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By *inakiss64 OP Woman
over a year ago
Near St Albans |
It is my choice not to fancy having sex with black or Asian men or women, I just don't find them attractive, it clearly says on my profile but I get called a racist If I don't want to, is that fair? Or are they entitled to use the race card if they don't get what they want, what do you think?  |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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"It is my choice not to fancy having sex with black or Asian men or women, I just don't find them attractive, it clearly says on my profile but I get called a racist If I don't want to, is that fair? Or are they entitled to use the race card if they don't get what they want, what do you think? "
Just ignore them, your profile, your preferences. Those who use the race card because you won't meet them are just petty minded idiots who are showing themselves for what they are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think putting it on your profile is like waving a red rag at a bull...
People are bound to question it and try to change your mind...
If you don't want the hassle just remove the paragraph |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"I think putting it on your profile is like waving a red rag at a bull...
People are bound to question it and try to change your mind...
If you don't want the hassle just remove the paragraph "
Thats my thoughts too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think putting it on your profile is like waving a red rag at a bull...
People are bound to question it and try to change your mind...
If you don't want the hassle just remove the paragraph "
Was just away to type that.
It’s all good having pretences though! |
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"I think putting it on your profile is like waving a red rag at a bull...
People are bound to question it and try to change your mind...
If you don't want the hassle just remove the paragraph "
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree with the other ladies..it's fine to have preferences and certainly not racist but to state it is asking for trouble. Just remove it and turn down politely anyone who isn't for you, same as you would with anyone.
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By *inakiss64 OP Woman
over a year ago
Near St Albans |
"I think putting it on your profile is like waving a red rag at a bull...
People are bound to question it and try to change your mind...
If you don't want the hassle just remove the paragraph "
if I do that then get Evan more unwanted messages, at least I explain what I don't want |
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"I think putting it on your profile is like waving a red rag at a bull...
People are bound to question it and try to change your mind...
If you don't want the hassle just remove the paragraph if I do that then get Evan more unwanted messages, at least I explain what I don't want"
But you're getting unwanted messages accusing you of being racist ... agreed.. it's a tricky one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's every bit, your right to have preferences.
But as other people have said.
It can be a red rag to a bull.
I would remove the paragraph.
Is just easier to delete and block people surely. Rather than put up with endless challenges, and/or abuse
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think putting it on your profile is like waving a red rag at a bull...
People are bound to question it and try to change your mind...
If you don't want the hassle just remove the paragraph if I do that then get Evan more unwanted messages, at least I explain what I don't want"
You don't have to open them, or reply to them.
Rather than saying what you don't want and piss people off it may be better to say "I'm looking for white guys"
Simply phrasing it a different, more respectful way can make a world of difference
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think putting it on your profile is like waving a red rag at a bull...
People are bound to question it and try to change your mind...
If you don't want the hassle just remove the paragraph if I do that then get Evan more unwanted messages, at least I explain what I don't want"
Try blocking men then and contact the ones that interst you...
But then of course you would have nothing to complain about.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is my choice not to fancy having sex with black or Asian men or women, I just don't find them attractive, it clearly says on my profile but I get called a racist If I don't want to, is that fair? Or are they entitled to use the race card if they don't get what they want, what do you think? "
Any woman who doesn’t sleep with me is a lesbian!
Ridiculous isn’t it OP, just block and delete them |
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By *inakiss64 OP Woman
over a year ago
Near St Albans |
"I think putting it on your profile is like waving a red rag at a bull...
People are bound to question it and try to change your mind...
If you don't want the hassle just remove the paragraph if I do that then get Evan more unwanted messages, at least I explain what I don't want
Try blocking men then and contact the ones that interst you...
But then of course you would have nothing to complain about.."
Its not a complaint, I'm simply asking is it my choice to put what I don't like as to many on here do on their profiles |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a similar situation to having don't meet bi sexual men on profiles i guess. There are some Fab members who think we should all fuck all groups ethnic or sexual. No it is not fair to call you racist because it's vastly different not wanting to have sex with a minority group than being against that group in real life.
It's usually members from minority groups who play the various race, homophobic cards.
We all have choice of who we find attractive.x |
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"I think putting it on your profile is like waving a red rag at a bull...
People are bound to question it and try to change your mind...
If you don't want the hassle just remove the paragraph if I do that then get Evan more unwanted messages, at least I explain what I don't want
Try blocking men then and contact the ones that interst you...
