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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you really have a type??
If you lined up your ex’s (shags or relationships) would there be more similarities or differences?
Mine couldn’t be more different.. there’s literally nothing physically that links the guys I have been attracted to.
So how do you decide what your preferences are?
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I have things that get me going. They've changed over time and I've made bad choices.
I think among the good choices there's some commonality, but most of it boils down to "I know it when I see it". |
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"I think I skew towards being attracted to certain women but I can potentially find women of any 'type' attractive."
Are there more common denominators you’re aware of? |
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"Do you really have a type??
If you lined up your ex’s (shags or relationships) would there be more similarities or differences?
Mine couldn’t be more different.. there’s literally nothing physically that links the guys I have been attracted to.
So how do you decide what your preferences are?
Saff
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Mine would all have similarity and a pattern! I’m far to predictable when it comes to men  I know exactly what I like! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have things that get me going. They've changed over time and I've made bad choices.
I think among the good choices there's some commonality, but most of it boils down to "I know it when I see it". "
Do you think being online makes it harder to narrow it down if it’s very much a ‘feeling’? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Physically, Mine have always had dark hair and blue eyes (not an intentional thing) except one and they’ve all been broad shouldered and not particularly slim. Personality wise they’ve all been quite placid and laid back. Opposite personalities obviously attract! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you really have a type??
If you lined up your ex’s (shags or relationships) would there be more similarities or differences?
Mine couldn’t be more different.. there’s literally nothing physically that links the guys I have been attracted to.
So how do you decide what your preferences are?
Saff
Mine would all have similarity and a pattern! I’m far to predictable when it comes to men I know exactly what I like! "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you really have a type??
If you lined up your ex’s (shags or relationships) would there be more similarities or differences?
Mine couldn’t be more different.. there’s literally nothing physically that links the guys I have been attracted to.
So how do you decide what your preferences are?
Saff
Mine would all have similarity and a pattern! I’m far to predictable when it comes to men I know exactly what I like! "
Really? Fascinates me.. I’ve zero ‘type’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not at all
Like nothing: boys, girls, taller, shorter, slimmer, fatter, fair, dark, older, younger
I allude to pretty much that in my profile  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I skew towards being attracted to certain women but I can potentially find women of any 'type' attractive.
Are there more common denominators you’re aware of?"
Women who are: petite (or at least shorter than me), slim to curvy with long hair.
I also have this thing about women who smell nice and have soft skin.
I suppose it's their femininity that draws me in. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Physically, Mine have always had dark hair and blue eyes (not an intentional thing) except one and they’ve all been broad shouldered and not particularly slim. Personality wise they’ve all been quite placid and laid back. Opposite personalities obviously attract! "
Actually don’t think I’ve ever been out with a blonde.. but there’s no physical or personality trait that runs through.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There's nothing physically that links all the women i've dated either so i'll have to say no. Personalitywise though there are some similarities."
I don’t even have that.. makes me wonder how people choose who to meet on here... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Physically, Mine have always had dark hair and blue eyes (not an intentional thing) except one and they’ve all been broad shouldered and not particularly slim. Personality wise they’ve all been quite placid and laid back. Opposite personalities obviously attract!
Actually don’t think I’ve ever been out with a blonde.. but there’s no physical or personality trait that runs through...."
Well we can’t have that. Ask Saff if I can borrow you for a night.  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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A lot of differences physically. In terms of men they've all been a few years (and the rest) older than me. In terms of women, it's a proper mix. They do have a few personality traits in common - they tend to be more type B sorts. Nerdy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not at all
Like nothing: boys, girls, taller, shorter, slimmer, fatter, fair, dark, older, younger
I allude to pretty much that in my profile "
So how do you search for what you’re attracted to?!? |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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Been cynical Im always drawn to people who don't want me.. on a serious note looks wise it really varies, I do like dark hair and tall.. But recently meet someone who had light hair (still tall) so I think it depends on the person more then anything.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The majority of mine have been 6ft plus but I've made the odd exception. Older... But otherwise they are all quite different
I don't usually go for younger 'pretty boys' but have had my head turned on occasion |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Physically, Mine have always had dark hair and blue eyes (not an intentional thing) except one and they’ve all been broad shouldered and not particularly slim. Personality wise they’ve all been quite placid and laid back. Opposite personalities obviously attract!
Actually don’t think I’ve ever been out with a blonde.. but there’s no physical or personality trait that runs through....
Well we can’t have that. Ask Saff if I can borrow you for a night. "
Ha ha I’m ridiculously chilled out.. I reckon you’d terrify him!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A lot of differences physically. In terms of men they've all been a few years (and the rest) older than me. In terms of women, it's a proper mix. They do have a few personality traits in common - they tend to be more type B sorts. Nerdy."
How do you filter who you’re going to talk to online? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Soul, demonstrable inclusive attitude to others, sharp and can make me double up laughing, empathy and compassion, accepting of themselves and accountable for their flaws.
Oh and willing to take a chance on me. "
How do you filter that online and decide who you’re going to get to know? |
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"Do you really have a type??
If you lined up your ex’s (shags or relationships) would there be more similarities or differences?
Mine couldn’t be more different.. there’s literally nothing physically that links the guys I have been attracted to.
So how do you decide what your preferences are?
Saff
Mine would all have similarity and a pattern! I’m far to predictable when it comes to men I know exactly what I like!
Really? Fascinates me.. I’ve zero ‘type’"
Yep I always go for similar |
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"I have things that get me going. They've changed over time and I've made bad choices.
I think among the good choices there's some commonality, but most of it boils down to "I know it when I see it".
Do you think being online makes it harder to narrow it down if it’s very much a ‘feeling’?"
Oh god yes. Very difficult. But that's the nature of the beast!
Most people I'm drawn to have a certain inquisitiveness about them. That's such a weird thing to say, but it's true. It does tend to come out in the written word. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Been cynical Im always drawn to people who don't want me.. on a serious note looks wise it really varies, I do like dark hair and tall.. But recently meet someone who had light hair (still tall) so I think it depends on the person more then anything. "
Do you rule shorter men out based on previous attraction or are you open to consider one may turn your head? |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"Soul, demonstrable inclusive attitude to others, sharp and can make me double up laughing, empathy and compassion, accepting of themselves and accountable for their flaws.
Oh and willing to take a chance on me.
How do you filter that online and decide who you’re going to get to know? "
Reading how they post, how they interact, what they post about and the variety of their posting. It’s a veritable hunting ground.
