So this morning we received a message from a single guy asking if we'd like polite, clean fun, VWE.
As we're here for female fun I replied as such, thanked him for his message, said I appreciated it can be difficult on Fab for single guys & wished him good luck.
He messaged again to thank me for the lovely message I'd sent.
If you're reading this, you know who you are!
I realise some people receive a crazy amount of messages & can't reply to all (& indeed receive ones that don't even deserve a reply) but I have to say that brief exchange this morning made me realise how just the simple kindness of being polite can go a long way & even though we'd turned him down, I know the fact that I bothered to reply at all will have made a bit of a difference. And that was helped by him being polite in the first place.
So you maybe wondering why am I banging on about this. Well...because I can & because it highlighted that there are indeed plenty of decent people on here.
Let's not allow the fakers & timewasters to ruin the fun for us genuine ones. Who's with me?!
(And please don't leave me hanging - it's so not a good look haha)!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I agree, there are some lovely people, it's just finding them that can be a challenge sometimes.
That's an encouraging post OP.
I have to say I've met some gorgeous people at events and in the Clubs.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
It is lovely when things like that happen and we all too often tend to hear about the bad experiences of the site as opposed to the good ones and that can lead to perceptions being skewed, but there are lots of lovely people here, who do get it, who do accept a polite "no thanks" with good grace, have the right attitude, approach and expectations etc.
We should celebrate the positives more often   |
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We try to respond to nice messages too. Especially if we can see times been taken over them.
We are all here looking for our ideal match for fun if it doesn't work there's no need for rudeness if you have been approached politely
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve always been polite and courteous why be anything else . Even when rejected why be anything else ,it’s not my right to be met lol
Haven’t always had polite replies but that’s thei4 problem not mine |
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I really enjoy getting a polite response even if it’s in the negative.
It gets very demoralising if messages are deleted and or I’m blocked without a reply. I would understand if the message was offensive or extreme.
Us guys that read profiles and try to appeal to the likes of the person we are contacting to hopefully start a conversation seem to be in the minority.
Thank you for saying thank you for being polite op!
Enjoy fab everyone. |
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"Yes I agree, there are some lovely people, it's just finding them that can be a challenge sometimes.
That's an encouraging post OP.
I have to say I've met some gorgeous people at events and in the Clubs.
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Yes it can be a challenge!
We haven't attended any events or clubs yet but I guess it's like anything in life -v- online, some people behave far differently using a keyboard rather than face to face!
Glad to hear you've met some good people that way |
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"I really enjoy getting a polite response even if it’s in the negative.
It gets very demoralising if messages are deleted and or I’m blocked without a reply. I would understand if the message was offensive or extreme.
Us guys that read profiles and try to appeal to the likes of the person we are contacting to hopefully start a conversation seem to be in the minority.
Thank you for saying thank you for being polite op!
Enjoy fab everyone."
You're welcome! Just felt the need to highlight the good for once |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I really enjoy getting a polite response even if it’s in the negative.
It gets very demoralising if messages are deleted and or I’m blocked without a reply. I would understand if the message was offensive or extreme.
Us guys that read profiles and try to appeal to the likes of the person we are contacting to hopefully start a conversation seem to be in the minority.
Thank you for saying thank you for being polite op!
Enjoy fab everyone."
I often say that the only people others ruin it for is themselves, but this is actually one area where the abusive and negative guys *do* ruin it for others - one of the reasons a lot of people don't reply to messages, if they're not interested, is because they don't know if they will get abuse back - if everyone learned to accept a polite "no thanks" with good grace perhaps more people would be inclined to reply to the messages they receive. |
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it is a lovely post op but i think you are in the minority i dont bother to send messages now as i have had so many deleted without reply and then read in forums that this is considered as being polite
i read profiles and am polite and never send rude pics
i am not looking for sympathy btw
just going with the flow now |
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"So this morning we received a message from a single guy asking if we'd like polite, clean fun, VWE.
As we're here for female fun I replied as such, thanked him for his message, said I appreciated it can be difficult on Fab for single guys & wished him good luck.
He messaged again to thank me for the lovely message I'd sent.
If you're reading this, you know who you are!
I realise some people receive a crazy amount of messages & can't reply to all (& indeed receive ones that don't even deserve a reply) but I have to say that brief exchange this morning made me realise how just the simple kindness of being polite can go a long way & even though we'd turned him down, I know the fact that I bothered to reply at all will have made a bit of a difference. And that was helped by him being polite in the first place.