But then of course you would have nothing to complain about.. Its not a complaint, I'm simply asking is it my choice to put what I don't like as to many on here do on their profiles"
I think we get the message love |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think putting it on your profile is like waving a red rag at a bull...
People are bound to question it and try to change your mind...
If you don't want the hassle just remove the paragraph if I do that then get Evan more unwanted messages, at least I explain what I don't want
Try blocking men then and contact the ones that interst you...
But then of course you would have nothing to complain about.. Its not a complaint, I'm simply asking is it my choice to put what I don't like as to many on here do on their profiles"
Ok you are clearly having problems dealing with those who see that paragraph as a target perhaps... if it was me i would not put it in there but seeing as you are asking then my advice would be to remove it |
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By *_RiderMan
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
"It is my choice not to fancy having sex with black or Asian men or women, I just don't find them attractive, it clearly says on my profile but I get called a racist If I don't want to, is that fair? Or are they entitled to use the race card if they don't get what they want, what do you think? "
No it's not fair. It's your personal choice. No different to ladies who only want BBC. That's not racist to white guys, so neither should your personal choice be. They are the ignorant ones by not respecting your choice, just like we all have to respect each other's. |
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By *_RiderMan
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
"It is my choice not to fancy having sex with black or Asian men or women, I just don't find them attractive, it clearly says on my profile but I get called a racist If I don't want to, is that fair? Or are they entitled to use the race card if they don't get what they want, what do you think?
Just ignore them, your profile, your preferences. Those who use the race card because you won't meet them are just petty minded idiots who are showing themselves for what they are."
exactly that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s not racist but agree not to mention it especially if you don’t list all the other things you’re not interested in.
Thankfully i don’t get messages accusing me of being homophobic because I refuse to meet men.
It seems some people’s minds are as small as their little dicks  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is my choice not to fancy having sex with black or Asian men or women, I just don't find them attractive, it clearly says on my profile but I get called a racist If I don't want to, is that fair? Or are they entitled to use the race card if they don't get what they want, what do you think?
No it's not fair. It's your personal choice. No different to ladies who only want BBC. That's not racist to white guys, so neither should your personal choice be. They are the ignorant ones by not respecting your choice, just like we all have to respect each other's."
Absolutely agree, the difference in this case being, ladies looking for BBC will write on their profiles "looking for BBC" rather than "not looking for white cock, Asian cock bla bla bla"
If you state what you're looking for rather than what you aren't looking for it seems like less of an attack if that makes sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They can simply read profile and move on, does not mean they are entitled to shout out racist every time they read someone's preferences that they don't like"
That's the game love.
As much as you decided that it was fair to write down your racial sexual preference... Other think it is fair to say that you are a racist.
Who is right or wrong, I couldn't give a shit. But at least realised that if you do something that may exclude an entire race and offend them.... Expect some backlash.
Simple as that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its definitely your choice, but perhaps remove it from your profile less hassle. It's not racist at all it your preference. Just delete any messages you receive from them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think putting it on your profile is like waving a red rag at a bull...
People are bound to question it and try to change your mind...
If you don't want the hassle just remove the paragraph if I do that then get Evan more unwanted messages, at least I explain what I don't want
You don't have to open them, or reply to them.
Rather than saying what you don't want and piss people off it may be better to say "I'm looking for white guys"
Simply phrasing it a different, more respectful way can make a world of difference
P"
Agreed. I really don’t get why people have to put negative things on a profile. Just it out in the message stage. Much more respectful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They can simply read profile and move on, does not mean they are entitled to shout out racist every time they read someone's preferences that they don't like
Yes we do get it... We honestly do! "
You're not very helpful lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They can simply read profile and move on, does not mean they are entitled to shout out racist every time they read someone's preferences that they don't like"
It just sounds negative and not nice. I understand preferences but there is a way to do it. If I came across a guys profile and he said the same thing you have put, he wouldn’t be the kind of person I would want to know. Not because of his preferences but the way he openly put it on his profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think putting it on your profile is like waving a red rag at a bull...
People are bound to question it and try to change your mind...
If you don't want the hassle just remove the paragraph if I do that then get Evan more unwanted messages, at least I explain what I don't want
Try blocking men then and contact the ones that interst you...