Then I publicly proclaim some interest and see if they’re willing to take a chance.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Physically, Mine have always had dark hair and blue eyes (not an intentional thing) except one and they’ve all been broad shouldered and not particularly slim. Personality wise they’ve all been quite placid and laid back. Opposite personalities obviously attract!
Actually don’t think I’ve ever been out with a blonde.. but there’s no physical or personality trait that runs through....
Well we can’t have that. Ask Saff if I can borrow you for a night.
Ha ha I’m ridiculously chilled out.. I reckon you’d terrify him!!
Saff"
Haha! I’m actually a pussy cat really. I don’t know how I’ve managed to get this reputation! I’ll borrow you then |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If I lined up the people I wanted to shag.. yes. If you lined up the people I have then wtf. Fantasy’s don’t have personality’s."
Interesting.. so your attraction is not as important if it’s a fantasy scenario? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ll be more serious now. I don’t have a type as such but I’m attracted by a feisty, humorous, caring personality with intelligence. As for looks and shape they are much more variable but when ai look at them and talk to them I know I fancy the pants off them. So it’s a combination of lots of factors. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not at all
Like nothing: boys, girls, taller, shorter, slimmer, fatter, fair, dark, older, younger
I allude to pretty much that in my profile
So how do you search for what you’re attracted to?!?"
I don't search
I just know
The only common denominator seems to be that I prefer women within a few years either side of my age, with guys, I prefer early 20's to early 30's (but there have been exceptions to that too) |
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"If I lined up the people I wanted to shag.. yes. If you lined up the people I have then wtf. Fantasy’s don’t have personality’s.
Interesting.. so your attraction is not as important if it’s a fantasy scenario?"
For me kink/ fantasy has different vetting procedures to everything else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a type..
As tall or taller than me, rugby player type build, dark hair and eyes
Is that full proof? Here and life..."
Yes my ex husband also fit that description...
Although obviously on here you really don't know what you're getting til its standing in front of you  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Soul, demonstrable inclusive attitude to others, sharp and can make me double up laughing, empathy and compassion, accepting of themselves and accountable for their flaws.
Oh and willing to take a chance on me.
How do you filter that online and decide who you’re going to get to know?
Reading how they post, how they interact, what they post about and the variety of their posting. It’s a veritable hunting ground.
Then I publicly proclaim some interest and see if they’re willing to take a chance. "
So for you the forum posts are important to show a particular personality? |
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Yes, prefer a certain type or trait in women. There is a girlfriend type and just sex type which is much more open to different personality traits.
those that I have shag varies there is no link what so ever. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Preferences change over time, experience and learning more about myself - this all defines what I look for in a potential relationship or anything else. I’ve had a few relationships (short/long term) with one preference in common. It always starts with physical attraction. Specific type of women tend to grab my attention - knows how to dress (sexy), confident, and independent - she would be the type that’s not afraid to say what she wants (on her mind) and wouldn’t shy away from getting it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ive said for years i dont have a type... always gone for personality and most of those infact all have been attached to curvy girls lots of makeup or fake looking with big boobs ( im a bum guy)
recently the past 5 months or so ive found ive been attracted to slim small boobed girls with more of a girl next door look.. so i think yes its taken time but i realise what my actual type is |
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My whittling here sort of looks like this.
Does the message meet my base requirements? Is the person within the bounds of what I might consider physically attractive, to the extent that I can tell? Absence of anything major to rule them out. Is the profile OK? Does the message interest me?
If all this is satisfied, I weigh up if the value of it is enough to proceed. |
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"Been cynical Im always drawn to people who don't want me.. on a serious note looks wise it really varies, I do like dark hair and tall.. But recently meet someone who had light hair (still tall) so I think it depends on the person more then anything.
Do you rule shorter men out based on previous attraction or are you open to consider one may turn your head? "
Last year I was meeting someone who was the same height so am Completely open... I'm Learning that for me personally I get drawn to a person, yes I have looks that make me think wow but its when we chat that I get that real gut feeling of if I want to get to know them. It also seems to be the same from a "dating" perspective if I don't get that instant gut feeling then so far on meeting it hasn't progressed. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Preferences change over time, experience and learning more about myself - this all defines what I look for in a potential relationship or anything else. I’ve had a few relationships (short/long term) with one preference in common. It always starts with physical attraction. Specific type of women tend to grab my attention - knows how to dress (sexy), confident, and independent - she would be the type that’s not afraid to say what she wants (on her mind) and wouldn’t shy away from getting it. "
How does that work searching online? Do you find it easy to get a feel for those characteristics? |
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I like people who make the best of themselves. They don't have to be super slim or models ish, just have a vivacious attitude and natural sexiness. Very light, bright eyes with dark hair and redheads will draw my eye quicker than anything (and beautiful eyes in general make me melt). I find the overly glammed up expensive labels and patent leather handbags, high maintenance vibe is less to my taste but by the same token that's because I assume that as a more casually dressed laid back type guy I probably will not be appealing to them anyway. |
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By *eliWoman
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"How do you filter who you’re going to talk to online? "
I'm like Estella. Forum posts can be a great insight and can put me off people or make me more interested to meet them. There's one recently where I've seen a few forum posts and thought "yeah actually, you're definitely doable".
Or I get my friends to sort me out with fabbers gone by.
I don't know how I do it. I can just tell. Maybe decent sentences? Little to no text speak? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Been cynical Im always drawn to people who don't want me.. on a serious note looks wise it really varies, I do like dark hair and tall.. But recently meet someone who had light hair (still tall) so I think it depends on the person more then anything.
Do you rule shorter men out based on previous attraction or are you open to consider one may turn your head?
Last year I was meeting someone who was the same height so am Completely open... I'm Learning that for me personally I get drawn to a person, yes I have looks that make me think wow but its when we chat that I get that real gut feeling of if I want to get to know them. It also seems to be the same from a "dating" perspective if I don't get that instant gut feeling then so far on meeting it hasn't progressed. "
Sounds very similar to me.. I’m very much hell yes or absolutely not.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've a definite physical type I find attractive. Makes it really easy to dismiss lots on here very quickly. It really helps with the online world when you know what makes you tick. |
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"Preferences change over time, experience and learning more about myself - this all defines what I look for in a potential relationship or anything else. I’ve had a few relationships (short/long term) with one preference in common. It always starts with physical attraction. Specific type of women tend to grab my attention - knows how to dress (sexy), confident, and independent - she would be the type that’s not afraid to say what she wants (on her mind) and wouldn’t shy away from getting it. "
That’s a really great assessment from someone as young as you are. I’d expect that response from someone more mature.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My whittling here sort of looks like this.
