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Man of 60 girl of 20. General opinions?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m 22 and my grandad turns 60 this year. So I wouldn’t go there.
However; if it’s just for sex? If both parties are happy, why not.
Relationship wise? I’d be wary, but again; if both parties are happy, crack on.
But even that’s too much of a gap for me I think. (Unless you’re Pierce Brosnon) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's all about life experience I personally would never have that kind of a gap not even just for sex let alone a relationship but each to their own but 2 generations apart is just too much I think especially the gulf in life experience |
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"That is the issue I think. Society I wonder would in the main condemn such a relationship? I'm just trying to get a general idea of views"
So you've answered your own question. Society will have its general opinion which is one of disapproval. And individuals will have there own opinions. Most will say it's ok...unless it's my family etc. Not sure point of this post tbh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Curious to hear opinions on this subject. "
Depends how it's formed and why but I don't really see 15/20 years as a barrier, some just don't look or act their age  |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Curious to hear opinions on this subject. Depends how it's formed and why but I don't really see 15/20 years as a barrier, some just don't look or act their age "
But its 40 years, not 15 or 20 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Curious to hear opinions on this subject. Depends how it's formed and why but I don't really see 15/20 years as a barrier, some just don't look or act their age
But its 40 years, not 15 or 20"
yes I noticed no comment lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If its casual ok if for a relationship then no not really a good idea. "
Why? It's a number? Surely how the two people feel is more important than 'the norm' |
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"Just feels wrong on so many levels. Why would a 20 year old woman find a 60 year old attractive? Unless he was very very rich  "
Being rich doesn't actually make you more attractive. The attraction is money not looks |
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"Just feels wrong on so many levels. Why would a 20 year old woman find a 60 year old attractive? Unless he was very very rich
Being rich doesn't actually make you more attractive. The attraction is money not looks"
No shit!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just feels wrong on so many levels. Why would a 20 year old woman find a 60 year old attractive? Unless he was very very rich "
I’ve been attracted to men in their sixties! Still wouldn’t do it though |
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"Just feels wrong on so many levels. Why would a 20 year old woman find a 60 year old attractive? Unless he was very very rich
I’ve been attracted to men in their sixties! Still wouldn’t do it though "
Just the thought makes me wanna vom. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just feels wrong on so many levels. Why would a 20 year old woman find a 60 year old attractive? Unless he was very very rich
I’ve been attracted to men in their sixties! Still wouldn’t do it though
Just the thought makes me wanna vom. "
Of me finding men attractive, or me not fucking ‘em? |
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"Just feels wrong on so many levels. Why would a 20 year old woman find a 60 year old attractive? Unless he was very very rich
I’ve been attracted to men in their sixties! Still wouldn’t do it though
Just the thought makes me wanna vom.
Of me finding men attractive, or me not fucking ‘em?"
No of me playing with someone with that age gap - mid 80's. Tho this is where people will jump up and call me ageist....er yeh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just feels wrong on so many levels. Why would a 20 year old woman find a 60 year old attractive? Unless he was very very rich
I’ve been attracted to men in their sixties! Still wouldn’t do it though
Just the thought makes me wanna vom.
Of me finding men attractive, or me not fucking ‘em?
No of me playing with someone with that age gap - mid 80's. Tho this is where people will jump up and call me ageist....er yeh."
Oh I’ve had plenty of abuse for it! I had a whole thread go off topic and just attack me because I said I wouldn’t fuck someone so old 
Guess I just need to lie |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t see an issue with it, unless it was jealousy 
I personally, get on better with those older than myself. I always end up falling madly in love with them also.
I feel that I have more connection.
No jokes about Oedipus please. It has absolutely nothing to do with that. F you Freud! |
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We would much prefer ppl our own age is don't think we'd find many ppl over 60 sexually attractive.or have much in common.
A 20 year d we wouldn't meet either,we feel abit to old for that and again not much in common.
But if you're in a club and you find someone attractive do you stop and ask how old they are if your already liking the look of them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The age difference is on no consequence in my opinion, providing are both consenting adults and enjoy sex, they should go for it - I would in a flash - in my view I think you should meet up socially first, then re arrange for sex meet afterwards
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I wouldn't feel comfortable with that gap for reasons others have stated, its grandparent and grandchild age gap
But if the parties involved are happy with it then thats all that matters surely |
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"Just feels wrong on so many levels. Why would a 20 year old woman find a 60 year old attractive? Unless he was very very rich
I’ve been attracted to men in their sixties! Still wouldn’t do it though
Just the thought makes me wanna vom.
Of me finding men attractive, or me not fucking ‘em?
No of me playing with someone with that age gap - mid 80's. Tho this is where people will jump up and call me ageist....er yeh.
