any one time
If I wanted a shag, I know where I'd look
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From another angle, no one here owes you a response just because they recognise your user name
Many may respond out of politeness, but others might not be interested in private chats
I view the Forums like a party - socialising and drinks downstairs, fun and frivolities upstairs (or when we go home later)
A lot of people are happy downstairs
Ever been cornered at a party by a someone you don't fancy / don't particularly care for who's trying to get into your knickers?
I have. It's not nice."
No I don't want to go straight from message to balls deep as you said. It would be nice just to meet someone for coffee, without going to a social event. |
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"I've been giving this some thought OP based on not only this thread but also some of your others and I'll be honest, I'm confused as to what exactly you are looking to get from the site - on the one hand you seem to want a connection and to 'click' with people, yet on the other you seem to want instant gratification.
Either way, any advice you are given you seem to find a reason you can't follow it - you've shown it on this thread with your apparent aversion to attending group socials (which *are* just drinks in a pub and *nothing* more).
Maybe take a step back and think about what you really expect to get out of the site, and work out how *you* think you can achieve that, what approach will work for you etc
Positivity is key though, taking a negative view really will get you nowhere here."
I'm not sure how you see that I want instant gratification. |
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"OP, since lots of people here have a good time, maybe it's your attitude, expectations and effort that is the issue here.
Maybe. I don't know of any socials/clubs around me either and it's not my thing.
So you want to talk to people and meet people, but going to places where you can talk to people and meet people isn't your thing?
P
Sex clubs or whatever people call them isnt for me. I just don't feel it.
Are you actually a swinger, or do you just want yo get laid?
I can guess the answer already.
Of course I want to get laid. Isn't it obvious that I'm not a swinger.
So maybe a swinging site is not the the best place for you."
Maybe, maybe not. |
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I kind of feel that we're on the blue balls merry-go-round again.
OP, you've been given a massive amount of advice and support from some very knowledgeable and long serving members (including myself) over the past few months. Yet there always seems to be some vague reason as to why you simply can't follow it.
You're faced with a few choices here; follow the advice and give stuff a try, even if it makes you a little uncomfortable at first. Don't try and perpetuate your own incel misery. Or leave and seek your own answers away from the site that seems to be causing you so much misery.
The simple fact though is that you've been given the answers over and over, yet round and round we still go. No one is going to knock on your door, no one owes you sex, you have to actually do something. It really isn't rocket science!
I'm sorry if this seems blunt and abrupt but really, if youre incapable of working it out, then maybe its not everyone else.
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"I kind of feel that we're on the blue balls merry-go-round again.
OP, you've been given a massive amount of advice and support from some very knowledgeable and long serving members (including myself) over the past few months. Yet there always seems to be some vague reason as to why you simply can't follow it.
You're faced with a few choices here; follow the advice and give stuff a try, even if it makes you a little uncomfortable at first. Don't try and perpetuate your own incel misery. Or leave and seek your own answers away from the site that seems to be causing you so much misery.
The simple fact though is that you've been given the answers over and over, yet round and round we still go. No one is going to knock on your door, no one owes you sex, you have to actually do something. It really isn't rocket science!
I'm sorry if this seems blunt and abrupt but really, if youre incapable of working it out, then maybe its not everyone else.
Tea"
You always put this so eloquently, in a way in which I couldn’t. |
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"Raise the same question in these forms more than once and people seem to get annoyed  "
They only get annoyed if they've taken the time to give advice that the OP then doesn't take on board or act on then asks the same things again a few weeks later. |
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"Raise the same question in these forms more than once and people seem to get annoyed
They only get annoyed if they've taken the time to give advice that the OP then doesn't take on board or act on then asks the same things again a few weeks later."
I have taken things on board and I haven't asked the same question. It shoudnt be such a big deal for anyone to get annoyed. |
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"Raise the same question in these forms more than once and people seem to get annoyed "
I'm interested why you keep raising the same question. Why do you keep asking the same thing?
What answers are you hoping people will give you?
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"Raise the same question in these forms more than once and people seem to get annoyed
I'm interested why you keep raising the same question. Why do you keep asking the same thing?
What answers are you hoping people will give you?
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I don't keep raising the same question. Last time i asked about profile advice and this time i asked if anyone finds it easy to click with people on here.
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"Raise the same question in these forms more than once and people seem to get annoyed
I'm interested why you keep raising the same question. Why do you keep asking the same thing?
What answers are you hoping people will give you?
I don't keep raising the same question. Last time i asked about profile advice and this time i asked if anyone finds it easy to click with people on here.