So you maybe wondering why am I banging on about this. Well...because I can & because it highlighted that there are indeed plenty of decent people on here.
Let's not allow the fakers & timewasters to ruin the fun for us genuine ones. Who's with me?!
(And please don't leave me hanging - it's so not a good look haha)! "
I agree and thankyou for highlighting and acknowledging it |
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We respond politely if the message is similar or the sender has at least put a bit of an effort in..
but if its a shadow profile, no pictures, no veris and been on here for ages and the message is a 'hi, how are you' or 'what you up to/wearing/doing today' we will usually ignore..
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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago
so near and yet so far.... |
That’s lovely to hear OP X well done you, the gent concerned must feel Fab is an awesome place to be.
Sadly for me I received a message asking if I enjoyed farting whilst sitting on someone’s face and a request not to eat sweet corn..
I did enjoy responding in kind and also blocking..  |
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"I really enjoy getting a polite response even if it’s in the negative.
It gets very demoralising if messages are deleted and or I’m blocked without a reply. I would understand if the message was offensive or extreme.
Us guys that read profiles and try to appeal to the likes of the person we are contacting to hopefully start a conversation seem to be in the minority.
Thank you for saying thank you for being polite op!
Enjoy fab everyone.
I often say that the only people others ruin it for is themselves, but this is actually one area where the abusive and negative guys *do* ruin it for others - one of the reasons a lot of people don't reply to messages, if they're not interested, is because they don't know if they will get abuse back - if everyone learned to accept a polite "no thanks" with good grace perhaps more people would be inclined to reply to the messages they receive."
True dat |
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"That’s lovely to hear OP X well done you, the gent concerned must feel Fab is an awesome place to be.
Sadly for me I received a message asking if I enjoyed farting whilst sitting on someone’s face and a request not to eat sweet corn..
I did enjoy responding in kind and also blocking.. "
Haha! Admittedly there are some strange messages to be had! |
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"We respond politely if the message is similar or the sender has at least put a bit of an effort in..
but if its a shadow profile, no pictures, no veris and been on here for ages and the message is a 'hi, how are you' or 'what you up to/wearing/doing today' we will usually ignore..
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Yes I get that |
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"We respond politely if the message is similar or the sender has at least put a bit of an effort in..
but if its a shadow profile, no pictures, no veris and been on here for ages and the message is a 'hi, how are you' or 'what you up to/wearing/doing today' we will usually ignore..
Yes I get that "
To be fair we've not had many arsey replies, most guys are polite and that does register if we're honest..
Some do get a bit why not, etc but in the main most are fine which says much about them.. |
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"We respond politely if the message is similar or the sender has at least put a bit of an effort in..
but if its a shadow profile, no pictures, no veris and been on here for ages and the message is a 'hi, how are you' or 'what you up to/wearing/doing today' we will usually ignore..
Yes I get that
To be fair we've not had many arsey replies, most guys are polite and that does register if we're honest..
Some do get a bit why not, etc but in the main most are fine which says much about them.. "
Indeed it does |
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"So this morning we received a message from a single guy asking if we'd like polite, clean fun, VWE.
As we're here for female fun I replied as such, thanked him for his message, said I appreciated it can be difficult on Fab for single guys & wished him good luck.
He messaged again to thank me for the lovely message I'd sent.
If you're reading this, you know who you are!
I realise some people receive a crazy amount of messages & can't reply to all (& indeed receive ones that don't even deserve a reply) but I have to say that brief exchange this morning made me realise how just the simple kindness of being polite can go a long way & even though we'd turned him down, I know the fact that I bothered to reply at all will have made a bit of a difference. And that was helped by him being polite in the first place.
So you maybe wondering why am I banging on about this. Well...because I can & because it highlighted that there are indeed plenty of decent people on here.
Let's not allow the fakers & timewasters to ruin the fun for us genuine ones. Who's with me?!
(And please don't leave me hanging - it's so not a good look haha)! "
Totally agree. We reply to most. There are the odd few we haven’t. We’ve even ended up chatting to people on a long term basis even though they know we will never meet. There’s some lovely people out there. It’s the ones that aren’t honest, stand you up, or forgot they’ve arranged a meet! That make it hard work |
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