Oh I’ve had plenty of abuse for it! I had a whole thread go off topic and just attack me because I said I wouldn’t fuck someone so old
Guess I just need to lie "
I'm certainly with you on that one. The things people say on here versus the reality is mind blowing at time. I swear some forum posters are in a competition to see who can be crowned PC Queen/King. Say it how it is! |
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Thanks for all your comments. It's an eye opener. I'm new to fab and exploring. I have been approached by various ages so out of curiosity I posted my question. To be fair it seems evenly divided so in an ideal world if I met someone considerably younger I'd plump to meet all those in favour I think. Never say never is my motto. |
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"I'm very accepting generally.. I feel if the two people are happy then why not. Example.. I know a guy of 72 his girlfriend is 26. Blissfully happy and great company. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Best relationship I ever had was with a woman 40 years plus older than me
I see no issue as long as both consenting adults
Something hot about big age gap relationships |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had a lengthy relationship with a girl 18 years my junior a good few years ago, we're still friends now.
Was great at the time but just naturally fizzed out, we both enjoyed similar things and we both kept up with each other... Was great it's all in the individuals, sod what anyone else thinks, most are jealous of older bloke younger girl... Just saying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I was 17 I had a fling with a married 36 year old woman although thinking back I think maybe she had a fling with me!!!
It was a great time, live and let live I say x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Curious to hear opinions on this subject. "
Slightly bigger age difference than between my husband and me. But only just
If you're both happy go for it
Mrs |
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"Just feels wrong on so many levels. Why would a 20 year old woman find a 60 year old attractive? Unless he was very very rich
This.  "
Maybe some people can see past look's and find someone attractive for who they are rather than how they look or how old they are.
Just saying! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just feels wrong on so many levels. Why would a 20 year old woman find a 60 year old attractive? Unless he was very very rich
This.
Maybe some people can see past look's and find someone attractive for who they are rather than how they look or how old they are.
Just saying!"
Some can. Some can't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I met a lad a few years ago now who was in his early 20's
I was say in the region of say 40-42 at the time
His age limit was set at 35-75
We met 3 or 4 times, so one time I asked him if he would really meet a 75 year old
It was a categoric YES -in my early 40's, I was really a 'bit too young' for him
So, it is a thing
It is, however, a niche to say the least |
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"Just feels wrong on so many levels. Why would a 20 year old woman find a 60 year old attractive? Unless he was very very rich
This.
Maybe some people can see past look's and find someone attractive for who they are rather than how they look or how old they are.
Just saying!"
Thankfully im one of those people otherwise i wouldnt have met the love of my life and be blissfully happy for the last 13 years. Weve never had one negative thing said to us. My friends and family never said a word. Strangers might say stuff behind our backs but thats no concern of ours. Im 54 and hes 76 so definetly an old man
but i couldnt careless |
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"Just feels wrong on so many levels. Why would a 20 year old woman find a 60 year old attractive? Unless he was very very rich
This.
Maybe some people can see past look's and find someone attractive for who they are rather than how they look or how old they are.
Just saying!Thankfully im one of those people otherwise i wouldnt have met the love of my life and be blissfully happy for the last 13 years. Weve never had one negative thing said to us. My friends and family never said a word. Strangers might say stuff behind our backs but thats no concern of ours. Im 54 and hes 76 so definetly an old man
but i couldnt careless"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Curious to hear opinions on this subject. "
Both consenting adults, no problem.
Some will disagree but that’s their problem/opinion not yours.
Hope your both happy. |
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It doesn’t matter at all to me it’s all about the person, why limit yourself to what society dictates what’s acceptable
As long as you are happy in your relationship that’s all that matters in life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally would find it difficult to find common ground with someone that much older than myself, and it really depends what expectations you would both have from the relationship. However, if both parties are happy then crack on. |
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As someone said further up if it was my daughter who was the 20 year old or a friend or relative was the 60 year old I would be concerned for a few reasons. However relationships between people of similar ages can cause concerns and life is very short, give and take love where you can I say. |
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Wouldn’t even bat an eyelid.
I got over the age gap thing about 10 years ago when I started hanging out with a couple who were 20 years apart. It’s very easy to judge and “be concerned” but all you’re doing is assuming a stereotype.
Leave them to it I say |
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"Wouldn’t even bat an eyelid.
I got over the age gap thing about 10 years ago when I started hanging out with a couple who were 20 years apart. It’s very easy to judge and “be concerned” but all you’re doing is assuming a stereotype.
