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over a year ago
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Seriously how difficult is it these days.
I’m on about 3 different dating sites and draw attention of absolute nutters.
For example I’ve had some women messaging me every day for the past 3 months (I’ve never replied once) telling me how her day is, now she puts love you at the end and is on holiday asking for my address to send a postcard.
Is anyone on her on dating sites? How’s it been for you? Is it just me or is it Ddifficult to meet someone normal’ish? |
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over a year ago
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The first time I ever heard about swinging couples was from a lady who I met on a dating app.
She told me that she was searching for a man to join here and her husband. I just thought she was joking with me at the time lol, but no she was genuine. |
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Women online are hardwork most have a shit profile which tells you nothing about them, their interests or likes, then seemed surprised the convo doesn't pop or your questions are boring.
But yeah, with the instant nature of chat and messenger, things move incredibly faster and if your not messaging multiple times per day and planning a date within a week or so, you'll burn out as it were.
Bottom line yeah it's hard work. |
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"Women online are hardwork most have a shit profile which tells you nothing about them, their interests or likes, then seemed surprised the convo doesn't pop or your questions are boring.
But yeah, with the instant nature of chat and messenger, things move incredibly faster and if your not messaging multiple times per day and planning a date within a week or so, you'll burn out as it were.
Bottom line yeah it's hard work. "
Believe me, it's not just the women - most male profiles I've come across on dating apps have no info at all, just a photo of them doing a park run and a quote along the lines of 'ask me to find out more'.
Totally puts me off tbh - it just comes across as lazy, instant 'nope'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Women online are hardwork most have a shit profile which tells you nothing about them, their interests or likes, then seemed surprised the convo doesn't pop or your questions are boring.
But yeah, with the instant nature of chat and messenger, things move incredibly faster and if your not messaging multiple times per day and planning a date within a week or so, you'll burn out as it were.
Bottom line yeah it's hard work.
Believe me, it's not just the women - most male profiles I've come across on dating apps have no info at all, just a photo of them doing a park run and a quote along the lines of 'ask me to find out more'.
Totally puts me off tbh - it just comes across as lazy, instant 'nope'."
A lot of the men's profiles I have seen on a dating site, don't even have a picture of themselves but something else like a pet for example.
Since I put I am not interested in sex on my Cinder profile, men no longer reply to my messages either.
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I have tried them it’s hard work a lot of timewasters and liars but there again there are plenty of them on fab too. Indeed many men on fab can also be seen on POF and tinder. I thought that by the law of averages there must be some decent guys but trouble is I seem to always pick the tossers  |
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"Seriously how difficult is it these days.
I’m on about 3 different dating sites and draw attention of absolute nutters.
For example I’ve had some women messaging me every day for the past 3 months (I’ve never replied once) telling me how her day is, now she puts love you at the end and is on holiday asking for my address to send a postcard.
Is anyone on her on dating sites? How’s it been for you? Is it just me or is it Ddifficult to meet someone normal’ish?"
Sorry but that did make me laugh.
I was one one a few years back. Men kept sending me pictures of themselves holding big fish. What the hell is that about!!
Give me a dick pic any day   |
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I was on the site with two O's in its name a few years ago. I actually met two ladies. One turned out to be a gold digger,so that didn't last very long. The other I still keep in touch with & see from time to time & has become a good friend. |
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Mine says "looking for relaxed fun and friendship not looking to be owned or own, freedom and liberal outlook on life are important to me"
Nice clearly stated intent and I meet some really lovely people, there's the occasional lost soul but to be honest, I have more meets through that than here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mine says "looking for relaxed fun and friendship not looking to be owned or own, freedom and liberal outlook on life are important to me"
Nice clearly stated intent and I meet some really lovely people, there's the occasional lost soul but to be honest, I have more meets through that than here. "
So you're still looking for sex on a dating site? |
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"Mine says "looking for relaxed fun and friendship not looking to be owned or own, freedom and liberal outlook on life are important to me"
Nice clearly stated intent and I meet some really lovely people, there's the occasional lost soul but to be honest, I have more meets through that than here.
So you're still looking for sex on a dating site?"
I am indeed and I have no problem with that as so are many women, that aren't aware of sites like fab or feel uncomfortable using them. People have a choice to swipe left or right, I think my profile is clear? . You may be surprised at the number of ladies posting "no commitment" nsa" in their profile xx |
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I’ve had some fun and a few disasters from dating sites over last few years.