But then of course you would have nothing to complain about.. Its not a complaint, I'm simply asking is it my choice to put what I don't like as to many on here do on their profiles"
You already know the answer to that. Of course it is your right to put your preferences on your profile. Just be aware that some may get their back up about it and attenpt to confront you. You dont have to open the message though. Just delete then block. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your choice reminds me a bit of the German shops' choices to put a sign outside their shop saying 'no jews'.
You don't want to have sex with people you aren't attracted to - that's totally fine.
You want to be clear that you don't want to have sex with a certain category of people so you stated on your profile - that is fine as long as you own it after. But Don't act like you are offended by being called a racist.
Can you imagine how offended an Asian or a black man may be when they come across numerous profiles who state that they basically don't want them because of their skin colours. How detrimental it can be for a person to get the message that a lot of people do not consider you as a whole person with feelings ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your choice reminds me a bit of the German shops' choices to put a sign outside their shop saying 'no jews'.
You don't want to have sex with people you aren't attracted to - that's totally fine.
You want to be clear that you don't want to have sex with a certain category of people so you stated on your profile - that is fine as long as you own it after. But Don't act like you are offended by being called a racist.
Can you imagine how offended an Asian or a black man may be when they come across numerous profiles who state that they basically don't want them because of their skin colours. How detrimental it can be for a person to get the message that a lot of people do not consider you as a whole person with feelings ? "
I agree with this don't put it on profile because it offends, just don't answer the messages or block that's a better option. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Your choice reminds me a bit of the German shops' choices to put a sign outside their shop saying 'no jews'.
You don't want to have sex with people you aren't attracted to - that's totally fine.
You want to be clear that you don't want to have sex with a certain category of people so you stated on your profile - that is fine as long as you own it after. But Don't act like you are offended by being called a racist.
Can you imagine how offended an Asian or a black man may be when they come across numerous profiles who state that they basically don't want them because of their skin colours. How detrimental it can be for a person to get the message that a lot of people do not consider you as a whole person with feelings ? "
That's pretty much my take on it as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Agree with the other ladies..it's fine to have preferences and certainly not racist but to state it is asking for trouble. Just remove it and turn down politely anyone who isn't for you, same as you would with anyone.
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This. |
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On one hand honesty is great and I understand that your trying to make life easier by reducing the amount of messages from guy that don't suit your criteria. But then it would also be honest not to state that and just to reply back your not my type without justification why (no one needs to justify their sexual preferences).
A lot of people have stated on the line of how hurtful it can be to read their race/skin colour is not welcome. I think consideration for the effects of yours is something to think about. But in the same vain should people stop stating no cocks under 7', no large people, no women under a D cup etc? To what extent do we trade upsetting people for ease of finding the people we want? Where is the ethical line? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been called a racist on here and I couldn't care less. I know who I fancy and who I find attractive, and those I choose to have sex with. If someone has a problem with it, then be it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t have my “preference” on my profile and simply block and delete the message.
I guess for women users they probably receive more messages than I do so I’m assuming blocking and deleting would become laborious. Block and delete is just cleaner that way no nasty messages. |
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"I think putting it on your profile is like waving a red rag at a bull...
People are bound to question it and try to change your mind...
If you don't want the hassle just remove the paragraph "
but why should any one have to remove what their preferences are??? You wouldn’t say you’ve got to remove I like KFC but not MCDs |
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"While it’s absolutely fine to have preferences, to exclude a whole group based on ethnicity is racist. It’s sort of the definition of it.
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no she has excluded a whole group as she does not fancy them. She has no way implied anything else such as would not speak or be friends with them or expects anything less for them having a preference is not racism or for everyone women on her who says black cock only we would clearly need to label them as racist to for excluding while groups of different colour and assortment of males. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your choice reminds me a bit of the German shops' choices to put a sign outside their shop saying 'no jews'.
You don't want to have sex with people you aren't attracted to - that's totally fine.
You want to be clear that you don't want to have sex with a certain category of people so you stated on your profile - that is fine as long as you own it after. But Don't act like you are offended by being called a racist.
Can you imagine how offended an Asian or a black man may be when they come across numerous profiles who state that they basically don't want them because of their skin colours. How detrimental it can be for a person to get the message that a lot of people do not consider you as a whole person with feelings ? "
No French!
(except beardy ones who raise valid points) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This old chestnut again 
To be honest why should you care who messages or not. Everyone I mean EVERYONE is entitled to decide who they want to fuck. Whether you want to target white, black or Asian
How you express this, again totally down to you
Too many people are butt hurt on here and that's from both sides of the fence, ive defended the racist card I defended the preference card its the great debate that will never be resolved.
