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We live in a small village and we have just got talking to someone, literally within half a mile..
Just wondered how close you all class as too close for comfort? Any opinions welcomed, just wanted to find out everyone else's views! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All depends on what you are happy with if you don’t mind people knowing or if you want to keep it totally quiet I would say to close but that’s Down to him as well as some others don’t like people knowing |
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over a year ago
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I'd say personally I'd like to think nothing negative can come of it however that's not always the case. If I got to know someone pretty well and trusted them then yeah, I would be comfortable being so close, however you never really know people and what they can be capable of it you get on their wrong side, and that can be easy to do even though you'd not think it!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All depends on what you are happy with if you don’t mind people knowing or if you want to keep it totally quiet I would say to close but that’s Down to him as well as some others don’t like people knowing "
This. Kiss your private life goodbye. |
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over a year ago
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"We live in a small village and we have just got talking to someone, literally within half a mile..
Just wondered how close you all class as too close for comfort? Any opinions welcomed, just wanted to find out everyone else's views! "
I had a fuck buddy who lived in the same suburb. He was friends with my neighbour as I later discovered, that combined with his becoming clingy lead to a very careful termination of our relationship. |
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over a year ago
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I dont know really, there is always the assumption that people will turn weird, no reason they should, they're just people but it might put me off if I thought I might bump into them regulary.
Keeping 'swinging' as a seperate identity I suppose is easier if people are further away. If more of a friendship was wanted with people you trust, local would be easier   |
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over a year ago
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"We live in a small village and we have just got talking to someone, literally within half a mile..
Just wondered how close you all class as too close for comfort? Any opinions welcomed, just wanted to find out everyone else's views! "
I got talking to someone on here and eventually we worked out we live 4 streets apart!! The neighbourhood around here has too many nosey neighbours so we agreed that's far too close for comfort and decided not develop things any further. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People will advise you not to shit on your own doorstep, but fuck it you’re adults, I’m sure you’re smart enough to make an informed decision "
Stop being sensible |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not interested in getting to know locals. That's just my preference though. I don't think it's such a bad thing if you're comfortable with it. Being close probably comes in very handy when you both fancy some sexy fun and you can say "I'LL BE THERE IN 30 SECONDS!" |
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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago
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"We live in a small village and we have just got talking to someone, literally within half a mile..
Just wondered how close you all class as too close for comfort? Any opinions welcomed, just wanted to find out everyone else's views! "
Meeting someone from my own town is way too close for me. I have a very public job, serving a high number of many different people. So it wouldn’t be in my best interest to meet with anyone that is likely to come in.
That said, a chap who I met off another site and decided not to play with after meeting for a social, came in with his family. He lived in a town 11 miles away and had called in on the way to the airport.  I let it slipped where I worked (the early days of me meeting people off the internet). So don’t know whether it was intentional or not, but I was very discreet of course, since it works both ways and knew he wouldn’t dare try anything in front of his family. He messaged me much later to explain, but I never answer. I never saw or heard from him again.
If it wasn’t for my job, I probably still wouldn’t meet anyone from the same town. |
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over a year ago
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"I have a 30mile exclusion zone around my house!
Doesn’t half of that go into the Channel? "
I was just about to say the same. She’s including the fishermen.  |
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London is huge so easy to get lost and I’ve never met anyone that lives in my postcode
But there was a guy from Scotland I saw once and he walked down the street as I was outside a pub with my mates, it was one of those “oh shit” moments, but he behaved and texted 5 mins later  |
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"I have a 30mile exclusion zone around my house!
Doesn’t half of that go into the Channel?
I was just about to say the same. She’s including the fishermen.
It pays to be thorough  "
I'm often out on the sea, kayak, sup, boat.
I'm taking no chances
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"I have a 30mile exclusion zone around my house!
Doesn’t half of that go into the Channel?
I was just about to say the same. She’s including the fishermen.
It pays to be thorough
I'm often out on the sea, kayak, sup, boat.
I'm taking no chances
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Kayak dating, now there’s a thing. Beats meeting in the supermarket. |
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"I have a 30mile exclusion zone around my house!
Doesn’t half of that go into the Channel?
I was just about to say the same. She’s including the fishermen.
It pays to be thorough
I'm often out on the sea, kayak, sup, boat.
I'm taking no chances
Kayak dating, now there’s a thing. Beats meeting in the supermarket. "
and definitely beats meets, beating meat in the supermarket. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would you want to bump into them at a later date say in the local Tesco or out walking the dog.
I once met a local ish couple, 6 miles away and I cringe every time I see them in town.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you want to bump into them at a later date say in the local Tesco or out walking the dog.
I once met a local ish couple, 6 miles away and I cringe every time I see them in town. "
I make friends with people I meet so bumping into them would be ok. |
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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago
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"Would you want to bump into them at a later date say in the local Tesco or out walking the dog.
I once met a local ish couple, 6 miles away and I cringe every time I see them in town.
I make friends with people I meet so bumping into them would be ok. "
Exactly!, discretion and respect paramount |
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"We live in a small village and we have just got talking to someone, literally within half a mile..
Just wondered how close you all class as too close for comfort? Any opinions welcomed, just wanted to find out everyone else's views! "
I think it's lovely you live so close to your parents. |
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We met through a friend on here. We did come to a decision though that it was just too close.