One stalker and had to involve the police. Some amazing sex. Loads of ‘chats’ that end up going nowhere as I suspect many just want a pen pal.
If you ‘click’ on a first date then sex is pretty much assured on a second. Trouble is it can all get pretty serious very quickly- I’m talking mid to late 50’s age range. While I like to date and of course enjoy great sex, I’m not looking for an exclusive relationship. Or perhaps I am but just haven’t found ‘the one’.
Anyway, it then gets all rather difficult when they mention the ‘L’ word .
Better sticking to Fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know someone who got rejected after going on a couple of dates, as she didn’t like peppers in her food. He couldn’t cope with that and had a go about it. Most odd. I did tell her, maybe that’s why he’s single still. |
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"Seriously how difficult is it these days.
I’m on about 3 different dating sites and draw attention of absolute nutters.
For example I’ve had some women messaging me every day for the past 3 months (I’ve never replied once) telling me how her day is, now she puts love you at the end and is on holiday asking for my address to send a postcard.
Is anyone on her on dating sites? How’s it been for you? Is it just me or is it Ddifficult to meet someone normal’ish?
Sorry but that did make me laugh.
I was one one a few years back. Men kept sending me pictures of themselves holding big fish. What the hell is that about!!
Give me a dick pic any day "
I'd take the dick pic over the fish. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My general experience on dating sites is swiping a lot, and only really getting messages from sock accounts trying to get signups to shady "fuck tonight" sites. At best I might get a small conversation out of someone, which ends when they stop replying. I've been told by friends who have come across my profile that nothing seems wrong with what I put. I also accidentally sent a message to someone I knew because their only photo was of their eye, and they said that my message was great, totally respectful and nothing like what guys usually send, and she couldn't understand why I never get any interest |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I use dating sites on and off. I go between them and here. Most are on here also. The last two guys I met for dates were from dating sites but have a profile on here too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Women online are hardwork most have a shit profile which tells you nothing about them, their interests or likes, then seemed surprised the convo doesn't pop or your questions are boring.
But yeah, with the instant nature of chat and messenger, things move incredibly faster and if your not messaging multiple times per day and planning a date within a week or so, you'll burn out as it were.
Bottom line yeah it's hard work.
Believe me, it's not just the women - most male profiles I've come across on dating apps have no info at all, just a photo of them doing a park run and a quote along the lines of 'ask me to find out more'.
Totally puts me off tbh - it just comes across as lazy, instant 'nope'.
A lot of the men's profiles I have seen on a dating site, don't even have a picture of themselves but something else like a pet for example.
Since I put I am not interested in sex on my Cinder profile, men no longer reply to my messages either.
(Hev)
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Why would you use a dating site for no sex, if you are already in a relationship |
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I'm on the dating sites.. And its an absolute nightmare.. There's as much NSA on those as here. At least here you can be open about your sexulity. I have altered my profile on here more to indicate what I'm looking for ie dating... I've been told this is the wrong site for me... But I don't see why? I think you just have to take them all with a sack of salt and if your going to meet someone you will and if not you won't. You can't force it.  |
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My friend's trying online dating & is so disallusioned by it, more like a hook up situation which she doesn't want. There's too much choice so all very disposable when something "more shiny" comes along.
I'm supposed to be accompanying her to a speed dating event next Saturday - wish me luck!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm on the dating sites.. And its an absolute nightmare.. There's as much NSA on those as here. At least here you can be open about your sexulity. I have altered my profile on here more to indicate what I'm looking for ie dating... I've been told this is the wrong site for me... But I don't see why? I think you just have to take them all with a sack of salt and if your going to meet someone you will and if not you won't. You can't force it. "
I’m the same as you. It’s bloody hard isn’t it? |
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"I'm on the dating sites.. And its an absolute nightmare.. There's as much NSA on those as here. At least here you can be open about your sexulity. I have altered my profile on here more to indicate what I'm looking for ie dating... I've been told this is the wrong site for me... But I don't see why? I think you just have to take them all with a sack of salt and if your going to meet someone you will and if not you won't. You can't force it.
