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Whats biggest change in your life
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"I was married for 25 years then my husband died." Sorry to hear that x | |||
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"Meeting someone who just 'gets me' and for some bizarre reason finds the things about me that annoy others adorable, and doesn't just finish my sentences, but starts them with me. I'll let you all go now.... "  | |||
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"I was married for 25 years then my husband died. Sorry to hear that x" Thank you. He gave me the gift of four wonderful children. | |||
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"Losing my Mum from lung cancer then 9 days later Dad dying on the day of my Mums funeral (Ali) most difficult and heartbreaking year of my life "So sad. Must have been such a difficult time for you. | |||
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"Losing my Mum from lung cancer then 9 days later Dad dying on the day of my Mums funeral (Ali) most difficult and heartbreaking year of my life
So sad. Must have been such a difficult time for you. "It was my Dad had been battling bone cancer and renal problems for years and was in hospital so didn't get to my mums funeral. When we went in to see him to say it had gone well and a lot of friends had turned up etc. he told me and my sisters he was ready to go with her and 4 hours later he was dead | |||
"Has to be having my son, life changed completely, but I wouldn’t be without him. Followed by the day I walked out on his father leaving everything behind except our clothes and the lads things. " Good for you although it must have been really tough at the time.., | |||
"Has to be having my son, life changed completely, but I wouldn’t be without him. Followed by the day I walked out on his father leaving everything behind except our clothes and the lads things. "  | |||
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"Losing my Mum from lung cancer then 9 days later Dad dying on the day of my Mums funeral (Ali) most difficult and heartbreaking year of my life
So sad. Must have been such a difficult time for you. It was my Dad had been battling bone cancer and renal problems for years and was in hospital so didn't get to my mums funeral. When we went in to see him to say it had gone well and a lot of friends had turned up etc. he told me and my sisters he was ready to go with her and 4 hours later he was dead "Oh my so sad, I just can’t imagine how you felt. Hugs | |||
"Realising one day that I’m totally alone in a foreign country with a husband I no longer have the slightest interest in. Trying to find a new job in a new place and start from complete scratch is proving to be harder than I thought." | |||
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"Realising one day that I’m totally alone in a foreign country with a husband I no longer have the slightest interest in. Trying to find a new job in a new place and start from complete scratch is proving to be harder than I thought." That must be really difficult, I hope it gets easier for you soon, x | |||
"Realising one day that I’m totally alone in a foreign country with a husband I no longer have the slightest interest in. Trying to find a new job in a new place and start from complete scratch is proving to be harder than I thought." You’ll get through it. The best is yet to come! | |||
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"Realising one day that I’m totally alone in a foreign country with a husband I no longer have the slightest interest in. Trying to find a new job in a new place and start from complete scratch is proving to be harder than I thought." It is tough, but just one day at a time, it will get better | |||
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"Has to be having my son, life changed completely, but I wouldn’t be without him. Followed by the day I walked out on his father leaving everything behind except our clothes and the lads things. Good for you although it must have been really tough at the time..," Actually the leaving was so easy as been living a lie so long. The tough part was telling my 6 year old at the time. However in his true “let’s get on with it style” when I took him to the new place to show him where we were moving to the next day the tears started. A couple of minutes later I asked if he wanted to talk, his response “you can’t cook omelettes and daddy can’t cook pasta” that’s when I knew we would be ok 
My ex wasn’t there when I told the lad as he decided he didn’t want any part of it. We were out for 8 hours and not one message to see how the lad was coping with the news. When we walked back into the shared house that night the lad turned to his dad and said “I’m moving to a new place with mum and you ain’t coming” and off to bed he trotted.
The lad has made the last four years a lot easier than I thought they’d be.
The ex is a pr*t and some of his decisions are very questionable, but give him his dues he’s a good dad to the lad and when I’ve been ill this last year he’s stepped up and helped out no questions asked.
Our priority is the lad and his wellbeing and he’s realised that at last, now he’s not thinking with his lower Male brain | |||
"I had a fair few but my ex wife expectantly leaving me and running of with her step cousin was the biggest. I loved her and it totally came out the blue. My life, future and perception of the world crashing down around me. Things got even worse for my mental state when I started digging and realised how emotionally and mentality manipulative she had been for years and so many other lie. I really didnt know what was real anymore. Put me in darkest place I'd ever been. And to top it off I found myself suddenly on my own to raise a 4 year old and a 6 month old baby while also in the middle of buying a house and moving. That was the biggest and hardest upheaval in my life. I was truly broken for a point, I think it was having the kids to raise that saved me." Your ex left her babies behind? Does she still ask to see them at all | |||
"Losing my baby son. Ripped me apart. Then divorce after 25yrs marriage. The upside is that I'm slowly realising how abusive that marriage was. "  | |||
"Too many to put in an open forum I think the adversities we face are there for a reason " Agree and shape who we are | |||
"Having heart failure around the same time as my sister died from cancer. " Can’t even imagine and sorry just doesn’t cut it does it?. My heart goes outs to you although yours is clearly working fine now. Survivor | |||
"Too many to put in an open forum I think the adversities we face are there for a reason " Funny how it’s easier sometimes to confess to a bunch of sex crazy fuckers though | |||
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"Too many to put in an open forum I think the adversities we face are there for a reason Funny how it’s easier sometimes to confess to a bunch of sex crazy fuckers though " | |||
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"Meeting trim changed my life forever in the best possible way. Can't even begin to explain what an incredible impact he's had on me. I was lost with no one to guide me, through being with him and his influences I am the best version of myself." Beautiful and so happy for the both of you. But don’t forget what you’ve done for him too... ?? | |||