Does the message meet my base requirements? Is the person within the bounds of what I might consider physically attractive, to the extent that I can tell? Absence of anything major to rule them out. Is the profile OK? Does the message interest me?
If all this is satisfied, I weigh up if the value of it is enough to proceed. "
It’s hard isn’t it?!? I’d stopped meeting.. chatting.. looking at the point where I met Ste purely by chance after talking about a mutual friend. I’m not sure either of us would have considered anything without talking platonically first.. |
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"My whittling here sort of looks like this.
Does the message meet my base requirements? Is the person within the bounds of what I might consider physically attractive, to the extent that I can tell? Absence of anything major to rule them out. Is the profile OK? Does the message interest me?
If all this is satisfied, I weigh up if the value of it is enough to proceed.
It’s hard isn’t it?!? I’d stopped meeting.. chatting.. looking at the point where I met Ste purely by chance after talking about a mutual friend. I’m not sure either of us would have considered anything without talking platonically first.. "
It's very hard, but I probably make it harder by being open minded. But I don't want to close that down. |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"Soul, demonstrable inclusive attitude to others, sharp and can make me double up laughing, empathy and compassion, accepting of themselves and accountable for their flaws.
Oh and willing to take a chance on me.
How do you filter that online and decide who you’re going to get to know?
Reading how they post, how they interact, what they post about and the variety of their posting. It’s a veritable hunting ground.
Then I publicly proclaim some interest and see if they’re willing to take a chance.
So for you the forum posts are important to show a particular personality? "
It’s how I’d notice someone. It’s clunkier through straight PMs but has worked there too (my best male mate was from a direct PM before I’d ever found the forum). I don’t just search on Fab tho. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How do you filter who you’re going to talk to online?
I'm like Estella. Forum posts can be a great insight and can put me off people or make me more interested to meet them. There's one recently where I've seen a few forum posts and thought "yeah actually, you're definitely doable".
Or I get my friends to sort me out with fabbers gone by.
I don't know how I do it. I can just tell. Maybe decent sentences? Little to no text speak? "
Forums do make it easier to get a feel for personalities.. shame the pool is so small for those looking to get to know more people and meet.. |
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"How do you filter who you’re going to talk to online?
I can just tell. Maybe decent sentences? Little to no text speak? "
Im similar to this - you can very much gauge the type of person by both tone and context of the message. Text short cuts and onliners.... nope not good enough |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"How do you filter who you’re going to talk to online?
I'm like Estella. Forum posts can be a great insight and can put me off people or make me more interested to meet them. There's one recently where I've seen a few forum posts and thought "yeah actually, you're definitely doable".
Or I get my friends to sort me out with fabbers gone by.
I don't know how I do it. I can just tell. Maybe decent sentences? Little to no text speak? "
Holla back!  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Forums do make it easier to get a feel for personalities.. shame the pool is so small for those looking to get to know more people and meet.."
But there are more pools available other than the fab forum - other ways to meet people and get a feel for them. I don't really meet very often from the forum at all. |
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"Forums do make it easier to get a feel for personalities.. shame the pool is so small for those looking to get to know more people and meet..
But there are more pools available other than the fab forum - other ways to meet people and get a feel for them. I don't really meet very often from the forum at all."
I don't like to meet from the forums too often either if possible. |
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I have no type really.. I’m sometimes surprised about people I fancy haha From my age to older, dad bod to 6pack. All what they have in common was that they had good humour, they fancy me, we always had good conversations and they were truly gents |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've a definite physical type I find attractive. Makes it really easy to dismiss lots on here very quickly. It really helps with the online world when you know what makes you tick. "
It must be easier if you have very definite types.. the sheer volume on here is overwhelming if there’s no common factors to search for.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I like people who make the best of themselves. They don't have to be super slim or models ish, just have a vivacious attitude and natural sexiness. Very light, bright eyes with dark hair and redheads will draw my eye quicker than anything (and beautiful eyes in general make me melt). I find the overly glammed up expensive labels and patent leather handbags, high maintenance vibe is less to my taste but by the same token that's because I assume that as a more casually dressed laid back type guy I probably will not be appealing to them anyway. "
I get that.. I’ve always avoided people who appear to be designer label and posh hotel types.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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So how do you decide what your preferences are?
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My preferences have been deceiving, I joined fabs looking for Toy Boys. Younger, fit, energetic. I realized quickly I have a thing for men in their 40-50ies and with a soft belly. Better late than never! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Age maybe? I haven't been with anyone younger
You’re a youngen yourself!
Did you know youngen is defined as jail bait on urban dictionary  "
Ha ha whoops!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Preferences change over time, experience and learning more about myself - this all defines what I look for in a potential relationship or anything else. I’ve had a few relationships (short/long term) with one preference in common. It always starts with physical attraction. Specific type of women tend to grab my attention - knows how to dress (sexy), confident, and independent - she would be the type that’s not afraid to say what she wants (on her mind) and wouldn’t shy away from getting it.
How does that work searching online? Do you find it easy to get a feel for those characteristics?"
Great follow-up question Searching online alone is not the best of indicators. A starting point at best. This, coupled with a meet and actual interaction, yes - it would be. Although it’s not all just online, I enjoy meeting people socially (which is a great way of finding what I’m looking for) through friends, work or travel.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you really have a type??
If you lined up your ex’s (shags or relationships) would there be more similarities or differences?
Mine couldn’t be more different.. there’s literally nothing physically that links the guys I have been attracted to.
So how do you decide what your preferences are?
Saff
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I know what I'm not attracted to |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Preferences change over time, experience and learning more about myself - this all defines what I look for in a potential relationship or anything else. I’ve had a few relationships (short/long term) with one preference in common. It always starts with physical attraction. Specific type of women tend to grab my attention - knows how to dress (sexy), confident, and independent - she would be the type that’s not afraid to say what she wants (on her mind) and wouldn’t shy away from getting it.
That’s a really great assessment from someone as young as you are. I’d expect that response from someone more mature.. "
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So how do you decide what your preferences are?
My preferences have been deceiving, I joined fabs looking for Toy Boys. Younger, fit, energetic. I realized quickly I have a thing for men in their 40-50ies and with a soft belly. Better late than never! "
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By *4nc3rCouple
over a year ago
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I find that types change dramatically 
Years ago if asked who I fancied I would have said tallish blonde, blue eyes guys - almost a tad feminine and no facial hair.