I'm sorry to sound all negative but it's common sense now. Preference or racism no one knows.
ignore it move on its your profile and we are all strangers!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This old chestnut again
To be honest why should you care who messages or not. Everyone I mean EVERYONE is entitled to decide who they want to fuck. Whether you want to target white, black or Asian
How you express this, again totally down to you
Too many people are butt hurt on here and that's from both sides of the fence, ive defended the racist card I defended the preference card its the great debate that will never be resolved.
I'm sorry to sound all negative but it's common sense now. Preference or racism no one knows.
ignore it move on its your profile and we are all strangers!
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over a year ago
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"Your choice reminds me a bit of the German shops' choices to put a sign outside their shop saying 'no jews'.
You don't want to have sex with people you aren't attracted to - that's totally fine.
You want to be clear that you don't want to have sex with a certain category of people so you stated on your profile - that is fine as long as you own it after. But Don't act like you are offended by being called a racist.
Can you imagine how offended an Asian or a black man may be when they come across numerous profiles who state that they basically don't want them because of their skin colours. How detrimental it can be for a person to get the message that a lot of people do not consider you as a whole person with feelings ? "
I wish you'd post like this more often. X |
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"It is my choice not to fancy having sex with black or Asian men or women, I just don't find them attractive, it clearly says on my profile but I get called a racist If I don't want to, is that fair? Or are they entitled to use the race card if they don't get what they want, what do you think? "
No you are completely wrong... it is your responsibility to have sex with any man who asks, and enjoyed whether you like it or not  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They can simply read profile and move on, does not mean they are entitled to shout out racist every time they read someone's preferences that they don't like"
You'll never be able to control how other people behave on here
But you can control your own response |
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over a year ago
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"Your choice reminds me a bit of the German shops' choices to put a sign outside their shop saying 'no jews'.
You don't want to have sex with people you aren't attracted to - that's totally fine.
You want to be clear that you don't want to have sex with a certain category of people so you stated on your profile - that is fine as long as you own it after. But Don't act like you are offended by being called a racist.
Can you imagine how offended an Asian or a black man may be when they come across numerous profiles who state that they basically don't want them because of their skin colours. How detrimental it can be for a person to get the message that a lot of people do not consider you as a whole person with feelings ?
I wish you'd post like this more often. X"
#FabulousAndBeardedForPM |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is my choice not to fancy having sex with black or Asian men or women, I just don't find them attractive, it clearly says on my profile but I get called a racist If I don't want to, is that fair? Or are they entitled to use the race card if they don't get what they want, what do you think? "
Not racist at all, your body, your choice. |
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"Your choice reminds me a bit of the German shops' choices to put a sign outside their shop saying 'no jews'.
You don't want to have sex with people you aren't attracted to - that's totally fine.
You want to be clear that you don't want to have sex with a certain category of people so you stated on your profile - that is fine as long as you own it after. But Don't act like you are offended by being called a racist.
Can you imagine how offended an Asian or a black man may be when they come across numerous profiles who state that they basically don't want them because of their skin colours. How detrimental it can be for a person to get the message that a lot of people do not consider you as a whole person with feelings ?
I wish you'd post like this more often. X"
I can't as everyone would know me ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think putting it on your profile is like waving a red rag at a bull...
People are bound to question it and try to change your mind...
If you don't want the hassle just remove the paragraph "
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"I think putting it on your profile is like waving a red rag at a bull...
People are bound to question it and try to change your mind...
If you don't want the hassle just remove the paragraph if I do that then get Evan more unwanted messages, at least I explain what I don't want
Try blocking men then and contact the ones that interst you...
But then of course you would have nothing to complain about.. Its not a complaint, I'm simply asking is it my choice to put what I don't like as to many on here do on their profiles"
At the end of the day , it's your profile, and your business, do what you feel is best for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am not attracted to black or Indian/Middle Eastern guys, and I do state it on my profile. It's not racism, it's my sexual preference. Should I be called ageist just because I won't meet anyone below 35? 
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"I am not attracted to black or Indian/Middle Eastern guys, and I do state it on my profile. It's not racism, it's my sexual preference. Should I be called ageist just because I won't meet anyone below 35?
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hardly in the same genre age can apply to everyone |
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