Long story short, went through a real bad few years and my confidence was at its lowest it’s ever been.
Recently I thought “fuck it” and started going to socials and became more active on tinder and the results have been truly amazing!
I’d class myself as a 4/10 maybe 5/10 at a push. But if you consider my dadbod and compare it to the younger Tony then I’m a 3/10 at best. And I know how picky the girls on here can be due to the amount of single males on here.
In the last week I’ve had some amazing meets, with girls who wouldn’t even look at me in the street. I’m talking of 8’s, 9’s and even a 9.5!!! (Would have been a 10 if she was local lol). I’m not objectifying women, just trying to paint a picture of how beautiful these women actually are! And not one has been a one off meet! Ok one was but already arranging a second meet with her. Which means that not only do they have the looks, but they have the personality to match as well!
So to all those single makes posting “why can’t I meet anyone?” I say get active in the forums, get to your local clubs, update your status regularly and get your name out there. Treat the women with respect, don’t be pushy, and if you get rejected (which I have been a LOT), reply with a genuine appreciation of them taking the time to let you know that they weren’t interested. And if they don’t reply, move on. No point sending abuse, it’s not going to help you.
Motivational rant over. Hope you all have a great day x |
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"Good for you OP 
Great advice...but scoring this women out of 10 is a bad idea....if they read this, I'd imagine they'll be a tad annoyed, I would be..."
Eileen you're a 9 you should be happy you're fit and op all about the confidence. Still I ain't getting meets though I'm sure my luck will change |
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"Good for you OP
Great advice...but scoring this women out of 10 is a bad idea....if they read this, I'd imagine they'll be a tad annoyed, I would be..."
I was just trying to paint a picture verbally of how attractive (both inside and out) these women are. I didn’t know if another way to get my point across so vividly.
I do understand your point though. Hopefully, people will read it in the positive light that it was intended. |
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"Good for you OP
Great advice...but scoring this women out of 10 is a bad idea....if they read this, I'd imagine they'll be a tad annoyed, I would be...
I was just trying to paint a picture verbally of how attractive (both inside and out) these women are. I didn’t know if another way to get my point across so vividly.
I do understand your point though. Hopefully, people will read it in the positive light that it was intended. "
Totally get what you were trying to do...hopefully they will too |
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By *eliWoman
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Aww Op. Self confidence is great and this is incredibly positive to read.
(The whole rating thing... it's really subjective isn't it? You might be someone's 9/10, the women might be someone's 3/10).
I think that being happy with who you are goes a long way, people are naturally more attracted to those they feel more comfortable with. Here's to you meeting many more 8+ women.  |
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It's great you have your confidence back buddy , positivity is a key . Moaning in the forums or on your status will never look good your right .
Though rating others is not a good thing in my eyes , take people as the come and how you interact with them  |
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When we first started meeting single guys one of them advised us that it was all about the networking on this site. Getting yourselves to socials which leads onto party invites (some of the time).
We always pass this advice on to any single guys we meet now.
Great advice op and well done! |
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OP, I understand and agree with your approach completely. The most important part of what you said is respect.
I (Luke) used to be a singleton on this scene. I went to clubs with the attitude of being smiley, friendly, non-pushy and not entitled. I went with the view that if I managed have genuine and relaxed conversation with somebody about anything, I would come away happy. The result: I got laid every time.
Respect goes a very long way in this world. |
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"Long story short, went through a real bad few years and my confidence was at its lowest it’s ever been.
Recently I thought “fuck it” and started going to socials and became more active on tinder and the results have been truly amazing!
I’d class myself as a 4/10 maybe 5/10 at a push. But if you consider my dadbod and compare it to the younger Tony then I’m a 3/10 at best. And I know how picky the girls on here can be due to the amount of single males on here.
In the last week I’ve had some amazing meets, with girls who wouldn’t even look at me in the street. I’m talking of 8’s, 9’s and even a 9.5!!! (Would have been a 10 if she was local lol). I’m not objectifying women, just trying to paint a picture of how beautiful these women actually are! And not one has been a one off meet! Ok one was but already arranging a second meet with her. Which means that not only do they have the looks, but they have the personality to match as well!
So to all those single makes posting “why can’t I meet anyone?” I say get active in the forums, get to your local clubs, update your status regularly and get your name out there. Treat the women with respect, don’t be pushy, and if you get rejected (which I have been a LOT), reply with a genuine appreciation of them taking the time to let you know that they weren’t interested. And if they don’t reply, move on. No point sending abuse, it’s not going to help you.
Motivational rant over. Hope you all have a great day x"
Well said that man. As I've met this very nice chap(not in the biblical sense obviously....harrumph) and as a bi guy I can categorically state that you are underselling yourself. You are at least a five and seven eighths (rounded up to six unless you've been decimalised since Saturday). Seriously though, great advice. Take it easy mate |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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Confidence is an attractive trait that many a person finds sexy. The secret is to temper it with some humility so as to not cross over into cockiness.The appeal wears off then. |
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By *r MoriartyMan
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Well done OP, I had to start off with 2's and 3's and work my way up.
I remember my first 8 like it was yesterday.
One time I thought I had a 9 on my hands then she took off this Rabbit Bra thing and I realised she was only a 7, duped  |
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"Rating people ... not my thing
To someone - you’re their ‘10’
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Awwww. This makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Could you point me in the right direction to find mine please  |
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"Rating people ... not my thing
To someone - you’re their ‘10’
Awwww. This makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Could you point me in the right direction to find mine please "
Your 10 ... will find you
Certainly not someone who would rate someone either   |
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Good for you. I use that rating game, but only when buying clothes. I look in the mirror and if I don’t score the look 9 or 10 it goes back on the shelf. When I haven’t applied this method the clothes have ended up in the charity shop! Suppose it applies to anything in life if you think about it!
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"Rating people ... not my thing
To someone - you’re their ‘10’
Awwww. This makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Could you point me in the right direction to find mine please
Your 10 ... will find you
Certainly not someone who would rate someone either "
He rated himself first. Just to show that even though he feels he's not that desirable, someone he thinks of as very attractive wanted to meet him.
I think it's really sweet. I don't think he's meaning anything bad by it at all.  |
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"Rating people ... not my thing
To someone - you’re their ‘10’
Awwww. This makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Could you point me in the right direction to find mine please "
Can I point at myself?  |
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