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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How would you ladies go about asking someone out? I habe loads of confidence on dating apps or when out but other than that I wouldn't know where to start  .
The guy in question is someone I work with. We both started around the same time. I know he is single from chatting while working. |
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I’m not a chick but I can give you a mans view.
Tactfully steer the next conversation you have with him towards food and if he divulges his favourite meal (you may need to prompt him a bit) then casually drop in that you cook a terrific “insert his food choice” and you’d love to cook it for him sometime.
Men love food, especially when cooked by hot women.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m not a chick but I can give you a mans view.
Tactfully steer the next conversation you have with him towards food and if he divulges his favourite meal (you may need to prompt him a bit) then casually drop in that you cook a terrific “insert his food choice” and you’d love to cook it for him sometime.
Men love food, especially when cooked by hot women.
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Men = Food. Got it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m not a chick but I can give you a mans view.
Tactfully steer the next conversation you have with him towards food and if he divulges his favourite meal (you may need to prompt him a bit) then casually drop in that you cook a terrific “insert his food choice” and you’d love to cook it for him sometime.
Men love food, especially when cooked by hot women.
Men = Food. Got it. "
My work here is done. |
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I'd not generally date someone from work but if I wanted to, I'd not probably term it a date, as I'd steer conversation towards us spending time together away from work. Once you are free of working constraints, it would then be about us getting to know each other, as this doesn't need to be a rigid process. Once you both gain more personal intimacy and understanding of each colour, I would then develop things towards us being romantic friends. Feel free to flirt. With the summer here, it opens tons of opportunities to get out. Walks, picnics etc can all lead on to doing far more things, potentially exploring your mutual interests.
Be sure that you are fully able to manage a relationship or it ending, if you are working with someone. As well as facing resistance from someone who may not perceive such relationships as appropriate. He may or may not be quick on the uptake, perhaps just seeing you ad friendly - so become affectionate and give him some come ons, so you get him to assess what his interests are |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'd not generally date someone from work but if I wanted to, I'd not probably term it a date, as I'd steer conversation towards us spending time together away from work. Once you are free of working constraints, it would then be about us getting to know each other, as this doesn't need to be a rigid process. Once you both gain more personal intimacy and understanding of each colour, I would then develop things towards us being romantic friends. Feel free to flirt. With the summer here, it opens tons of opportunities to get out. Walks, picnics etc can all lead on to doing far more things, potentially exploring your mutual interests.
Be sure that you are fully able to manage a relationship or it ending, if you are working with someone. As well as facing resistance from someone who may not perceive such relationships as appropriate. He may or may not be quick on the uptake, perhaps just seeing you ad friendly - so become affectionate and give him some come ons, so you get him to assess what his interests are"
Thanks for the advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't cook  
Ok just do us a cheese toastie then
I'd end up all weird and flustered and end up just bringing a sandwich to work for him "
That could actually work! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"He asked me out for a drink tonight. Granted there are few others going so won't read to much into it.
Well that’s a start, hope you have a great night  "
Nothing happened. I thought it might but at the end of the night he kissed me on the cheek before putting me into a taxi  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"He asked me out for a drink tonight. Granted there are few others going so won't read to much into it.
Well that’s a start, hope you have a great night
Nothing happened. I thought it might but at the end of the night he kissed me on the cheek before putting me into a taxi "
Maybe he didnt read the signals right and didnt want to push his luck |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
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"Maybe he didnt read the signals right and didnt want to push his luck "
A kiss on the cheek sounds promising to me, unless he's the type that gives them to everyone. I'm the absolute worst at reading signals - in his position I'd be terrified of even going that far.
Tell him you had a great night and would love to do it again. Smile at him while you say it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Maybe he didnt read the signals right and didnt want to push his luck
A kiss on the cheek sounds promising to me, unless he's the type that gives them to everyone. I'm the absolute worst at reading signals - in his position I'd be terrified of even going that far.
Tell him you had a great night and would love to do it again. Smile at him while you say it."
I'm terrible at reading signals myself so that doesn't help. He is working with me till the end I'd July so ideally I'd love to bed him before then  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just ask him...he'll either say yes or no.
I tried that yesterday. Well when I say tried I mean I was all pumped up to ask and then chickened out "
If you've just been paid, ask him whats hes doing after work, if he says nothing just say "we've just been paid, fancy getting something to eat?"
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
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"I tried that yesterday. Well when I say tried I mean I was all pumped up to ask and then chickened out "
I feel your pain! Been there so many times myself. Don't put it off too long. You have a deadline. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I tried that yesterday. Well when I say tried I mean I was all pumped up to ask and then chickened out
I feel your pain! Been there so many times myself. Don't put it off too long. You have a deadline."
I know |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
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"He didn't call it a date but it is dinner tomorrow. "
I don't care what he calls it. That's a date, and it's happening. That's fantastic! Enjoy it, and may it lead to much, much more... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"He finally asked me out  "
To be honest if a girl likes a guy the guy theres nothing hotter than a straight forward girl that just goes for it 
And to be fair judging by your profile and public pics he probably fancied u anyway xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"He finally asked me out
Congratulations I hope it goes well.
He didn't call it a date but it is dinner tomorrow. "
DJohn said - it doesn’t matter what he actually calls it, he knows it is a date.
From what you have said he sounds as though he is interested (a kiss of the cheek and making sure you got home safely in a taxi) but does not want to over step the mark.
Men are generally crap with signals so a quick kiss and lots of touching (hands and arms) will give him the clues that you are interested in more than just a meal.
Enjoy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In this situation it was always, do you fancy going for a drink? Second date meal. I was doing the asking but I would have said yes if the tables were turned. However I was usually pretty upfront if I found someone attractive back in the day. I’d be much more cautious these days as the social norms in organisations have changed. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like a happy ending.
Me too 
Let us know how it goes,I love a happy happy ending."
It went well. We didn't deal the deal. We are both off tomorrow so he text to see if I wanted to do something. |
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"I like a happy ending.
Me too
Let us know how it goes,I love a happy happy ending.
It went well. We didn't deal the deal. We are both off tomorrow so he text to see if I wanted to do something."
Well this certainly looks like it is moving in the right direction have a great time tomorrow |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like a happy ending.
Me too
Let us know how it goes,I love a happy happy ending.
It went well. We didn't deal the deal. We are both off tomorrow so he text to see if I wanted to do something."
Fingers crossed for you xoxo |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I like a happy ending.
Me too
Let us know how it goes,I love a happy happy ending.
It went well. We didn't deal the deal. We are both off tomorrow so he text to see if I wanted to do something.
Fingers crossed for you xoxo "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You could be simple and to the point and just say you fancy watching so and so movie. Is it something he'd want to see and if he said yes, suggest you go together and take it from there |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We finally done it
Lucky guy. So when do you break him into the world of FAB or do you think you will need to be all vanilla?
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Theres nothing vanilla about him between the sheets. I think I'll be greedy and keep him to myself for a little while. |
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"We finally done it
Lucky guy. So when do you break him into the world of FAB or do you think you will need to be all vanilla?
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Theres nothing vanilla about him between the sheets. I think I'll be greedy and keep him to myself for a little while."
Great news |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We finally done it
Lucky guy. So when do you break him into the world of FAB or do you think you will need to be all vanilla?
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Theres nothing vanilla about him between the sheets. I think I'll be greedy and keep him to myself for a little while.
Great news "
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