I’m the same as you. It’s bloody hard isn’t it? "
It really is... I just tend to laugh it off now.. But at times its a bit grrrrr hahaha and I don't bother looking at all. I'm lucky that I'm quite happy with my life, but NSA just doesn't do it for me and I would love to just "date", not talking marriage and I think I keep repeating myself on these threads but just someone to go out with and have fun as well as loads of the mind blowing sex. You'd think it was something really unusual the amount of luck I've had  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm on the dating sites.. And its an absolute nightmare.. There's as much NSA on those as here. At least here you can be open about your sexulity. I have altered my profile on here more to indicate what I'm looking for ie dating... I've been told this is the wrong site for me... But I don't see why? I think you just have to take them all with a sack of salt and if your going to meet someone you will and if not you won't. You can't force it.
I’m the same as you. It’s bloody hard isn’t it?
It really is... I just tend to laugh it off now.. But at times its a bit grrrrr hahaha and I don't bother looking at all. I'm lucky that I'm quite happy with my life, but NSA just doesn't do it for me and I would love to just "date", not talking marriage and I think I keep repeating myself on these threads but just someone to go out with and have fun as well as loads of the mind blowing sex. You'd think it was something really unusual the amount of luck I've had "
I do go on dates between here and elsewhere but I only like much younger men and many want kids and I don’t. It’s also hard as I love music and gigs, stylish guys, kinky ones and love to swing with a panther. Finding all those things in one guy is proving hard. The ones I like also don’t want to swing in a relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I met someone from the fish app back in January and later that night she phoned me and asked me to move in with her then she got d*unk and called me again to tell me that she was the best whore around |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I gave up after too many women with a blood fetish approached me.
Apparently women want to hurt me in some way or another. "
Which site were you looking on hatter? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I gave up after too many women with a blood fetish approached me.
Apparently women want to hurt me in some way or another.
Which site were you looking on hatter? "
It was okcupid. I thought I'd be safe.
Then on here someone said I was so pretty she wanted to hurt me.
I fear for my safety. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I gave up after too many women with a blood fetish approached me.
Apparently women want to hurt me in some way or another.
Which site were you looking on hatter?
It was okcupid. I thought I'd be safe.
Then on here someone said I was so pretty she wanted to hurt me.
I fear for my safety. "
That’s awful. I’ve never encountered any nutters so I’ve been lucky but I’ve heard stories. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I gave up after too many women with a blood fetish approached me.
Apparently women want to hurt me in some way or another.
Which site were you looking on hatter?
It was okcupid. I thought I'd be safe.
Then on here someone said I was so pretty she wanted to hurt me.
I fear for my safety.
That’s awful. I’ve never encountered any nutters so I’ve been lucky but I’ve heard stories. "
In fairness the one from Fab was said in a jokey way. I don't think she really wants to hurt me. I hope not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I gave up after too many women with a blood fetish approached me.
Apparently women want to hurt me in some way or another.
Which site were you looking on hatter?
It was okcupid. I thought I'd be safe.
Then on here someone said I was so pretty she wanted to hurt me.
I fear for my safety.
That’s awful. I’ve never encountered any nutters so I’ve been lucky but I’ve heard stories.
In fairness the one from Fab was said in a jokey way. I don't think she really wants to hurt me. I hope not. "
I would like to think it wasn’t a serious threat. That would be worrying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’m on and off dating sites. They are just the same as here as in everybody just wants NSA anyways. Least here people more honest about their intentions. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m on and off dating sites. They are just the same as here as in everybody just wants NSA anyways. Least here people more honest about their intentions."
I’m not
Looking for nsa what makes it more annoying |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m on and off dating sites. They are just the same as here as in everybody just wants NSA anyways. Least here people more honest about their intentions.
I’m not
Looking for nsa what makes it more annoying "
Same with me. I don’t want nsa but I don’t want a conventional relationship either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seriously how difficult is it these days.
I’m on about 3 different dating sites and draw attention of absolute nutters.
For example I’ve had some women messaging me every day for the past 3 months (I’ve never replied once) telling me how her day is, now she puts love you at the end and is on holiday asking for my address to send a postcard.
Is anyone on her on dating sites? How’s it been for you? Is it just me or is it Ddifficult to meet someone normal’ish?"
I met my current fella online but we took it offline very quickly and he deleted his profile quickly too ... Apparently he had some similar experiences to you, but apparently, I'm pretty "normal" (but exceptionally naughty ... as is he!!!  ) |
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"Seriously how difficult is it these days.
I’m on about 3 different dating sites and draw attention of absolute nutters.
For example I’ve had some women messaging me every day for the past 3 months (I’ve never replied once) telling me how her day is, now she puts love you at the end and is on holiday asking for my address to send a postcard.
Is anyone on her on dating sites? How’s it been for you? Is it just me or is it Ddifficult to meet someone normal’ish?
