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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Are those really so important to you?
As:
Connection: Sounds like something very functional and boring, like wires at the back of the TV set.
Chemistry: Was that lesson at school with all those properties with big names and little names that you could mix together but had to know what you were doing (or else)!
Do I need to be electronically minded or a scientist to talk to you? |
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"Are those really so important to you?
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Connection: Sounds like something very functional and boring, like wires at the back of the TV set.
Chemistry: Was that lesson at school with all those properties with big names and little names that you could mix together but had to know what you were doing (or else)!
Do I need to be electronically minded or a scientist to talk to you?"
Chemistry is incredibly important, just not as important as physics.
You dont have to but it would help smoother the conversation out.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"But when referring to human relationships they become something quite different and almost indefinable in words. You just know it when you have it"
Well put, I like your use of almost indefinable, there is that Wow element to it that 'connection and chemistry alone do no justice too.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Definitely need a butterfly or two.........usually get it when I look into the eyes, if it's not there it's not going to work...."
Let's keep biology out of this!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Definitely need a butterfly or two.........usually get it when I look into the eyes, if it's not there it's not going to work....Let's keep biology out of this!
Have I just been chastised?  "
No, if you want butterflies in your stomach? are you saying you like things that morph while inside you? |
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"Definitely need a butterfly or two.........usually get it when I look into the eyes, if it's not there it's not going to work....Let's keep biology out of this!
Have I just been chastised? No, if you want butterflies in your stomach? are you saying you like things that morph while inside you?"
You know what I meant Prince!  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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For me connection and chemistry in the context of relationships, even Fab ones, are incredibly important to a satisfying experience, otherwise that is when the clinical and functional feelings come in and the experience is less than satisfying - it may scratch an itch temporarily but it really can't compete with when you find someone who is completely on your wavelength and with whom you "click" not only physically but mentally too - it takes things to a whole other level and is so much more fulfilling as a result. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For me connection and chemistry in the context of relationships, even Fab ones, are incredibly important to a satisfying experience, otherwise that is when the clinical and functional feelings come in and the experience is less than satisfying - it may scratch an itch temporarily but it really can't compete with when you find someone who is completely on your wavelength and with whom you "click" not only physically but mentally too - it takes things to a whole other level and is so much more fulfilling as a result."
The word you used nearer the end is what I would substitute instead of connection. A person seeking fulfilment and chemistry.
A fulfiling encounter of whatever sort and to whatever degree. People seek different levels of fulfilment and it would be then a matter of connecting with the right person for that. |
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"For me connection and chemistry in the context of relationships, even Fab ones, are incredibly important to a satisfying experience, otherwise that is when the clinical and functional feelings come in and the experience is less than satisfying - it may scratch an itch temporarily but it really can't compete with when you find someone who is completely on your wavelength and with whom you "click" not only physically but mentally too - it takes things to a whole other level and is so much more fulfilling as a result.The word you used nearer the end is what I would substitute instead of connection. A person seeking fulfilment and chemistry.
A fulfiling encounter of whatever sort and to whatever degree. People seek different levels of fulfilment and it would be then a matter of connecting with the right person for that."
...but to start off asking for a connection is 'short curcuiting' things as surely a good connection develops over time? |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"For me connection and chemistry in the context of relationships, even Fab ones, are incredibly important to a satisfying experience, otherwise that is when the clinical and functional feelings come in and the experience is less than satisfying - it may scratch an itch temporarily but it really can't compete with when you find someone who is completely on your wavelength and with whom you "click" not only physically but mentally too - it takes things to a whole other level and is so much more fulfilling as a result.
The word you used nearer the end is what I would substitute instead of connection. A person seeking fulfilment and chemistry.
A fulfiling encounter of whatever sort and to whatever degree. People seek different levels of fulfilment and it would be then a matter of connecting with the right person for that."
You say pot-ay-to I say pot-ar-to |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"For me connection and chemistry in the context of relationships, even Fab ones, are incredibly important to a satisfying experience, otherwise that is when the clinical and functional feelings come in and the experience is less than satisfying - it may scratch an itch temporarily but it really can't compete with when you find someone who is completely on your wavelength and with whom you "click" not only physically but mentally too - it takes things to a whole other level and is so much more fulfilling as a result.The word you used nearer the end is what I would substitute instead of connection. A person seeking fulfilment and chemistry.
A fulfiling encounter of whatever sort and to whatever degree. People seek different levels of fulfilment and it would be then a matter of connecting with the right person for that....but to start off asking for a connection is 'short curcuiting' things as surely a good connection develops over time? "
You can't "ask" for a connection or chemistry as such, they just happen or not to varying degrees - a connection can be simply liking the same things and being matched that way, or it can go a whole lot deeper - either way you can't know until you talk to someone whether it's likely to be there or not, and in the vast majority of instances you can't *know* it will be until you actually meet. |
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"For me connection and chemistry in the context of relationships, even Fab ones, are incredibly important to a satisfying experience, otherwise that is when the clinical and functional feelings come in and the experience is less than satisfying - it may scratch an itch temporarily but it really can't compete with when you find someone who is completely on your wavelength and with whom you "click" not only physically but mentally too - it takes things to a whole other level and is so much more fulfilling as a result.The word you used nearer the end is what I would substitute instead of connection. A person seeking fulfilment and chemistry.
