Do people look at you and then exclude you through their filters?
If someone looks at me, out of politeness I return that favour and try to say thanks. Their profile frequently says things like, "single men must have a face photo". And then in their preferences says "Not looking for single men". Why do they look in the first instance. Frustrating. |
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"Do people look at you and then exclude you through their filters?
If someone looks at me, out of politeness I return that favour and try to say thanks. Their profile frequently says things like, "single men must have a face photo". And then in their preferences says "Not looking for single men". Why do they look in the first instance. Frustrating."
Same happens to me mate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We find that people we have stated we are not interested in, repeatedly look.
We have also noted how people tend to hide their profiles after viewing us....as if to make sure we cannot see them.
Our philosophy....let them look, we have filters on, so, they cannot contact us.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that some use those filters to stop being deluged by "you looked at me, lets fuck" type messages. Looking means nothing. If they like what they see then they will message you!
If I was a girl looking for guys on here that is exactly what I would do! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is why I’m in stealth mode - fed up of just looking through random profiles when bored and then having them message me. 9 times out of 10 I’m literally just being nosey cause I’m bored, if I was interested in the person I’d message them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe they are looking for a man but have excluded them from their filters as they’re wanting to search profiles and select a man themselves, instead of having loads of men messaging them |
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"The thing is why would you want to message them? They looked at you, if they'd been interested they'd have sent a message  "
Lots of good advice coming through, so thanks for those explanations. Guess I'm just old school and I'm trying to be polite, often just to say "thanks, I'm flattered".
I do often just throw in a few comments if I see an interesting post on the forums. So, maybe I'm being as bad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What an odd thing to do. Why would you thank someone for looking at your profile. If they where interested they would message you"
Not necessarily. A lot of the woman I've spoken to won't message a guy first because they are concerned that they guy in question will think he is on to a "sure thing" because she messaged first. Of someone had viewed me a couple of times then i might send a message their way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People run their profiles in a way that suits them not anyone else. What others do on here has no bearing on anyone else so might as well not waste time overthinking why people do certain things, it's pointless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looking isn't a sign of interest.
Idle curiosity
Looking at the person behind forum comments
Don't sweat it, you can't stop them unless you block."
This I'm generally a very nosey person Im always looking at people I've no intention of even messaging profiles |
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"I dont think fab is the right place for people who are a bit sensitive
Fab is a place for everyone. "
Thanks for that Naughty Lola. I agree. Seem to have ruffled a few feathers cos I was trying to be polite. I'm not exactly a shrinking violet. Just curious why I excite interest from people who don't want single men. My profile can't say it any clearer. |
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"I dont think fab is the right place for people who are a bit sensitive
Fab is a place for everyone.
Thanks for that Naughty Lola. I agree. Seem to have ruffled a few feathers cos I was trying to be polite. I'm not exactly a shrinking violet. Just curious why I excite interest from people who don't want single men. My profile can't say it any clearer."
Tbf, I’m a nosy bugger and I look at many profiles I have no interest in. It will be mainly from a comment they made on the forums and will then make me intrigued. These people will usually be people I’m not particularly fond of. I have an inquisitive mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think thetes anything wrong with looking at people's photos etc after all that's what we are here for ( by the way nice pictures) and you cant get upset about every negative comment or lack of response |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is why some people have 'Not looking for single guys' on their profiles, or browse in Ninja mode - because people like you automatically assume that because they've looked at you they MUST be interested.
People loo at profiles for all sorts of reasons. They may like the look of a photo, but then checking out the profile they realise you're not for them.
As others have said, they may have looked at your profile because of a forum post.
The only way they will know if they're interested or not is by looking at your profile.
Think of it this way, if they WERE interested, they'd drop you a message
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By *_RiderMan
over a year ago
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Yeah I get the same OP. Either it's just idle curiosity or it's the female half having a little perv (or male), I prefer to think it's the former or it could be they've not taken notice of the "man" and realised the mistake once they look at your profile.
Just have to keep on scrolling mate. |
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"Do people look at you and then exclude you through their filters?
If someone looks at me, out of politeness I return that favour and try to say thanks. Their profile frequently says things like, "single men must have a face photo". And then in their preferences says "Not looking for single men". Why do they look in the first instance. Frustrating."
I envy you if this is all you have to worry about. |
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Thanks for all the comments. Ooops there I go again being polite. Threads gained from the exercise, 1) don't thank everyone that's looked - it might be considered creepy; 2) photos of me with lady's misconstrued as a couple - better than numerous cock pics  at least my opinion; 3) just go with the flow cos there are numerous reasons people look. Think it was a useful exercise. |
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