But hubby is 5ft 4 (he's shorter than me) has dark hair, green eyes and a big beard and neither of us are remotely close to being slim in any way... And I fucking love it 
Like honestly, I see a chubby guy with a cheeky face, good beard and a nice hair cut and that's me sorted 
I do like a guy with nice hair though... Balding is really not my cup of tea  |
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"I find that types change dramatically
Years ago if asked who I fancied I would have said tallish blonde, blue eyes guys - almost a tad feminine and no facial hair.
But hubby is 5ft 4 (he's shorter than me) has dark hair, green eyes and a big beard and neither of us are remotely close to being slim in any way... And I fucking love it
Like honestly, I see a chubby guy with a cheeky face, good beard and a nice hair cut and that's me sorted
I do like a guy with nice hair though... Balding is really not my cup of tea "
Ha ha sounds like me!! If you liked my ex’s up there’s be no similarities! 5,5 to 6,5.. bald, hair.. tattooed.. not.. just a complete mix! |
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By *ik MMan
over a year ago
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"I’ve not met any forumers (yet) on a one 2 one meet.
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Apparently it happens although whenever I’ve tried I just end up looking and feeling like a tit.
As for preferences, I used to think I had a type... but I guess Fab life has taught me otherwise |
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You probably wouldn't tell most of them, if they were mixed with randoms, as they vary and personality comes into it too. Varied but good looking to me and many others. There are some types I'll always go for but they can change over time. |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"I’ve not met any forumers (yet) on a one 2 one meet.
Apparently it happens although whenever I’ve tried I just end up looking and feeling like a tit.
As for preferences, I used to think I had a type... but I guess Fab life has taught me otherwise"
Why do you feel like a tit?? |
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By *ik MMan
over a year ago
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"I’ve not met any forumers (yet) on a one 2 one meet.
Apparently it happens although whenever I’ve tried I just end up looking and feeling like a tit.
As for preferences, I used to think I had a type... but I guess Fab life has taught me otherwise
Why do you feel like a tit?? "
I’ve realised that I’d rather be rejected by someone who didn’t know me / who I’m not likely to cross paths with than a regular forumite |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"I’ve not met any forumers (yet) on a one 2 one meet.
Apparently it happens although whenever I’ve tried I just end up looking and feeling like a tit.
As for preferences, I used to think I had a type... but I guess Fab life has taught me otherwise
Why do you feel like a tit??
I’ve realised that I’d rather be rejected by someone who didn’t know me / who I’m not likely to cross paths with than a regular forumite"
Oh really?!
I hope you have explained this to her??
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By *ik MMan
over a year ago
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"I’ve not met any forumers (yet) on a one 2 one meet.
Apparently it happens although whenever I’ve tried I just end up looking and feeling like a tit.
As for preferences, I used to think I had a type... but I guess Fab life has taught me otherwise
Why do you feel like a tit??
I’ve realised that I’d rather be rejected by someone who didn’t know me / who I’m not likely to cross paths with than a regular forumite
Oh really?!
I hope you have explained this to her??
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Her? It’s just a conclusion I’ve come to and nowadays I tend to only comment on events I’m interested in...although I do see the irony in that statement |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"I’ve not met any forumers (yet) on a one 2 one meet.
Apparently it happens although whenever I’ve tried I just end up looking and feeling like a tit.
As for preferences, I used to think I had a type... but I guess Fab life has taught me otherwise
Why do you feel like a tit??
I’ve realised that I’d rather be rejected by someone who didn’t know me / who I’m not likely to cross paths with than a regular forumite
Oh really?!
I hope you have explained this to her??
Her? It’s just a conclusion I’ve come to and nowadays I tend to only comment on events I’m interested in...although I do see the irony in that statement "
Sorry I thought you was talking about a specific person. Apologies. X |
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"Physically, Mine have always had dark hair and blue eyes (not an intentional thing) except one and they’ve all been broad shouldered and not particularly slim. Personality wise they’ve all been quite placid and laid back. Opposite personalities obviously attract!
Actually don’t think I’ve ever been out with a blonde.. but there’s no physical or personality trait that runs through....
Well we can’t have that. Ask Saff if I can borrow you for a night.
Ha ha I’m ridiculously chilled out.. I reckon you’d terrify him!!
Saff"
Who's pimping me out now?
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"Physically, Mine have always had dark hair and blue eyes (not an intentional thing) except one and they’ve all been broad shouldered and not particularly slim. Personality wise they’ve all been quite placid and laid back. Opposite personalities obviously attract!
Actually don’t think I’ve ever been out with a blonde.. but there’s no physical or personality trait that runs through....
Well we can’t have that. Ask Saff if I can borrow you for a night.
Ha ha I’m ridiculously chilled out.. I reckon you’d terrify him!!
Saff
Who's pimping me out now?
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Nobody my |
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My type - I usually go for ppl who have at some point been a little broken and have touched the edge of insanity but managed to cling on to life and survive. It's also probably just as much about how the person see's me too, whether they see the surface or whether they see into me and then that tends to be reciprocated..... .....humour and a sense of childishness and knowing innocence are essential also!
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Oh hell, physically mine couldn't be more worlds apart.
B is the only one that I've looked at (and still do) and think "fucking hell my man is FIT AS FUCK"
I don't know if it's coz my ex was a scrawny runt who thought he was hard as nails but nothing more than a damp poontang, that since him I've found myself attracted to guys that are obviously physically strong (which you'd think I'd be afraid of considering what happened) or whether it's simply that's the physique that gets my quim shivering these days just because.
Mentally I need someone to challenge me, but not too much. Too much and I'll shut down.
Maybe I've merely realised my worth, and have discovered someone that matches physically and mentally my "perfect man"
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My types have changed so much over the years,when I left my husband i went through a young guy phase now prefer older guys and currently dating a 53 year old haha x |
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This has made me think!
I prefer tall, muscular men and the three men I've loved have been 6ft and over. However my husband was black, the other two white. Very different personalities.
Men I've had casual encounters with vary vastly too.
Hard to define what attracts. I'd have Denzel's babies yet drop kick Jamie Foxx to the kerb. I'd fuck Lawrence Fishburn but Samuel L Jackson couldn't pay me enough. I sooo would do Robert Di Niro but not Al Pacino...it's all good! |
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"Oh hell, physically mine couldn't be more worlds apart.