A fulfiling encounter of whatever sort and to whatever degree. People seek different levels of fulfilment and it would be then a matter of connecting with the right person for that....but to start off asking for a connection is 'short curcuiting' things as surely a good connection develops over time? "
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For me chemistry and a connection are very important. I couldn't have sex without it. It might be a flaw too because I want to date. So I have learned the hard way to keep my "fab head" on if having a "meets". I also won't meet very often for these reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For me connection and chemistry in the context of relationships, even Fab ones, are incredibly important to a satisfying experience, otherwise that is when the clinical and functional feelings come in and the experience is less than satisfying - it may scratch an itch temporarily but it really can't compete with when you find someone who is completely on your wavelength and with whom you "click" not only physically but mentally too - it takes things to a whole other level and is so much more fulfilling as a result.
The word you used nearer the end is what I would substitute instead of connection. A person seeking fulfilment and chemistry.
A fulfiling encounter of whatever sort and to whatever degree. People seek different levels of fulfilment and it would be then a matter of connecting with the right person for that.
You say pot-ay-to I say pot-ar-to"
... and to take your point it looks like neither of us will be eating anytime soon. |
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"For me connection and chemistry in the context of relationships, even Fab ones, are incredibly important to a satisfying experience, otherwise that is when the clinical and functional feelings come in and the experience is less than satisfying - it may scratch an itch temporarily but it really can't compete with when you find someone who is completely on your wavelength and with whom you "click" not only physically but mentally too - it takes things to a whole other level and is so much more fulfilling as a result."
Absolutely this ^ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For me chemistry and a connection are very important. I couldn't have sex without it. It might be a flaw too because I want to date. So I have learned the hard way to keep my "fab head" on if having a "meets". I also won't meet very often for these reasons. "
All that you said on your profile about the seeking of connection and chemistry is put in the best and clearest context that I have seen on fab.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Right my serious answer. I think connection builds over time through conversations, chemistry is harder to judge online but it’s easy enough to recognise when it isn’t likely. Meeting initially is when the chemistry kicks in and then it either builds along with the connection or fizzles out. The most chemistry I’ve ever experienced was in my most recent sexual encounter and it was a wee bit overwhelming for me. It took a while to find my equilibrium again  |
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"For me connection and chemistry in the context of relationships, even Fab ones, are incredibly important to a satisfying experience, otherwise that is when the clinical and functional feelings come in and the experience is less than satisfying - it may scratch an itch temporarily but it really can't compete with when you find someone who is completely on your wavelength and with whom you "click" not only physically but mentally too - it takes things to a whole other level and is so much more fulfilling as a result.The word you used nearer the end is what I would substitute instead of connection. A person seeking fulfilment and chemistry.
A fulfiling encounter of whatever sort and to whatever degree. People seek different levels of fulfilment and it would be then a matter of connecting with the right person for that....but to start off asking for a connection is 'short curcuiting' things as surely a good connection develops over time?
You can't "ask" for a connection or chemistry as such, they just happen or not to varying degrees - a connection can be simply liking the same things and being matched that way, or it can go a whole lot deeper - either way you can't know until you talk to someone whether it's likely to be there or not, and in the vast majority of instances you can't *know* it will be until you actually meet."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Right my serious answer. I think connection builds over time through conversations, chemistry is harder to judge online but it’s easy enough to recognise when it isn’t likely. Meeting initially is when the chemistry kicks in and then it either builds along with the connection or fizzles out. The most chemistry I’ve ever experienced was in my most recent sexual encounter and it was a wee bit overwhelming for me. It took a while to find my equilibrium again "
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"For me chemistry and a connection are very important. I couldn't have sex without it. It might be a flaw too because I want to date. So I have learned the hard way to keep my "fab head" on if having a "meets". I also won't meet very often for these reasons. All that you said on your profile about the seeking of connection and chemistry is put in the best and clearest context that I have seen on fab."
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For us it's the banter.
The connection or spark is what comes with time.
We love to chat and Get to know people, as we live in spain its hard to pop out for socials. 
Our way of building and feeling comfortable with those people is to chat, flirt and share things. Makes for a better meet for us. Xxx
Mrs p |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For us it's the banter.
The connection or spark is what comes with time.
We love to chat and Get to know people, as we live in spain its hard to pop out for socials.
Our way of building and feeling comfortable with those people is to chat, flirt and share things. Makes for a better meet for us. Xxx
Mrs p"
Thanks Mrs P. |
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