I met my current fella online but we took it offline very quickly and he deleted his profile quickly too ... Apparently he had some similar experiences to you, but apparently, I'm pretty "normal" (but exceptionally naughty ... as is he!!! ) "
Normal but exceptionally naughty - a perfect combination. I want! |
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"I’m on and off dating sites. They are just the same as here as in everybody just wants NSA anyways. Least here people more honest about their intentions.
I’m not
Looking for nsa what makes it more annoying
Same with me. I don’t want nsa but I don’t want a conventional relationship either. "
Me three xx |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I was on a couple, still on pof. But I much prefer here. Straight to the point and I have plenty of meets.
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Getting meets isn't the issue I'm sure most of us could arrange one aday if we wished. It's the more than just sex with any longevity now that's a different matter. |
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"I’m on and off dating sites. They are just the same as here as in everybody just wants NSA anyways. Least here people more honest about their intentions.
I’m not
Looking for nsa what makes it more annoying
Same with me. I don’t want nsa but I don’t want a conventional relationship either.
Me three xx"
Me four xx |
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Have found dating site to be a draining experience really. Met a lot of nice people but there’s so many fake profiles and so many people who don’t know what they actually want. 
Think it’s harder than ever to meet people nowadays, no matter what it is you are looking for.
Me, I’d be delighted to meet someone for lots of laughs, days and nights out, good conversation and lots of fun too.
Don’t think I’m asking too much or maybe I am.  |
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"I’m on and off dating sites. They are just the same as here as in everybody just wants NSA anyways. Least here people more honest about their intentions.
I’m not
Looking for nsa what makes it more annoying
Same with me. I don’t want nsa but I don’t want a conventional relationship either.
Me three xx"
I’m looking for the same things as you snowwhite but it’s a very difficult thing to find unfortunately. x |
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"I’m on and off dating sites. They are just the same as here as in everybody just wants NSA anyways. Least here people more honest about their intentions.
I’m not
Looking for nsa what makes it more annoying
Same with me. I don’t want nsa but I don’t want a conventional relationship either.
Me three xx
I’m looking for the same things as you snowwhite but it’s a very difficult thing to find unfortunately. x"
Yes it is... But hey I always think its better to wait for the right person then settle for average |
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"I was on a couple, still on pof. But I much prefer here. Straight to the point and I have plenty of meets.
Getting meets isn't the issue I'm sure most of us could arrange one aday if we wished. It's the more than just sex with any longevity now that's a different matter."
Yes and meeting someone who is "emotionally available" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seriously how difficult is it these days.
I’m on about 3 different dating sites and draw attention of absolute nutters.
For example I’ve had some women messaging me every day for the past 3 months (I’ve never replied once) telling me how her day is, now she puts love you at the end and is on holiday asking for my address to send a postcard.
Is anyone on her on dating sites? How’s it been for you? Is it just me or is it Ddifficult to meet someone normal’ish?"
Sorry... I'll not message you again.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I dont think dating sites and the like work like they are meant to anymore. I have no idea how I would go about dating to be honest, it would feel odd not to be stripped naked in a room within the hour; but have to talk over dinner or something |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Seriously how difficult is it these days.
I’m on about 3 different dating sites and draw attention of absolute nutters.
For example I’ve had some women messaging me every day for the past 3 months (I’ve never replied once) telling me how her day is, now she puts love you at the end and is on holiday asking for my address to send a postcard.
Is anyone on her on dating sites? How’s it been for you? Is it just me or is it Ddifficult to meet someone normal’ish?
Sorry... I'll not message you again.. "
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I was on a couple, still on pof. But I much prefer here. Straight to the point and I have plenty of meets.
Getting meets isn't the issue I'm sure most of us could arrange one aday if we wished. It's the more than just sex with any longevity now that's a different matter.
Yes and meeting someone who is "emotionally available" "
yep and that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab confuses me enough without dating sites. The idea of dating just seems that little bit scary, I might have to string full sentences together, read menus, order wine and talk.
All that multi-tasking, way to complicated 
It would almost be easier to find a fwb, ......
Wouldn't it? |
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"I was on a couple, still on pof. But I much prefer here. Straight to the point and I have plenty of meets.
Getting meets isn't the issue I'm sure most of us could arrange one aday if we wished. It's the more than just sex with any longevity now that's a different matter."
Speak for yourself, I haven't managed to arrange a meet since 2013. |
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