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Ok...good luck on Fab, hope you find what you're looking for.
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"Raise the same question in these forms more than once and people seem to get annoyed
I'm interested why you keep raising the same question. Why do you keep asking the same thing?
What answers are you hoping people will give you?
I don't keep raising the same question. Last time i asked about profile advice and this time i asked if anyone finds it easy to click with people on here.
Ok...good luck on Fab, hope you find what you're looking for.
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"Raise the same question in these forms more than once and people seem to get annoyed
I'm interested why you keep raising the same question. Why do you keep asking the same thing?
What answers are you hoping people will give you?
I don't keep raising the same question. Last time i asked about profile advice and this time i asked if anyone finds it easy to click with people on here.
Ok...good luck on Fab, hope you find what you're looking for.
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Yep this
Don't take this shite seriously or it won't be an enjoyable experience. |
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"Raise the same question in these forms more than once and people seem to get annoyed "
Depends on who is asking the question. If it's one of the favourites they can say the same thing over and over and over and over and over... |
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"Raise the same question in these forms more than once and people seem to get annoyed
I'm interested why you keep raising the same question. Why do you keep asking the same thing?
What answers are you hoping people will give you?
I don't keep raising the same question. Last time i asked about profile advice and this time i asked if anyone finds it easy to click with people on here.
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But you *just* said that it was about raising the same question... and now you're deflecting by playing the victim.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself and blaming everyone else for why you've not met.
You've been given the answers... Repeatedly...now it's your choice. Although making a choice does also means doing something, so I see the issue there for you.
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"Raise the same question in these forms more than once and people seem to get annoyed
Depends on who is asking the question. If it's one of the favourites they can say the same thing over and over and over and over and over..."
Yeah some people are in cliques. |
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"Raise the same question in these forms more than once and people seem to get annoyed
I'm interested why you keep raising the same question. Why do you keep asking the same thing?
What answers are you hoping people will give you?
I don't keep raising the same question. Last time i asked about profile advice and this time i asked if anyone finds it easy to click with people on here.
But you *just* said that it was about raising the same question... and now you're deflecting by playing the victim.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself and blaming everyone else for why you've not met.
You've been given the answers... Repeatedly...now it's your choice. Although making a choice does also means doing something, so I see the issue there for you.
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It's forum users like yourself who raise the same questions up about clubs and socials to me.
My other post was about profile advice which lead to people telling me about clubs and its gone down the same way this time.
I didn't ask the same questions to begin with. |
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"Raise the same question in these forms more than once and people seem to get annoyed
I didn't ask the same questions to begin with. "
But you said at the top there about raising the same question.
I think you need to chill and not take this so seriously. Maybe take a break if it isn't working for you at the moment? |
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"Raise the same question in these forms more than once and people seem to get annoyed
I didn't ask the same questions to begin with.
But you said at the top there about raising the same question.
I think you need to chill and not take this so seriously. Maybe take a break if it isn't working for you at the moment?"
Yes and I think I'm the not only one who needs to chill out and not take this so seriously. |
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"Whatever happens after that thread. I still love you as the first day op 
Oh, okay lol "
Do you like driving convertible during winter in South Africa ?? |
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"Raise the same question in these forms more than once and people seem to get annoyed
I didn't ask the same questions to begin with.
But you said at the top there about raising the same question.
I think you need to chill and not take this so seriously. Maybe take a break if it isn't working for you at the moment?
Yes and I think I'm the not only one who needs to chill out and not take this so seriously. "
Things happen naturally when you're not trying too hard. I actually get messages from women thru forum posts and 2 resulted in a meet. Go with the flow bud, you'll click with someone when you least expect it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Raise the same question in these forms more than once and people seem to get annoyed
I didn't ask the same questions to begin with.
But you said at the top there about raising the same question.
I think you need to chill and not take this so seriously. Maybe take a break if it isn't working for you at the moment?
Yes and I think I'm the not only one who needs to chill out and not take this so seriously.
Things happen naturally when you're not trying too hard. I actually get messages from women thru forum posts and 2 resulted in a meet. Go with the flow bud, you'll click with someone when you least expect it "
Will do |
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"Whatever happens after that thread. I still love you as the first day op
Oh, okay lol
Do you like driving convertible during winter in South Africa ?? "
I don't know man |
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"Whatever happens after that thread. I still love you as the first day op
Oh, okay lol
Do you like driving convertible during winter in South Africa ?? "
I guess you don't ! |
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over a year ago
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"Whatever happens after that thread. I still love you as the first day op
Oh, okay lol
Do you like driving convertible during winter in South Africa ??