B is the only one that I've looked at (and still do) and think "fucking hell my man is FIT AS FUCK"
I don't know if it's coz my ex was a scrawny runt who thought he was hard as nails but nothing more than a damp poontang, that since him I've found myself attracted to guys that are obviously physically strong (which you'd think I'd be afraid of considering what happened) or whether it's simply that's the physique that gets my quim shivering these days just because.
Mentally I need someone to challenge me, but not too much. Too much and I'll shut down.
Maybe I've merely realised my worth, and have discovered someone that matches physically and mentally my "perfect man"
P"
Sounds like big progress to me!!
Mine would look like a right mix of weirdos.. this ones definitely a high point! |
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"My types have changed so much over the years,when I left my husband i went through a young guy phase now prefer older guys and currently dating a 53 year old haha x"
Ha ha you’re keeping an open mind! It’s ace that you know when you meet them.. I just wonder how women filter on here when very few have any proper type at all! |
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"This has made me think!
I prefer tall, muscular men and the three men I've loved have been 6ft and over. However my husband was black, the other two white. Very different personalities.
Men I've had casual encounters with vary vastly too.
Hard to define what attracts. I'd have Denzel's babies yet drop kick Jamie Foxx to the kerb. I'd fuck Lawrence Fishburn but Samuel L Jackson couldn't pay me enough. I sooo would do Robert Di Niro but not Al Pacino...it's all good! "
Ha ha this made me chuckle |
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Good-looking and intelligent is my type. This can come in many shapes and sizes but my preference tends to be for slim, lightly-muscled blondes or redheads as I enjoy the contrast with my own colouring and body type... That said, I do like black guys too |
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"Good-looking and intelligent is my type. This can come in many shapes and sizes but my preference tends to be for slim, lightly-muscled blondes or redheads as I enjoy the contrast with my own colouring and body type... That said, I do like black guys too"
How easy is that to filter on here? |
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Nope and never have ... well not physically
Much more have a mental type, think growing up with super intelligent parents might have coloured this a little (even though we all thought they were thick as sh***)
If I'm not permanently mentally stimulated I'm fairly lethal but likewise any partner needs to be on the fit side (meaning actually fit as opposed to fit looking) because I'm very active. |
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I used to think I liked older guys but I realised recently the age hasn't gone up as I've got older, I must just like guys in their 30's/40's.
Physically I tend to be attracted to slim bodies and dark hair but my last relationship was with a blonde with a dad bod so god knows anymore! |
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"Good-looking and intelligent is my type. This can come in many shapes and sizes but my preference tends to be for slim, lightly-muscled blondes or redheads as I enjoy the contrast with my own colouring and body type... That said, I do like black guys too
How easy is that to filter on here? "
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I used to say I went for intelligence, but I think it's more curiosity about the world. A good geeky/ serious brain powered conversation can get my motor running, no lies, but it's more an attitude generally. I've met some people who I wouldn't describe as intelligent for whatever reason. But they want to find out, they wonder, they're willing to explore.
If I had to pick something that helps me connect with someone, and even for most casual encounters it matters, that'd be my number one thing. |
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"Good-looking and intelligent is my type. This can come in many shapes and sizes but my preference tends to be for slim, lightly-muscled blondes or redheads as I enjoy the contrast with my own colouring and body type... That said, I do like black guys too
How easy is that to filter on here?
What's your real question? "
Ha ha exactly that.. very few women have stated any clear type, and knowing how bombed with mail we are without filters, I wonder how other women sift through mail or if they search.. |
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"I used to think I liked older guys but I realised recently the age hasn't gone up as I've got older, I must just like guys in their 30's/40's.
Physically I tend to be attracted to slim bodies and dark hair but my last relationship was with a blonde with a dad bod so god knows anymore! "
I’m really surprised how few have any kind of type that they can describe or search for! |
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"Good-looking and intelligent is my type. This can come in many shapes and sizes but my preference tends to be for slim, lightly-muscled blondes or redheads as I enjoy the contrast with my own colouring and body type... That said, I do like black guys too
How easy is that to filter on here?
What's your real question?
Ha ha exactly that.. very few women have stated any clear type, and knowing how bombed with mail we are without filters, I wonder how other women sift through mail or if they search.. "
Fuck me it's hard |
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"Nope and never have ... well not physically
Much more have a mental type, think growing up with super intelligent parents might have coloured this a little (even though we all thought they were thick as sh***)
If I'm not permanently mentally stimulated I'm fairly lethal but likewise any partner needs to be on the fit side (meaning actually fit as opposed to fit looking) because I'm very active. "
Ha ha do you find it hard work on here going through lots of messages to work out who you may be attracted to mentally? |
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"I used to think I liked older guys but I realised recently the age hasn't gone up as I've got older, I must just like guys in their 30's/40's.
Physically I tend to be attracted to slim bodies and dark hair but my last relationship was with a blonde with a dad bod so god knows anymore!
I’m really surprised how few have any kind of type that they can describe or search for! "
I think when you click with someone you just click. Quite often on here I'll find someone's pics attractive but then we talk and there's no spark. On the other hand I've got chatting to people either in the chat rooms or forum and their personality has attracted me so much that the physical thing isn't as important. |
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"Good-looking and intelligent is my type. This can come in many shapes and sizes but my preference tends to be for slim, lightly-muscled blondes or redheads as I enjoy the contrast with my own colouring and body type... That said, I do like black guys too
How easy is that to filter on here?
What's your real question?
Ha ha exactly that.. very few women have stated any clear type, and knowing how bombed with mail we are without filters, I wonder how other women sift through mail or if they search..
Fuck me it's hard "
Ha ha yup!! I filtered to 99 year olds only and stopped looking for 5 months before Ste and I met! I thought it was impossible!! |
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This is interesting as not really thought about it before. There have been a few different types, but the relationships that have latest have all been with confident (outwardly at least) slim to curvy size 12/14 types, around 5ft 6 to 5 ft 8. |
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"Personalities tend to be similar, but physically few have anything in common.
Ha ha snap.. how do you search for that online?! "
As a woman, I don't really have to search (nothing conceited in saying that, it's a Fab fact that most men just pounce), so it's only really a matter of scanning through messages to see who sounds like my kind of crazy and starting a conversation. I tend to know pretty quickly if we're clicking after that |
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"This is interesting as not really thought about it before. There have been a few different types, but the relationships that have latest have all been with confident (outwardly at least) slim to curvy size 12/14 types, around 5ft 6 to 5 ft 8. "
Do you search the same kind of type on here? |
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"Personalities tend to be similar, but physically few have anything in common.
