We've been here now nearly 3 years over 2 different profiles and the last 12-15 months have seen a decline in meets as a couple that's showing no signs of slowing down.
We're ghosted, blocked and on occasion reported as a fake profile until JJ posts a meet up or arranges a club get together on her own. Then it's the usual flood of messages and confirmed meets as a single woman.
We're a couple and play as a couple but she's become so frustrated by the lack of response that we've agreed it's fair to let her out there to play as a single woman.
The reality of it is people don't want to meet us together and I'm perfectly ok with this but is it time to drop the couple's profile and let her carry on enjoying her swinging adventures and keep the verifications we've earned as a single.
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"We've been here now nearly 3 years over 2 different profiles and the last 12-15 months have seen a decline in meets as a couple that's showing no signs of slowing down.
We're ghosted, blocked and on occasion reported as a fake profile until JJ posts a meet up or arranges a club get together on her own. Then it's the usual flood of messages and confirmed meets as a single woman.
We're a couple and play as a couple but she's become so frustrated by the lack of response that we've agreed it's fair to let her out there to play as a single woman.
The reality of it is people don't want to meet us together and I'm perfectly ok with this but is it time to drop the couple's profile and let her carry on enjoying her swinging adventures and keep the verifications we've earned as a single.
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Only you can decide that really, nobody else's opinion really matters on this |
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"We've been here now nearly 3 years over 2 different profiles and the last 12-15 months have seen a decline in meets as a couple that's showing no signs of slowing down.
We're ghosted, blocked and on occasion reported as a fake profile until JJ posts a meet up or arranges a club get together on her own. Then it's the usual flood of messages and confirmed meets as a single woman.
We're a couple and play as a couple but she's become so frustrated by the lack of response that we've agreed it's fair to let her out there to play as a single woman.
The reality of it is people don't want to meet us together and I'm perfectly ok with this but is it time to drop the couple's profile and let her carry on enjoying her swinging adventures and keep the verifications we've earned as a single.
Only you can decide that really, nobody else's opinion really matters on this"
Yeah, it's just out there to get it out of the way really.
It fell stale last year and the couple who sealed this were very upfront and honest and told us neither of them were slightly interested in having me at the meet.
Sort of had the penny drop right there that it's only JJ people are interested in.
But open minded as we are talked this through about her going solo and it seems to be working so far |
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Profiles need to morph too as times, tastes, demographics, ages and interests change.
As ED suggest s maybe the club scene might be the answer. Seems to be what most on here suggest to single guys struggling to meet. Some say it's the easiest way. It does negate all the filters as you never know who you'll meet and it's you first visual impressions that form the next step whereas on fab it's all filtered out first, then impressions afterwards.
It never worked for me and found them difficult but it works for others. Certat much easier as a couple and if all fails you've got each other. You won't know till you try. Hope things improve.
Ps agree with your assessment of what others thinking about posting up a meet. DS all the way. |
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"We've been here now nearly 3 years over 2 different profiles and the last 12-15 months have seen a decline in meets as a couple that's showing no signs of slowing down.
We're ghosted, blocked and on occasion reported as a fake profile until JJ posts a meet up or arranges a club get together on her own. Then it's the usual flood of messages and confirmed meets as a single woman.
We're a couple and play as a couple but she's become so frustrated by the lack of response that we've agreed it's fair to let her out there to play as a single woman.
The reality of it is people don't want to meet us together and I'm perfectly ok with this but is it time to drop the couple's profile and let her carry on enjoying her swinging adventures and keep the verifications we've earned as a single.
Only you can decide that really, nobody else's opinion really matters on this
Yeah, it's just out there to get it out of the way really.
It fell stale last year and the couple who sealed this were very upfront and honest and told us neither of them were slightly interested in having me at the meet.
Sort of had the penny drop right there that it's only JJ people are interested in.
But open minded as we are talked this through about her going solo and it seems to be working so far"
Are you sure it's not going to make you feel completely left out though?? That could ruin your relationship if it's not what you want into this for. We only play as a couple, if either of us went out separately, we know it would cause all kinds of negative emotions for us...so we'd rather not bother if it came down to it...
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"We've been here now nearly 3 years over 2 different profiles and the last 12-15 months have seen a decline in meets as a couple that's showing no signs of slowing down.
We're ghosted, blocked and on occasion reported as a fake profile until JJ posts a meet up or arranges a club get together on her own. Then it's the usual flood of messages and confirmed meets as a single woman.
We're a couple and play as a couple but she's become so frustrated by the lack of response that we've agreed it's fair to let her out there to play as a single woman.
The reality of it is people don't want to meet us together and I'm perfectly ok with this but is it time to drop the couple's profile and let her carry on enjoying her swinging adventures and keep the verifications we've earned as a single.
Only you can decide that really, nobody else's opinion really matters on this
Yeah, it's just out there to get it out of the way really.
It fell stale last year and the couple who sealed this were very upfront and honest and told us neither of them were slightly interested in having me at the meet.
Sort of had the penny drop right there that it's only JJ people are interested in.
But open minded as we are talked this through about her going solo and it seems to be working so far
Are you sure it's not going to make you feel completely left out though?? That could ruin your relationship if it's not what you want into this for. We only play as a couple, if either of us went out separately, we know it would cause all kinds of negative emotions for us...so we'd rather not bother if it came down to it...
K x"
At the minute it's working perfectly, I'm happy that she's out having fun, she's always well looked after by club staff, never gets out of her depth at private meets and we always decide together who we think she should play with so it's a good situation at the minute.
It was just a shock to the system to know that people are only interested in meeting her but at the same time I personally don't think it's fair on her to say "enough is enough" when she's genuinely having a lot of fun meeting new people, pushing her boundaries and exploring her sexuality. |
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Are you sure it’s not you that’s changed? Are you sure that your confidence hasn’t taken a knock and you’re now putting up barriers to that happening again?
Whilst we do get meets through fab as a couple, more and more our meets come through others we know. We use fab primarily just to keep in touch, although even that’s waning as we just tend to text now! |
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