I guess you don't ! "
I've lost the plot now. |
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"Whatever happens after that thread. I still love you as the first day op
Oh, okay lol
Do you like driving convertible during winter in South Africa ??
I guess you don't !
I've lost the plot now. "
As long as you can get it hard dude I dont mind you calling me Peter |
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over a year ago
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"Whatever happens after that thread. I still love you as the first day op
Oh, okay lol
Do you like driving convertible during winter in South Africa ??
I guess you don't !
I've lost the plot now.
As long as you can get it hard dude I dont mind you calling me Peter "
I was just thinking about calling you something else |
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I've found a few people on here actually that I've really clicked with, unfortunately due to a hectic job and life I've had to cancel any potential meets last minute, which I do feel quite bad about but nothing I can do about it, tis' life as they say! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I've been giving this some thought OP based on not only this thread but also some of your others and I'll be honest, I'm confused as to what exactly you are looking to get from the site - on the one hand you seem to want a connection and to 'click' with people, yet on the other you seem to want instant gratification.
Either way, any advice you are given you seem to find a reason you can't follow it - you've shown it on this thread with your apparent aversion to attending group socials (which *are* just drinks in a pub and *nothing* more).
Maybe take a step back and think about what you really expect to get out of the site, and work out how *you* think you can achieve that, what approach will work for you etc
Positivity is key though, taking a negative view really will get you nowhere here.
I'm not sure how you see that I want instant gratification. "
So you ignore the rest of my post, offering advice, and pick up on that one point, but there have been posts you've made that contradict what you say you're looking for elsewhere.
And for the record I don't think anyone else is getting annoyed - once again throughout this thread people have offered sound advice to answer your OP which granted is worded differently from your other threads, but still asks essentially the same question just in a different way - yet despite that advice you either find a reason not to follow it, or simply don't do so.
It's not easy for single guys on here but you seem determined to make it even harder for yourself by ignoring the advice you are regularly given. |
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So OP, are you going to get yourself down to a social event? Knees up in a pub with friendly people may be good for you. You can chat live rather than on here. Remember to keep your clothes on though, it’s not that kind of event. |
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"I've been giving this some thought OP based on not only this thread but also some of your others and I'll be honest, I'm confused as to what exactly you are looking to get from the site - on the one hand you seem to want a connection and to 'click' with people, yet on the other you seem to want instant gratification.
Either way, any advice you are given you seem to find a reason you can't follow it - you've shown it on this thread with your apparent aversion to attending group socials (which *are* just drinks in a pub and *nothing* more).
Maybe take a step back and think about what you really expect to get out of the site, and work out how *you* think you can achieve that, what approach will work for you etc
Positivity is key though, taking a negative view really will get you nowhere here.
I'm not sure how you see that I want instant gratification.
So you ignore the rest of my post, offering advice, and pick up on that one point, but there have been posts you've made that contradict what you say you're looking for elsewhere.
And for the record I don't think anyone else is getting annoyed - once again throughout this thread people have offered sound advice to answer your OP which granted is worded differently from your other threads, but still asks essentially the same question just in a different way - yet despite that advice you either find a reason not to follow it, or simply don't do so.
It's not easy for single guys on here but you seem determined to make it even harder for yourself by ignoring the advice you are regularly given."
I am heeding the advice. I'm just not going to clubs. What other ways am i not following the advice?  |
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"So OP, are you going to get yourself down to a social event? Knees up in a pub with friendly people may be good for you. You can chat live rather than on here. Remember to keep your clothes on though, it’s not that kind of event. "
If there was one just round the corner from me, then yes I would go. But I have no plans at all. |
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"Whatever happens after that thread. I still love you as the first day op
Oh, okay lol
Do you like driving convertible during winter in South Africa ??
I guess you don't !
I've lost the plot now.
As long as you can get it hard dude I dont mind you calling me Peter
I was just thinking about calling you something else "
May I ask why ? |
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"Whatever happens after that thread. I still love you as the first day op
Oh, okay lol
Do you like driving convertible during winter in South Africa ??
I guess you don't !
I've lost the plot now.
As long as you can get it hard dude I dont mind you calling me Peter
I was just thinking about calling you something else
May I ask why ? "
Maybe he thought you were called Paul
I walked past a sex shop today, I thought about going in but then I decided I don’t like sex after all!!