Ha ha snap.. how do you search for that online?!
As a woman, I don't really have to search (nothing conceited in saying that, it's a Fab fact that most men just pounce), so it's only really a matter of scanning through messages to see who sounds like my kind of crazy and starting a conversation. I tend to know pretty quickly if we're clicking after that "
I hated the amount of messages when I was single.. ended up filtering all men out just to stop the unreads pile getting any bigger.. I gave up!! |
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"Nope and never have ... well not physically
Much more have a mental type, think growing up with super intelligent parents might have coloured this a little (even though we all thought they were thick as sh***)
If I'm not permanently mentally stimulated I'm fairly lethal but likewise any partner needs to be on the fit side (meaning actually fit as opposed to fit looking) because I'm very active.
Ha ha do you find it hard work on here going through lots of messages to work out who you may be attracted to mentally?"
Not too bad tbh ... I've met some massively intelligent gorgeous guys on here (not a single physical similarity between them)! From research scientists to CEOS ... I work with filters and have my profile hidden when I don't have the time or the inclination. Everyone else seems to get my share of rude messages (sorry about that ladies!) And I have 2 fwb 1 bwf and a fb (hopefully have found 1 in London now as well!) So mainly all sorted |
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"Nope and never have ... well not physically
Much more have a mental type, think growing up with super intelligent parents might have coloured this a little (even though we all thought they were thick as sh***)
If I'm not permanently mentally stimulated I'm fairly lethal but likewise any partner needs to be on the fit side (meaning actually fit as opposed to fit looking) because I'm very active.
Ha ha do you find it hard work on here going through lots of messages to work out who you may be attracted to mentally?"
How many people actually read the contract before they sign it, it's all reading here, get out and meet |
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"Nope and never have ... well not physically
Much more have a mental type, think growing up with super intelligent parents might have coloured this a little (even though we all thought they were thick as sh***)
If I'm not permanently mentally stimulated I'm fairly lethal but likewise any partner needs to be on the fit side (meaning actually fit as opposed to fit looking) because I'm very active.
Ha ha do you find it hard work on here going through lots of messages to work out who you may be attracted to mentally?
Not too bad tbh ... I've met some massively intelligent gorgeous guys on here (not a single physical similarity between them)! From research scientists to CEOS ... I work with filters and have my profile hidden when I don't have the time or the inclination. Everyone else seems to get my share of rude messages (sorry about that ladies!) And I have 2 fwb 1 bwf and a fb (hopefully have found 1 in London now as well!) So mainly all sorted "
Ha ha bloody hell! You’ve got this sussed love it!! |
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"Good-looking and intelligent is my type. This can come in many shapes and sizes but my preference tends to be for slim, lightly-muscled blondes or redheads as I enjoy the contrast with my own colouring and body type... That said, I do like black guys too
How easy is that to filter on here?
What's your real question?
Ha ha exactly that.. very few women have stated any clear type, and knowing how bombed with mail we are without filters, I wonder how other women sift through mail or if they search.. "
I don't search. If men don't come to me I can't be bothered |
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"Nope and never have ... well not physically
Much more have a mental type, think growing up with super intelligent parents might have coloured this a little (even though we all thought they were thick as sh***)
If I'm not permanently mentally stimulated I'm fairly lethal but likewise any partner needs to be on the fit side (meaning actually fit as opposed to fit looking) because I'm very active.
Ha ha do you find it hard work on here going through lots of messages to work out who you may be attracted to mentally?How many people actually read the contract before they sign it, it's all reading here, get out and meet "
If you don't then more fool you. Ditto here. |
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"Nope and never have ... well not physically
Much more have a mental type, think growing up with super intelligent parents might have coloured this a little (even though we all thought they were thick as sh***)
If I'm not permanently mentally stimulated I'm fairly lethal but likewise any partner needs to be on the fit side (meaning actually fit as opposed to fit looking) because I'm very active.
Ha ha do you find it hard work on here going through lots of messages to work out who you may be attracted to mentally?How many people actually read the contract before they sign it, it's all reading here, get out and meet "
Women get literally hundreds of messages a day without filters.. hence the OP.. how do people filter and decide who to meet... |
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"I used to think I liked older guys but I realised recently the age hasn't gone up as I've got older, I must just like guys in their 30's/40's.
Physically I tend to be attracted to slim bodies and dark hair but my last relationship was with a blonde with a dad bod so god knows anymore!
I’m really surprised how few have any kind of type that they can describe or search for!
I think when you click with someone you just click. Quite often on here I'll find someone's pics attractive but then we talk and there's no spark. On the other hand I've got chatting to people either in the chat rooms or forum and their personality has attracted me so much that the physical thing isn't as important. "
Do you also use filters and preferences to whittle it down or just go with the flow? |
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"My filters are set to "the messages below and above this age were disproportionately annoying". After that I have a system and I'm brutal. "
Oh and I don't allow those without any form of verification |
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"Nope and never have ... well not physically
Much more have a mental type, think growing up with super intelligent parents might have coloured this a little (even though we all thought they were thick as sh***)
If I'm not permanently mentally stimulated I'm fairly lethal but likewise any partner needs to be on the fit side (meaning actually fit as opposed to fit looking) because I'm very active.
Ha ha do you find it hard work on here going through lots of messages to work out who you may be attracted to mentally?How many people actually read the contract before they sign it, it's all reading here, get out and meet
Women get literally hundreds of messages a day without filters.. hence the OP.. how do people filter and decide who to meet..."
exactly my point you can't tell from words on a page, meet best way, only Way to tell really, you read a veri from a person you've never met what does it mean? Do you have the same taste as all your friends no, you can only tell in person yet here you discount people on the written word..... Amazing |
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"Nope and never have ... well not physically
Much more have a mental type, think growing up with super intelligent parents might have coloured this a little (even though we all thought they were thick as sh***)
If I'm not permanently mentally stimulated I'm fairly lethal but likewise any partner needs to be on the fit side (meaning actually fit as opposed to fit looking) because I'm very active.