Leave them to it I say "
My friend's husband was considerably older than her. Concerns were that she would eventually leave him for a younger man. He actually left her for a much younger woman, almost 50 years younger than him in fact, my friend was devastated. |
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Can i just give some benefits of being with an older guy. Or shall i say the benefits for the 20 year old and 60 year old. It would definetly have different dynamics than a same age relationship
He is more likely to be financially secure(morgage paid no young children). He can nurture her and build her confidence as a woman having much more life experience. Be able to mentor her and teach her things about life. Would probably encourage her to also be independant not on him. I know nothing about this couple but there are some of the benefits i can see |
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Thank you all for your comments. You are all intelligent people and have worked out it's me I'm talking about here. The situation I outline is a very real position. I have met someone very special of 20 yrs old. This is a spiritual coming together as well as physical. The cynics of course would say I'm too old for such a venture but as some have pointed out it's not age that counts its character. I fully intend to follow the course ive been set. But a hearty thanks to those who have endorsed the situation. |
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"Thank you all for your comments. You are all intelligent people and have worked out it's me I'm talking about here. The situation I outline is a very real position. I have met someone very special of 20 yrs old. This is a spiritual coming together as well as physical. The cynics of course would say I'm too old for such a venture but as some have pointed out it's not age that counts its character. I fully intend to follow the course ive been set. But a hearty thanks to those who have endorsed the situation. "
well good luck to you and hope it works out for you.
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"Curious to hear opinions on this subject. Depends how it's formed and why but I don't really see 15/20 years as a barrier, some just don't look or act their age "
Well I definitely don’t act my age - whether I look it probably depends how much sleep I had the night before!
I’m rarely attracted to guys my own age - but whilst society seems to have no issues with relationships where the guy is 10- 20 years older - it appears to be far less accepting when the woman is older!
But of a bugger when you’ve little in common with most chaps your own age!  |
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By *KMaxMan
over a year ago
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"Curious to hear opinions on this subject. Depends how it's formed and why but I don't really see 15/20 years as a barrier, some just don't look or act their age
Well I definitely don’t act my age - whether I look it probably depends how much sleep I had the night before!
I’m rarely attracted to guys my own age - but whilst society seems to have no issues with relationships where the guy is 10- 20 years older - it appears to be far less accepting when the woman is older!
But of a bugger when you’ve little in common with most chaps your own age! "
Best Fab profile ever btw. If you ever change your preference from good looking, local young men to short,fat, ugly ones who live miles away, I'm yer man! |
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"Curious to hear opinions on this subject. Depends how it's formed and why but I don't really see 15/20 years as a barrier, some just don't look or act their age
Well I definitely don’t act my age - whether I look it probably depends how much sleep I had the night before!
I’m rarely attracted to guys my own age - but whilst society seems to have no issues with relationships where the guy is 10- 20 years older - it appears to be far less accepting when the woman is older!
But of a bugger when you’ve little in common with most chaps your own age! "
why the hell would you bother what society thinks? |
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"Curious to hear opinions on this subject. Depends how it's formed and why but I don't really see 15/20 years as a barrier, some just don't look or act their age
Well I definitely don’t act my age - whether I look it probably depends how much sleep I had the night before!
I’m rarely attracted to guys my own age - but whilst society seems to have no issues with relationships where the guy is 10- 20 years older - it appears to be far less accepting when the woman is older!
But of a bugger when you’ve little in common with most chaps your own age!
Best Fab profile ever btw. If you ever change your preference from good looking, local young men to short,fat, ugly ones who live miles away, I'm yer man!"
Aw thanks lovely! Most kind! |
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"Curious to hear opinions on this subject. Depends how it's formed and why but I don't really see 15/20 years as a barrier, some just don't look or act their age
Well I definitely don’t act my age - whether I look it probably depends how much sleep I had the night before!
I’m rarely attracted to guys my own age - but whilst society seems to have no issues with relationships where the guy is 10- 20 years older - it appears to be far less accepting when the woman is older!
But of a bugger when you’ve little in common with most chaps your own age! why the hell would you bother what society thinks?"
I don’t - but I’d bother what my own family/friends etc think! I’ve not tested it yet - but I have a feeling they’d expect me to have a relationship with a guy pretty much my own age - if I ever have another relationship! Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thank you all for your comments. You are all intelligent people and have worked out it's me I'm talking about here. The situation I outline is a very real position. I have met someone very special of 20 yrs old. This is a spiritual coming together as well as physical. The cynics of course would say I'm too old for such a venture but as some have pointed out it's not age that counts its character. I fully intend to follow the course ive been set. But a hearty thanks to those who have endorsed the situation. "
Have you met her in real life or only chatted online?
I always assume there's some dark reason for the younger person to want an older one. Most of the time it's true.
I also know a few relationships with a 20 year age gap where they do love each other and age means nothing.
It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. However sometimes friends warn people of issues that are true. The older person thinks everyone is jealous, but later finds out the truth. Have fun in the meantime and enjoy it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Depends what sort of relationship you have in mind OP?
I suppose many of us would be suspicious about a partner type relationship questioning what each party is getting from the relationship? But each couple has to decide for themselves.
Just sex ... probably just a preference or experimentation. |
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