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"Learning to drive and passing my test 6 months ago at age 53 has had a huge impact on mine and my sons life and has opened up so many new possibilities "I love this | |||
"Meeting trim changed my life forever in the best possible way. Can't even begin to explain what an incredible impact he's had on me. I was lost with no one to guide me, through being with him and his influences I am the best version of myself. Beautiful and so happy for the both of you. But don’t forget what you’ve done for him too... ??" I don't, we complete each other in the best possible way. | |||
"Learning to drive and passing my test 6 months ago at age 53 has had a huge impact on mine and my sons life and has opened up so many new possibilities "Love this, still hope for me yet | |||
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"Losing my baby son. Ripped me apart. Then divorce after 25yrs marriage. The upside is that I'm slowly realising how abusive that marriage was. " So sorry to hear this, my grandson passed away at 24 days old. Never felt a pain like it x | |||
"I married my childhood sweetheart, had to have IVF as couldn't conceive. I became pregnant with twins but by then my husband had changed. He turned to drink and gambling. I miscarried the babies alone whilst he was at the casino with his mates. After that, he was always angry but we tried to move on. However, one night he decided to take his frustration out on me big style and broke my arm in two places, as well as other injuries. This was a few days before I was due to go for England netball trials. He had turned into a monster. I divorced him and gave up a very comfortable life as his parents were millionaires and we too were very well off. It was a very dark time for me and I felt embarrassed that I had been a victim of domestic abuse. He died recently of throat cancer from the boozing and fags. He left behind a son and a second ex wife. " Hope you don't feel embarrassed anymore. It was his fault, not yours. X | |||
"So much heartache here that it touches the heart and the soul. We never know whats happening behind a persons bubbly facade unless we look deeper than normal. This maybe misconstrued, hopefully not, but I am a believer, certainly in my case, that everything happens for a reason and that as much as we have uphill struggles those uphills do, in time, level out and life improves. For me, i lost my sanity as well as my relationship and material things, and if not for friends, almost my life twice. But as much as it was a breakdown it was a breakthrough as I learned the truth of my childhood terrors through flashbacks, I learned the reasons for my raging at the world and over time was able to rebuild, to accept who I am, how different I am to the world in general, but more than anything I learned about hugs, about love and about what life should be.. Be open, have understanding, empathy, don t judge or follow others rules or opinions.. I wish with all my heart that you all find a sanctuary, a place where your heart, soul and mind find happiness.. Stay strong people xx" | |||
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"I had a fair few but my ex wife expectantly leaving me and running of with her step cousin was the biggest. I loved her and it totally came out the blue. My life, future and perception of the world crashing down around me. Things got even worse for my mental state when I started digging and realised how emotionally and mentality manipulative she had been for years and so many other lie. I really didnt know what was real anymore. Put me in darkest place I'd ever been. And to top it off I found myself suddenly on my own to raise a 4 year old and a 6 month old baby while also in the middle of buying a house and moving. That was the biggest and hardest upheaval in my life. I was truly broken for a point, I think it was having the kids to raise that saved me. Your ex left her babies behind? Does she still ask to see them at all "No to be fair to her she is around a fair bit for the kids considering she lives 2 hours drive away. She has them every couple of weekends and about half of the time in the school holidays. Also now she rings them every few days. I try a keep her in touch and involved with as much of their life's as possible. She's not a monster, just a bit messed up. We actually have quite a good and working parenting realtionship considering the history and distance. She is still there mum and all I want is to help facilitate that relationship between her and kids. | |||
"I had a fair few but my ex wife expectantly leaving me and running of with her step cousin was the biggest. I loved her and it totally came out the blue. My life, future and perception of the world crashing down around me. Things got even worse for my mental state when I started digging and realised how emotionally and mentality manipulative she had been for years and so many other lie. I really didnt know what was real anymore. Put me in darkest place I'd ever been. And to top it off I found myself suddenly on my own to raise a 4 year old and a 6 month old baby while also in the middle of buying a house and moving. That was the biggest and hardest upheaval in my life. I was truly broken for a point, I think it was having the kids to raise that saved me. Your ex left her babies behind? Does she still ask to see them at all
No to be fair to her she is around a fair bit for the kids considering she lives 2 hours drive away. She has them every couple of weekends and about half of the time in the school holidays. Also now she rings them every few days. I try a keep her in touch and involved with as much of their life's as possible. She's not a monster, just a bit messed up. We actually have quite a good and working parenting realtionship considering the history and distance. She is still there mum and all I want is to help facilitate that relationship between her and kids."Thankyou for answering that was a really nosy question of me, sorry. Glad she is still there for you and them though. Xx | |||
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"I'd say the biggest change in my life was having a baby. I don't think anything prpares you for how that feels and how it changes your life. I would say losing my dad too last year. It makes the world a different place and I haven't felt the same since he passed. It's a big change adjusting to life without him. I'm glad to hear OP that you're comfortable with who you are and it sounds like your life has changed for the better now you can happily be yourself. "Thank you, still has its ups n downs but lifes sure better | |||
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"Mines gotta be that I am openly bi, have been for couple of years now and am comfortable enough for people around me to know and with that came a gf that loves who I am including my loce of nylons etc and she loces that now I will pamper myself, shaving and staying smooth etc.. Two years prior I was still the hard fronted, disciplined ex squaddie.. Massive changes for me but my demeanour has changed, no hidden secrets means I can live my life the way I want and need to, as a result no longer angry inside "Health scare just as I join Fab! I want the all clear so I can play. Then It will be Armageddon ?? | |||