Ha ha do you find it hard work on here going through lots of messages to work out who you may be attracted to mentally?How many people actually read the contract before they sign it, it's all reading here, get out and meet "
The thing is we do ... but why waste precious time on those that you're not interested in? If someone actually piques my interest I'll always meet for a coffee but with absolutely no expectations! Luckily a lot of (most) men or those with very different wants/expectations to me invariably don't meet for a coffee! |
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"Nope and never have ... well not physically
Much more have a mental type, think growing up with super intelligent parents might have coloured this a little (even though we all thought they were thick as sh***)
If I'm not permanently mentally stimulated I'm fairly lethal but likewise any partner needs to be on the fit side (meaning actually fit as opposed to fit looking) because I'm very active.
Ha ha do you find it hard work on here going through lots of messages to work out who you may be attracted to mentally?How many people actually read the contract before they sign it, it's all reading here, get out and meet
Women get literally hundreds of messages a day without filters.. hence the OP.. how do people filter and decide who to meet...exactly my point you can't tell from words on a page, meet best way, only Way to tell really, you read a veri from a person you've never met what does it mean? Do you have the same taste as all your friends no, you can only tell in person yet here you discount people on the written word..... Amazing "
It’s a site that allows introductions via the written word... I’m not sure what your point is. |
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"Nope and never have ... well not physically
Much more have a mental type, think growing up with super intelligent parents might have coloured this a little (even though we all thought they were thick as sh***)
If I'm not permanently mentally stimulated I'm fairly lethal but likewise any partner needs to be on the fit side (meaning actually fit as opposed to fit looking) because I'm very active.
Ha ha do you find it hard work on here going through lots of messages to work out who you may be attracted to mentally?How many people actually read the contract before they sign it, it's all reading here, get out and meet
The thing is we do ... but why waste precious time on those that you're not interested in? If someone actually piques my interest I'll always meet for a coffee but with absolutely no expectations! Luckily a lot of (most) men or those with very different wants/expectations to me invariably don't meet for a coffee! "
No I'm not disagreeing with discounting people for the obvious reasons, looks via pics and really outrageous comments or disgusting innuendo but to enjoy a person's pics and discount them on their words or veris doesn't make sense for the reasons I've said |
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"exactly my point you can't tell from words on a page, meet best way, only Way to tell really, you read a veri from a person you've never met what does it mean? Do you have the same taste as all your friends no, you can only tell in person yet here you discount people on the written word..... Amazing "
I can tell a fair amount from the written word, and I'm completely prepared to be too brutal and get it wrong that way.
This sort of medium protects my safety. If I had to be vulnerable with strangers without vetting first, I'd hang up my thong and go home. |
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"Nope and never have ... well not physically
Much more have a mental type, think growing up with super intelligent parents might have coloured this a little (even though we all thought they were thick as sh***)
If I'm not permanently mentally stimulated I'm fairly lethal but likewise any partner needs to be on the fit side (meaning actually fit as opposed to fit looking) because I'm very active.
Ha ha do you find it hard work on here going through lots of messages to work out who you may be attracted to mentally?How many people actually read the contract before they sign it, it's all reading here, get out and meet
The thing is we do ... but why waste precious time on those that you're not interested in? If someone actually piques my interest I'll always meet for a coffee but with absolutely no expectations! Luckily a lot of (most) men or those with very different wants/expectations to me invariably don't meet for a coffee! No I'm not disagreeing with discounting people for the obvious reasons, looks via pics and really outrageous comments or disgusting innuendo but to enjoy a person's pics and discount them on their words or veris doesn't make sense for the reasons I've said "
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"Nope and never have ... well not physically
Much more have a mental type, think growing up with super intelligent parents might have coloured this a little (even though we all thought they were thick as sh***)
If I'm not permanently mentally stimulated I'm fairly lethal but likewise any partner needs to be on the fit side (meaning actually fit as opposed to fit looking) because I'm very active.
Ha ha do you find it hard work on here going through lots of messages to work out who you may be attracted to mentally?How many people actually read the contract before they sign it, it's all reading here, get out and meet
The thing is we do ... but why waste precious time on those that you're not interested in? If someone actually piques my interest I'll always meet for a coffee but with absolutely no expectations! Luckily a lot of (most) men or those with very different wants/expectations to me invariably don't meet for a coffee! No I'm not disagreeing with discounting people for the obvious reasons, looks via pics and really outrageous comments or disgusting innuendo but to enjoy a person's pics and discount them on their words or veris doesn't make sense for the reasons I've said
I don't really meet on looks so not sure what your point is? "
but you discount on words or lack of words as the case may be, everyone is going to be different but based on forum themes most are discounted on terribly written profiles, I appreciate the numbers thing more men than women and the message numbers and I appreciate you have to discount somehow but how many great guys have been discounted that in reality if you had met them you would have liked and I also know none of this matters because you have a never ending supply lol |
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"Nope and never have ... well not physically
Much more have a mental type, think growing up with super intelligent parents might have coloured this a little (even though we all thought they were thick as sh***)
If I'm not permanently mentally stimulated I'm fairly lethal but likewise any partner needs to be on the fit side (meaning actually fit as opposed to fit looking) because I'm very active.
Ha ha do you find it hard work on here going through lots of messages to work out who you may be attracted to mentally?How many people actually read the contract before they sign it, it's all reading here, get out and meet
The thing is we do ... but why waste precious time on those that you're not interested in? If someone actually piques my interest I'll always meet for a coffee but with absolutely no expectations! Luckily a lot of (most) men or those with very different wants/expectations to me invariably don't meet for a coffee! No I'm not disagreeing with discounting people for the obvious reasons, looks via pics and really outrageous comments or disgusting innuendo but to enjoy a person's pics and discount them on their words or veris doesn't make sense for the reasons I've said
I don't really meet on looks so not sure what your point is? but you discount on words or lack of words as the case may be, everyone is going to be different but based on forum themes most are discounted on terribly written profiles, I appreciate the numbers thing more men than women and the message numbers and I appreciate you have to discount somehow but how many great guys have been discounted that in reality if you had met them you would have liked and I also know none of this matters because you have a never ending supply lol "
Think you might have me muddled up with another poster! If you reread my posts you'll see! I have absolutely no problems with fab at all ... actually am rather well catered for and happily meet those that have piqued my interest for coffee! And obviously, if you reread, yes I do judge a person on their messages ... especially after they have read my very clear profile!!! |
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"Nope and never have ... well not physically
Much more have a mental type, think growing up with super intelligent parents might have coloured this a little (even though we all thought they were thick as sh***)
If I'm not permanently mentally stimulated I'm fairly lethal but likewise any partner needs to be on the fit side (meaning actually fit as opposed to fit looking) because I'm very active.