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I've been giving this some thought OP based on not only this thread but also some of your others and I'll be honest, I'm confused as to what exactly you are looking to get from the site - on the one hand you seem to want a connection and to 'click' with people, yet on the other you seem to want instant gratification.
Either way, any advice you are given you seem to find a reason you can't follow it - you've shown it on this thread with your apparent aversion to attending group socials (which *are* just drinks in a pub and *nothing* more).
Maybe take a step back and think about what you really expect to get out of the site, and work out how *you* think you can achieve that, what approach will work for you etc
Positivity is key though, taking a negative view really will get you nowhere here.
I'm not sure how you see that I want instant gratification.
So you ignore the rest of my post, offering advice, and pick up on that one point, but there have been posts you've made that contradict what you say you're looking for elsewhere.
And for the record I don't think anyone else is getting annoyed - once again throughout this thread people have offered sound advice to answer your OP which granted is worded differently from your other threads, but still asks essentially the same question just in a different way - yet despite that advice you either find a reason not to follow it, or simply don't do so.
It's not easy for single guys on here but you seem determined to make it even harder for yourself by ignoring the advice you are regularly given.
I am heeding the advice. I'm just not going to clubs. What other ways am i not following the advice? "
Group socials for one - which has been suggested numerous times and you keep saying aren't for you - despite the fact they're just drinks in a pub and are a great way to get to know people and them to know you.
Your profile doesn't appear to have changed a great deal despite the advice you have previously been given on that.
It's been suggested more than once that a more positive outlook rather than the doom and gloom one you present would help.
I could go on - and I don't mean any of the above unkindly - I am honestly trying to help you help yourself.
I think the trouble is you don't really know what you want out of the site and seem to have a lot of false perceptions about various aspects of it, so until you sort out in your head what it is you *do* want it makes it even more difficult, hence my suggestion earlier about taking a step backwards to assess.
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"So OP, are you going to get yourself down to a social event? Knees up in a pub with friendly people may be good for you. You can chat live rather than on here. Remember to keep your clothes on though, it’s not that kind of event.
If there was one just round the corner from me, then yes I would go. But I have no plans at all. "
Some of us travel to one. Some folks in London go up to the Manchester one. It’s worth getting out and about sometimes. |
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"Whatever happens after that thread. I still love you as the first day op
Oh, okay lol
Do you like driving convertible during winter in South Africa ??
I guess you don't !
I've lost the plot now.
As long as you can get it hard dude I dont mind you calling me Peter
I was just thinking about calling you something else
May I ask why ? "
I just don't get you man. You sent me a funny picture the other day I don't know what that was about. |
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"Whatever happens after that thread. I still love you as the first day op
Oh, okay lol
Do you like driving convertible during winter in South Africa ??
I guess you don't !
I've lost the plot now.
As long as you can get it hard dude I dont mind you calling me Peter
I was just thinking about calling you something else
May I ask why ?
I just don't get you man. You sent me a funny picture the other day I don't know what that was about. "
If you don’t get f&b then you have not been paying attention. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Whatever happens after that thread. I still love you as the first day op
Oh, okay lol
Do you like driving convertible during winter in South Africa ??
I guess you don't !
I've lost the plot now.
As long as you can get it hard dude I dont mind you calling me Peter
I was just thinking about calling you something else
May I ask why ?
I just don't get you man. You sent me a funny picture the other day I don't know what that was about.
If you don’t get f&b then you have not been paying attention. "
I'm not sure F&B gets F&B does he? |
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"Whatever happens after that thread. I still love you as the first day op
Oh, okay lol
Do you like driving convertible during winter in South Africa ??
I guess you don't !
I've lost the plot now.
As long as you can get it hard dude I dont mind you calling me Peter
I was just thinking about calling you something else
May I ask why ?
I just don't get you man. You sent me a funny picture the other day I don't know what that was about.
If you don’t get f&b then you have not been paying attention.
I'm not sure F&B gets F&B does he? "
Ok, you’re not supposed to get him but I do. He’s a great guy really but ever so funny. |
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Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result
Change the way you are trying to click with women your messages are clearly shit if not getting a reply |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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If you don’t get f&b then you have not been paying attention.
I'm not sure F&B gets F&B does he?
Ok, you’re not supposed to get him but I do. He’s a great guy really but ever so funny. "
Funnily enough so do I and I agree (just don't tell him ) |
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"Some people are just boring to talk to, whether face-to-face or via messaging, and are totally oblivious to that fact. They'll never suss out why they have little to no success."
Okay I get the hint lol |
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