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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How strict are you when it comes to fab?
Is your profile a list of dos and don'ts?
Do you have a set criteria when it comes to meeting?
Do you ever stray from them?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I literally do have a list of dos and don’ts listed on my profile, but they’re more guidelines than actual rules. Cause there are always exceptions and all that.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Pretty much stick to my filters on fab, unless someone catches my eye from the forums outside my filters, then I'll message them.
In clubs it's a case of who catches my eye x"
I quite like when they do. There's been the odd person outside my age limits I've quite enjoyed sending a wee wink or message if I know they've been trying to get my attention and they're hot. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I literally do have a list of dos and don’ts listed on my profile, but they’re more guidelines than actual rules. Cause there are always exceptions and all that.
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Sometimes it's the ones who don't fit in who turn out to be most fun I think. |
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"Pretty much stick to my filters on fab, unless someone catches my eye from the forums outside my filters, then I'll message them.
In clubs it's a case of who catches my eye x
I quite like when they do. There's been the odd person outside my age limits I've quite enjoyed sending a wee wink or message if I know they've been trying to get my attention and they're hot. "
Me too. My filters are guidelines. Rules are meant to be broken and it's usually a nice surprise when they are x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My biggest rule.... don't abuse my trust.
We're kinda working out our rules/boundaries at the moment. As a fledgling couple it's gonna take time to truly discover each others and our own niggles/hard lines etc. At times it may come to trial and error... and when we get there we'll probably both find something that was a hard line back then isn't so much now, or vice versa.
I may bend on some stuff when it comes to the type of person (there's one I'm struggling with in my own head at the moment) but that will come down to the individual I think.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How strict are you when it comes to fab?
Is your profile a list of dos and don'ts?
Do you have a set criteria when it comes to meeting?
Do you ever stray from them?
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I try not to listen to the ‘fab etiquette ‘...... I am here to express myself, if you likey likey then great . If you don’t then....... what am I having for tea?
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I don’t have many rules apart from sensible ones around safety. Any rules I do have, age for example, can be and have been broken. It all depends on attraction and connection. I’m here for a good time not to paint by numbers. |
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"My biggest rule.... don't abuse my trust.
We're kinda working out our rules/boundaries at the moment. As a fledgling couple it's gonna take time to truly discover each others and our own niggles/hard lines etc. At times it may come to trial and error... and when we get there we'll probably both find something that was a hard line back then isn't so much now, or vice versa.
I may bend on some stuff when it comes to the type of person (there's one I'm struggling with in my own head at the moment) but that will come down to the individual I think.
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I had a good friend from a couple. They met both separately and together. They had just one rule - which was very easy to stick to - namely they only slept/spent the night with each other - never other meets! I’d agree with this I think. It’s not sexually restricting at all - but most would agree that it’s the act of actually sleeping with someone (and snuggling up and waking up for sleepy sex) that is the most intimate! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t have many rules apart from sensible ones around safety. Any rules I do have, age for example, can be and have been broken. It all depends on attraction and connection. I’m here for a good time not to paint by numbers. "
I shall put my crayons away then and I enjoy painting my numbers too lol |
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"How strict are you when it comes to fab?
Is your profile a list of dos and don'ts?
Do you have a set criteria when it comes to meeting?
Do you ever stray from them?
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I was advised by an experienced couple that a list of don'ts is a massive turn off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to make the rules up as I go along on fab. What I'm looking for has been known to change, so then I just update my profile accordingly. I know what I want when I see it!  |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I don’t have lists. The two things I mention are not sending me penis photos and crude/rude messages. Those are non negotiable and I won’t read or answer because I’ve politely asked people not to do it so they should respect my wishes and I’m pleased to say they do.
Other than that I don’t mind chatting |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"How strict are you when it comes to fab?
Is your profile a list of dos and don'ts?
Do you have a set criteria when it comes to meeting?
Do you ever stray from them?
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Rules only set limits and close doors. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ours are social meets first, safe sex, no anal and no kissing.
We know the no kissing on the lips is a turn off for most but then we’re not desperate to play.
We’re sure a suitable couple will come along at some point |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My one rule is don’t take a phone call from your ex when I’m penetrating your vagina with my erect penis, at least wait till I’ve disappointed you and then call him while I’m sobbing next to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How strict are you when it comes to fab?
Is your profile a list of dos and don'ts?
Do you have a set criteria when it comes to meeting?
Do you ever stray from them?
I was advised by an experienced couple that a list of don'ts is a massive turn off. "
It is. Negativity attracts negativity. |
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By *at1Man
over a year ago
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"I don’t have lists. The two things I mention are not sending me penis photos and crude/rude messages. Those are non negotiable and I won’t read or answer because I’ve politely asked people not to do it so they should respect my wishes and I’m pleased to say they do.
Other than that I don’t mind chatting "
I don't think you chat most time Babs, I tried chatting with you 8 months ago you ignored me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My biggest rule.... don't abuse my trust.
We're kinda working out our rules/boundaries at the moment. As a fledgling couple it's gonna take time to truly discover each others and our own niggles/hard lines etc. At times it may come to trial and error... and when we get there we'll probably both find something that was a hard line back then isn't so much now, or vice versa.
I may bend on some stuff when it comes to the type of person (there's one I'm struggling with in my own head at the moment) but that will come down to the individual I think.
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I had a good friend from a couple. They met both separately and together. They had just one rule - which was very easy to stick to - namely they only slept/spent the night with each other - never other meets! I’d agree with this I think. It’s not sexually restricting at all - but most would agree that it’s the act of actually sleeping with someone (and snuggling up and waking up for sleepy sex) that is the most intimate! X"
That's something I personally agree with.
The abuse of trust can come in many guises though, including the person they are meeting not respecting that or other rules and pushing for more. Maybe because they don't understand the dynamic, maybe because they really couldn't give a flying fuck about the dynamic and only care about what they can get, or maybe because they see it as a game of oneupmanship. When it's a fledgling couple some people seem to think it's ok to make comments like "well if they're trying to control who you meet they aren't proper swingers" or something similar, instead of respecting the newness, understanding they're working their own things out and giving them space, bringing their future into question almost before it's even begun.
Hey ho. Horses for courses and some people will always be vultures/predators.
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I find as a rule how people are represented on FAB can be quite different to how you'd find them in real life. I found this often to be the case with people I've run into in clubs who I've recognised from FAB. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The only rule I have is for me, and it's trust my instincts. They are probably a bit heightened on here but they havn't failed me yet. "
Which is, of course, a shame for many of us... |
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