Ha ha do you find it hard work on here going through lots of messages to work out who you may be attracted to mentally?How many people actually read the contract before they sign it, it's all reading here, get out and meet
The thing is we do ... but why waste precious time on those that you're not interested in? If someone actually piques my interest I'll always meet for a coffee but with absolutely no expectations! Luckily a lot of (most) men or those with very different wants/expectations to me invariably don't meet for a coffee! No I'm not disagreeing with discounting people for the obvious reasons, looks via pics and really outrageous comments or disgusting innuendo but to enjoy a person's pics and discount them on their words or veris doesn't make sense for the reasons I've said
I don't really meet on looks so not sure what your point is? but you discount on words or lack of words as the case may be, everyone is going to be different but based on forum themes most are discounted on terribly written profiles, I appreciate the numbers thing more men than women and the message numbers and I appreciate you have to discount somehow but how many great guys have been discounted that in reality if you had met them you would have liked and I also know none of this matters because you have a never ending supply lol
Think you might have me muddled up with another poster! If you reread my posts you'll see! I have absolutely no problems with fab at all ... actually am rather well catered for and happily meet those that have piqued my interest for coffee! And obviously, if you reread, yes I do judge a person on their messages ... especially after they have read my very clear profile!!! "
lol I just looked at your log pic but in ninja |
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"Nope and never have ... well not physically
Much more have a mental type, think growing up with super intelligent parents might have coloured this a little (even though we all thought they were thick as sh***)
If I'm not permanently mentally stimulated I'm fairly lethal but likewise any partner needs to be on the fit side (meaning actually fit as opposed to fit looking) because I'm very active.
Ha ha do you find it hard work on here going through lots of messages to work out who you may be attracted to mentally?How many people actually read the contract before they sign it, it's all reading here, get out and meet
The thing is we do ... but why waste precious time on those that you're not interested in? If someone actually piques my interest I'll always meet for a coffee but with absolutely no expectations! Luckily a lot of (most) men or those with very different wants/expectations to me invariably don't meet for a coffee! No I'm not disagreeing with discounting people for the obvious reasons, looks via pics and really outrageous comments or disgusting innuendo but to enjoy a person's pics and discount them on their words or veris doesn't make sense for the reasons I've said
I don't really meet on looks so not sure what your point is? but you discount on words or lack of words as the case may be, everyone is going to be different but based on forum themes most are discounted on terribly written profiles, I appreciate the numbers thing more men than women and the message numbers and I appreciate you have to discount somehow but how many great guys have been discounted that in reality if you had met them you would have liked and I also know none of this matters because you have a never ending supply lol "
As we don't even meet, ummmm....
Maybe try not being so argumentative and fill that chip on your shoulder to increase your chances.
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"Nope and never have ... well not physically
Much more have a mental type, think growing up with super intelligent parents might have coloured this a little (even though we all thought they were thick as sh***)
If I'm not permanently mentally stimulated I'm fairly lethal but likewise any partner needs to be on the fit side (meaning actually fit as opposed to fit looking) because I'm very active.
Ha ha do you find it hard work on here going through lots of messages to work out who you may be attracted to mentally?How many people actually read the contract before they sign it, it's all reading here, get out and meet
The thing is we do ... but why waste precious time on those that you're not interested in? If someone actually piques my interest I'll always meet for a coffee but with absolutely no expectations! Luckily a lot of (most) men or those with very different wants/expectations to me invariably don't meet for a coffee! No I'm not disagreeing with discounting people for the obvious reasons, looks via pics and really outrageous comments or disgusting innuendo but to enjoy a person's pics and discount them on their words or veris doesn't make sense for the reasons I've said
I don't really meet on looks so not sure what your point is? but you discount on words or lack of words as the case may be, everyone is going to be different but based on forum themes most are discounted on terribly written profiles, I appreciate the numbers thing more men than women and the message numbers and I appreciate you have to discount somehow but how many great guys have been discounted that in reality if you had met them you would have liked and I also know none of this matters because you have a never ending supply lol
As we don't even meet, ummmm....
Maybe try not being so argumentative and fill that chip on your shoulder to increase your chances.
Steve x "
I don't have a chip and the points I made are the actual point of a forum surely |
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"Nope and never have ... well not physically
Much more have a mental type, think growing up with super intelligent parents might have coloured this a little (even though we all thought they were thick as sh***)
If I'm not permanently mentally stimulated I'm fairly lethal but likewise any partner needs to be on the fit side (meaning actually fit as opposed to fit looking) because I'm very active.
Ha ha do you find it hard work on here going through lots of messages to work out who you may be attracted to mentally?How many people actually read the contract before they sign it, it's all reading here, get out and meet
The thing is we do ... but why waste precious time on those that you're not interested in? If someone actually piques my interest I'll always meet for a coffee but with absolutely no expectations! Luckily a lot of (most) men or those with very different wants/expectations to me invariably don't meet for a coffee! No I'm not disagreeing with discounting people for the obvious reasons, looks via pics and really outrageous comments or disgusting innuendo but to enjoy a person's pics and discount them on their words or veris doesn't make sense for the reasons I've said
I don't really meet on looks so not sure what your point is? but you discount on words or lack of words as the case may be, everyone is going to be different but based on forum themes most are discounted on terribly written profiles, I appreciate the numbers thing more men than women and the message numbers and I appreciate you have to discount somehow but how many great guys have been discounted that in reality if you had met them you would have liked and I also know none of this matters because you have a never ending supply lol
As we don't even meet, ummmm....
Maybe try not being so argumentative and fill that chip on your shoulder to increase your chances.
Steve x I don't have a chip and the points I made are the actual point of a forum surely "
So everyone should meet you for a coffee, just in case they might like you contrary to first impressions in text? Doesn't matter if they have better options elsewhere or if fab isn't a priority for them in life?
I've been on your side too buddy but I could always still recognise personal preference (the original point of Saff's post). Preference and qualification are gonna be different for everyone here (why she asked) and as Saff said (thankfully for me, being a manmunter) looks aren't at all important for some.... Other qualities (which can be conveyed in text) such as kindness, intelligence, open mindedness, humility, playfulness can used as a metric to assess where a girl or guy should focus there time. Can't meet everyone here or keep everyone happy either.....
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I came to the realisation that I do have a type but it has more to do than faces than body type.
I absolute adore female faces that look like the one Sophie Cookson or Virginie Efira have.
A female like that could definitely be my Ginger and could be her Sam like in Casino . |
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